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I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself ! |
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"Well done for taking the power into your own hands "
I’ve sat on this information for 24 hours now and it’s eating me up so I had to do something . I wish ppl would realise the damage their lies can cause |
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By *nA101Couple 7 weeks ago
limerick |
Unfortunately we're seeing more of this everyday . Don't know what has been said about you or do I want to know but unfortunately people haveing there own agendas and just wanting to be general dickheads has become a major issue lately .. sorry you have to deal with it .. Tony |
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"Unfortunately we're seeing more of this everyday . Don't know what has been said about you or do I want to know but unfortunately people haveing there own agendas and just wanting to be general dickheads has become a major issue lately .. sorry you have to deal with it .. Tony "
Thanks tony.. I’ve seen it happen to other on here but never thought I’d be the subject of it one day . It’s upset me so much more than I thought something like this would |
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By *nA101Couple 7 weeks ago
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All you can do is clear it up from your end ... i have always said I won't believe anything about anyone on here unless I see it for myself..have been told to steer clear of this person and that person and now some of them are great friends .... public chats and forums are just too easy for the shit stirrers to leave there Mark behind.. keep your head up and you keep doing you . Fuck what anyone else has to say |
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By *enitMan 7 weeks ago
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself ! "
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By *enitMan 7 weeks ago
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself ! "
Fair fucks girl. |
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I've had this happen to me and I took similar action to yourself.
Your right to call it out.
It's not going to affect things with the people that you matter to.
Anyone jumping to conclusions and taking a side on half a story is simply identifying themselves as not worth any more of your time. |
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"I've had this happen to me and I took similar action to yourself.
Your right to call it out.
It's not going to affect things with the people that you matter to.
Anyone jumping to conclusions and taking a side on half a story is simply identifying themselves as not worth any more of your time."
You’re right x |
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By *nA101Couple 7 weeks ago
limerick |
"I've had this happen to me and I took similar action to yourself.
Your right to call it out.
It's not going to affect things with the people that you matter to.
Anyone jumping to conclusions and taking a side on half a story is simply identifying themselves as not worth any more of your time."
probably the best response in here |
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"I've had this happen to me and I took similar action to yourself.
Your right to call it out.
It's not going to affect things with the people that you matter to.
Anyone jumping to conclusions and taking a side on half a story is simply identifying themselves as not worth any more of your time. probably the best response in here "
Definitely.. I think so too |
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"If it was me that the lies were spread about i would have named them then they would either deny or shut up. Fair play to you for not taking crap. Keep fabbing "
you can't name people on here you will get banned
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So much of what people do, either in here, on other platforms or in real life, makes absolutely no sense to the rest of us sane, normal individuals.
I have had lies spread about me by an individual on two other platforms, which I now can no longer use. Thankfully I think both those platforms are dying and are essentially cesspools of scum feeding bottom dwellers. So, not being able to use the platforms doesn't bother me.
The fact, however, that somebody is spreading lies and there are people who believe those lies does still hurt. I completely feel your pain. And understand it. Some people are just total dickheads. |
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100%, I ve had people spread lies and lies and lies, have had them repeated back to me from soooo many people, even fabbers.
Eventually the truth comes out and the sh1tstirrers get identified.
Then they start backtracking, Yadda, Yadda. Once the sh1tstirrers get outed, they lose all credibility and fall quite dramatically from favour (from my experience). |
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"100%, I ve had people spread lies and lies and lies, have had them repeated back to me from soooo many people, even fabbers.
Eventually the truth comes out and the sh1tstirrers get identified.
Then they start backtracking, Yadda, Yadda. Once the sh1tstirrers get outed, they lose all credibility and fall quite dramatically from favour (from my experience). "
It annoys me that I’ve let it get to me |
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Let it go, no one believes it. You are sufficiently well known on fab, for people to know you don't interfere in anyone's private life (outside of Fab or on Fab).
