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Loneliness at Christmas
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Many people feel lonely around Christmas. We got used to have those magic when being kids and still expect smth good to happen.
I would encourage you to make these days special for yourself. Get yourself a nice gift, order nice food, visit relatives or friends. Don’t be afraid to say how you feel.
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My advice would be to reach out to friends and family. Especially really good friends who you may have drifted apart from recently. Touch base with them and even better meet up.
Happy Christmas fella |
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Its one day in reality, and it's blown way out of proportion, thanks hallmark and unrealistic tv shows and movies.
And all the happy families etc posting their happy pics etc on Facebook. Is what people want you to see, fake news.
I definitely have the xmas funk every year, and this year is no different, I will enjoy the dinner with my son and parents but that will be it for me.
I recently spoke about my first ever panic attack on Xmas day a few years ago, and how nothing had triggered me etc. The person hosting the course said hold on. Xnas triggered you and I was like omg noone ever put it that way and I feel so much better about it.
So way I see it, do what you want and don't feel bad if you not feeling the xmas spirit. 
Sending you a hug xx |
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It's so dark and blah this time of year. I find it hard work to try and stay positive. Seasonal affective disorder is a huge part of it. Be kind to yourself OP and do things that make you happy. ❤️ |
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Seasonal depression is a real thing and especially the run up to Christmas can be tough on people, reach out to close friends and family or treat yourself to something nice. If you're having a tough time my messages are always open  |
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Myself and the ex alternate having the kids on Christmas Eve and my first year with no one at home with me was a real eye opener.
As said above this is a moment to be your own best friend and do whatever that means to you.
This year I'm having a loner's Christmas and invited anyone I know from overseas who can't make it home to come over that evening for dinner.
Another year I phoned a friend of mine who lives in new York and got him to drink whiskey with me at three in the morning. |
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New years eve would have been my wedding anniversary. If only I knew then what I know now I would never have married at Christmas. And now we shared the kids and it just feels awful when I don’t have them. It’s a tough time of year. If anyone want to get d*unk over the Xmas and make some bad decisions, let me know |
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This is why I choose to work this time of yr hate Christmas and new year I'm working a 12hr shift on new yes eve and the same again on new yes day so will be in bed well before midnight I work in a nursing home so I get great joy from seeing the patients enjoying themselves as god love them it could well be there last one maybe think about doing some volunteer work always nice to give something back |
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"For some reason this year have not been able to shake a fog over me.
Anyone else get like this at this time of year?"
I think sometimes we feel we are under so much pressure to have the best time ever when the reality is that it can never be that good or perfect. Many people struggle to get in the mood. You are not alone. Take it day by day. |
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"For some reason this year have not been able to shake a fog over me.
Anyone else get like this at this time of year?"
I do mate son daughter no contact with my side family
I do Volunteering Christmas & Boxing ,it's so up lifting am going to GREAT CHRISTMAS
It works for .
Wish nothing but happiness take care |
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As someone who spends Xmas alone for last 10 years it is difficult. Especially if you have no family like me. Make contact with friends before. If not possible treat yourself to nice food and spend time doing things you like.
Also walking in parks and countryside is good for mental health anytime of the year. Remember a beautiful sunny day shines on everyone no matter who you are x |
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This is my first xmas totally alone,and I’m feeling it already.im trying to come up with things to do on the day but just have no interest in eating a dinner on my own.I think whoever suggested a meet its a great idea.nothing behind it,even if it was a flask of coffee on a bench somewhere,im sure it would lift peoples mood.Happy xmas all and be kind to each other,you never know what someone is going through |
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I'm a widower, wife passed away six years ago on Christmas Eve. My kids are adults live over seas so I do be alone over Christmas, Keep yourself busy and I do charity work for the few days over Christmas, delivering hot food to the elderly,I go away for a few days too ,kilkenny this year for a few nights, so you have to make the effort to keep yourself active. I find my charity work extremely rewarding too. |
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"For some reason this year have not been able to shake a fog over me.
Anyone else get like this at this time of year?"
Consider volunteer work, this time of year lots of charities that help the elderly and homeless are eager for help |
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"For some reason this year have not been able to shake a fog over me.
Anyone else get like this at this time of year?
Consider volunteer work, this time of year lots of charities that help the elderly and homeless are eager for help"
Indeed, that's what I've done for years, consider as well your lonely elderly neighbours if you know them, pay them a visit, you might even get a few shots of whiskey and baileys  |
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"Reach out to family and close friends...!!!whatever you do don't sit all alone with all them dark thoughts in your head."
This. Definitely don't sit alone in your thoughts it does not help in any way and makes situations a lot worse than they are.
Seasonal depression is no joke really, it's hard to shake sometimes but definitely do reach out, or at least go out and see places, never know who you will meet or fall in with |
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By *ampire69Man 3 weeks ago
Birmingham West Midlands |
christmas is the worst time for those of us who are alone for what ever reason, it magnifys the fact the rest of the world is together yet you/i/we are alone unable to engage in the festivities , it just brings home the fact you have no one to share with
god i fucking hate christmas bollox |
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Yes, I did feel loneliness in the past on one or two Christmas periods.
Thankfully that is now a thing of the past.
If anyone wants to just chat, to meet or just socialise over Christmas please give me a shout - always willing to help out.
If you feel lonely please don't stay alone for the whole time - reach out.
Regards to all. |
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By *lugoneMan 3 weeks ago
rathmicheal |
This time of the year is always difficult for people for a number of reasons. Unfortunately due to working over the Christmas period I won't be able to meet up with anyone but do feel free to message and I will chat when I can . I like to stay busy this time of the year |
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By *om TangoMan 3 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
Not sure if many know this. But if you’re feeling alone all you need is 8 minutes of a chat with a friend to get over that feeling. Now we don’t like people knowing we might be feeling lonely so here’s a tip. Phone a friend or 2 Xmas day just to wish him or her a happy Xmas and make some small chat on the phone with him or her. |
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Assuming that the only issue is loneliness then I'd be inclined to say that there's no excuse for it when loads of charities are crying out for help.
It's like the 'bored' status updates, mostly self-inflicted.
Now that's assuming that there's nothing else going on such as depression, anxiety etc which is an entirely different scenario. |
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