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By *orad OP Man 4 weeks ago
South Central Dublin |
Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out.
But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place!
That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. |
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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out.
But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place!
That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. "
When a friend joined, she received over 700 messages in first two hours. No pics. No bio. Nothing. |
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When we signed up, after under 10 minutes exploring the site we had about 10 one liners including 3 dick pics. We immediately blocked single men and moved on. It's not ideal but we didn't fancy that kind of constant noise in the inbox. |
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It can be very overwhelming at the start when they haven't figured out the filters and block button. Thankfully I get very few now because of my filters but the first day I set up profile late at night and woke up to 400 messages even with zero pictures and bio. |
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By *rRiosMan 4 weeks ago
dublin |
"Set your filters as tight as a ducks ass brings the volume wayyyyy down any one that's needs to status update that info loves to brag and enjoys the attention 🙄 "
I’m getting way too much attention, I know, I’ll make a status about it to attract less attention!  |
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By *s LollyWoman 4 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Set your filters as tight as a ducks ass brings the volume wayyyyy down any one that's needs to status update that info loves to brag and enjoys the attention 🙄
I’m getting way too much attention, I know, I’ll make a status about it to attract less attention! "
It's on par with the "fab for a friend request" or "fab if you'd fuck me" brigade 🙄 |
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As a solo female in the past with no knowledge of filters it was about 130 odd in ten minutes and most of them were too gross to repeat. Just treating me like an available hole, i felt dehumanised. I was really upset and on the phone to my bf who was like I'm so sorry I should have warned you. But he didn't actually know.
Now when I hear of a friend considering joining I'm like let me talk you through it. |
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"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness
There's filters to stop unwanted messages
Maybe they like having that many "
A few times when I have seen ladies complain in status updates about stupid or insulting messages, I have suggested that they block men and do their own searching. They respond to say that it's a good idea, but they never do it. |
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By *orad OP Man 4 weeks ago
South Central Dublin |
"As a solo female in the past with no knowledge of filters it was about 130 odd in ten minutes and most of them were too gross to repeat. Just treating me like an available hole, i felt dehumanised. I was really upset and on the phone to my bf who was like I'm so sorry I should have warned you. But he didn't actually know.
Now when I hear of a friend considering joining I'm like let me talk you through it."
Aye. Seems like a form of trolling tbh, as in how effective can that approach be? Seems like a self-defeating vicious cycle. Spam EVERYONE with hi's/pics/winks as anything you put effort into is going to be lost anyway.
Shrugs. Each to their own, pity though as its ruining the entire collective experience |
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The status update might be a way of mass communicating the message that her inbox is overloaded, it might not be a stealth boast.
It's always the same brigade that jump to negative conclusions about women. |
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By *og-ManMan 4 weeks ago
somewhere |
"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness
There's filters to stop unwanted messages
Maybe they like having that many
When you just join you don't know about the filters tho  "
I get that and I got a friend to join once and she left when she got overwhelmed as I forgot to mention the filters
She came back on and set them fine
I don't understand the mentality of a man sending dick pic and other messages to a blank profile especially when they're also a blank profile
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By *ustBoWoman 4 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Yes when you are new on here as a woman you do get inundated with messages until you find your filters and tighten them up. Women who don't and are on here awhile and constantly complain about the volume of messages they get well, they could fix that issue if they want but a lot like the attention and the poor you responses they get when their post about it.
