Just looking for some advise what does one do in a sexless relationship? Like IV tried it on with her make things romantic and still nothing must be going 3 or 4 months now and nothing anyone any ideas on what I could do?? I know same will sybye shouldn't be here but before judging i just keep in contact with people from here and dont meet up with anyone |
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By *rRiosMan 6 weeks ago
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"Just looking for some advise what does one do in a sexless relationship? Like IV tried it on with her make things romantic and still nothing must be going 3 or 4 months now and nothing anyone any ideas on what I could do?? I know same will sybye shouldn't be here but before judging i just keep in contact with people from here and dont meet up with anyone "
Sorry to hear, open and honest communication and discuss seeing a relationship counselor. Best of luck  |
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"Just looking for some advise what does one do in a sexless relationship? Like IV tried it on with her make things romantic and still nothing must be going 3 or 4 months now and nothing anyone any ideas on what I could do?? I know same will sybye shouldn't be here but before judging i just keep in contact with people from here and dont meet up with anyone "
What does she have to say about it? |
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Talking to a third party profession might help you both? I should have but didn't so I know that regret.
This way you can both express yourselves without it ending up as a shouting match or end up hurting each other because you have that 3rd person.
Yes, sex is a part of a relationship but its not the only part. So you are having a dry few months, some people have gone years.
Maybe there is something going on with her at work, family or even physically that have impacted her sex drive.
I didn't see you mention other factors I. her life so we don't have all the information.
End of the day really, what's more important to you? Being with her or sex?
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Appreciate the feed back lads IV tried to sit down and talk to her but she doesn't wanna listen or turns into a little argument on her end I only really ask cos or sex life was fantastic now it's just died a death so just had me thinking is it me |
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"Appreciate the feed back lads IV tried to sit down and talk to her but she doesn't wanna listen or turns into a little argument on her end I only really ask cos or sex life was fantastic now it's just died a death so just had me thinking is it me "
Only she knows the root cause. You need to find a way for you guys to communicate about this, and she needs to understand that this is a make or break issue. Good luck!
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Your timelines aren't aligning. You have verifications from 6 years ago but say you're relationship has been sexless for 3 or 4 months.
Not judging but you might want to clarify for the suspicious among us. |
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"Your timelines aren't aligning. You have verifications from 6 years ago but say you're relationship has been sexless for 3 or 4 months.
Not judging but you might want to clarify for the suspicious among us."
Yah cos 6 years ago was when I last met someone from here i normally just use here to keep in contact with friends ov made |
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"Appreciate the feed back lads IV tried to sit down and talk to her but she doesn't wanna listen or turns into a little argument on her end I only really ask cos or sex life was fantastic now it's just died a death so just had me thinking is it me "
If she's anywhere from 42 to 60 it's a possibility it's hormones. And she's possibility as confused as you, but depending on how you are approaching her she might be getting defensive.
If she had cancer would you blame her for loss of libido?
So why would a reduction in Estrogen be any more her fault if she's in perimenopause. Or post menopause. Those things also reduce libido (or sometimes enhances it. Luck of the draw). If you don't know what these things are educate yourself. |
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I'm gonna put myself out here a bit and confess to being the offending partner, I had no interest in sex for a few years before my marriage ended. I blamed tiredness, depression, him... all sorts of reasons, I didn't know I couldve blamed peri-menopause 🤔😂 or I would've said that too.
Anyway, I loved him but couldn't enjoy sex anymore, I'd say it was gone down to twice a year and I didn't care, I thought I was past it, like that part of me was dead and it didn't even matter.
Soon after we separated it was like a switch flipped and I, inexplicably, started feeling really sexy and interested again. It was completely confusing, but great as well as I hadn't felt sexy in a long time.
Mystifying 🤷
And just one woman's perspective.
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"I'm gonna put myself out here a bit and confess to being the offending partner, I had no interest in sex for a few years before my marriage ended. I blamed tiredness, depression, him... all sorts of reasons, I didn't know I couldve blamed peri-menopause 🤔😂 or I would've said that too.
Anyway, I loved him but couldn't enjoy sex anymore, I'd say it was gone down to twice a year and I didn't care, I thought I was past it, like that part of me was dead and it didn't even matter.
Soon after we separated it was like a switch flipped and I, inexplicably, started feeling really sexy and interested again. It was completely confusing, but great as well as I hadn't felt sexy in a long time.
Mystifying 🤷
And just one woman's perspective.
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We don't normally get a woman's perspective in these threads so thanks for posting. I wonder do you feel the lack of sex was part of the reason for the seperation, or was it a symptom of some other issue that was going on? |
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"I'm gonna put myself out here a bit and confess to being the offending partner, I had no interest in sex for a few years before my marriage ended. I blamed tiredness, depression, him... all sorts of reasons, I didn't know I couldve blamed peri-menopause 🤔😂 or I would've said that too.
Anyway, I loved him but couldn't enjoy sex anymore, I'd say it was gone down to twice a year and I didn't care, I thought I was past it, like that part of me was dead and it didn't even matter.
Soon after we separated it was like a switch flipped and I, inexplicably, started feeling really sexy and interested again. It was completely confusing, but great as well as I hadn't felt sexy in a long time.
Mystifying 🤷
And just one woman's perspective.
We don't normally get a woman's perspective in these threads so thanks for posting. I wonder do you feel the lack of sex was part of the reason for the seperation, or was it a symptom of some other issue that was going on?"
I'm feeling uncomfortable now as I hadn't thought about it too much before but yes it contributed I'm sure, despite mutual love and respect, my shutdown made him very frustrated and unhappy which led to general tension and unhappiness. He didn't cheat on me though. It was an amicable, no-fault separation. |
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