I have been receiving a worrying amount of messages terribly written, in a way that's on the verge of getting incomprehensible.
No commas, no question marks, let alone bad grammar.
Sometimes it's even a turn off. What do you think? |
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I used to judge people in their spelling and grammar until I realised that it was very ableist. Sure it could be someone being lazy but they could also have dyslexia or left school early or English may not be their first language.
Text speak does annoy me ie dis, dat etc but I won’t judge people based on their spelling. |
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I try not to let it be a turn off for the reasons Jaffa pointed out but at the same time it can be a real indicator that the conversation is going to be like pulling teeth.
I have also received messages that are *only* punctuation. Very common to get a "???" if I don't respond quickly enough to some pushy chaser who thinks he's owed a ride.  |
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By *ustBoWoman 3 days ago
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"I used to judge people in their spelling and grammar until I realised that it was very ableist. Sure it could be someone being lazy but they could also have dyslexia or left school early or English may not be their first language.
Text speak does annoy me ie dis, dat etc but I won’t judge people based on their spelling. "
Yep pretty much this  . |
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"I have been receiving a worrying amount of messages terribly written, in a way that's on the verge of getting incomprehensible.
No commas, no question marks, let alone bad grammar.
Sometimes it's even a turn off. What do you think?"
I do find it a bit annoying and I get that people have varying levels of grammar but some are difficult to understand when there a just a lot of words in a row with no punctuation. Still better than Hey and a dick pic though  |
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To be honest, there are a tonne of reasons why people might be misspelling, not punctuating, etc...
Lately my predictive texting has been such a pain in the hole, that I spend most times trying to correct it, then my writing.
On the other hand, of 100s of people I have reached out on this site, only ten-ish actually responded to me, so I kinda came to the conclusion that even though I keep my spelling and grammar up to scratch as I can for my own sake, it's not going to really open up many doors to fun and friendship here.
Again, the complaint about people being technically illiterate on this site comes around every so often as the other most beloved topic of single man profiles that are actually not single men, but cheaters, so...
*shrugs* meh... |
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By *om TangoMan 3 days ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
I left school at 16. My reading and writing and ability to learn was so bad. So left to work with my hands. Started doing night class in late 20s to learn to write and read better. Unfortunately some words still get the better of me. Words like “The/They” me/my there/their to/too” seems to catch me out alot. When I’m writing I do have to really try hard to think of words and where full stops and the likes go. So please don’t judge people’s grammar. I kinda blame the education system back then. If you couldn’t read or write you were “slow or a thick cunt”. |
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"I used to judge people in their spelling and grammar until I realised that it was very ableist. Sure it could be someone being lazy but they could also have dyslexia or left school early or English may not be their first language.
Text speak does annoy me ie dis, dat etc but I won’t judge people based on their spelling. "
This |
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"I left school at 16. My reading and writing and ability to learn was so bad. So left to work with my hands. Started doing night class in late 20s to learn to write and read better. Unfortunately some words still get the better of me. Words like “The/They” me/my there/their to/too” seems to catch me out alot. When I’m writing I do have to really try hard to think of words and where full stops and the likes go. So please don’t judge people’s grammar. I kinda blame the education system back then. If you couldn’t read or write you were “slow or a thick cunt”. "
I also left school at 16. I suppose if anything we are both proof that taking a little time and being intentional about how you communicate is what makes the difference. |
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"As long as women send me pictures of their tats with any message they send I don't mind.
Tats? Or Tits?
Got damn autocorrect huh?"
It was deliberate so that women could send me pictures of either
So much for a cunning plan |
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Living on free food tickets
Water in the milk from a hole in the roof where the rain came through
What can you do, hmm?
Tears from your little sister
Crying because she doesn't have a dress without a patch for the party to go
But you know she'll get by
Love of the comma people
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By *om TangoMan 3 days ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
Honestly to me this lifestyle is about accepting everyone that’s interested in the real lifestyle without judgment as such. Like no body shaming, no sexuality desires shaming, no culture shaming and so on. So why grammar shaming or judging someone that actually can’t do grammar a 100%. I’ve a friend. Never read a newspaper in his life because it fucks with his head. Doesn’t text much. Give that man an engine of a tractor and he can re build it. To me I’ll accept everyone that’s shows me respect in person. I don’t care if you walk with a limp or whatever or bad with grammar. |
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By *anUTV/TS 3 days ago
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"Honestly to me this lifestyle is about accepting everyone that’s interested in the real lifestyle without judgment as such. Like no body shaming, no sexuality desires shaming, no culture shaming and so on. So why grammar shaming or judging someone that actually can’t do grammar a 100%. I’ve a friend. Never read a newspaper in his life because it fucks with his head. Doesn’t text much. Give that man an engine of a tractor and he can re build it. To me I’ll accept everyone that’s shows me respect in person. I don’t care if you walk with a limp or whatever or bad with grammar. "
Same here, I don't have a problem with people's articulateness, as long as they're friendly, civil and respectful of boundaries.
