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Almost every morning we are waking up to some or other tragic account of loss of life in Ireland. What has happened or is happening to our country when so little regard is left on life. Be safe out there and don’t be afraid to alert someone if you are suffering or witness any kind of abuse. Best wishes to all for Christmas |
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"Almost every morning we are waking up to some or other tragic account of loss of life in Ireland. What has happened or is happening to our country when so little regard is left on life. Be safe out there and don’t be afraid to alert someone if you are suffering or witness any kind of abuse. Best wishes to all for Christmas "
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I hear you.
And yet another woman killed by her partner I think. I remember watching the series with the former state pathologist, Marie Cassidy. She was staggered at the high rate of murder of Irish women due to domestic abuse.
After being in a coercive controlling marriage, I am glad I got out as he got physical with me when I exposed him.
The loss of life we hear about every day is tragic. |
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"I hear you.
And yet another woman killed by her partner I think. I remember watching the series with the former state pathologist, Marie Cassidy. She was staggered at the high rate of murder of Irish women due to domestic abuse.
After being in a coercive controlling marriage, I am glad I got out as he got physical with me when I exposed him.
The loss of life we hear about every day is tragic. "
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"I hear you.
And yet another woman killed by her partner I think. I remember watching the series with the former state pathologist, Marie Cassidy. She was staggered at the high rate of murder of Irish women due to domestic abuse.
After being in a coercive controlling marriage, I am glad I got out as he got physical with me when I exposed him.
The loss of life we hear about every day is tragic. "
Well done you for having the courage to get yourself out of your situation  |
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"I hear you.
And yet another woman killed by her partner I think. I remember watching the series with the former state pathologist, Marie Cassidy. She was staggered at the high rate of murder of Irish women due to domestic abuse.
After being in a coercive controlling marriage, I am glad I got out as he got physical with me when I exposed him.
The loss of life we hear about every day is tragic.
Well done you for having the courage to get yourself out of your situation "
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I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile. |
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By *aseylee324Couple 3 weeks ago
Valley of Squinting Windows |
"I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile."
Ireland was always an abusive place, particularly for the vulnerable, it's just that now it's not all behind closed doors |
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By *ustBoWoman 3 weeks ago
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"I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile.
Ireland was always an abusive place, particularly for the vulnerable, it's just that now it's not all behind closed doors "
Exactly this. Abuse was hidden and even when it wasn't it was ignored by people who could have done something to help and support the abused.
I grew up in a very abusive home both physically and mentally. I remember having a conversation with a neighbour when I was an adult and he was telling me how it used to upset him hearing my father beat the crap out of us and us as children us begging him to stop. He actually wanted sympathy off me when he told me. I was disgusted because he was also so friendly and nice to my father when he met him and never once said anything about the abuse or called the guards or social services to report it. And then he had the cheek to want sympathy over hearing it. I told him well at least he didn't have to actually live through the terror like I and my siblings did. Lots of people who knew what was happening pretended it wasn't. Even teachers who saw us with bruised faces and broken bones.
And to this day there are still people who are willing to ignore it ,and yes I know no one should put themselves in danger to help but giving support to the abused can help in a way that no one can imagine , and let them know there is help out there and support to get them away from abusive situations.
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"I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile.
Ireland was always an abusive place, particularly for the vulnerable, it's just that now it's not all behind closed doors
Exactly this. Abuse was hidden and even when it wasn't it was ignored by people who could have done something to help and support the abused.
I grew up in a very abusive home both physically and mentally. I remember having a conversation with a neighbour when I was an adult and he was telling me how it used to upset him hearing my father beat the crap out of us and us as children us begging him to stop. He actually wanted sympathy off me when he told me. I was disgusted because he was also so friendly and nice to my father when he met him and never once said anything about the abuse or called the guards or social services to report it. And then he had the cheek to want sympathy over hearing it. I told him well at least he didn't have to actually live through the terror like I and my siblings did. Lots of people who knew what was happening pretended it wasn't. Even teachers who saw us with bruised faces and broken bones.