We all know the usual sh1tstirring gang, and you are not one of them. |
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"Let it go, no one believes it. You are sufficiently well known on fab, for people to know you don't interfere in anyone's private life (outside of Fab or on Fab).
We all know the usual sh1tstirring gang, and you are not one of them. "
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People here always have and always will talk shit about others especially if they feel their competition in their eyes. Ride above them because mouths always get found out eventually for their shit |
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Although we have never met we have chatted for a long
Time and always found you to be very honest , pleasant and up front from the start , never heard or seen a bad or negative thing about you and if I did I wouldn't believe a word of it,as I'm sure the vast majority on here who know you wouldn't either.you are right to front up to the liars but don't let it eat you up girl. X
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"People here always have and always will talk shit about others especially if they feel their competition in their eyes. Ride above them because mouths always get found out eventually for their shit"
Thanks guys x |
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"Although we have never met we have chatted for a long
Time and always found you to be very honest , pleasant and up front from the start , never heard or seen a bad or negative thing about you and if I did I wouldn't believe a word of it,as I'm sure the vast majority on here who know you wouldn't either.you are right to front up to the liars but don't let it eat you up girl. X
Thanks B x
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"Fair fucks taking control of it. Try not to let it get you down. These people much have sad miserable lives and project their shite out at any target. "
I know I should rise above it but it’s so hard when your character is being questioned . But you’re right xx |
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I don't know anything about this particular story and I'm not in any chat groups so there is zero chance of this or other tales reaching me but I'm well aware from past experience how some like to manipulate and deceive.
It's all well and good saying ignore it but I've been dragged into other people's drama a few times and when I said I wasn't interested and walked away they decided to pass my personal details to their circle of fake friends.
Even though I've built up a decent account of credit on fab and in the forums over the years I've never once named anyone guilty of shitstirring when I've been asked in private because they and their type run with the hare and hunt with the hounds and too many people tend to ignore shitty behaviour from certain individuals. |
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"I don't know anything about this particular story and I'm not in any chat groups so there is zero chance of this or other tales reaching me but I'm well aware from past experience how some like to manipulate and deceive.
It's all well and good saying ignore it but I've been dragged into other people's drama a few times and when I said I wasn't interested and walked away they decided to pass my personal details to their circle of fake friends.
Even though I've built up a decent account of credit on fab and in the forums over the years I've never once named anyone guilty of shitstirring when I've been asked in private because they and their type run with the hare and hunt with the hounds and too many people tend to ignore shitty behaviour from certain individuals. "
I would never name any individual |
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By *nA101Couple 7 weeks ago
limerick |
I know I should rise above it but it’s so hard when your character is being questioned . But you’re right
It might be difficult to rise above it but the best response to those people is for them to realise there not affecting you or what you do . Keep your head up and keep doing you .. your doing your own thing for you and that's all that should really matter |
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"The most surprising thing is that someone would remove you from group chats without validating the situation first. You may be as well out of group chats involving that type of person.
Exactly !"
And by the way, if you're looking for a comfort shag..   |
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"100%, I ve had people spread lies and lies and lies, have had them repeated back to me from soooo many people, even fabbers.
Eventually the truth comes out and the sh1tstirrers get identified.
Then they start backtracking, Yadda, Yadda. Once the sh1tstirrers get outed, they lose all credibility and fall quite dramatically from favour (from my experience). "
So true in life generally!
Sorry to hear @_imerick lady
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Wouldn’t the world be a better place if you just woke up every day aiming to live your day with kindness, respect people and just generally be a good person! Just love life and leave the drama. You can still be a horny sod of course as I am! |
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"100%, I ve had people spread lies and lies and lies, have had them repeated back to me from soooo many people, even fabbers.
Eventually the truth comes out and the sh1tstirrers get identified.
Then they start backtracking, Yadda, Yadda. Once the sh1tstirrers get outed, they lose all credibility and fall quite dramatically from favour (from my experience).
So true in life generally!
