Hi all I’m just looking for some feedback please if possible,
I was meant to have a social meeting this morning, chatting to a lady the past week, exchanged photos and things going pretty well,so we had a meet planned for this morning, chatting all evening yesterday, so I showed up this morning so after no sign of her showing up I decided to message to see was there a problem and then I discovered that I was blocked. I fully understand that people are under no obligations to meet but surely the person that your meeting deserves the respect to say that your no longer interested in meeting rather than been ghosted, I travelled nearly an hour this morning , and this is the second time this had happened in the past month unfortunately
Would this be a common occurrence? |
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By *panishRebelMan 1 day ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"Hi all I’m just looking for some feedback please if possible,
I was meant to have a social meeting this morning, chatting to a lady the past week, exchanged photos and things going pretty well,so we had a meet planned for this morning, chatting all evening yesterday, so I showed up this morning so after no sign of her showing up I decided to message to see was there a problem and then I discovered that I was blocked. I fully understand that people are under no obligations to meet but surely the person that your meeting deserves the respect to say that your no longer interested in meeting rather than been ghosted, I travelled nearly an hour this morning , and this is the second time this had happened in the past month unfortunately
Would this be a common occurrence?"
That's a shitty thing to do. It happens unfortunately. It lacks class. Whatever the reason for cancelling, people must at the very minimum give an apology or even better text you before you travel. It doesn't matter what gender, it's to do with decency and respect. |
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You need to change the way you organise meets if it's happened to you twice now
Are the profiles verified
Are the photos real...have you checked them
Did you talk to them first
Did you message this morning before you set out
Was it just coffee meets you had organised
Unfortunately it looks as if men caught you out for a laugh |
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"You need to change the way you organise meets if it's happened to you twice now
Are the profiles verified
Are the photos real...have you checked them
Did you talk to them first
Did you message this morning before you set out
Was it just coffee meets you had organised
Unfortunately it looks as if men caught you out for a laugh "
No both these people were women, and well verified that’s why I wasn’t expecting this to happen and yes I did message this morning |
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If they had verifications then that is a mean and nasty thing to have happened and is certainly not in what would be considered to be in the spirit of how genuine fabbers behave.
I have had a few "evening before" meet cancellations, which is anyone's prerogative, but it is unforgivable to put someone to the bother of travelling on the day only to be ghosted and blocked.
You have the option of reporting the profile on the basis of; "Arranged to meet, did not turn up"
You can also move forward knowing you are a better person than they will ever be.
Happy Christmas OP and best of luck on your fab journey in 2025. |
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"If they had verifications then that is a mean and nasty thing to have happened and is certainly not in what would be considered to be in the spirit of how genuine fabbers behave.
I have had a few "evening before" meet cancellations, which is anyone's prerogative, but it is unforgivable to put someone to the bother of travelling on the day only to be ghosted and blocked.
You have the option of reporting the profile on the basis of; "Arranged to meet, did not turn up"
You can also move forward knowing you are a better person than they will ever be.
Happy Christmas OP and best of luck on your fab journey in 2025."
Totally agree with Badger. It was a really nasty thing to do to anyone especially after messaging before you set off. It is her loss not yours.
Manners cost nothing
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Shitty thing to do.
Really bad form to block, instead of cancelling. Her poor communication skills. This is a reflection of her mental health.
I think a phone call or telegram call is good before a long distance meet and greet, get the measure of people. But also be prepared for it to be a waste of time, that's the danger of online introduction sites, can't guarantee a physical spark in advance. Often people are just bored, killing time.
Chalk it down to experience. |
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By *om TangoMan 1 day ago
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That’s wild bad of her. But I do wonder if you said something in the few last texts to cause her to back out. I’d a meeting arranged a few months ago with a lady. Getting on really well until I mentioned I my idea date would be eating a pizza or fish supper in a park. That ended that date. But she didn’t block me. I don’t do fancy restaurants so we definitely weren’t going to hit it off. |
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"Hi all I’m just looking for some feedback please if possible,
I was meant to have a social meeting this morning, chatting to a lady the past week, exchanged photos and things going pretty well,so we had a meet planned for this morning, chatting all evening yesterday, so I showed up this morning so after no sign of her showing up I decided to message to see was there a problem and then I discovered that I was blocked. I fully understand that people are under no obligations to meet but surely the person that your meeting deserves the respect to say that your no longer interested in meeting rather than been ghosted, I travelled nearly an hour this morning , and this is the second time this had happened in the past month unfortunately
Would this be a common occurrence?"
Really horrible thing to do
Look on it that the trash took itself out and you had a lucky escape |
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"Hi all I’m just looking for some feedback please if possible,
I was meant to have a social meeting this morning, chatting to a lady the past week, exchanged photos and things going pretty well,so we had a meet planned for this morning, chatting all evening yesterday, so I showed up this morning so after no sign of her showing up I decided to message to see was there a problem and then I discovered that I was blocked. I fully understand that people are under no obligations to meet but surely the person that your meeting deserves the respect to say that your no longer interested in meeting rather than been ghosted, I travelled nearly an hour this morning , and this is the second time this had happened in the past month unfortunately
Would this be a common occurrence?
Really horrible thing to do
Look on it that the trash took itself out and you had a lucky escape "
My phone won't let me access Fab on mobile data, and yes I already got the parental controls removed (had to phone Vodafone) but it has appeared back on again. So this makes it tricky to give live updates on my progress if I'm late or the car breaks down or something happens.
So I'd give a little leeway because things happen. However this is a total block so yeah, that's a shitty thing to do. |
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"That’s wild bad of her. But I do wonder if you said something in the few last texts to cause her to back out. I’d a meeting arranged a few months ago with a lady. Getting on really well until I mentioned I my idea date would be eating a pizza or fish supper in a park. That ended that date. But she didn’t block me. I don’t do fancy restaurants so we definitely weren’t going to hit it off. "
Pizza or battered sausage chips, in the park, sounds OK to me, yum |
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Thanks everyone for all the replies and muck appreciated, I’ll just put it down as bad luck if any ladies are interested in a social you know where to contact me and I will guarantee that il show up if I say I will ! |
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We're you up front and honest with her? It's a shitty thing to do however I will admit to having done it for one particular reason and one only - if I have had a great conversations with someone and all is going well - I have asked about their marital/relationship status with a view to making sure they are single or at least on with permission. If I then find out that they were lying (lads ladies talk so this will get found out, Ireland is too small?) then I don't feel they deserve anything more than a block. I don't engage once I have found out they lied as it's only bringing on toxic behaviour.
OP in no way saying you are attached - I don't know you, nor have we ever had a conversation or met you so this is purely as requested- a woman's perspective and even with that not all women but just purely my own.
Hope you find your answers to a different experience in the future. |
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