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I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
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Well I think you're sexy |
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Hey girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to lose that sexy feeling when you haven't had attention in a while. But trust me, it's still there!
First off, never underestimate yourself.
You're amazing! Maybe you've just been chilling in comfy clothes and not thinking about flirting, but that doesn't mean you've lost your touch.
Think of it like riding a bike - you might be a bit wobbly at first, but you'll get back in the groove. Start by doing things that make YOU feel good. Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident, even if you're just staying in. Blast some music and dance around your living room. Remind yourself how awesome you are!
Don't worry about being "useless" at flirting or anything. It'll come back naturally. Just relax, have fun, and remember that you deserve to feel sexy and confident.
Organisea girls night out and hit the town. You got this! ❤️ |
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I go through phases of thinking I'm good looking but most of the time I don't understand why anyone would want to be with me.
I think we all have that.
From what I can see (and a wink was sent last month), you're a very attractive, sexy woman.
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"Hey girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to lose that sexy feeling when you haven't had attention in a while. But trust me, it's still there!
First off, never underestimate yourself.
You're amazing! Maybe you've just been chilling in comfy clothes and not thinking about flirting, but that doesn't mean you've lost your touch.
Think of it like riding a bike - you might be a bit wobbly at first, but you'll get back in the groove. Start by doing things that make YOU feel good. Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident, even if you're just staying in. Blast some music and dance around your living room. Remind yourself how awesome you are!
Don't worry about being "useless" at flirting or anything. It'll come back naturally. Just relax, have fun, and remember that you deserve to feel sexy and confident.
Organisea girls night out and hit the town. You got this! ❤️"
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
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.....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..? |
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"This site isn’t great if you’ve a soft skin I’ve found, especially as a guy. The ratio of guys to girls seems 100/1!
Quality over quantity is worse"
Seems to be a few fake profiles around. Nothing wrong with the quality of your page tbf  |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
You have some Fantastic ink!
VERY SEXY! 😍
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
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You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you. |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you."
Going by the veris all we're very positive and definitely comes across as attractive. |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you."
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
.....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..?"
In general. |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you."
Yeah I get that but they are coffee meets. In my head I'm still me, devoid of any male attention in over 2yrs 🙈 |
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And btw, I didnt post this to get attention or anything. Its genuinely how I feel.
I am scared sh!tless of having to flirt or try to feel sexy. I'm so long out of the loop, it's such a difficult thing for me to try and overcome.
Oh and the guilt because I want to have fun and this means time away from my 2 teenage kids when they have had me to themselves this whole time 🤦♀️🤦♀️ |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you.
Yeah I get that but they are coffee meets. In my head I'm still me, devoid of any male attention in over 2yrs 🙈"
Did none of these men want to take things further? From reading the comments that's not the impression they gave. Bite the bullet and pick one! |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
You've had 8 in-person meets in the last month. If you had no sex appeal then surely they wouldn't have met you.
Yeah I get that but they are coffee meets. In my head I'm still me, devoid of any male attention in over 2yrs 🙈
Did none of these men want to take things further? From reading the comments that's not the impression they gave. Bite the bullet and pick one!"
I wasnt feeling any attraction to a good few. Few potentials but fell through for one reason or another.
I dont want to just 'bite the bullet' either just to get it over with. My body is 'altered' and Im very particular who I let see that tbh 😏 |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
.....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..?
In general. "
...if you don't mind me saying, I read your profile and it doesn't seem like you're interested in casual encounters. So maybe you're shopping in the wrong store.
I'm sure your kids..if they're average teenagers, wouldn't miss you for a few hrs a few times a week. I'm not a counsellor, but it does sound like your confusing sex with companionship |
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Keep the socials going and get to socials. I had 2 coffee meets recently , not going any further as no attraction.
But I get the not feeling sexy bit I'm so used to rejection, even at a meet I'm wondering when they will scarper through the door. |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
.....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..?
In general. ...if you don't mind me saying, I read your profile and it doesn't seem like you're interested in casual encounters. So maybe you're shopping in the wrong store.
