They should behave as themselves.
Just like profile advice why should anyone provide a guide on how to conduct yourself in public and tips on amending your behaviour so that you can get through a social?
If a social is scripted that should be a huge red flag. |
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"They should behave as themselves.
Just like profile advice why should anyone provide a guide on how to conduct yourself in public and tips on amending your behaviour so that you can get through a social?
If a social is scripted that should be a huge red flag. "
What if being themselves IS being an entitled asshole?  |
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"They should behave as themselves.
Just like profile advice why should anyone provide a guide on how to conduct yourself in public and tips on amending your behaviour so that you can get through a social?
If a social is scripted that should be a huge red flag.
What if being themselves IS being an entitled asshole? "
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"What would you consider fabbers etiquette? Plenty people ask for assistance on their profile but how should they behave in their first social etc"
Just behave....manners and respect go such a long way |
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The thing about anal apertures is everyone has one and everyone has the capacity to be one.
Some behaviours are instinctive and some are learned. If good behaviour is there by instinct the learned ones come easy.
It's not about being an ahole its about being a whole person.
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Take a 'no' well.
Take a non-response as a polite no thank you and move on.
Don't assume what others are looking for. Lots of couples don't look for singles. And swinging doesn't necessarily mean instant hookups. A lot of people treat their swinging more like dating. |
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"My experience of assholes is they are generally not polite
apparently they weren't smart assholes... even an asshole should know the rules of etiquette "
I think the personal definition of asshole differs so much from person to person that this discussion would go on for ever.
I would assume that .
I would also imagine that most assholes are good at hiding it for a time, but not forever. |
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If they buy a ticket to an organised social then they should turn up
If not able to go then let the organisers know on the day to be polite
If it's an organised coffee social only then also let the organiser know if you're not going |
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"Take a 'no' well.
Take a non-response as a polite no thank you and move on.
Don't assume what others are looking for. Lots of couples don't look for singles. And swinging doesn't necessarily mean instant hookups. A lot of people treat their swinging more like dating. "
I know for a lot of forum users, this would be common sense but I bet for a good 20% minimum of fab, this is groundbreaking |
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As a single guy at a social I'd say some etiquette, being customary social rules for a particular group, I would follow are:
Don't assume people are there to have sex. Swinging is a social scene and lots of people are there to catch up with friends.
Don't get d*unk. Other people will.
Give attention and be polite to both partners in a couple. Even if the guy is really rude.
Know when to move on. Avoid dominating anyone's time. It's a mixer so assume everyone wants to mix.
Know that some people will assume you are talking to them because you want to have sex with them and will want you to move on because they don't want to give you or other people the wrong impression.
Know that if you hit on every woman you talk to that they likely are talking to each other too and it gets noted. Conversely if you keep it classy that gets noted too.
It's accepted that if you ask the host to introduce you to some people they will be happy to do that.
Don't stand on your own watching people if your not having a good time. If you can't push through it's better to leave if your not making contact whatever the reason.
Do follow up with anyone you were interested in afterwards.
Do follow up and ask the host and people you had the craic with to verify you.
Be honest with yourself about why you are there. If you want to hook up be honest about that. If you want to join the social scene and network then focus on that. Those things don't have to be mutually exclusive but I find ruling out sex on the night clears the air fit having a great night out.
Thank the host when you leave and leave them a verification to help promote their efforts.
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"As a single guy at a social I'd say some etiquette, being customary social rules for a particular group, I would follow are:
Don't assume people are there to have sex. Swinging is a social scene and lots of people are there to catch up with friends.
Don't get d*unk. Other people will.
Give attention and be polite to both partners in a couple. Even if the guy is really rude.
Know when to move on. Avoid dominating anyone's time. It's a mixer so assume everyone wants to mix.
Know that some people will assume you are talking to them because you want to have sex with them and will want you to move on because they don't want to give you or other people the wrong impression.
Know that if you hit on every woman you talk to that they likely are talking to each other too and it gets noted. Conversely if you keep it classy that gets noted too.
It's accepted that if you ask the host to introduce you to some people they will be happy to do that.
Don't stand on your own watching people if your not having a good time. If you can't push through it's better to leave if your not making contact whatever the reason.
Do follow up with anyone you were interested in afterwards.
Do follow up and ask the host and people you had the craic with to verify you.
Be honest with yourself about why you are there. If you want to hook up be honest about that. If you want to join the social scene and network then focus on that. Those things don't have to be mutually exclusive but I find ruling out sex on the night clears the air fit having a great night out.
Thank the host when you leave and leave them a verification to help promote their efforts.
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I'm actually going to add one to this, I do see plenty of people doing it anyway but THANK the host for providing a venue or inviting you. It's not an easy job, it's the least people can do. |
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"As a single guy at a social I'd say some etiquette, being customary social rules for a particular group, I would follow are:
Don't assume people are there to have sex. Swinging is a social scene and lots of people are there to catch up with friends.
Don't get d*unk. Other people will.
Give attention and be polite to both partners in a couple. Even if the guy is really rude.
Know when to move on. Avoid dominating anyone's time. It's a mixer so assume everyone wants to mix.
Know that some people will assume you are talking to them because you want to have sex with them and will want you to move on because they don't want to give you or other people the wrong impression.
Know that if you hit on every woman you talk to that they likely are talking to each other too and it gets noted. Conversely if you keep it classy that gets noted too.
It's accepted that if you ask the host to introduce you to some people they will be happy to do that.
Don't stand on your own watching people if your not having a good time. If you can't push through it's better to leave if your not making contact whatever the reason.
Do follow up with anyone you were interested in afterwards.
Do follow up and ask the host and people you had the craic with to verify you.
Be honest with yourself about why you are there. If you want to hook up be honest about that. If you want to join the social scene and network then focus on that. Those things don't have to be mutually exclusive but I find ruling out sex on the night clears the air fit having a great night out.
Thank the host when you leave and leave them a verification to help promote their efforts.
I'm actually going to add one to this, I do see plenty of people doing it anyway but THANK the host for providing a venue or inviting you. It's not an easy job, it's the least people can do."
Thanking the host is on my list...  |
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