"I appreciate the time you took to write this and for the advice you have given.
Perspective is everything, unfortunately your perspective of this scenario is as a woman so you wouldn’t have experienced the kind of thing I am talking about.
After I ended the relationship with the mother of my children, (the reason I left would be fully understood by anyone if detailed) I went 12 months without overnight access to my children, (now have one night a week but still fighting for more) any parent who loves their children will understand, lying in bed and cuddling your child to sleep, waking up in the morning and the first thing you feel is their little arms or legs, the first thing you hear is daddy or a giggle or waking up in the middle of the night when they roll on top of you to try get comfy, or an unexpected arm wraps around you and holds onto you, THIS, is the most precious and incredible feeling that we as a species can feel, how women KNOW THIS and can take this absolutely heavenly feeling from children and fathers, just as a fuck you to the father to show who’s in control of the kids and get away with it, genuinely made me feel sick. I am not abusive/ neglectful/ drug or alcohol addicted incase you think there is a “reason”. 3 years ago I wouldn’t have believed what I have experienced can be allowed in this age.
Over the years I have been going through this, I have never once insulted my ex to my children, in fact I have always maintained (to them only) that she is a great mommy (CUNT) I have bit my tongue and held my anger like a champ and because I have a rant on here with an “anonymous” account, you think I need to gather myself? As I said, perspective is everything and just because you believe something, doesn’t make it true. (Not you, the person who I’m replying to, you in a general people sense) it’s easy to make a judgement without seeing the full picture.
Anywho sorry for the rant 😂 do you know a ruthless solicitor? 😂"
No worries, the point I was trying to make was that my solicitor was very much saying if you go to court he gets 50:50, better to agree yourselves, solicitors got paid a fortune for the courts to approve what they hashed out. When he was breaching the order my solicitor said what do you want, can’t make him turn up…. After week in week out of him not showing, etc I phoned the courts office and they recommended logging each incident with the Gardaí, my solicitor never suggested this, they were helpful in the Courts office, I found. This step allowed me to take him back to Court and the judge did tear him out of it about his obligation to meet the terms of the Order. From your earlier response I understood that your ex wasn’t keeping to the terms of your order so I thought this might be a helpful suggestion, and less costly than solicitors…
Of course I can only speak from my own experience, which is as a woman yes, so if it’s no help to you, I am sorry, it wasn’t my intention to antagonise in any way, I can see you’re hurting and ranting here is fine, I was merely trying to offer what I hoped might be of some help. Best of luck👍 |