I'm sure your kids..if they're average teenagers, wouldn't miss you for a few hrs a few times a week. I'm not a counsellor, but it does sound like your confusing sex with companionship "
Defo not looking for companionship. Nope x |
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"Hey girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to lose that sexy feeling when you haven't had attention in a while. But trust me, it's still there!
First off, never underestimate yourself.
You're amazing! Maybe you've just been chilling in comfy clothes and not thinking about flirting, but that doesn't mean you've lost your touch.
Think of it like riding a bike - you might be a bit wobbly at first, but you'll get back in the groove. Start by doing things that make YOU feel good. Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident, even if you're just staying in. Blast some music and dance around your living room. Remind yourself how awesome you are!
Don't worry about being "useless" at flirting or anything. It'll come back naturally. Just relax, have fun, and remember that you deserve to feel sexy and confident.
Organisea girls night out and hit the town. You got this! ❤️"
Thanks for your reply. You're right, I am so out of touch. I threw away all my going out clothes too as I gained some weight as I wasnt able to exercise. I'm back on track and lost some lbs but then I had no clothes to wear. Tracksuit bottoms dont count!
I've been to 1 social. Its still not easy to get dolled up and be happy with how I feel. I know its a work in progress however and I am taking things at my pace, albeit it a slow one. I'm happy to be focusing on myself and beig in here but the sexiness I used to feel isnt there, yet. |
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"Hi OP
I sat and chatted to you a few weeks ago and you definitely didn't come across as losing your sexiness.....didn't even notice the tracksuit bottoms  "
Lol I hid them very well! I played it well so 🙂 |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
.....you say it's been a good while since you had any male attention...are you talking about on fab or in general ..?
In general. ...if you don't mind me saying, I read your profile and it doesn't seem like you're interested in casual encounters. So maybe you're shopping in the wrong store.
I'm sure your kids..if they're average teenagers, wouldn't miss you for a few hrs a few times a week. I'm not a counsellor, but it does sound like your confusing sex with companionship
Defo not looking for companionship. Nope x"
..ok..im sure you'll have no problem hooking up here...I wish you well |
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By *ezoMan 2 days ago
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
I wasnt feeling any attraction to a good few. Few potentials but fell through for one reason or another."
I get the feeling it's more you haven't found someone you're attracted to that's making you feel this way.
Like others have suggested all I can say is go to socials, strike up a conversations and see if one lights a spark. Or if visual, scan the area.
With the male to female ratio you should have a wide variety to choose from. Just choose one that appeals to you. Some of us can be dense so you may want to pratice your old chatup lines  |
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"Hey girl, I totally get where you're coming from. It's easy to lose that sexy feeling when you haven't had attention in a while. But trust me, it's still there!
First off, never underestimate yourself.
You're amazing! Maybe you've just been chilling in comfy clothes and not thinking about flirting, but that doesn't mean you've lost your touch.
Think of it like riding a bike - you might be a bit wobbly at first, but you'll get back in the groove. Start by doing things that make YOU feel good. Put on an outfit that makes you feel confident, even if you're just staying in. Blast some music and dance around your living room. Remind yourself how awesome you are!
Don't worry about being "useless" at flirting or anything. It'll come back naturally. Just relax, have fun, and remember that you deserve to feel sexy and confident.
Organisea girls night out and hit the town. You got this! ❤️
Thanks for your reply. You're right, I am so out of touch. I threw away all my going out clothes too as I gained some weight as I wasnt able to exercise. I'm back on track and lost some lbs but then I had no clothes to wear. Tracksuit bottoms dont count!
I've been to 1 social. Its still not easy to get dolled up and be happy with how I feel. I know its a work in progress however and I am taking things at my pace, albeit it a slow one. I'm happy to be focusing on myself and beig in here but the sexiness I used to feel isnt there, yet. "
I definitely felt like this for many years...
Joining fab and getting out and about, getting dressed up and actually putting makeup on, flirting and igniting a few sparks gradually brought the old me back, at least some of the time. But you have to find what works for you. Hope you do xx
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It can take a while to find someone with whom you truly feel comfortable to be yourself with. I find when that does happen, then the magic happens all by itself.