And to this day there are still people who are willing to ignore it ,and yes I know no one should put themselves in danger to help but giving support to the abused can help in a way that no one can imagine , and let them know there is help out there and support to get them away from abusive situations.
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Disgusting that nobody spoke up for you. Thankyou for sharing and advocating now |
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"I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile.
Ireland was always an abusive place, particularly for the vulnerable, it's just that now it's not all behind closed doors "
What feels alot more common nowadays is the nostalgia for a past that never existed!
Most of us were fortunate to grow up in a good home. Many did not.
We hear more about these cases today because people speak up now and social media amplifies it. I would argue they were much more common in the 70s, 80s and 90s! |
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"I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile.
Ireland was always an abusive place, particularly for the vulnerable, it's just that now it's not all behind closed doors
Exactly this. Abuse was hidden and even when it wasn't it was ignored by people who could have done something to help and support the abused.
I grew up in a very abusive home both physically and mentally. I remember having a conversation with a neighbour when I was an adult and he was telling me how it used to upset him hearing my father beat the crap out of us and us as children us begging him to stop. He actually wanted sympathy off me when he told me. I was disgusted because he was also so friendly and nice to my father when he met him and never once said anything about the abuse or called the guards or social services to report it. And then he had the cheek to want sympathy over hearing it. I told him well at least he didn't have to actually live through the terror like I and my siblings did. Lots of people who knew what was happening pretended it wasn't. Even teachers who saw us with bruised faces and broken bones.
And to this day there are still people who are willing to ignore it ,and yes I know no one should put themselves in danger to help but giving support to the abused can help in a way that no one can imagine , and let them know there is help out there and support to get them away from abusive situations.
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Exactly. People turning a blind eye is almost as bad. I had close friends & my sister I could turn to and I took myself out of the bad situation. You couldnt do that as a kid.
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"I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile.
Ireland was always an abusive place, particularly for the vulnerable, it's just that now it's not all behind closed doors
Exactly this. Abuse was hidden and even when it wasn't it was ignored by people who could have done something to help and support the abused.
I grew up in a very abusive home both physically and mentally. I remember having a conversation with a neighbour when I was an adult and he was telling me how it used to upset him hearing my father beat the crap out of us and us as children us begging him to stop. He actually wanted sympathy off me when he told me. I was disgusted because he was also so friendly and nice to my father when he met him and never once said anything about the abuse or called the guards or social services to report it. And then he had the cheek to want sympathy over hearing it. I told him well at least he didn't have to actually live through the terror like I and my siblings did. Lots of people who knew what was happening pretended it wasn't. Even teachers who saw us with bruised faces and broken bones.
And to this day there are still people who are willing to ignore it ,and yes I know no one should put themselves in danger to help but giving support to the abused can help in a way that no one can imagine , and let them know there is help out there and support to get them away from abusive situations.
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Street angels and house devils they were known as! Thanks for sharing your story to this ❤️ |
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By *iseekingbiCouple 3 weeks ago
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Turning a blind eye is what Ireland does best. Church and State hand in hand for generations. Church is losing its grip thankfully.
Sinead O'connor said that the Brits should've stayed. They would have treated us badly but not as badly as the Catholic church and the Free State did!
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"Turning a blind eye is what Ireland does best. Church and State hand in hand for generations. Church is losing its grip thankfully.
Sinead O'connor said that the Brits should've stayed. They would have treated us badly but not as badly as the Catholic church and the Free State did!
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I would strongly disagree with this. You need to learn more about the history of Ireland and maybe you too will disagree with Sinead. Yes the Catholic church where bad but the brits where horrifically bad! |
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By *aid backMan 3 weeks ago
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You have to remember life is cheap. Just look at the loss of life world wide the amount of people being killed in every part of the world. Most of the time it's not even reported it's just becomes the new norm.
Even in Ireland most if not all of the overdose deaths are not published because it's became a normal thing same with homeless deaths the only ones now to make the papers are road deaths or murders.
