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By *aybeLady OP Woman 5 weeks ago
West Dublin |
I am very clear on my bio that if I do a social meet, I prefer no expectations & I convey this also to the guy I am meeting.
Talk about disrespecting my boundary 🤦♀️
A lot of men push & push me on this. Just because I give an hour of my time to them, they think they are entitled to a kiss. I'm far from a prude but this is just my boundary. One guy even put my "rules" in inverted commas. I told him this is my boundary & boundaries are to be respected, not put in inverted commas 🤦♀️ I tell a guy if we feel a spark, a snog is on the cards but don't expect one.
It wrecks my head.
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It's not a hard and fast rule if there is the element of "spark" at play.
While obviously nobody is entitled to a kiss, maybe they did feel the spark.
Maybe previous partners liked them to take the lead. |
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By *aybeLady OP Woman 5 weeks ago
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"It's not a hard and fast rule if there is the element of "spark" at play.
While obviously nobody is entitled to a kiss, maybe they did feel the spark.
Maybe previous partners liked them to take the lead."
Its not even that. This is men presuming they will get a kiss before we have met, arranging a meet on here. Presuming a coffee meet = a guaranteed snog. |
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"It's not a hard and fast rule if there is the element of "spark" at play.
While obviously nobody is entitled to a kiss, maybe they did feel the spark.
Maybe previous partners liked them to take the lead.
Its not even that. This is men presuming they will get a kiss before we have met, arranging a meet on here. Presuming a coffee meet = a guaranteed snog."
Ah right sorry I thought you ment at the actual coffee.
Why even have the conversation, just stop engaging as soon as they disregard the stated boundaries.
It's never going to change tbh |
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By *aybeLady OP Woman 5 weeks ago
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"It's not a hard and fast rule if there is the element of "spark" at play.
While obviously nobody is entitled to a kiss, maybe they did feel the spark.
Maybe previous partners liked them to take the lead.
Its not even that. This is men presuming they will get a kiss before we have met, arranging a meet on here. Presuming a coffee meet = a guaranteed snog.
Ah right sorry I thought you ment at the actual coffee.
Why even have the conversation, just stop engaging as soon as they disregard the stated boundaries.
It's never going to change tbh"
Thats what I do. Tell them its not for me and best of luck on here. Always polite. |
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What a pity.
All that teeth brushing, mouth wash gargling and fresh breath spraying gone for no good...😘
Not to mention the Old Spice overload on top of the 72 hour non-staining underarm deodorant.
Might as well turn up smelling of silage and last nights curried chips if a snog isn't on the cards....😘💋😘🤣🤣😂
But seriously, it's as simple as asking if you may have a kiss, if the answer is yes, give it your best, if the answer is no, just let it go.
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Kissing makes me so fricken horny that I would rather not kiss because I'd be going home with an awful boner on me if it were only a kiss and I'd have to wait to get home til I sorted it out then myself. 
Anyway if you can't respect the other persons boundaries on the first meet there will be no point in a second meeting. First impressions are an everlasting portrait of the person so if not we'll behaved at the first meet chances are it will be over before ya know it |
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By *ACOLCouple 5 weeks ago
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OP! Love the tattoos and the leg picture 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Okay now onto the topic, the boundaries are set there for a reason, it isn't just a kiss...
If you cant respect that rule, how can I trust you with my body.
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"I hope you're feeling well today OP 🤗🤞
Just had my 2nd session. Back home. Im zonked & hip is oh so sore. But I'm grand. Thanks for asking x"
Hopefully things will start to get easier for you now 🙏 pm me if you ever just wanna chat x |
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