Relax, enjoy your coffee socials. Eventually that spark will ignite. I don't believe it can be forced.
And I know it's such a cliché, but perhaps try and do something now and again that's just for you. Something that makes you feel good. It'll differ for everyone. Me? It's getting my nails done, a blow-dry at my favourite hairdresser, or a new lipstick. And I'm the least "girly girl" you'll ever meet |
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Sometimes is actually getting out of the fab world. Just striking up a conversation with someone. A smile and a friendly hello..l couldn't believe how nice and attractive people are when you look up and not down. Feeling worthy doesn't have to equate to losing weight or changing yourself. Inner changes are more powerful than external transient ones. Good luck with it. |
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"Sometimes is actually getting out of the fab world. Just striking up a conversation with someone. A smile and a friendly hello..l couldn't believe how nice and attractive people are when you look up and not down. Feeling worthy doesn't have to equate to losing weight or changing yourself. Inner changes are more powerful than external transient ones. Good luck with it. "
Absolutely.
It's more about attitude than attributes.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but most passionate people kiss with their eyes closed.
Be your own best friend and only then can you truely be a friend to others.
(Good Lord. Badger is going soft in his old age......and no, I don't mean in that department, before all you smart asses jump in). |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
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Maybe lads are afraid to send a wee message of compliment to you. as they fear rejection from you and they really like how you look.some guys are like that. You have some great pics there in fairness. Have a wee look in your inbox compliment coming your way |
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By *ingetMan 15 hours ago
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
Well I think you're sexy"
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By *ingetMan 15 hours ago
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
Well I think you're sexy"
And so do I. |
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By *aybeLady OP Woman 14 hours ago
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"As a newly separated 44 year old man...I totally get you op....it's a odd world but you are great and it's all in your own head....there's a market for everything...."
The world is odd alright. I'm still figuring this out. I dont know why I feel the need to be 'sexy' or whatever. I just do me 🙂 |
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If it means anything, I think you look great. Your pic 19 Sept looks classy and sexy, your ink is cool and interesting. I'd say just keep doing you and all that other stuff will work itself out in time when your ready. Don't stress it just enjoy it. |
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"I'm not feeling one bit sexy or I think I possess a shred of sex appeal.
Been a good while since I had ANY male attention so have had 0 need to dress up, flirt or anything in a long time.
It's so out of my everyday that I fear I may be useless at everything 😕🙈
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You probably just haven’t had someone remind you of it lately. Sometimes all it takes is a little nudge to feel like yourself again. If you're up for it, I'd be happy to help pick out nail colors for your next few appointments? One at a time...of course. |
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By *ezoMan 11 hours ago
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Find or do something that you personally feel makes you sexy.
Do it for yourself, even if it's in a locked room in front of a mirror. Build confidence.
Then, just be yourself. I am sure you will find someone. It will take putting yourself out there but as long as you know what you want that's half the battle. |
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Men and woman are so different , a man can be by the pool on hols, belly out , dadbod and thinking to himself “oh yeah d*unk it in ladies “ and that’s a good thing , love yourself first no matter what !
Woman look in the mirror and think they need to improve themselves in certain areas but when a man looks at her he can only see how gorgeous & sexy she is.
And just so you know , you’ve so much sex appeal and you’re as sexy af x
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"And btw, I didnt post this to get attention or anything. Its genuinely how I feel.
I am scared sh!tless of having to flirt or try to feel sexy. I'm so long out of the loop, it's such a difficult thing for me to try and overcome.
Oh and the guilt because I want to have fun and this means time away from my 2 teenage kids when they have had me to themselves this whole time 🤦♀️🤦♀️"
I think a lot of parents share that guilt but the good thing is your kids are getting older and of course they only want you to be happy. A few hours away from them is very much ok and acceptable and benefits everyone. 🙂
Take things at your pace. Try not to focus on flirting or being sexy for anyone. Becoming more self aware is important. Begin to know yourself again. God knows we all get lost in life's routines and the mundane. It sounds like you're becoming aware that there is a whole new you and the next chapter beckons. Think about your feelings, motives, and desires. What exactly would make you feel happy at this moment.
