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By *ostantinos OP   Man 10 weeks ago

navan

How is possible some people looking for bareback?I understand the the pleasure is better but they have to be careful

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

This reflects what's going on in the country. Condom use has been decreasing in recent years.

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By *avid for comfortMan 10 weeks ago

belfast

Condom only

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By *eavy Metal ManMan 10 weeks ago

Louth

Porn would primarily be the reason i think.

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By *ostantinos OP   Man 10 weeks ago

navan

I don't know the reason but generally is very dangerous for few hours of pleasure destroy your life,I have denied to a lady because she ask me for bareback and when I see people do not take protection I avoid them

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By *arkjackMan 10 weeks ago

West Cork

Slightly complicated.

I've met a woman from another app who wanted a GUM clean bill of health so we could rawdog. That is a special circumstance of course as we're both doing a mildly PITA thing to have hotter sex later. And it was very hot, lots of creamy fun all morning and evening, she felt sensational on my cock and she could feel me cumming inside her. Tests before, after, totally clean.

As I see it, if people are lazy it's a horrible idea. As a responsibility it's not so different to the woman taking the pill except both of you need to get tested.

It makes sense to get a annual GUM test, same as going to the dentist, if you're sexually active. After all you can get a disease from getting a blowjob or going down on the woman and very few people use protection of any sort for those.

I understand the yick factor on bareback for some people though, because there are very irresponsible people. I was on Fab in the UK years ago and a man was infected with HIV *and* looking for bareback *and* several women felt sympathy for him *and* were fucking him. I saw this happening with other swingers, we were horrified, we felt like unleashing German Sheppards into the streets lol.

The headline focus on safety and stds leaves out the fact there exist regions of the world where 20-30% of the population has lethal infectious diseases. A piece of latex isn't going to help you if you have an ongoing relationship, it's more of a lottery than taking extreme risks in countries with low disease prevalence.

I'm going for a broad spectrum GUM test soon in Cork, and I think it should be everybody's civic duty to be honest. The issue is there are few incentives to do the right thing, I don't think Fab allows you to post your certs directly and governments avoid this sort of practical health measure.

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By *he KakapoMan 10 weeks ago

A nice rock

Because it feels so much better.

Because people will take risks for things that feel good.

I could go on and on.

The only safe sex is no sex and people will choose the level of risk they are comfortable with

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By *addyseeds.ieMan 10 weeks ago

Gorey, Enniscorthy

This is something that started since PrEP became available. No fear of getting HIV anymore (still PrEP doesn’t guarantee 100% coverage), then people that has been careful for years, always using condoms, saw the opportunity to finally have bb sex. Unfortunately other STD are not covered by PrEP and there is an increase on chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis etc.

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By *eavy Metal ManMan 10 weeks ago

Louth

I didn't wear one with my wife and I'm sure lots of couples are the same. I'm snipped so no worries with that side of it either but with a random causal hookup there would have to be a whole lot of trust built up and testing done to not use one.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Slightly complicated.

I've met a woman from another app who wanted a GUM clean bill of health so we could rawdog. That is a special circumstance of course as we're both doing a mildly PITA thing to have hotter sex later. And it was very hot, lots of creamy fun all morning and evening, she felt sensational on my cock and she could feel me cumming inside her. Tests before, after, totally clean.

As I see it, if people are lazy it's a horrible idea. As a responsibility it's not so different to the woman taking the pill except both of you need to get tested.

It makes sense to get a annual GUM test, same as going to the dentist, if you're sexually active. After all you can get a disease from getting a blowjob or going down on the woman and very few people use protection of any sort for those.

I understand the yick factor on bareback for some people though, because there are very irresponsible people. I was on Fab in the UK years ago and a man was infected with HIV *and* looking for bareback *and* several women felt sympathy for him *and* were fucking him. I saw this happening with other swingers, we were horrified, we felt like unleashing German Sheppards into the streets lol.

