Married with children here
Yet, I’m madly, madly in love with my ex
12 years broken up. Think about her a lot and it’s killing me. I don’t know what to do.
I love 2 people (and kids) as much as each other and so Torn, fuck my life
I hide it. I don’t let it effect things but deep inside I hurt, I feel guilt.
Maybe the time has come for help |
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No I don’t think so and I’m not sure
The thought of her with some one else makes me want to vomit.
Now if we were together Id only love to be swinging with her, I know that may not make sense but I hope it does |
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By *rRiosMan 8 weeks ago
dublin |
"No I don’t think so and I’m not sure
The thought of her with some one else makes me want to vomit.
Now if we were together Id only love to be swinging with her, I know that may not make sense but I hope it does "
And what about swinging with your wife? |
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It's a symptom lad of something else that is going on in your life but it's not the answer.
I quit liked that river quote further up the thread.
Take some time outfor yourself but remember; the mind edits an awful lot of our past experiences in order to protect us. |
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By *indenMan 8 weeks ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"I think it's likely you don't love your ex. You love the idea of unrealized potential and the memory of what YOU were like when you were younger.
She's just a symptom"
Yep…..👍 |
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By *BantsMan 8 weeks ago
Mayo for now |
"I think it's likely you don't love your ex. You love the idea of unrealized potential and the memory of what YOU were like when you were younger.
She's just a symptom"
OP, this is good advice.
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"I think it's likely you don't love your ex. You love the idea of unrealized potential and the memory of what YOU were like when you were younger.
She's just a symptom"
This 👏👏👏 most of us get caught up in the fantasy of having the same connection we had, but in reality, ye are two different people now, and the connection would be different. nothing like your memories unfortunately |
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"Married with children here
Yet, I’m madly, madly in love with my ex
12 years broken up. Think about her a lot and it’s killing me. I don’t know what to do.
I love 2 people (and kids) as much as each other and so Torn, fuck my life
I hide it. I don’t let it effect things but deep inside I hurt, I feel guilt.
Maybe the time has come for help "
It's quite possible to love two people, it's the acceptance of it and ability to live with it that can be the challenge.
What kind of help are you considering? It sounds like you are in a lot of emotional pain so maybe talking it out with a counsellor would help.
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By *panishRebelMan 8 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
Love is not a tap that you can turn off and on. It's always there, but maybe not grown by much since the time you left. Having love doesn't mean you should go back. It's ok to Love. But if you truly love you won't deliberately fuck up lives. Yours and theirs included. Don't confuse love with desire. Desire is just one element within love. As someone said above, you may just desire the idea, of what you had? And that's not live, no matter how strong the emotion of it. It's neither wrong nor right. What you do with it is what counts. Look to do what's honest and most beneficial for everyone. |
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That’s very true and hence why I’m going to seek counselling. To try talking it out
I won’t be hurting anyone. I’d rather hurt myself and continue the hiding of it. Like I said I don’t let it effect things
I always feel better when I talk it out, be here or if I seek help, which I think will help
Hearing people’s response here is great
I know I don’t sound like a great person so I appreciate peoples thoughts even more |
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You’re married, in love with your ex and according to your veri summary, have met someone here 5 months ago.
You need to decide what you actually want and get your shit together. Being on fab is probably not going to help that. |
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You were in a different space in life when with your ex, no kids, much less responsibilities.
If you were married with kids with her, your relationship would have changed to manage day to day life. You ld be sharing the daily drudge of parenting and school drops and lunches and your ex might not be quite as sexual as she was as a younger, more care free, girl.
You are yearning for the carefree days, they are gone.
Focus on your wife, you say you love her, you are lucky to have someone you love. Cherish her.
Realise, what you had with your ex, is not possible to recreate, due to life changing and maturing personalities.
Why did you break up with ex?
She may not be yearning for you, this "love" might be a pipe dream in your head. |
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Fantasise a lot about her. Maybe it is only the idea 