Irelands society is fucked and no more shows this than the people who think Irish lives are more valuable than none Irish lives |
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"Turning a blind eye is what Ireland does best. Church and State hand in hand for generations. Church is losing its grip thankfully.
Sinead O'connor said that the Brits should've stayed. They would have treated us badly but not as badly as the Catholic church and the Free State did!
I would strongly disagree with this. You need to learn more about the history of Ireland and maybe you too will disagree with Sinead. Yes the Catholic church where bad but the brits where horrifically bad! "
It's hard to choose who's worse.
It's a bit like having to choose a favourite serial killer.
(It's Ted Bundy BTW) |
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"compliant, complicit, complacent" described the Irish approach, dominated by the Catholic Church.
War torn country, new state, in the 1950s about 80% of people lived in poverty/low income. Early school leaving was normal. The state was propped up by the Church. It was a cult state, where the members were taught to be compliant, complicit and complacent. It was drilled into people to behave like that.
They were afraid to speak out, they were educated to shut the fuck up.
Many places were like that
I blame the patriarchy.
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By *inaraWoman 2 weeks ago
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""compliant, complicit, complacent" described the Irish approach, dominated by the Catholic Church.
War torn country, new state, in the 1950s about 80% of people lived in poverty/low income. Early school leaving was normal. The state was propped up by the Church. It was a cult state, where the members were taught to be compliant, complicit and complacent. It was drilled into people to behave like that.
They were afraid to speak out, they were educated to shut the fuck up.
Many places were like that
I blame the patriarchy.
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How I am happy I lived in USSR the best ever time I had, who talks about communism bad know a lot about it. |
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"I hear you.
And yet another woman killed by her partner I think. I remember watching the series with the former state pathologist, Marie Cassidy. She was staggered at the high rate of murder of Irish women due to domestic abuse.
After being in a coercive controlling marriage, I am glad I got out as he got physical with me when I exposed him.
The loss of life we hear about every day is tragic. "
Well SAID I WISH YOU NOTHING.
BUT HAPPINESS IN LIFE
MERRY CHRISTMAS
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"I often looked abroad and thought about how safe Ireland was in comparison. Maybe it's my culchie background or my naivety but cities have become vile. Even now coming up to Christmas, it feels hostile.
Ireland was always an abusive place, particularly for the vulnerable, it's just that now it's not all behind closed doors
Exactly this. Abuse was hidden and even when it wasn't it was ignored by people who could have done something to help and support the abused.
I grew up in a very abusive home both physically and mentally. I remember having a conversation with a neighbour when I was an adult and he was telling me how it used to upset him hearing my father beat the crap out of us and us as children us begging him to stop. He actually wanted sympathy off me when he told me. I was disgusted because he was also so friendly and nice to my father when he met him and never once said anything about the abuse or called the guards or social services to report it. And then he had the cheek to want sympathy over hearing it. I told him well at least he didn't have to actually live through the terror like I and my siblings did. Lots of people who knew what was happening pretended it wasn't. Even teachers who saw us with bruised faces and broken bones.
And to this day there are still people who are willing to ignore it ,and yes I know no one should put themselves in danger to help but giving support to the abused can help in a way that no one can imagine , and let them know there is help out there and support to get them away from abusive situations.
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. WELL SAID I ENDORSE
EVERY THING YOU SAY
WISH NOTHING BUT HAPPINESS IN
LIFE & MERRY CHRISTMAS
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"It does seem to be more common now to read of murders, assaults etc on the papers but I still think we're a safer country than the likes of England.
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Violent crime is higher per capita in Ireland than the uk. The murder rate per capita is fairly similar. |
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"It does seem to be more common now to read of murders, assaults etc on the papers but I still think we're a safer country than the likes of England.
Violent crime is higher per capita in Ireland than the uk. The murder rate per capita is fairly similar. "
That's crazy ! Not doubting but I lived in several English cities and never felt safe at night around the centres and there always seemed to be an edginess. |
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