Sorry to hear @_imerick lady
Thanks guys x
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"Wouldn’t the world be a better place if you just woke up every day aiming to live your day with kindness, respect people and just generally be a good person! Just love life and leave the drama. You can still be a horny sod of course as I am! "
100% x |
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself ! "
Unfortunately it’s not a new phenomenon where people are discussed outside of the site and their personal life and information shared. I’m very sure it’s very annoying and disheartening, however, take a breath and let it blow over. The people here who are important to you and they also, won’t allow this to get in between any friendship of yours. |
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Hey Limerick lady unfortunately i too have been on the receiving end of some malicious rumours just this afternoon and whoever this toxic person is i have absolutely no idea and honestly i don't care as the person clearly doesn't know me and has clearly set out to hurt and destroy me within this wonderful little community we call fab so all i can say is good luck to the haters as they clearly don't have much going on in there own private lifes and in fact i actually feel sorry for those kind of people that will just spread the absolute shit that comes out of there mouths so let's just rise above it and hold you're head up high.
Ps and apologies in advance for anyone that reads my fab profile update and incase of any confusion neither Limerick lady nor myself are talking about each other it's just that i wanted to add my own comment regarding
malicious rumours in general. |
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"Hey Limerick lady unfortunately i too have been on the receiving end of some malicious rumours just this afternoon and whoever this toxic person is i have absolutely no idea and honestly i don't care as the person clearly doesn't know me and has clearly set out to hurt and destroy me within this wonderful little community we call fab so all i can say is good luck to the haters as they clearly don't have much going on in there own private lifes and in fact i actually feel sorry for those kind of people that will just spread the absolute shit that comes out of there mouths so let's just rise above it and hold you're head up high.
Ps and apologies in advance for anyone that reads my fab profile update and incase of any confusion neither Limerick lady nor myself are talking about each other it's just that i wanted to add my own comment regarding
malicious rumours in general."
Your profile is hidden btw 🤣🤣 but thanks for kind words x |
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"Hey Limerick lady unfortunately i too have been on the receiving end of some malicious rumours just this afternoon and whoever this toxic person is i have absolutely no idea and honestly i don't care as the person clearly doesn't know me and has clearly set out to hurt and destroy me within this wonderful little community we call fab so all i can say is good luck to the haters as they clearly don't have much going on in there own private lifes and in fact i actually feel sorry for those kind of people that will just spread the absolute shit that comes out of there mouths so let's just rise above it and hold you're head up high.
Ps and apologies in advance for anyone that reads my fab profile update and incase of any confusion neither Limerick lady nor myself are talking about each other it's just that i wanted to add my own comment regarding
malicious rumours in general."
Oh no seriously you aswell.  hope you're ok too xx |
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"Hey Limerick lady unfortunately i too have been on the receiving end of some malicious rumours just this afternoon and whoever this toxic person is i have absolutely no idea and honestly i don't care as the person clearly doesn't know me and has clearly set out to hurt and destroy me within this wonderful little community we call fab so all i can say is good luck to the haters as they clearly don't have much going on in there own private lifes and in fact i actually feel sorry for those kind of people that will just spread the absolute shit that comes out of there mouths so let's just rise above it and hold you're head up high.
Ps and apologies in advance for anyone that reads my fab profile update and incase of any confusion neither Limerick lady nor myself are talking about each other it's just that i wanted to add my own comment regarding
malicious rumours in general.
Your profile is hidden btw 🤣🤣 but thanks for kind words x"
I know just hide my account earlier after hearing that someone is trying to destroy me lol but good luck to them! |
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Been there done that. The people who know you will.know what's true.
Unfortunately Some people just love the drama and don't like other people been thought well of on here.
Seems to be the good ones get burned by the drama and the ones causing the drama get to stay. |
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#metoo
One time there was a guy on the forums who kept saying that I was a fat woke lefty snowflake who never kept his opinion to himself. Unfortunately he was right so I couldn't really give out.