The headline focus on safety and stds leaves out the fact there exist regions of the world where 20-30% of the population has lethal infectious diseases. A piece of latex isn't going to help you if you have an ongoing relationship, it's more of a lottery than taking extreme risks in countries with low disease prevalence.

I'm going for a broad spectrum GUM test soon in Cork, and I think it should be everybody's civic duty to be honest. The issue is there are few incentives to do the right thing, I don't think Fab allows you to post your certs directly and governments avoid this sort of practical health measure."

You're doing more testing than most and that's to your credit, but I wouldn't agree with all that.

Posting certs and trusting fab to be the gatekeeper for bare sex would be a minefield. Who takes responsibility if disease does happen (which it would given time). What about people faking tests? What about the simple verbal or texted results which are common. Legal action would certainly follow after infection after following the fab cert process.

Your idea that "a piece of latex isn't going to help" getting infected abroad is untrue. Condoms massively help with disease control. Pre-prep even married couples were able to prevent hiv transmission between each other in many cases by using condoms.

Even with testing before and after bareback sex there can be a big lag between infection and positive testing. You or your partner could still be a disease / transmission risk even with negative results, if sex happens during the lag between infection and positive test results.

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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago

Just rubber up, its common sense, safer for all and really not that much different. Cop the fuck on and play safe, its about everyone you meet snd the subsequently meet not just your own enjoyment

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By *ewrideMan 10 weeks ago

KK

Condoms are better at preventing some infections than others.

Not every infection is life-changing.

It's up to people to choose the level of risk they're comfortable with.

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By *osepearlWoman 10 weeks ago

bray

Only save sex

Lots of guys asking for no condom, but answer is no. I am here to enjoy myself not to get more problems

Stay safe stay happy x

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By *xtrafun4meMan 10 weeks ago

Dublin

No glove no love simple as. Im here to enjoy myself not worry for weeks after. But testing is very important too even with safe sex. There is a saying the safest sex is no sex!!!

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By *unflowerWoman 10 weeks ago

Dublin


"Slightly complicated.

I've met a woman from another app who wanted a GUM clean bill of health so we could rawdog. That is a special circumstance of course as we're both doing a mildly PITA thing to have hotter sex later. And it was very hot, lots of creamy fun all morning and evening, she felt sensational on my cock and she could feel me cumming inside her. Tests before, after, totally clean.

As I see it, if people are lazy it's a horrible idea. As a responsibility it's not so different to the woman taking the pill except both of you need to get tested.

It makes sense to get a annual GUM test, same as going to the dentist, if you're sexually active. After all you can get a disease from getting a blowjob or going down on the woman and very few people use protection of any sort for those.

I understand the yick factor on bareback for some people though, because there are very irresponsible people. I was on Fab in the UK years ago and a man was infected with HIV *and* looking for bareback *and* several women felt sympathy for him *and* were fucking him. I saw this happening with other swingers, we were horrified, we felt like unleashing German Sheppards into the streets lol.

The headline focus on safety and stds leaves out the fact there exist regions of the world where 20-30% of the population has lethal infectious diseases. A piece of latex isn't going to help you if you have an ongoing relationship, it's more of a lottery than taking extreme risks in countries with low disease prevalence.

I'm going for a broad spectrum GUM test soon in Cork, and I think it should be everybody's civic duty to be honest. The issue is there are few incentives to do the right thing, I don't think Fab allows you to post your certs directly and governments avoid this sort of practical health measure."

1) Some STD will be on the tests only after 6 weeks. So you have to do at least 2 tests before.

2) You have to do 2 tests after.

3) It’s better to do tests every 3 months if you have more than one partner, cause you can be responsible only for your actions. People lie.

4) Pills don’t give 100% safety from pregnancy. Again you can’t be sure that lady was taking it regularly for a certain period of time.

5) Condoms give the highest protection from STI and pregnancy. 2in1

You can choose non latex condoms, they are thinner. Choose the right size for your girth and sleep peacefully.

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By *unflowerWoman 10 weeks ago

Dublin


"Condoms are better at preventing some infections than others.

