"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
Yes we get asked this a lot, it can be frustrating at times  |
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"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this...
Yes we get asked this a lot, it can be frustrating at times "
Very!
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"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
There is literally a section on everyone's profile that is called 'Looking for'. Between that and the 'interests' section and the profile bio that generally additionally outlines what someone does and does not want, it can't be any easier to figure out what someone wants in here...
I spend more time reading and ruling out messaging someone than I do actually messaging these days..😬 |
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I am guilty of asking it. I do read profiles before chatting to people, but it’s an easy enough icebreaker and people might also be more opening to saying something in a chat that they don’t want to put on their profile. |
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one of the most frustrating questions, especially when it appears in the first message.Sometimes I ask a similar question myself, but if I talk to someone for a longer time and it seems to me that we have different "interests" |
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It’s clear on my profile what’s I’m looking for but 9/10 gals still ask “what are you looking for “
Wouldn’t consider it a ridiculous question , I just elaborate.
"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
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What are you looking for? What are you into? Both common openers but I never feel comfortable enough to reply whether in person or to a message. It feels like I'm being put on the spot for some reason.  |
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"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
Use it as a filter, if they can’t be bothered to read your profile to find out then they will likely be lazy about other areas too.
Unless of course your profile doesn’t give them any idea then it’s a reasonable question. |
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"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this...
Use it as a filter, if they can’t be bothered to read your profile to find out then they will likely be lazy about other areas too.
Unless of course your profile doesn’t give them any idea then it’s a reasonable question. "
Fair point.
Until recently I had a detailed bio filled out, numerous verifications showing, a few more pics etc.
Alas, I just got sick of the place and deleted/hid them all.
Hasn't made much difference either way! 😂
That question though? Seriously 🤣 |
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I think it is a legitimate question, if the answer is not obvious. For example, if a couple asks me for a meet, it's all nice and flattering, but I need to know what they expect from me. Do they want me to be on a giving or receiving side, so to speak? Also, what are the expectations for privacy, can we meet in a club or do it in secret? |
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"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
'What are you looking for,' is the Fab equivalent of 'so... how about the weather?' 
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"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this...
Use it as a filter, if they can’t be bothered to read your profile to find out then they will likely be lazy about other areas too.
Unless of course your profile doesn’t give them any idea then it’s a reasonable question.
Fair point.
Until recently I had a detailed bio filled out, numerous verifications showing, a few more pics etc.
Alas, I just got sick of the place and deleted/hid them all.
Hasn't made much difference either way! 😂
That question though? Seriously 🤣"
Yes it’s a lazy question too lol
Maybe I’ll test a few varied opening questions to see what works best |
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"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
Most men here are cheap and lazy. I am honestly not here to make their lives easier. I am here to make MY life more fun. So I have a carefully written profile bio and I expect the same. If a lazy dick head doesn't do their job, I simply ignore it. |
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By *om TangoMan 5 days ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
"This site is for swingers so it’s obvious what we looking for a fb or gangbang i think some here think its first dates or just out walking the dog."
I hate seeing comments like that. Yes the site is for real swingers. Unfortunately thanks to the media making out we all fuck like rabbits we now have fake swingers that believe the media and thinks this lifestyle is about putting keys in a bowl. |
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"This site is for swingers so it’s obvious what we looking for a fb or gangbang i think some here think its first dates or just out walking the dog."
Suggest doing a little research on swinging. It includes all of what you think it doesn't ... dating and dog walking included 
Gangbangs too  |
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By *panishRebelMan 5 days ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"This site is for swingers so it’s obvious what we looking for a fb or gangbang i think some here think its first dates or just out walking the dog.
Suggest doing a little research on swinging. It includes all of what you think it doesn't ... dating and dog walking included
Gangbangs too "
Does this mean see-saws are part of swinging too? |
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"This site is for swingers so it’s obvious what we looking for a fb or gangbang i think some here think its first dates or just out walking the dog."
This might be what you're looking for, and that's valid, however what others are looking for is often much more varied. For example, I can't think of anything worse than a gangbang so I'm definitely not looking for that, nor an FB particularly.
Assuming that everyone here wants the same thing isn't a great starting point and I think I'd much rather someone ask than assume. |
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"This site is for swingers so it’s obvious what we looking for a fb or gangbang i think some here think its first dates or just out walking the dog.
Suggest doing a little research on swinging. It includes all of what you think it doesn't ... dating and dog walking included
Gangbangs too
Does this mean see-saws are part of swinging too?"
No, but swings may be |
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"I’m guilty of asking and also guilty of not knowing what I am looking for myself  "
Well it's kinda handy that you have some helpful topics of interest wrote all over your body in your most recent pic... 👀😃🤣 |
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By *hismMan 5 days ago
Ballygonowhere |
"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
What is it you think you are missing ? |
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"I’m guilty of asking and also guilty of not knowing what I am looking for myself "
I do understand the OP and couples and women obviously get the bulk of messages and it must be a pain but there’s hardly 2 couples that want the exact same thing from fab experiences.. so I do think its a legitimate question for anyone on here.. and also it shows they’re asking so they can assess whether they’re a good fit. Swings and gangbangs included.. |
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Based on my experience ( I am married and we have experience in Chile as a swinger couple) that’s pretty much lack of experience and not knowing how to start a conversation
It is pretty common with guys that have never participated in this sw world |
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I usually ask 'what are you looking for in a man?' as in , appearance, personality etc.
If they say 6foot 4 guy, ripped with tattoos, then obviously I'd let them know I wasn't what they are looking for and not waste their time. |
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By *panishRebelMan 5 days ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"...or is the following the most asked yet most ridiculous question on here!
'what are you looking for'?
Am I missing something? 🤔 😂
I'm very interested to hear others opinions on this..."
Why are these ridiculous questions?.... please explain! |
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By *indenMan 4 days ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"We don't really have issues with bein asked this question because we have everything we are looking for outlined clearly in our bio 😉"
I didn’t get past the “Not looking for single guys” bit…….
Being honest, it barely got past the pictures…..🥵😬
I think if people haven’t said much in their bio they should probably expect to be asked, but if they’ve clearly stated their preferences, and particularly if you’re not it, it’s a bit of a redundant question, but I think some will just use it as a generic icebreaker…… |
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