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The truth will always come out in the end & you'll have the last laugh,& ya know what if some have backed the liar in this then they're not people you'd want in your life anyway so your well rid of them, they'll come grovelling back when it's found out they backed the wrong side |
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This is someone you don't know on the internet stopping you from group chatting with other people you don't know on the internet, because another person you dont know on the internet told other people on the internet that you were taking about other people on the internet.
Just to add a little perspective. |
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"This is someone you don't know on the internet stopping you from group chatting with other people you don't know on the internet, because another person you dont know on the internet told other people on the internet that you were taking about other people on the internet.
Just to add a little perspective."
And all those people who we don't know on the Internet, are all in multiple similar chat groups on various apps, so if we are excluded from one chat group, it's all the same people on some other neighbouring chat group. Middle aged teenagers!! 
Seriously: storms in tea cups, to pass the time of day.
It's the new "Hello" magazine. |
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By *ustBoWoman 7 weeks ago
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Hi OP I don't know you or heard anything and neither would I want to but unfortunately a lot people on here and I suppose everywhere thrive on gossip and drama and spreading absolute bullshit about others due to their own private vendettas. And of course you will have a set of people who will believe it all and revel in it. I've said lots of time on here that I find it so pathetic and immature. They all usually hang about the same groups etc and love getting ifo and sharing it on others.
It's one of the main reasons I don't do groups anymore and haven't for a long time. I saw too much info being shared and when I said it,well so called pals decided to share mine with others too.  I've also had some of the admin of these said groups messaging others trying to get info on me when I did pull them on the crap that went on.
It's easy to say ignore it but when it is people who you thought you were able to trust it's not that easy. But you do have to move on and not let them beat you down because that is what they ultimately want. And really think of all the gossip mongers as just the gobshites that they are and that you have had a lucky escape knowing now who they are now so you can avoid them in future. |
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"Hi OP I don't know you or heard anything and neither would I want to but unfortunately a lot people on here and I suppose everywhere thrive on gossip and drama and spreading absolute bullshit about others due to their own private vendettas. And of course you will have a set of people who will believe it all and revel in it. I've said lots of time on here that I find it so pathetic and immature. They all usually hang about the same groups etc and love getting ifo and sharing it on others.
It's one of the main reasons I don't do groups anymore and haven't for a long time. I saw too much info being shared and when I said it,well so called pals decided to share mine with others too. I've also had some of the admin of these said groups messaging others trying to get info on me when I did pull them on the crap that went on.
It's easy to say ignore it but when it is people who you thought you were able to trust it's not that easy. But you do have to move on and not let them beat you down because that is what they ultimately want. And really think of all the gossip mongers as just the gobshites that they are and that you have had a lucky escape knowing now who they are now so you can avoid them in future. "
It has made me question statying in any group chats going forward xx |
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"This is someone you don't know on the internet stopping you from group chatting with other people you don't know on the internet, because another person you dont know on the internet told other people on the internet that you were taking about other people on the internet.
Just to add a little perspective.
So true
And all those people who we don't know on the Internet, are all in multiple similar chat groups on various apps, so if we are excluded from one chat group, it's all the same people on some other neighbouring chat group. Middle aged teenagers!!
Seriously: storms in tea cups, to pass the time of day.
It's the new "Hello" magazine. "
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"Been there done that. The people who know you will.know what's true.
Unfortunately Some people just love the drama and don't like other people been thought well of on here.
Seems to be the good ones get burned by the drama and the ones causing the drama get to stay."
It’s such a pity really x |
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By *rxmrsCouple 7 weeks ago
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself ! "
Let people think what they like when u know u done nothing wrong u shouldn't have to prove ur self to anyone xxxx |
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself !
Let people think what they like when u know u done nothing wrong u shouldn't have to prove ur self to anyone xxxx "
I know you’re right . It’s just hard to let it over your head when your character is being brought into question . But thank you xx |
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# Me too.
I am also "a survivor" of some scurrilous misinformation shared in group chats off here.