I will admit I left within hours when I first joined due to the volume of messages I rejoined a day or so later and found my filters and set them tight. Even within in those few minutes I had messages off men who seem to be waiting to pounce on any new woman joining. Some were sending dick pics and ridiculously stupid in detail messages of what they wanted me to do to them,some were telling me I was absolutely stunning which amazed me as I had no pictures up,and then I had the hi you're new I'm one of the good guys not like all these other assholes messaging you type messages which is crap cos they are lying on wait to jump on any woman joining in the hope of a shag. And as time went on I realised some of these people were well established fabbers too. I don't understand the mentality of looking for new profiles and sending messages within minutes even seconds of them joining. Do they think it will give them a jump start of a chance of meeting. Because usually it doesn't. Or are people who do this actually so desperate that they will be willing to shag just anyone 🤷. |
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"It's also used as an ego boost by some in fairness
There's filters to stop unwanted messages
Maybe they like having that many
A few times when I have seen ladies complain in status updates about stupid or insulting messages, I have suggested that they block men and do their own searching. They respond to say that it's a good idea, but they never do it. "
There are some that will never do that.
They love the attention of it all, so much so they'll put it in a status update. They love the dopamine hit! |
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Attention seeking. Tighten up filters. Some men message anyone in the hope someone will bite.
And I dont go around bragging about how many messages I get. Again, attention seeking. Each to their own and if that gives them a buzz..... |
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"The status update might be a way of mass communicating the message that her inbox is overloaded, it might not be a stealth boast.
It's always the same brigade that jump to negative conclusions about women. "
This was my take on the status. |
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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out.
But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place!
That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back. "
It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding. |
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By *s LollyWoman 4 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out.
But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place!
That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back.
It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding. "
That's all well and good if you're hear a few day's or a wk or so but not for the one's that are here 3yrs +🤷 |
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My proficiency in dealing with high volumes of information on a daily basis for work kinda would make me relish the challenge of how I would keep up with 227 mails in short space of time 😊
Although my sanity is also important so won't be opening up my filters to find anytime soon out 😁 |
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"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out.
But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place!
That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back.
It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding.
That's all well and good if you're hear a few day's or a wk or so but not for the one's that are here 3yrs +🤷"
Yes, but your aggressive first response was in relation to a new joiner. |
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"The majority of single ladies and couples usually set filters to stop most of the messages as it would be a full time job reading them "
If you go for the platinum level FAB upgrade you can available of Artificial Intelligence who will respond to every mail on your behalf 💡 |
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By *s LollyWoman 4 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Generally I don't waste my time messaging *new* folks to the site, partially because there are so many fakes/tourists but also presumed they got an avalanche of msgs and you can't stand out.
But saw a profile status today by a lady who said she received 227 msgs in 5 hours and I had no idea *THAT* was the level of insanity taking place!
That is so overwhelming, no wonder so many never come back.
It's completely ridiculous for new girls on here. It's impossible to keep up with it. Messages come in faster than they can be replied to. The status messages are because they are overwhelmed and feel like they need to explain why they aren't responding.
That's all well and good if you're hear a few day's or a wk or so but not for the one's that are here 3yrs +🤷
Yes, but your aggressive first response was in relation to a new joiner. "
While i do find it flattering ye need to re quote me all the time i think it's time ye got yourself a hobby mabey knitting or watch a movie, id recommended Frozen it's got a great song "Let it go, let it go" |
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If you delete without responding : you are an ignorant b1tch.
If you respond, to be polite, with a 90% plus refusal rate : you don't do anything and are just here for the ego boost.
If you set strict restrictions on who can contact you : you are judgey and ageist.
Instead of constantly applying negative judgments on women, maybe just accept communications on face value.
No need for the skewed, negative projections.
Also, so what if women like the compliments or the hits or the fabs. The Hot Pics section is there for a reason. That's all part of Fab. The patriarchal judgers, are the ones that boil my pee. |
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.   "
I get excited by punctuation 😁 maybe others did also 🤔😁 Gorgeous 😋 |
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
I get excited by punctuation 😁 maybe others did also 🤔😁 Gorgeous 😋"
Charm personified, we need more of this ☀️☀️🍀😉 |
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By *orad OP Man 4 weeks ago
South Central Dublin |
Well there is a silver lining.
My ego no longer assumed 'it must be me...', when folks don't open mails. Now I can simply feel better about myself and presume 'they must have been swamped'.
