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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Depends from person to person.
I'll give my number to someone I've chatted to for awhile.
Very rarely give my real name.
Would never invite someone to my home |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
About myself, I'm as honest as none point not to be 🤷♂️
Yes after talking a while
No problem giving my name to the right person
I've never had the opportunity to yet  |
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By *s Lolly OP Woman 5 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"There's very few have my phone number and only a handful know my real name in the 9yrs ive been on fab....
WHAT? You're not Lolly?  "
Funny cause im called Lolly so long i kinda forget my real name 🤔🤪 |
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By *og-ManMan 5 weeks ago
somewhere |
"There's very few have my phone number and only a handful know my real name in the 9yrs ive been on fab....
WHAT? You're not Lolly?
Funny cause im called Lolly so long i kinda forget my real name 🤔🤪"
It's MsLolly silly  |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Whatever question is asked, I'll answer as truthfully as I can.
I use telegram and will go e out the username on that.
If a person asks for my name, I might tell them, depends on if I like them or not.
Nope. No one to house. |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Nearly everything.
No I get too many calls and messages already
Yes
No because kids |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Phone number : sometimes, you can always block people, if you need to.
Real name - first name yes.
Home - sometimes, after an initial public meet and greet.
I don't want to have sex with anyone who I wouldn't want to know my name, if I get a bad vibe or an awkward vibe, then it's a no from the start.
Fab is not all that different to tinder. If someone gets abusive on text, voice message or pesters me, I block them. |
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If you have my number or know my first name you're in a very exclusive club. I've never invited anyone to my home.
If I'm divulging personal information about myself, well that's rare too. I obviously consider a person highly if I am. |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Very Very rarely give out my number or have people to the house. Only generally if I've met them a few times and depending on interactions I've had with them.
I do give people my real first name but not surname. |
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I think the explicit pics and veri s are dangerous, it s v easy to identify people in Ireland.
I know who tonnes of Fab people are, and likewise, many people know who I am, that's pretty normal if you socialise. While on hols here in PDI, I m part of a WhatsApp group, not a big deal.
I guess we all think differently about what is safe. |
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There are a good few fabbers with my number people I've met regularly or chatted to for a long time.
Most people know my real name.
I've only ever had one fabber into my house. For various reasons it's not something I've repeated |
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I've only given my number to people I've chatted to for months. In total less than a handful in more than 8 years here and only two of those are still here, one I trust completely, the other I no longer trust at all and is the reason people I've never spoken to have my details.
I can also count on one hand the number of people who have ever known my first name and again only two who have my full name.
I won't even go to someone else's house unless I've known them a long time and we are comfortable together.
I definitely wouldn't be giving out my address for the same reason my profile gives my location as Belfast and I'm over an hour away from there.
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
I'll answer any questions they have, I'm pretty open, nothing to hide here,
I have given my number , if good vibes and a social is on the cards, I've found conversions fizzle out on here, so prefer to move to WhatsApp.
First name yes, surname they can get on WhatsApp if it goes there.
Invite to home yes only after a social or to elsewhere.
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
I got told off/pulled aside at one of my very first events in Dublin in 2010, a single guy said to me
"are you using your real name and talking about real experiences?"
I told him I didn't have a problem with it, and I still don't.
I understand it is much different for a single male, than a couple or single female, especially since I've spent the majority of my perfessional life working outside Ireland....... I've just done it again   |
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I only share personal details with a select few very close friends on fab.
The fact that someone, whom I thought was a friend, shared my details on a chat group has made me even more cautious about protecting my privacy.
For me the 3 basic rules of fab are;
Discretion, discretion, discretion. |
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By *astelloWoman 5 weeks ago
Far far away |
I think caution is very important on here especially as a woman..ld never compromise myself for the sake of a ride.
A few know my real name
A lot have my number. It's a choice as l prefer to talk that engage in endless textual ping pong
The amount that have been to my home has steadily decreased from the first flush of fab endeavours to now. It's very very low numbers and it will continue like that.
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By *asual777Man 5 weeks ago
i travel all over |
For some where a wife/partner or a boss finding out about fab is catastrophic , giving out these details is crazy
But for some , their fab friends are their best friends . Not giving out these details is possibly stopping a really good friendship developing .