The people spreading these lies don't realise that those that know the true character of the person being maligned can easily screen grab or take a pic of the comment with a second fone if the screen grab function is disabled on the group chat.....I have been sent copies of such disparaging comments by friends who were also on the chats.
If you pop a copy back to the accuser in this way it soon shuts them up....in a public way at least.
I have been blocked on fab and excluded from some social groups by people who were told lies about me but when you are blocked or excluded in this way there is nothing you can do but move on and in the words of a famous playwright "fu*k the begrudgers"
It is in these types of situations that you learn who your friends are and to treasure them even more for being loyal and raising above the cess pit tactics of some of the more simple minded people on here.
Go raibh maith agat mo chairde dílis.
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself ! "
So did this person go and tell people that you had discussed his personal information with others? But never went to you directly and questioned it? Well that says a lot really! Cause I know of it was me and I thought/heard someone was discussing my personal information I would be straight to that person and not to others.
Hope you're ok xx |
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I'm not popular enough to be in any gossip groups, so I don't hear a thing. From your profile I can see that you are well known and liked, so I expect most people will see past the nonsense. Good Luck to you xxx |
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It happens
When people are jealous of you they will do anything to bring you down. I have had multiple attempts like that but who cares?
It’s a swing site so I tend to treat it like one and not let it get on my head. |
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"I'm not popular enough to be in any gossip groups, so I don't hear a thing. From your profile I can see that you are well known and liked, so I expect most people will see past the nonsense. Good Luck to you xxx"
Thank you x |
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself !
So did this person go and tell people that you had discussed his personal information with others? But never went to you directly and questioned it? Well that says a lot really! Cause I know of it was me and I thought/heard someone was discussing my personal information I would be straight to that person and not to others.
Hope you're ok xx"
Yep . That’s exactly what went down .. and then for admin of said group to remove me without asking me about it!! Thanks guys xx |
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself !
So did this person go and tell people that you had discussed his personal information with others? But never went to you directly and questioned it? Well that says a lot really! Cause I know of it was me and I thought/heard someone was discussing my personal information I would be straight to that person and not to others.
Hope you're ok xx
Yep . That’s exactly what went down .. and then for admin of said group to remove me without asking me about it!! Thanks guys xx"
Eugh! The mind boggles! Xx |
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"All you can do is clear it up from your end ... i have always said I won't believe anything about anyone on here unless I see it for myself..have been told to steer clear of this person and that person and now some of them are great friends .... public chats and forums are just too easy for the shit stirrers to leave there Mark behind.. keep your head up and you keep doing you . Fuck what anyone else has to say "
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Fair play for grabbing the bull by the horns and not just fading into the background. If someone spreads shit they should be called out on it. No idea who it was or what was said but glad to see you’re still on the only chat group we have in common |
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"Fair play for grabbing the bull by the horns and not just fading into the background. If someone spreads shit they should be called out on it. No idea who it was or what was said but glad to see you’re still on the only chat group we have in common "
Which was the only group chat admin who actually took the time to ask my side of the story before making up their mind . I’m very greatful for that person x |
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"#metoo
One time there was a guy on the forums who kept saying that I was a fat woke lefty snowflake who never kept his opinion to himself. Unfortunately he was right so I couldn't really give out.
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By *ogladyWoman 7 weeks ago
The bog |
This is the main reason I left groups there is too much bitching and backstabbing that's going on behind the scenes.. I've had this kinda stuff happen to me over the years and I'm at the stage now where what people think of me is there problem not mine...
Fair play for standing up. For your self cause if u don't they will tear u down.. Bravo girl.. 👏👏👏 |
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"This is the main reason I left groups there is too much bitching and backstabbing that's going on behind the scenes.. I've had this kinda stuff happen to me over the years and I'm at the stage now where what people think of me is there problem not mine...
Fair play for standing up. For your self cause if u don't they will tear u down.. Bravo girl.. 👏👏👏"
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I have been on and off Fab for 10 years or so. I joined back in the days when the Ireland chat room was hiving and the craic was mighty so never used the forums then.