I don't have a problem with people who have issues with punctuation either, if that's their boundary I respect that too.
Some of most pensive writers I know are the most shallow as far as respecting others go, what a paradox huh
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"Honestly to me this lifestyle is about accepting everyone that’s interested in the real lifestyle without judgment as such. Like no body shaming, no sexuality desires shaming, no culture shaming and so on. So why grammar shaming or judging someone that actually can’t do grammar a 100%. I’ve a friend. Never read a newspaper in his life because it fucks with his head. Doesn’t text much. Give that man an engine of a tractor and he can re build it. To me I’ll accept everyone that’s shows me respect in person. I don’t care if you walk with a limp or whatever or bad with grammar. "
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Everyone is giving interesting PoVs. My point is, being a non-native English speaker, I cannot understand what actually people say if there's no cohesive and coherent line of thought and some minimal punctuation. I'm not talking about pristine grammar, I was talking about unintelligible messages. |
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By *om TangoMan 3 days ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
"Everyone is giving interesting PoVs. My point is, being a non-native English speaker, I cannot understand what actually people say if there's no cohesive and coherent line of thought and some minimal punctuation. I'm not talking about pristine grammar, I was talking about unintelligible messages."
Few words in that comment I definitely don’t understand. What is cohesive, coherent and pristine grammar. Near sure our dog had one of them and sadly he passed away. Thankfully peaceful. Oh the unintelligible thing. I recommend apple cider vinegar for that. Cured my gout |
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"I have been receiving a worrying amount of messages terribly written, in a way that's on the verge of getting incomprehensible.
No commas, no question marks, let alone bad grammar.
Sometimes it's even a turn off. What do you think?"
I think if they read your profile,they possibly don't think you pay much heed to either punctuation or grammar.
Might I suggest, if it is so important to you; put it on your profile. Maybe (put it in brackets).
Hopefully all these dreadful messages desist, I'm just here for the wet stuff, I don't care if you're dyslexic or have a stutter 😂....
XxxX 2025 BABYYYYYYY!!!!!!
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The Op says she's not a native speaker, therefore I assume she learned at a time she was new in the country and eager to learn. Schools in the 70's, 80's and 90's were dour dark authoritarian places where if you got something wrong you were at best, berated, at worse physically punished!
I'm dyslexic and didn't find out till I left school, however I've managed to work through it. Very, very often, I get it wrong, but I get my point across. |
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By *om TangoMan 3 days ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
I think it’s sad that the OP has hidden her profile so we can use the private notes section and make note “she is judging and judges us for grammar rather than personal”. Just a Shame really. We actually could have got on so really well over a dinner date. Ah well. Not to worry her lost |
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By *om TangoMan 3 days ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
"I think it’s sad that the OP has hidden her profile so we can use the private notes section and make note “she is judging and judges us for grammar rather than personal”. Just a Shame really. We actually could have got on so really well over a dinner date. Ah well. Not to worry her lost"
Shit there I go. I mean can’t not can’t. There goes my next date |
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"I think it’s sad that the OP has hidden her profile so we can use the private notes section and make note “she is judging and judges us for grammar rather than personal”. Just a Shame really. We actually could have got on so really well over a dinner date. Ah well. Not to worry her lost"
It’s not hidden, you may be blocked. Nevertheless, you can still make a note on a hidden or blocked profile, just hit the menu button as normal. |
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By *om TangoMan 3 days ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
"I think it’s sad that the OP has hidden her profile so we can use the private notes section and make note “she is judging and judges us for grammar rather than personal”. Just a Shame really. We actually could have got on so really well over a dinner date. Ah well. Not to worry her lost
It’s not hidden, you may be blocked. Nevertheless, you can still make a note on a hidden or blocked profile, just hit the menu button as normal. "
. Thank you. I must be blocked. Ah well. Her lost. No dinner dates for her than |
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For my past sins🫣
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Spare ones just in case I forget in the future.
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",,,,,,,,,,, ''''''' ??????? "" "" "" ::::;;;;;; !!!!!
For my past sins🫣
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Spare ones just in case I forget in the future.
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"I think it’s sad that the OP has hidden her profile so we can use the private notes section and make note “she is judging and judges us for grammar rather than personal”. Just a Shame really. We actually could have got on so really well over a dinner date. Ah well. Not to worry her lost"
"You speak English because it's the only language you know. I speak English because it's the only language you know. We are not the same."