Not every infection is life-changing.

It's up to people to choose the level of risk they're comfortable with."

So you like to play a russian roulette and see if that infection would be life changing?

Do you know that most STI affect women worse than men?

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By *apmCouple 10 weeks ago

navan

Seems to be a thing for younger guys maybe?

As a teenager in the 80s we were bombarded with AIDS info. Not much public advocacy for condom use now. A guy wouldn’t get near me without one.

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By *208numeWoman 10 weeks ago

Navan

I know it is not directly related to the topic but I suppose it relates to health risks and might be useful to someone new to the site. I Just want to say that SH24.ie offer a free home test STI service and it’s a good idea for everyone regardless of whether or not they use protection to avail of this great service.

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By *ewrideMan 10 weeks ago

KK


"Condoms are better at preventing some infections than others.

Not every infection is life-changing.

It's up to people to choose the level of risk they're comfortable with.

So you like to play a russian roulette and see if that infection would be life changing?

Do you know that most STI affect women worse than men? "

You're inferring things I didn't say. I didn't comment on my own practices.

Regarding life changing, there's a bit of a jump in seriousness from, say, HPV to HIV.

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By *rBandMrsGCouple 10 weeks ago

Kilkenny


"Condoms are better at preventing some infections than others.

Not every infection is life-changing.

It's up to people to choose the level of risk they're comfortable with.

So you like to play a russian roulette and see if that infection would be life changing?

Do you know that most STI affect women worse than men?

You're inferring things I didn't say. I didn't comment on my own practices.

Regarding life changing, there's a bit of a jump in seriousness from, say, HPV to HIV."

You know hpv can cause cancer in both men and women.

You appear to be suggesting that cancer isn't life changing

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I have a close friend who got throat cancer from hpv in her throat. She most likely got it from giving unprotected oral sex.

All sex carries risk. Some people are more risk averse than others. Some activities are riskier than others. We all make choices for ourselves. To make our choices we need good information.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Seems to be a thing for younger guys maybe?

As a teenager in the 80s we were bombarded with AIDS info. Not much public advocacy for condom use now. A guy wouldn’t get near me without one. "

This advert was hugely successful. There isn't a modern day equivalent really

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By *og-ManMan 10 weeks ago

somewhere


"Seems to be a thing for younger guys maybe?

As a teenager in the 80s we were bombarded with AIDS info. Not much public advocacy for condom use now. A guy wouldn’t get near me without one.

This advert was hugely successful. There isn't a modern day equivalent really "

Was that the iceberg one

Frightened the crap out of you in the 80's

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Seems to be a thing for younger guys maybe?

As a teenager in the 80s we were bombarded with AIDS info. Not much public advocacy for condom use now. A guy wouldn’t get near me without one.

This advert was hugely successful. There isn't a modern day equivalent really

Was that the iceberg one

Frightened the crap out of you in the 80's "

Yeah I remember being scared by it as a kid

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By *arthBeardyMan 10 weeks ago

Dublin


"I know it is not directly related to the topic but I suppose it relates to health risks and might be useful to someone new to the site. I Just want to say that SH24.ie offer a free home test STI service and it’s a good idea for everyone regardless of whether or not they use protection to avail of this great service."

Fantastic service honestly- test arrives in the mail and I had last result within 24 hours of sending back samples.

I don't know why anyone wouldn't regularly test with an option like this available

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By *iam756Man 10 weeks ago

Dublin/Kildare laois


"Slightly complicated.

I've met a woman from another app who wanted a GUM clean bill of health so we could rawdog. That is a special circumstance of course as we're both doing a mildly PITA thing to have hotter sex later. And it was very hot, lots of creamy fun all morning and evening, she felt sensational on my cock and she could feel me cumming inside her. Tests before, after, totally clean.

As I see it, if people are lazy it's a horrible idea. As a responsibility it's not so different to the woman taking the pill except both of you need to get tested.

It makes sense to get a annual GUM test, same as going to the dentist, if you're sexually active. After all you can get a disease from getting a blowjob or going down on the woman and very few people use protection of any sort for those.

