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How many women consider themselves unattractive to men.
I have a rwb who is fantastic sexy and do adventurous and considers herself unattractive to men
Do other women feel the same and how can we help? |
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By *rRiosMan 5 weeks ago
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"I'd say most people feel like this a lot of the time and it doesn't matter how many times you are told its not true you'll always have that tiny bit of self doubt  "
i feel advertising and the beauty industry have a lot to answer for in regards to this |
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What's the certain age?
Everyone I think have times where they feel unattractive or not as good as others.
I do feel bad for those people who feel like this all or the majority of the time, male or female.
I've found from experience that no amount of positive affirmation from someone will change this.
That change needs to come from within and probably with some professional guidance |
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"How many women consider themselves unattractive to men.
I have a rwb who is fantastic sexy and do adventurous and considers herself unattractive to men
Do other women feel the same and how can we help?"
From personal experience, 'women of a certain age' no longer give a fuck. They give up trying to fight the menopausal weight gain, finally accept the body that serves them well and couldn't give a hoot what you or anyone think about them.
Getting old is very liberating  |
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By *s LollyWoman 5 weeks ago
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"How many women consider themselves unattractive to men.
I have a rwb who is fantastic sexy and do adventurous and considers herself unattractive to men
Do other women feel the same and how can we help?
From personal experience, 'women of a certain age' no longer give a fuck. They give up trying to fight the menopausal weight gain, finally accept the body that serves them well and couldn't give a hoot what you or anyone think about them.
Getting old is very liberating "
Wise words from the menopausal cat woman 😅😅 |
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"How many women consider themselves unattractive to men.
I have a rwb who is fantastic sexy and do adventurous and considers herself unattractive to men
Do other women feel the same and how can we help?
From personal experience, 'women of a certain age' no longer give a fuck. They give up trying to fight the menopausal weight gain, finally accept the body that serves them well and couldn't give a hoot what you or anyone think about them.
Getting old is very liberating "
I get this. As a man of a certain age I'm a bit like, I couldn't give a flying fuck what ya think of me, and I'm certainly not going to try to change to suit anyone else's idea of what I should be.
Ya I'm a bit battered, creaking in a few places and cranky as feic but I'm styling it out  |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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It's very rare that "men of a certain age", are expected to be remorseful of their aging process.
Female aging is so much more judged than male aging. Let's grow old(er) disgracefully. 😅😜
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"How many women consider themselves unattractive to men.
I have a rwb who is fantastic sexy and do adventurous and considers herself unattractive to men
Do other women feel the same and how can we help?
From personal experience, 'women of a certain age' no longer give a fuck. They give up trying to fight the menopausal weight gain, finally accept the body that serves them well and couldn't give a hoot what you or anyone think about them.
Getting old is very liberating "
Equally liberating for men.
Age is an integral part of the human condition. It's more about attitude than arithmetic.
Embrace the advancement of time as it cannot be evaded.
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"How many women consider themselves unattractive to men.
I have a rwb who is fantastic sexy and do adventurous and considers herself unattractive to men
Do other women feel the same and how can we help?
From personal experience, 'women of a certain age' no longer give a fuck. They give up trying to fight the menopausal weight gain, finally accept the body that serves them well and couldn't give a hoot what you or anyone think about them.
Getting old is very liberating
Equally liberating for men.
Age is an integral part of the human condition. It's more about attitude than arithmetic.
Embrace the advancement of time as it cannot be evaded.
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Blowing smoke up someone's arse doesn't really help anyone.
Having great pics and a fit and healthy body doesn't necessarily mean that person feels good about themselves and age has very little to do with it.
Some people, both men and women, are conditioned to feel unattractive and no amount of flippant patronising will change that.
As you get older it's easier to not give a fuck about other people's opinions but so many people can't get passed that voice in their head. |
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By *tovenWoman 5 weeks ago
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"I feel unattractive, fat, ugly, and old often. But I know that’s all in my head 
Fat??? Christ on a bike , if your fat, what would you call the rest of us ? "
I know I’m not. But that’s how I feel. It’s odd I know. |
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"I feel unattractive, fat, ugly, and old often. But I know that’s all in my head
Fat??? Christ on a bike , if your fat, what would you call the rest of us ?