You are actually blocked. |
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Is punctuation and grammar not the same of kink shaming on here , not everyone spreaks with perfect english. Dont get me me wrong but everyone speaks with different ascents from county to county so it wont be easy for everyone to speak or write perfect english . |
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"I think it’s sad that the OP has hidden her profile so we can use the private notes section and make note “she is judging and judges us for grammar rather than personal”. Just a Shame really. We actually could have got on so really well over a dinner date. Ah well. Not to worry her lost
"You speak English because it's the only language you know. I speak English because it's the only language you know. We are not the same."
You are actually blocked. "
Wow.....the best put down of 2025 and the year has only started.
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"I think it’s sad that the OP has hidden her profile so we can use the private notes section and make note “she is judging and judges us for grammar rather than personal”. Just a Shame really. We actually could have got on so really well over a dinner date. Ah well. Not to worry her lost
"You speak English because it's the only language you know. I speak English because it's the only language you know. We are not the same."
You are actually blocked. "
Cén fáth a bhfuil bac orm? |
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"You speak English because it's the only language you know. I speak English because it's the only language you know. We are not the same."
You are actually blocked. "
Don't let them rile you up. It's mostly for the craic. ✌🏽 |
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"Punctuation is very important, particularly on Fab. Some people might think it's a weird idea for a meet to go help your friend, Jack, off his horse."
it's a weird idea for a meet to go help your friend jack off his horse.  |
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By *acd03Man 2 days ago
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"I'll admit it annoys me quite a lot. I can understand that some struggle with writing. It's just very funny when somebody tries to laud their superiority over others when they struggle to type."
........and worse still when some of the same folks are sat in their little cliques at the socials doing the exact same thing........
One finds out that, low and behold, they struggle to put a sentence together in the spoken word also, not just typing.
On rare occasions, they might manage sentences about fabbing photos or about how many veris they have accumulated but incapable of a normal conversation
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By *anandJCouple 2 days ago
Citywest |
I’m not native as well.
I learned your language after I landed on Irish soil.
It’s not about dyslexia, bad education system… it’s about showing that you care.
It’s annoying when someone doesn’t care enough to compose their message with more than just “hi”.
It’s annoying when all you get is a photo with not exactly clean toilet behind the person in the photo.
It’s annoying when you can’t understand a sentence because someone could not spared 30s to proofread their own messages.
„ fine feathers make fine birds”
No one judges your ability to type or spell… maybe some just don’t care enough? And before you explode with righteous anger- you know that the difference between someone who struggles and someone who doesn’t give a shit is palpable.
Peace and love beautiful people 🥰
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"I'll admit it annoys me quite a lot. I can understand that some struggle with writing. It's just very funny when somebody tries to laud their superiority over others when they struggle to type.
........and worse still when some of the same folks are sat in their little cliques at the socials doing the exact same thing........
One finds out that, low and behold, they struggle to put a sentence together in the spoken word also, not just typing.
On rare occasions, they might manage sentences about fabbing photos or about how many veris they have accumulated but incapable of a normal conversation
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Nuthin worse when the clicks sit around dissing the plebs from their pedestal of pedantic purile patronising pretentiousness. |
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"I'll admit it annoys me quite a lot. I can understand that some struggle with writing. It's just very funny when somebody tries to laud their superiority over others when they struggle to type.
........and worse still when some of the same folks are sat in their little cliques at the socials doing the exact same thing........
One finds out that, low and behold, they struggle to put a sentence together in the spoken word also, not just typing.
On rare occasions, they might manage sentences about fabbing photos or about how many veris they have accumulated but incapable of a normal conversation
Nuthin worse when the clicks sit around dissing the plebs from their pedestal of pedantic purile patronising pretentiousness."
I'm waiting on your audition for V |
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"I have been receiving a worrying amount of messages terribly written, in a way that's on the verge of getting incomprehensible.
No commas, no question marks, let alone bad grammar.
Sometimes it's even a turn off. What do you think?"
I think 'txt spk' wrex my nuts.
Other than that, within reason I can accept poor grammar, but now when it's one neverending statement or question, or whatever it's supposed to be that you need 5 minutes to decipher.
Proofread, it's the little detail that can make a big difference.
Example 1- I helped my Uncle Jack off a horse.
Example 2- I helped my Uncle jack off a horse. |
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I don't think I've ever received a message that I didn't get the gist of to be honest. OK, the content might need polishing. Grammatically it could be hit and miss, but the bones of it is there. I'm embarrassingly bad at maths, computer doesn't compute if you get me. It all gets muddled and I'd hate to be treated less worthy to talk to because of that. We all shine differently.
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