I understand the yick factor on bareback for some people though, because there are very irresponsible people. I was on Fab in the UK years ago and a man was infected with HIV *and* looking for bareback *and* several women felt sympathy for him *and* were fucking him. I saw this happening with other swingers, we were horrified, we felt like unleashing German Sheppards into the streets lol.

The headline focus on safety and stds leaves out the fact there exist regions of the world where 20-30% of the population has lethal infectious diseases. A piece of latex isn't going to help you if you have an ongoing relationship, it's more of a lottery than taking extreme risks in countries with low disease prevalence.

I'm going for a broad spectrum GUM test soon in Cork, and I think it should be everybody's civic duty to be honest. The issue is there are few incentives to do the right thing, I don't think Fab allows you to post your certs directly and governments avoid this sort of practical health measure."

() so true

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By *arkjackMan 10 weeks ago

West Cork


"

You're doing more testing than most and that's to your credit, but I wouldn't agree with all that.

Posting certs and trusting fab to be the gatekeeper for bare sex would be a minefield. Who takes responsibility if disease does happen (which it would given time). What about people faking tests? What about the simple verbal or texted results which are common. Legal action would certainly follow after infection after following the fab cert process.

Your idea that "a piece of latex isn't going to help" getting infected abroad is untrue. Condoms massively help with disease control. Pre-prep even married couples were able to prevent hiv transmission between each other in many cases by using condoms.

Even with testing before and after bareback sex there can be a big lag between infection and positive testing. You or your partner could still be a disease / transmission risk even with negative results, if sex happens during the lag between infection and positive test results.

"

Re: gatekeeper problem, agree that is a real issue.

I can only say: it should still be a solved problem because it's a technical coordination problem at heart. The organisation that ensures my dog has a license, is microchipped etc, the human signs a digital statement, it all works smoothly. In principal all you're doing is verifying the person who turns up to an approved testing centre is the same person who hold a website account. That's mostly about a digital certificate of the sort Revenue uses.

As it is, I don't think medical GP notes are sorted out so yes there is a general competency problem letting us down.

Re: the "piece of latex" comment, I wasn't being flip, but I do stand behind it. My comment wasn't crystal clear though, and it is mildly counter intuitive.

In a nutshell: you are safer rawdogging in Ireland than using a condom in South Equatorial Africa.

Obviously you should in general use condoms in every geography but the statement stands.

My back of the envelope calculation reason is below.

STDs are two orders of magnitude more common in the region relative to Ireland. If you look at HIV Ireland they'll say that a condom has a 90% success rate against contracting the disease per intercourse. 0.2% of the 2018 Irish population had HIV. For the same year it'll be 25% in SEA. So if you have sex with random 4 people in a SEA country, even wearing a condom, and nobody uses the antiviral, then you have a 10% risk of contracting HIV from one of those people on average. Sex with 4x people with condoms sans antivirals is a 2.5% risk.

Then if you had bareback sex with 10 random people in Ireland in 2018, your risk is still 2%.

So that is shocking but the math is there if you want to pick it apart.

In real life of course disease spread is not random, which is why our first priority in my opinion ought to be selection criteria, then physical barrier, then an antiviral and frequent GUM testing is the cherry on top ideal. I want to point out that sex improves health enormously, so good sex is healthier for you, sometimes that is left out of the conversation.

Re: your last comment on time lag and false negatives/positives, I agree entirely. The medical testing part is far more thorny than the computer certificate topic, and as you said already perfection of prevention isn't plausible not least because we don't seem to have a good solution to oral sex and STDs, for culture or technical reasons. I want to say if we actually had a general NCT for sexual health as part of a prophylactic scheme similar to Japan's Ningen Dock for overall body health it'd go pretty far to help though.

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By *arkjackMan 10 weeks ago

West Cork


"

1) Some STD will be on the tests only after 6 weeks. So you have to do at least 2 tests before.

2) You have to do 2 tests after.

