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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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Whilst physical attraction is important in terms of sexual arousal, surely intelligence, wit, humour and the ability to hold a conversation are equally vital. I generally dislike labels but I believe a person who is aroused sexually by intelligence is called a sapiosexual. People may feel you are being snobbish if they read you prefer IQ but it’s a real thing. Any thoughts?? |
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"I generally dislike labels but I believe a person who is aroused sexually by intelligence is called a sapiosexual."
I think that there are different kinds of intelligence and these all interplay with each other. Some people can be really witty and booksmart and funny but that doesn't make them necessarily sensually attractive even if they have high IQ. There are people who display great spatial and organisational/strategic intelligence and how they go about life and they are very practical and sexy as a rssult because they make great protectors/providers. Some people are very emotionally intelligent and they can also be possibly very attractive as a result - they make people comfortable and at ease and are easy to open up with...*shrugs* - there are lots of different intelligence at play, I think. Some people can balance all the above.
What I would say tho, is that ignorance is a big turn-off. No excuse for it any more in this age.It's a sign of laziness and lazy people will have more problems as a result. |
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"Surely everyone wants a partner who is smart? No one is like, what I really love about them is how they are dumb as bricks! "
My understanding of sapiosexuality is that intellectual stimulation is a prerequisite for arousal
Not everyone needs that. Though most surely appreciate it |
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"Surely everyone wants a partner who is smart? No one is like, what I really love about them is how they are dumb as bricks! "
Aaaahh but isn't perception of intelligence not a subjective thing? Like you could be dumb as bricks and you might think that someone slightly less dumb as bricks is 'intelligent'?
Or you could be so dumb as bricks that it's not even on your radar as an attractive trait?
Or you could be not so dumb as bricks but the dumb as bricks adonis you spot in the pub will do the job just fine?  |
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By *og2018Man 9 weeks ago
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I've dated some girls who were absolutely stunning, but honestly the conversation was very boring and they didn't understand the simplest of trivia, whereas the girls who people would consider "not as attractive" I kept going back to, I enjoyed my company with them so much more, why because the conversation was stimulating and even the humour was better too.
Point being, I'll take "average" looking with a bit of intelligence every day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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Emotional IQ is vital. Mrs here btw and we both agree. There are a lot of opportunists here who are quite able to text the emotionally correct things but face to face are something else. There are a lot of guys in particular who are just looking to fuck and not into what swinging should be including discretion x |
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It's only ever men I see actually describe themselves as "sapiosexual" and those men are invariably arrogant and condescending and seem to think of women who embrace their sexuality as inherently unintelligent.
There's also a whole class of people who have confused education for intelligence! |
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By *BantsMan 9 weeks ago
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I think peoples emotional intelligence can vary depending on situations.
You can't deny that physical attraction is a thing. Generally speaking you will see a person before learning if they have any substance behind them.
That being said. You can see someone, not be specifically attracted and when you get to know them feelings build. But physical attraction will build from that |
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