It’s about the individuals and their connections really . You can be reckless , but you can be too closed off and miss out on somethings too |
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By *og-ManMan 5 weeks ago
somewhere |
I give out my number to people that I'd consider friends that I'd call or even WhatsApp on a weekly basis
3 or 4 would have my full name and a few more would have my first name
However friends that I had before joining fab are also on fab and they always had my name and number
Think its easier for a single man to invite people back to his anyway
You do pick up first names if you go to a lot of socials or indeed holidays with a group from Fab but I never use first names in company
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By *s Lolly OP Woman 5 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Id someone give out my area in a thread recently no idea how they knew as ive never interacted with them, i never pulled them up over it as the thread got closed over another comment 😲 |
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By *ustBoWoman 5 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't really talk to many on here at all .
While I'm truthful about myself I won't give out too many personal details I learnt the hard way at the start not to.
Only three people on here have my phone number only 3 know my real first name and two know my full name. (Even tho one of them gladly shared it with others along with other info ) .
Only two people have ever been to where I live both because I was meeting them regularly,and only one of them have been to where I live now.
Because of past experiences on here I have learned while being truthful up to a point ie about what I am looking for,what I look like etc I don't believe I have to share any other personal info on here. Including my phone number. My best female friend gave her number out to a guy on here and when she told him she didn't want to meet him anymore he decided to share it in groups and she hassled by several men she never met for sex until she changed her number.
I'm not invested on here enough to get a second phone just for fab.
I don't think I'm missing out on anything by being cautious on here and if someone doesn't like the fact I won't share things well that's their issue not mine. I prefer to keep my life outside of fab separate. And there are too many who are more than willing to look for info on others and share it. Some on this thread even have a history of it . |
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"I think caution is very important on here especially as a woman..ld never compromise myself for the sake of a ride.
A few know my real name
A lot have my number. It's a choice as l prefer to talk that engage in endless textual ping pong
The amount that have been to my home has steadily decreased from the first flush of fab endeavours to now. It's very very low numbers and it will continue like that.
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There's too many fake profiles on here and people give out details too easily! I did years ago which ended in divorce when I wouldn't pay her what she wanted 🤷♂️ now I'm an open book to the right people 🥰 |
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"Id someone give out my area in a thread recently no idea how they knew as ive never interacted with them, i never pulled them up over it as the thread got closed over another comment 😲"
Why do people feel the need to do something that could be very dangerous 🤬💪🤗 |
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I think it's important to note that just because someone doesn't mind being open about this hobby for themselves, doesn't mean they don't respect the privacy of others. These are two very different things |
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"I think it's important to note that just because someone doesn't mind being open about this hobby for themselves, doesn't mean they don't respect the privacy of others. These are two very different things "
It's also important to note that some who are extremely cautious and guarded with their own personal details don't apply the same rules to other people's info. |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Never give out my number!
Well I have a real name, stage name and fab nsme hahaha the fab one yes
Never to my house! Ever |
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By *rnicaMan 5 weeks ago
The Great Outdoors |
"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Okay, my feedback below is unique to me. Take it with a pinch of salt - What works for me may not work for someone else. I have a preference for forming ongoing connections/FWB-type arrangements with similar people. Zero interest in one-offs, random hook-ups & extramarital affairs (no judgement, just not my jam!).
Rather that limit myself to rigid Dos and Donts, I prefer a more phased approach that depends very much on how the interaction develops...
HOW MUCH TO TELL:
There is nothing about me that I need to hide, but I do maintain a certain public privacy. I'm quite happy to share face pics & general info by text when it's reciprocated. Being honest and truthful about your intentions goes a long way to building trust - this works both ways.
I love that Fab is much more direct than the likes of Tinder. But I need to be conscious of my male privilege and appreciate that a lady may feel quite vulnerable meeting someone via Fab. If we are meeting, I will offer additional info about myself to establish trust and ensure safety without expecting the same in return.
I tend to be much more open in person once I've met and got a feel for someone and will share as much information about myself as the other person is willing to reciprocate. Some form of human connection is essential, otherwise what's the point?
DO YOU GIVE OUT YOUR NUMBER:
No never. More so because it's made redundant anyway by messaging apps. I just use Telegram for off-fab contact. More convenient and secure for everyone. Much easier to separate vanilla life and Fab life that way.