3) It’s better to do tests every 3 months if you have more than one partner, cause you can be responsible only for your actions. People lie.

4) Pills don’t give 100% safety from pregnancy. Again you can’t be sure that lady was taking it regularly for a certain period of time.

5) Condoms give the highest protection from STI and pregnancy. 2in1

You can choose non latex condoms, they are thinner. Choose the right size for your girth and sleep peacefully. "

Thanks for those, there is a tendency to look at testing as a magic pill type solution but condoms should typically be chosen before testing.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"

You're doing more testing than most and that's to your credit, but I wouldn't agree with all that.

Posting certs and trusting fab to be the gatekeeper for bare sex would be a minefield. Who takes responsibility if disease does happen (which it would given time). What about people faking tests? What about the simple verbal or texted results which are common. Legal action would certainly follow after infection after following the fab cert process.

Your idea that "a piece of latex isn't going to help" getting infected abroad is untrue. Condoms massively help with disease control. Pre-prep even married couples were able to prevent hiv transmission between each other in many cases by using condoms.

Even with testing before and after bareback sex there can be a big lag between infection and positive testing. You or your partner could still be a disease / transmission risk even with negative results, if sex happens during the lag between infection and positive test results.

Re: gatekeeper problem, agree that is a real issue.

I can only say: it should still be a solved problem because it's a technical coordination problem at heart. The organisation that ensures my dog has a license, is microchipped etc, the human signs a digital statement, it all works smoothly. In principal all you're doing is verifying the person who turns up to an approved testing centre is the same person who hold a website account. That's mostly about a digital certificate of the sort Revenue uses.

As it is, I don't think medical GP notes are sorted out so yes there is a general competency problem letting us down.

Re: the "piece of latex" comment, I wasn't being flip, but I do stand behind it. My comment wasn't crystal clear though, and it is mildly counter intuitive.

In a nutshell: you are safer rawdogging in Ireland than using a condom in South Equatorial Africa.

Obviously you should in general use condoms in every geography but the statement stands.

My back of the envelope calculation reason is below.

STDs are two orders of magnitude more common in the region relative to Ireland. If you look at HIV Ireland they'll say that a condom has a 90% success rate against contracting the disease per intercourse. 0.2% of the 2018 Irish population had HIV. For the same year it'll be 25% in SEA. So if you have sex with random 4 people in a SEA country, even wearing a condom, and nobody uses the antiviral, then you have a 10% risk of contracting HIV from one of those people on average. Sex with 4x people with condoms sans antivirals is a 2.5% risk.

Then if you had bareback sex with 10 random people in Ireland in 2018, your risk is still 2%.

So that is shocking but the math is there if you want to pick it apart.

In real life of course disease spread is not random, which is why our first priority in my opinion ought to be selection criteria, then physical barrier, then an antiviral and frequent GUM testing is the cherry on top ideal. I want to point out that sex improves health enormously, so good sex is healthier for you, sometimes that is left out of the conversation.

Re: your last comment on time lag and false negatives/positives, I agree entirely. The medical testing part is far more thorny than the computer certificate topic, and as you said already perfection of prevention isn't plausible not least because we don't seem to have a good solution to oral sex and STDs, for culture or technical reasons. I want to say if we actually had a general NCT for sexual health as part of a prophylactic scheme similar to Japan's Ningen Dock for overall body health it'd go pretty far to help though.

"

Your figures are miles wrong with regards hiv transmission rates.

https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/risk/estimates/riskbehaviors.html

Look at the risk of transmission per 10,000 exposure events here.

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By *electableicecreamMan 10 weeks ago

The West

All the info about everyone needs about HIV transmission in Ireland.

The demographics for the highest rates of transmission are listed

https://www.hpsc.ie/news/newsarchive/2023newsarchive/title-23563-en.html

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By *electableicecreamMan 10 weeks ago

The West

Comparing transmission rates in Ireland to Sub Saharan Africa isn't really apple's to apples. Education and access to contraception and condoms are more accessible outside of the third world.