I left for a few years and when I returned, the chat room had died a death and I tried to get into the forums. Not the easiest of tasks especially if you don't attend socials so I decided I would attend one. I got as far as joining the group chat for it and quickly learned that my face picture and some private details were being shared.
I immediately left the group and will never join one again nor attend a social.
I was told who the culprit probably was but decided to leave it plus leave Fab.
I am back but keeping way below the radar.
So loose tongues on here seem to be very common.
In my experience anyway.
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"I have been on and off Fab for 10 years or so. I joined back in the days when the Ireland chat room was hiving and the craic was mighty so never used the forums then.
I left for a few years and when I returned, the chat room had died a death and I tried to get into the forums. Not the easiest of tasks especially if you don't attend socials so I decided I would attend one. I got as far as joining the group chat for it and quickly learned that my face picture and some private details were being shared.
I immediately left the group and will never join one again nor attend a social.
I was told who the culprit probably was but decided to leave it plus leave Fab.
I am back but keeping way below the radar.
So loose tongues on here seem to be very common.
In my experience anyway.
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I've gone to a few socials over the years and at one of them, complete strangers walked up to me and said they recognised me from my pic in the group chat.
There were a few problems with that.
Firstly, at that point I hadn't been in any chat groups in more than 2 years.
Secondly, I wouldn't have shared a facepic even if I had been in the group.
Thirdly, I had asked the social organisers to add me to the group a week before the event and was told that they didn't have one but on the night quite a few people were talking about how great the chat had been.
I can only assume that someone else had set up a group, but regardless, there are only 3 people on fab that I've ever given a facepic to and only 2 of those know my name.
It's not really that difficult then to work out who passed the information along but because they are very active in the forums many people will turn a blind eye.
The fact that someone in that group was able to tell you who the culprit was says as much about them as it does about the person sharing your details and yet these people are allowed to join and rejoin chat groups and in many cases are running them.
Over the years I've commented in various threads on stories like the ops to say that I didn't know any of the details but I could sympathise and within minutes I've received private messages from certain individuals filing me in on everything going on in the background.
Strangely enough it always seems to be the same 2 or 3 people who know everyone else's business. |
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By *in_ToncMan 7 weeks ago
London/Dublin |
Unfortunately this is happening way to often on Fab now, Exactly why I have my pictures on friend only as twice, once in a group from here & a direct message from here I was asked did I know such & such and their ex wife is on such & such profile, was quite sad people feel the need to go through here spreading unnecessary personal information around to others on fab, Though I guess it’s part of this clique everyone talks ago with groups and people here, Which I’ve spent 10 years on it in the U.K. yes it’s a much bigger scene over there but much more friendly, open and welcoming then fab here which these cliques seem to be run by bitter sad insecure people in my opinion it’s shocking, Hence why I don’t get involved in Fab much in since I join here when I came back.. |
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By *panishRebelMan 7 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"Unfortunately this is happening way to often on Fab now, Exactly why I have my pictures on friend only as twice, once in a group from here & a direct message from here I was asked did I know such & such and their ex wife is on such & such profile, was quite sad people feel the need to go through here spreading unnecessary personal information around to others on fab, Though I guess it’s part of this clique everyone talks ago with groups and people here, Which I’ve spent 10 years on it in the U.K. yes it’s a much bigger scene over there but much more friendly, open and welcoming then fab here which these cliques seem to be run by bitter sad insecure people in my opinion it’s shocking, Hence why I don’t get involved in Fab much in since I join here when I came back.. "
Reading your comment and the others above, I see a similarity between general gossip down the pub and the fab experience of many here. It's a shame really, because of the insecurity it creates. I use the Irish fab forum regularly, even though I love in Spain. The reason is there is more craic more insights shared. Where I am being recognised is not likely, (not impossible), but it's a holiday hub, so I get to meet people over a day then they are gone home again. Although, after a year, I am now getting calls again as people return for the same holiday. This tends to be off fab once the connection is made.