Enjoy other people's company without any expectation or feeling that you have to feel or behave a certain way. Explain to your date you need to take things at your pace. Socials are fun, do them on your terms. If you only feel able to stay for an hour to build up your confidence, do that. If you're feeling a little anxious explain that to the host. Good ones will help introduce you and make you feel welcome.
Catch up with your own friends and family. Start getting into a routine of going out with them. Cinema, food, drinks etc. Treat yourself to some new threads, even if it's a new tracksuit. Feel a million doing whatever you're up to. 🙂
Your spark will come back. You will find yourself again, she's there. Good luck OP 🌸 |
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Great advice there from tiny delight and some others above.
And I can confirm, having met and chatted to you at a recent social, that you have all the attributes of a very sexy lady,.. friendly, charming, witty, intelligent, articulate, confident and very attractive.
You just need to believe you are, may take time, but you will, because you are. X |
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Op we definitely think that you look very sexy from what we can see. Just take things at your own pace and you will get your mojo back. Feel free if you want to pm us to chat about anything you want no matter what sometimes helping someone vocalise any issues can help see it from a different light |
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I can relate (Female here). I had 15 years, after widowhood, completely on my own. Not even one kiss. I gained weight and I wasn't a taut skinned 25 year old anymore. I hated what I saw. I was so lonely and once the kids got in their mid twenties I realised life was slipping away. I joined up Fet and started posting photos of myself. The first one was me in a sensible dress. A few more went by getting more risqué. I bought lingerie and some adjustable coloured lighting and figured out nice angles. I started to follow plus size risque content. I realised all bodies can be beautiful. Then I started going to socials. I met someone...lo and behold it turned out he knew about the world of swinging, so...despite a brand new relationship we started to explore that world.
Then, annoyingly, it turns out I'm Demisexual. I literally don't feel that much attraction to people. I need to like them as a person, find them intelligent and interesting and the opposite of a trump supporter, queer friendly and also ethical and not cheating (cuts out, at a guess, 90% of men here) as I am definately not a fuck and go type person.
There are no doubt people who don't find me attractive. As a non standard body size I sometimes get the fat fetishists and I don't like them as they objectify me. And I dont find that many people attractive but having coffee meets is important and I am getting quicker at developing attraction. I have met a bunch of people who don't give a shit, find me sexy because I'm me. I haven't nailed confidence but it is better. |
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"Op we definitely think that you look very sexy from what we can see. Just take things at your own pace and you will get your mojo back. Feel free if you want to pm us to chat about anything you want no matter what sometimes helping someone vocalise any issues can help see it from a different light "
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Love all this. X
"And btw, I didnt post this to get attention or anything. It’s genuinely how I feel.
I am scared sh!tless of having to flirt or try to feel sexy. I'm so long out of the loop, it's such a difficult thing for me to try and overcome.
Oh and the guilt because I want to have fun and this means time away from my 2 teenage kids when they have had me to themselves this whole time 🤦♀️🤦♀️
I think a lot of parents share that guilt but the good thing is your kids are getting older and of course they only want you to be happy. A few hours away from them is very much ok and acceptable and benefits everyone. 🙂
Take things at your pace. Try not to focus on flirting or being sexy for anyone. Becoming more self aware is important. Begin to know yourself again. God knows we all get lost in life's routines and the mundane. It sounds like you're becoming aware that there is a whole new you and the next chapter beckons. Think about your feelings, motives, and desires. What exactly would make you feel happy at this moment.
Enjoy other people's company without any expectation or feeling that you have to feel or behave a certain way. Explain to your date you need to take things at your pace. Socials are fun, do them on your terms. If you only feel able to stay for an hour to build up your confidence, do that. If you're feeling a little anxious explain that to the host. Good ones will help introduce you and make you feel welcome.
Catch up with your own friends and family. Start getting into a routine of going out with them. Cinema, food, drinks etc. Treat yourself to some new threads, even if it's a new tracksuit. Feel a million doing whatever you're up to. 🙂
Your spark will come back. You will find yourself again, she's there. Good luck OP 🌸"
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