In the context of fab the pool is much smaller and intermingling common so the risk of fast traveling outbreaks are higher

Consider an STI outbreak a private club sex party. I attended such a party and didn't play as it was my first visit. A decent few people at that party came away with an sti and I got a phone call to let me know to get tested.

Safe sex isn't just about prophylactics. It's about risk assessment.

You can't really go wrong with condom's and avoiding oral and everyone will make a compromise or not according to their trust model.

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By *arkjackMan 10 weeks ago

West Cork


"

Your figures are miles wrong with regards hiv transmission rates.

https://www.cdc.gov/hiv/risk/estimates/riskbehaviors.html

Look at the risk of transmission per 10,000 exposure events here."

TiL, so thank you.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Comparing transmission rates in Ireland to Sub Saharan Africa isn't really apple's to apples. Education and access to contraception and condoms are more accessible outside of the third world.

In the context of fab the pool is much smaller and intermingling common so the risk of fast traveling outbreaks are higher

Consider an STI outbreak a private club sex party. I attended such a party and didn't play as it was my first visit. A decent few people at that party came away with an sti and I got a phone call to let me know to get tested.

Safe sex isn't just about prophylactics. It's about risk assessment.

You can't really go wrong with condom's and avoiding oral and everyone will make a compromise or not according to their trust model."

Plus one on being careful. It's also important to know the facts too.

A male fabber with non-treated full blown HIV at a sex party who has unprotected vaginal sex with a woman has approx 4 in 10,000 chance of passing the disease to her and every other woman he has vaginal sex with. If he has unprotected vaginal sex with 3 women at that party then there is a 12 in 10,000 chance that someone there got infected that night.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

(Sorry I made a mistake. Those are the stats for women. Actually it's 8 in 10,000 chances for a woman to catch from a man, not 4 in 10,000)

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By *arkjackMan 10 weeks ago

West Cork


"Comparing transmission rates in Ireland to Sub Saharan Africa isn't really apple's to apples. Education and access to contraception and condoms are more accessible outside of the third world.

In the context of fab the pool is much smaller and intermingling common so the risk of fast traveling outbreaks are higher

Consider an STI outbreak a private club sex party. I attended such a party and didn't play as it was my first visit. A decent few people at that party came away with an sti and I got a phone call to let me know to get tested.

Safe sex isn't just about prophylactics. It's about risk assessment.

You can't really go wrong with condom's and avoiding oral and everyone will make a compromise or not according to their trust model."

Bit of a different subject, but sometimes left out of these discussions is that a whomping chunk of the population isn't having sex at all and the stats for the young people are... worrying honestly.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

It's true that young people are having less sex, but when they do they are also using less protection

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By *unflowerWoman 10 weeks ago

Dublin

Can you only imagine how many people are undiagnosed?

You are comparing people medical system and dog 😳 you can control your dog, but you can’t control another person. Today your partner showed you clean tests results tomorrow they will have a bare gang bang. And will tell you they go bareback only with you.

Yes, people have to do medical check up regularly. But yes, condoms and always condoms.

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple 10 weeks ago

kinda dublin

People smoke, drink, take substances they bought off a stranger in an alley, break the speed limit, don't wear sunscreen, cycle without a helmet, lose sleep staying up late at night commenting on inane Internet threads.

People go bareback for the same reason anyone does anyone do any of the stupid shit that we do. Because it's easier and more fun to live in the moment and get that instant dopamine hit than to act responsible and deny it.

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By *dfabMan 10 weeks ago

Dunboyne

I think we all need to stop interacting with each other, make condom wearing and dental dams mandatory for anyone in a space where another human is.

Then we'll all be safe.

Oh and don't forget your Covid mask and gloves just to be sure.

Or just all start wearing lab suits and we'll be grand.

Bored witless but contaminate free

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By *unlovingcouplehereCouple 10 weeks ago

Dublin

Having been asked recently by someone who knows us both to play bare with them (knowing we only play bare with each other). I’m angry and hurt at the lack of respect for us as a couple and their opinion it’s ok cos everything we do in the lifestyle is dangerous.