I have no idea what chat or groups may or may not be saying.
However if I got the hump like the opp over gossip, I would like to think I could call em out. Most likely I would say nothing and block em off. How many others do the same?
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By *in_ToncMan 7 weeks ago
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It’s a big Bitch feist in Ireland tbh, And if you’re not in the clique forget about it, though to be in the clique you have to be surrounded by insecurity… I had a profile from the U.K. with a stunning 24 year old girl before Covid “ex partner” brought her to Ireland went to 2 meet & greets with her & the clique was unreal & the ladies wouldn’t exactly call them ladies they were so mean & rude to the girl out of jealousy it was unreal, the nicest ladies to her where 2 older ladies maybe late fifties & told her while in Ireland on Fab socials this is what to expect as the women in 30’s & 40’s seen her as a massive threat.. Though funny the men in those couples couldn’t keep their eyes off her though & were in no circumstances allowed come over near her, She was amazed and quite sad how they made her feel as a newbie as such which she did not experience in the U.K.
Though was funny we left early was followed out by a single guy & a guy part of one of the couples away from the rest and asked would we go to a separate little party in an apartment at 1am, Though the days after, we received a lot of messages on kik away from fab from most of these guys from the couples telling Ms how stunning & unbelievable she was and there Mrs weren’t happy as not being the centre of attention so it kinda tells you all you need about the Irish Fab scene, So sad where this doesn’t happen in any country I’ve visited the swinging scene in & again it goes down to the insecurities of Irish women tbh.. I’m Irish myself btw… lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Sad to see a person ,a lady in this case ,has to go down this road to defend herself.A person should not spread lies about anyone here or in the real world, but even in everyday life you get those that thrive on bad news & on others misfortunes, they need it , & if they can't have it , they fabricate it , those types of people are best avoided if possible. |
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"It’s a big Bitch feist in Ireland tbh, And if you’re not in the clique forget about it, though to be in the clique you have to be surrounded by insecurity… I had a profile from the U.K. with a stunning 24 year old girl before Covid “ex partner” brought her to Ireland went to 2 meet & greets with her & the clique was unreal & the ladies wouldn’t exactly call them ladies they were so mean & rude to the girl out of jealousy it was unreal, the nicest ladies to her where 2 older ladies maybe late fifties & told her while in Ireland on Fab socials this is what to expect as the women in 30’s & 40’s seen her as a massive threat.. Though funny the men in those couples couldn’t keep their eyes off her though & were in no circumstances allowed come over near her, She was amazed and quite sad how they made her feel as a newbie as such which she did not experience in the U.K.
Though was funny we left early was followed out by a single guy & a guy part of one of the couples away from the rest and asked would we go to a separate little party in an apartment at 1am, Though the days after, we received a lot of messages on kik away from fab from most of these guys from the couples telling Ms how stunning & unbelievable she was and there Mrs weren’t happy as not being the centre of attention so it kinda tells you all you need about the Irish Fab scene, So sad where this doesn’t happen in any country I’ve visited the swinging scene in & again it goes down to the insecurities of Irish women tbh.. I’m Irish myself btw… lol "
Well said buddy, I too am Irish (and proud of it) and I agree with everything you said! Well done! |
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"Yes, there can be nastiness at social nights alright. Saddos.
I’m done with social nights I think going forward . Il stick to my own socials 🤣🤣🤣"
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"Yes, there can be nastiness at social nights alright. Saddos.
I've never found this. I've been to loads and they have always seemed quite inclusive."
I've had mixed experiences. A few have been great and very inclusive while others have been anything but.
I have other issues with socials in regard to logistics but the bigger problem is often a total disregard for bad behaviour and an unwillingness to deal with repeat offenders. |
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By *ustBoWoman 7 weeks ago
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"Rumours are started by haters, carried by fools and believed by idiots.