DO YOU TELL YOUR REAL NAME:
Yes. I'll always sign off a first message with just my first name and a face pic. Why not? It demonstrates I've nothing to hide. I've no issue with a lady not revealing her name before meeting in person, but if that's still not forthcoming by that point then I'll have my guard up - see above point about in-person reciprocity.
DO YOU INVITE PEOPLE TO YOUR HOME:
Never for a first meet. Once rapport and trust has been established in person though, I'm happy to let an invitation back to mine to arise organically 😁 |
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Ivw learnt the hard way, no more giving my mobile no to anyone, same when it comes to personal stuff. I have one or two fabbers over to my home but we had met previously.
Always meet for a social in a public place. Get there early park away from place. Wall back to my car on my own.
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Year's ago I use to share some details till someone showed up at the family house looking for me. Now I never shared information about where i use to live so not sure how that person got my old address from but ever since that I wouldn't share many details about myself and used kik message off of fab.
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"I think it's important to note that just because someone doesn't mind being open about this hobby for themselves, doesn't mean they don't respect the privacy of others. These are two very different things
It's also important to note that some who are extremely cautious and guarded with their own personal details don't apply the same rules to other people's info. "
100%
Strictly private fabbers, actively seek out other people's business, extrapolate incorrect information, make up stories and tell lies. Spread all sorts of daft rumours and then they are sanctimonious about privacy. |
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I like to keep my ‘fab life’ and private life completely separate, there a some exceptions based on a very small number of people I have become friends with through here over the years. They have my phone number and know a bit more about work ect.
As far as other peoples information, I stick to the same rules for fab as with my friends. The assumption is that all information is for our eyes and ears only. |
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"I think it's important to note that just because someone doesn't mind being open about this hobby for themselves, doesn't mean they don't respect the privacy of others. These are two very different things
It's also important to note that some who are extremely cautious and guarded with their own personal details don't apply the same rules to other people's info.
100%
Strictly private fabbers, actively seek out other people's business, extrapolate incorrect information, make up stories and tell lies. Spread all sorts of daft rumours and then they are sanctimonious about privacy. "
It's sad that this goes on |
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"I think it's important to note that just because someone doesn't mind being open about this hobby for themselves, doesn't mean they don't respect the privacy of others. These are two very different things
It's also important to note that some who are extremely cautious and guarded with their own personal details don't apply the same rules to other people's info.
100%
Strictly private fabbers, actively seek out other people's business, extrapolate incorrect information, make up stories and tell lies. Spread all sorts of daft rumours and then they are sanctimonious about privacy.
It's sad that this goes on "
It is very sad that this is the way the site has now become.
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"I think it's important to note that just because someone doesn't mind being open about this hobby for themselves, doesn't mean they don't respect the privacy of others. These are two very different things
It's also important to note that some who are extremely cautious and guarded with their own personal details don't apply the same rules to other people's info.
100%
Strictly private fabbers, actively seek out other people's business, extrapolate incorrect information, make up stories and tell lies. Spread all sorts of daft rumours and then they are sanctimonious about privacy.
It's sad that this goes on
It is very sad that this is the way the site has now become.
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And it seems to be get worse, along with people to serious about themselves just chill out and enjoy what you can |
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"I think it's important to note that just because someone doesn't mind being open about this hobby for themselves, doesn't mean they don't respect the privacy of others. These are two very different things
It's also important to note that some who are extremely cautious and guarded with their own personal details don't apply the same rules to other people's info.
100%
Strictly private fabbers, actively seek out other people's business, extrapolate incorrect information, make up stories and tell lies. Spread all sorts of daft rumours and then they are sanctimonious about privacy.
It's sad that this goes on
It is very sad that this is the way the site has now become.
And it seems to be get worse, along with people to serious about themselves just chill out and enjoy what you can "
.....and all of a sudden...its an epidemic.... |
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"Fab is not some sort of Narnia
It's made up of real people so of course it'll have people doing stuff that they would normally do in real life anyway "
Yep, fab is real life for lots of people, with real friends from it, who you can hang out with and go to a gig, and chit chat about real life too. Chat about all the normal stuff, meaning revealing a bit about yourself. |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
We give out our names only if we met people already and we talked and cause they seen our face.