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By *izzKathrynWoman 10 weeks ago

Drogheda


"How is possible some people looking for bareback?I understand the the pleasure is better but they have to be careful "

Guys who get the snip are insistent on no condom, I meet a guy here who has a vesectomy and agree with his point, it only protects against the STI that is children I'm always Safe Sex and still do SH:24

If I see bareback pics I avoid....

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By *immy4UMan 10 weeks ago

The Moon


"Slightly complicated.

I've met a woman from another app who wanted a GUM clean bill of health so we could rawdog. That is a special circumstance of course as we're both doing a mildly PITA thing to have hotter sex later. And it was very hot, lots of creamy fun all morning and evening, she felt sensational on my cock and she could feel me cumming inside her. Tests before, after, totally clean.

As I see it, if people are lazy it's a horrible idea. As a responsibility it's not so different to the woman taking the pill except both of you need to get tested.

It makes sense to get a annual GUM test, same as going to the dentist, if you're sexually active. After all you can get a disease from getting a blowjob or going down on the woman and very few people use protection of any sort for those.

I understand the yick factor on bareback for some people though, because there are very irresponsible people. I was on Fab in the UK years ago and a man was infected with HIV *and* looking for bareback *and* several women felt sympathy for him *and* were fucking him. I saw this happening with other swingers, we were horrified, we felt like unleashing German Sheppards into the streets lol.

The headline focus on safety and stds leaves out the fact there exist regions of the world where 20-30% of the population has lethal infectious diseases. A piece of latex isn't going to help you if you have an ongoing relationship, it's more of a lottery than taking extreme risks in countries with low disease prevalence.

I'm going for a broad spectrum GUM test soon in Cork, and I think it should be everybody's civic duty to be honest. The issue is there are few incentives to do the right thing, I don't think Fab allows you to post your certs directly and governments avoid this sort of practical health measure."

Thank you for this information, regularly test SH24 even when not sexually active and if the choice to go ✌🏾bareback✌🏾 (I don't know why this terminology disturbs me 😳😅) consensually by both, and out patient visit together I have found best! ☺️

The GUM test is a new to me and something I'll be looking into 100%, often wondered about this and nothing more until seeing your post now. 🧐 Appreciate this info 🫡

Stay, and Play Safe 😉😊

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By *immy4UMan 10 weeks ago

The Moon


"How is possible some people looking for bareback?I understand the the pleasure is better but they have to be careful

Guys who get the snip are insistent on no condom, I meet a guy here who has a vesectomy and agree with his point, it only protects against the STI that is children I'm always Safe Sex and still do SH:24

If I see bareback pics I avoid...."

Heard quite a funny thing that had me in stitches about STDs/STIs and children 😅

Bare with me now 🫣😂 (I can hear the gasps of people reading this and saying wtf is he on about 😂😂)

Personally, today I have 2 x STIs (Sexually Transmitted Indepentants) and 1 x STD (Sexually Transmitted Dependant) 👀 😅 🫣

I have 2 x adult children (Indepentant, can tale care of themselves the feckers 😂) and 1 x 15 year old (dependant, requires being helped out in life still 🤣)

Hope no one takes this in bad taste, serious issue that sexual health is 🧐

Thought I would inject a little humour into this morning 😁

Goes down a treat at dinner parties 👆🏼🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *ilthyNightsCouple 10 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I've got no issue with you talking about your kids that way. I get it

I DO have an issue with the fucking emoji explosion all over your post jesus my eyes are bleeding!

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By *electableicecreamMan 10 weeks ago

The West

Those Emojis feel like an STI tbh

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By *immy4UMan 10 weeks ago

The Moon


"I've got no issue with you talking about your kids that way. I get it

I DO have an issue with the fucking emoji explosion all over your post jesus my eyes are bleeding!"

Appreciate your feedback 🧐 may I offer you some first aid assistance with your bleeding? 🏥 A tissue maybe? 👀

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