The male ego is thus assuaged! |
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them."
Single man are absolutely crucial to the scene. Many/most couples require them for their threesomes and other fantasies. |
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them."
Man bashing couples are destroying this lifestyle and driving off all the guys |
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them."
I have friends, women and couples who have deleted their accounts over the years and vowed never to return. Every one of them left because of drama created by other women. I don't know anyone who has left because of something a man has done. |
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had. "
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That's because the more perceptive gentlemen on here work on intuition, premonition and foresight. 🩶😉 |
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had. "
Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂 |
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂 "
😅😅 jump out quick |
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By *dfabMan 4 weeks ago
Dunboyne |
"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂
😅😅 jump out quick"
Or maybe stay if you like a little nibble  |
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"When I came back with my single profile I had no pics at all for a while. Still got messages telling me how gorgeous I was and what a great profile I had.
Yeah, it's the complete opposite of an ego boost😆 it kinda feels like you've thrown yourself into a bucket of piranhas 😂 "
😁😁 That's it exactly- nothing flattering about being told the nothingness you 'advertise' is oh-so appealing 😁 |
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them.
I have friends, women and couples who have deleted their accounts over the years and vowed never to return. Every one of them left because of drama created by other women. I don't know anyone who has left because of something a man has done. "
This! I've only ever heard about women causing drama, for both men and women.
It's a site for people who want to shag other people.. it's supposed to be a bit of fun, a bit of escapism. Leave everything else at the door. |
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them.
I have friends, women and couples who have deleted their accounts over the years and vowed never to return. Every one of them left because of drama created by other women. I don't know anyone who has left because of something a man has done.
This! I've only ever heard about women causing drama, for both men and women.
It's a site for people who want to shag other people.. it's supposed to be a bit of fun, a bit of escapism. Leave everything else at the door."
Unfortunately not always the case though. |
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"Single men destroy this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend them, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of them."
Gatekeeping destroys this lifestyle. Its the same online as it is in Swinger clubs. People will try and defend it, but at the end of the day people are deleting accounts daily because of it |
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours.
There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process."
48 hours is extreme.. I'd suggest 44.45.. |
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours.
There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process."
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It's not Fab's responsibility to hand-hold us or give us any form of tutelage for other people's shortcomings or transgressions.
In the Fab privacy section there are options to restrict newbies, those without site supporter, those who are not photo verified and those who have no pubic photos on display. It's not a panacea that solves everything but it's sufficient mitigation. |
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours.
There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process.
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It's not Fab's responsibility to hand-hold us or give us any form of tutelage for other people's shortcomings or transgressions.
In the Fab privacy section there are options to restrict newbies, those without site supporter, those who are not photo verified and those who have no pubic photos on display. It's not a panacea that solves everything but it's sufficient mitigation."
People messaging a new profile isn't necessarily a transgression.
And none of your above suggestions prevent the issue of a new profile being bombarded with messages.
And I would suggest it is absolutely the sites responsibility and also in their best interest to make the site as user friendly and as newbie friendly as possible. |
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I have to say that I've had about 3 nasty messages on fab in the last while, lots of single guys with no pics have messaged me so I obviously ignore, so I have to say that the best part of men here are genuinely ok, |
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours.
There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process."
Not a bad idea. I can't see it being popular with users though |
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"Fab should 100% block incoming mail on new accounts for a minimum of 48 hours.
There should also be a proper site induction or tutorial build in to the set up process.
Not a bad idea. I can't see it being popular with users though "
It's a bit like website terms and conditions. Everyone ticks the box but no one reads them. |
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In contrast to that I am currently sitting on 0 new messages today 🤣 any wee cheeky random messages are welcome tbh if anyone is up for the challenge?? Say whatever you want I have extremely thick skin and no filter |
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A friend joined fab recently coz she wanted to go come to socials. She had nothing in her bio and no photos and was getting hundreds of messages a week. I had to sort her filters before she deleted her profile |
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