But we never understood giving out your number to ppl and worse even your address. Specially by ppl with kids |
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By *ustBoWoman 5 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Fab is not some sort of Narnia
It's made up of real people so of course it'll have people doing stuff that they would normally do in real life anyway "
Fab is far from Narnia .
And while yes there are people on here I like and get on with it does not mean I want my life outside of fab yo over lap with my fab life. There are people I would spend time with and not just having sex with from here. But they are few and far and they are people I know I can trust at this stage.
The simple fact is that if people weren't so bloody nosey and spreading others information about on here without their knowledge and consent fab would be a way better place. But because that happens and I'm most of us have experienced or know someone who has been outed on here. And I don't mean married or attached etc I mean people who have been outed on other social media sites due to sour grapes of someone else on here.
So yes people are right to be cautious about how they share info. It's grand for those who don't care if family friends or their work find out about their sex life. But for people who actually prefer to keep their private life private, this place always holds the danger that some sad pathetic individual will take great pleasure in outing them. Usually over something pathetic like being turned down or saying how bad it can be on here with the background politics that happen.
I find it easier to keep a very small circle on here and stay away from the shite. Yes I may miss out on some great people but at least I miss out on the bullshite as well and that's more important than anything else. |
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"I'm straight up & honest, number i'd have to know well etc. Don't accomodate as live beside my parents haha!! But i'd need to know someone well to let them.into my home tbh"
And you'd have to wait till your parents are sleeping lol only joking |
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It's the internet so I feel like a modicum of caution is normal.
A few fab friends have my phone number. Most contact is telegram. Anyone that meets me knows my first name
If I like someone enough to have sex with them I like them enough to invite them to my place.
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
I've been an Internet user for decades and have met some of my closest friends online - through gaming and social media mainly (friends not playmates).
So it's yes, yes and yes. But only under very strict circumstances. And never without having met them in person first. |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
My number is in the ladies toilet walls as I wrote it.
If your lucky.
If I like you.
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I think I'm medium cautious, I haven't gone to any socials which I guess would be the greatest risk to anonymity.
I'm happy to share my first name and if I meet you socially I'm likely to share nearly anything about my life in conversation. I'm not overly concerned with being publicly outed but the I'm single so not really risking much. I like women, I like socializing and I don't want ongoing commitment. Nothing too earth shattering in any of that that id be worried about. |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?
Phone number : sometimes, you can always block people, if you need to.
Real name - first name yes.
Home - sometimes, after an initial public meet and greet.
I don't want to have sex with anyone who I wouldn't want to know my name, if I get a bad vibe or an awkward vibe, then it's a no from the start.
Fab is not all that different to tinder. If someone gets abusive on text, voice message or pesters me, I block them. "
Same as this, lady of similar mindset! |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
Never put too much thought into this really!
I would always wait to see if the lady wants to swap numbers or chat elsewhere, I never push the subject. At least that way you can see how quickly they suggest it.
The name I’m not too pushed on really, usually people just go with “B” and that does me, I’m not a secret agent and have nothing to hide so I don’t see it as a big deal if they know my name.
The house visit is a tricky one, I have met people for a good few socials and maybe a play elsewhere before I would let people into my house, you can block someone on your phone but you can’t block them from your house once they know where it is 😳 |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
When l completely trust them
Yes
Yes
Yes
every other time is a No. |
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"How much to tell others on fab about yourself?
Do you give out your number?
Do you tell your real name?
Do you invite people to your home?"
I have done when I build a trust with them.
Yes good few people know my name.
I have had a select few in my home |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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"Trust is the big issue!!
Yes there is one fab person who knows everything about me.
Maybe I'm foolish that they know everything but then again I know them for years."
Apart from the handful of people I've met only 2 on here know everything about me. But I also know everything about them. Plus I think women meeting random men for coffee need to have some safety backups. I always tell them where,time and send my location pin to both and they do the same with me. |
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"Trust is the big issue!!
Yes there is one fab person who knows everything about me.
Maybe I'm foolish that they know everything but then again I know them for years.
Apart from the handful of people I've met only 2 on here know everything about me. But I also know everything about them. Plus I think women meeting random men for coffee need to have some safety backups. I always tell them where,time and send my location pin to both and they do the same with me. "
Absolutely a very smart thing to do! Why would anyone take the risk 🤷♂️ better to be safe than sorry 😘 |
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