I know I’m not. But that’s how I feel. It’s odd I know. "
I suppose we can forgive this time since it's Christmas but don't let it happen again or we may have to pull out the whip |
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By *rRiosMan 5 weeks ago
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"Blowing smoke up someone's arse doesn't really help anyone.
Having great pics and a fit and healthy body doesn't necessarily mean that person feels good about themselves and age has very little to do with it.
Some people, both men and women, are conditioned to feel unattractive and no amount of flippant patronising will change that.
As you get older it's easier to not give a fuck about other people's opinions but so many people can't get passed that voice in their head."
It can be a mental health condition called body dysmorphia |
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"I definitely don't think I am attractive at all. And a few men on here has told me as well "
All valid points and everybody might have concerns or doubts about a whole range of things, whether their hair is grey, their legs need shaving, their nose hair needs baling or whatever....and everybody tries to deal with their own insecurities in the best way that they can.... but there is no excuse for anybody coming onto this and throwing nasty judging comments about how somebody looks |
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"Blowing smoke up someone's arse doesn't really help anyone.
Having great pics and a fit and healthy body doesn't necessarily mean that person feels good about themselves and age has very little to do with it.
Some people, both men and women, are conditioned to feel unattractive and no amount of flippant patronising will change that.
As you get older it's easier to not give a fuck about other people's opinions but so many people can't get passed that voice in their head."
This 100% |
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By *tovenWoman 5 weeks ago
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"I feel unattractive, fat, ugly, and old often. But I know that’s all in my head
Fat??? Christ on a bike , if your fat, what would you call the rest of us ?
I know I’m not. But that’s how I feel. It’s odd I know.
I suppose we can forgive this time since it's Christmas but don't let it happen again or we may have to pull out the whip "
Don’t threaten me with a good time  |
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"I feel unattractive, fat, ugly, and old often. But I know that’s all in my head "
. Oh I feel your pain
Possible you need help
However all is not lost
Weekend with me in Portrush
Slowly I rebuild your confidence and self belief
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I think it comes down to self confidence
From experience as u get older u get self conscious for a while
Then you get the fuck it mentality
(I find women can be very critical of other women which baffles me)
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"I think it comes down to self confidence
From experience as u get older u get self conscious for a while
Then you get the fuck it mentality
(I find women can be very critical of other women which baffles me)
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I'm definitely at the age where the fuck it mentality has kicked in.
Can't understand why people are do critical of others especially women. Way I see it, let people live their lives how they want along as they not hurting anyone, it's noones business |
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"I think it comes down to self confidence
From experience as u get older u get self conscious for a while
Then you get the fuck it mentality
(I find women can be very critical of other women which baffles me)
I'm definitely at the age where the fuck it mentality has kicked in.
Can't understand why people are do critical of others especially women. Way I see it, let people live their lives how they want along as they not hurting anyone, it's noones business "
Just good night yep it's after 3
Queen Meadbhh
Wow read your profile and you have me
Sad am outside your parameters
So all I say take a hug and kiss
A guy in Belfast .
Ps am not totally pissed .
Making tea toast now.
Pps wainting taxi in Belfast
Sober you up
Pps wish you nothing but
Happiness in life .
Ppps toast ready now
Thank you xxx
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By *astelloWoman 4 weeks ago
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No amount of affirmations here will change the internal dialogue. Fab can be brutal to the confidence as it's externally focused. The old adage "beauty is only skin deep" resonates with me. I'd prefer my headstone to say "good mother" not " good model".
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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I ve never noticed a headstone to say either of those things, and they don't have to be mutually exclusive. A woman can be both a mother and a model or neither and each option is fine.
I don't think it's healthy to rate women like that.
Let's accept women for their natural selves, who will naturally age, such is life.