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Oh this is so true alright. Happens so much on here and depending on who is spreading the rubbish it's tolerated and embellished by others. People should know better but then some just love the drama and being in "the know". |
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"It’s a big Bitch feist in Ireland tbh, And if you’re not in the clique forget about it, though to be in the clique you have to be surrounded by insecurity… I had a profile from the U.K. with a stunning 24 year old girl before Covid “ex partner” brought her to Ireland went to 2 meet & greets with her & the clique was unreal & the ladies wouldn’t exactly call them ladies they were so mean & rude to the girl out of jealousy it was unreal, the nicest ladies to her where 2 older ladies maybe late fifties & told her while in Ireland on Fab socials this is what to expect as the women in 30’s & 40’s seen her as a massive threat.. Though funny the men in those couples couldn’t keep their eyes off her though & were in no circumstances allowed come over near her, She was amazed and quite sad how they made her feel as a newbie as such which she did not experience in the U.K.
Though was funny we left early was followed out by a single guy & a guy part of one of the couples away from the rest and asked would we go to a separate little party in an apartment at 1am, Though the days after, we received a lot of messages on kik away from fab from most of these guys from the couples telling Ms how stunning & unbelievable she was and there Mrs weren’t happy as not being the centre of attention so it kinda tells you all you need about the Irish Fab scene, So sad where this doesn’t happen in any country I’ve visited the swinging scene in & again it goes down to the insecurities of Irish women tbh.. I’m Irish myself btw… lol "
100% truth 👍🏻 |
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I avoid all socials TBH, and I’m never with anyone who has 183 veris from socials either. Every time I join a Kik or Telegram group I’m gone within days because it’s the same heads talking and saying the same rubbish about everyone else. It’s just not for me. I avoid them
All like monkey poxs. |
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"I didn’t think it would come to this but I feel like I have to clear up some information that’s been spread about me . A person on here (who I will not name) has been telling porkies about me . Those who know me know it’s not true but to those who don’t , and have heard the rumours, this information is for ye . I HAVE NOT now or ever discussed anyones private information about anyone on here to their partner or ex partner . It’s a shame to say I feel the need to defend myself on here but the lies have been very damaging to me , to the point where I’ve been removed from group chats . I’m sure this post will get me banned from more group chat later but if I refuse to be made a liar of ! This person is aware that I’ve been made aware of what he says, so I’m giving him the opportunity to clean up this mess… or I’ll do it myself ! "
Sorry to hear, just ignore! I know not easy |
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By *in_ToncMan 7 weeks ago
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"Yes, there can be nastiness at social nights alright. Saddos.
I've never found this. I've been to loads and they have always seemed quite inclusive."
Yes we kinda mentioned an age group in the conversations too, As new younger ladies being seeing as competition from ladies in their 30’s/40’s which causes the bitchiness and insecurity’s to come out.. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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"I avoid all socials TBH, and I’m never with anyone who has 183 veris from socials either. Every time I join a Kik or Telegram group I’m gone within days because it’s the same heads talking and saying the same rubbish about everyone else. It’s just not for me. I avoid them
All like monkey poxs. "
When a person is new the attraction of getting to a social is so exciting but after a while they say " WTF " |
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"I avoid all socials TBH, and I’m never with anyone who has 183 veris from socials either. Every time I join a Kik or Telegram group I’m gone within days because it’s the same heads talking and saying the same rubbish about everyone else. It’s just not for me. I avoid them
All like monkey poxs.
When a person is new the attraction of getting to a social is so exciting but after a while they say " WTF " "
To be honest I went to my first social in June this year and I found the people at it absolutely lovely. |
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"I’ve been on the swinging scene for over 25 years now, and the amount of lies I’ve heard about myself throughout the years is insane. For some reason people get jealous and wanna hurt others. I feel the scene is so filled with back stabbing, jealous, narcissistic people, it actually should be avoided as it can cause so many mental health issues for people with low self esteem or anxiety. However it’s also so much fun and highly addictive. At my stage I avoid as many cliques as possible and dip in and out when I feel like it.
Can people just be fucking nice    "
As a relative newbie I am going to heed your wise words |
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