Women are not ornaments to provide entertainment, we are not all here to be rated and compared and contrasted. Women of a certain age are not low lying fruit for easy attention. |
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A lot of people men and women feel like this not confident, not attractive and afraid of rejection and my last social interaction in Limerick was an eye opener for me after a conversation (u know who u are). Because I give off a confident air I then seem stand offish I now know but my trick is throw myself on the dance floor where no one approaches me lol. Last social I went up to bed half way through and had to talk myself back downstairs. Terrified of rejection but loved that my portrayal meant everyone thought I was upstairs having sex with a hottie lol instead of on the bed in PJs with a timer set for an hr. But also meant that I missed out on a really great session because people think I’m not interested. Note to self no more holding back when I like the vibe of someone and want the hot fun just say it! |
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By *astelloWoman 4 weeks ago
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"A lot of people men and women feel like this not confident, not attractive and afraid of rejection and my last social interaction in Limerick was an eye opener for me after a conversation (u know who u are). Because I give off a confident air I then seem stand offish I now know but my trick is throw myself on the dance floor where no one approaches me lol. Last social I went up to bed half way through and had to talk myself back downstairs. Terrified of rejection but loved that my portrayal meant everyone thought I was upstairs having sex with a hottie lol instead of on the bed in PJs with a timer set for an hr. But also meant that I missed out on a really great session because people think I’m not interested. Note to self no more holding back when I like the vibe of someone and want the hot fun just say it! "
The old adage "fake it til you make it". Confidence is a tough thing to master. But self love is critically more important. Rare to master it, but it's okay to be kind to yourself and yes hot fun us definitely worth asking for. |
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Once upon a time I would have given "a fuck" but as I've gotten older and realised beauty is in the eye of the beholder and im constantly looking in the mirror ,I think I'm fabulous and that's good enough for me !! |
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"A lot of people men and women feel like this not confident, not attractive and afraid of rejection and my last social interaction in Limerick was an eye opener for me after a conversation (u know who u are). Because I give off a confident air I then seem stand offish I now know but my trick is throw myself on the dance floor where no one approaches me lol. Last social I went up to bed half way through and had to talk myself back downstairs. Terrified of rejection but loved that my portrayal meant everyone thought I was upstairs having sex with a hottie lol instead of on the bed in PJs with a timer set for an hr. But also meant that I missed out on a really great session because people think I’m not interested. Note to self no more holding back when I like the vibe of someone and want the hot fun just say it!
The old adage "fake it til you make it". Confidence is a tough thing to master. But self love is critically more important. Rare to master it, but it's okay to be kind to yourself and yes hot fun us definitely worth asking for. "
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"Be your own best friend".
Only then can you be who you want to be with others in your life, vanilla or fab.
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I think all women and men are beautiful attractive beings their is beauty inside each and everyone one of us. In my opinion been beautiful comes from the inside and radiates out. It's a horrible trait to be shallow and to be honest their the unattractive people x |
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By *elfbiMan 3 weeks ago
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"I don't find myself attractive or ugly I consider myself average, no better or no less that anyone else here.. "
I looking at your pics, I would say your way above average.
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"I feel unattractive, fat, ugly, and old often. But I know that’s all in my head "
No way in a hells chance are you any of those. You look amazing. Unfortunately I am outside you age range  Have an amazing Christmas |
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Some of the most attractive women to me are those that are not considered attractive in this modern world. I can’t stand the obsession with lips and makeup these days. Give me a natural, caring, beautiful personality any day over someone made up to look commercially attractive. |
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In 36, was on a plane to Portugal recently, was sat beside a woman, having the craic for the flight..
Sexy woman, good laugh, had to get her number by the end..she has aged well but even so,she was 74.
Now I like older but that's normally well out of my range but what I'm saying is sexy comes from within a person, it's nothing to to with phyiscal attributes |
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"Once upon a time I would have given "a fuck" but as I've gotten older and realised beauty is in the eye of the beholder and im constantly looking in the mirror ,I think I'm fabulous and that's good enough for me !!"
I want you in my Christmas
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"I certainly don’t find myself overly attractive. And I shy away from compliments x
You must shy away a lot K
Why do you say that lol xx "
You must get a lot of compliments, if not I’m going to start regularly complimenting you, just to get you more comfortable with them of course |
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By *ustMe!Couple 3 weeks ago
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"I certainly don’t find myself overly attractive. And I shy away from compliments x
You must shy away a lot K
Why do you say that lol xx
You must get a lot of compliments, if not I’m going to start regularly complimenting you, just to get you more comfortable with them of course "
Your such a smooth talker I will let you talk to me every day |
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