Hi. Have a fantasy to see my wife with another man. We've talking about it loads but she is very shy and paranoid as im am the only man she has been with.any advice from people in the same situation would be greatly appreciated |
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"Leave the poor woman alone. If she wanted to fuck someone else she'd either have already done it, or have mentioned it to you. Just mho"
I disagree, especially if she has already shown interest.
It can take a long time to go from the interest stage to coming around to the idea of making the fantasy a reality (and I am speaking from experience). Many women fantasise but very few make it a reality. The stigma can be very offputting for women who grew up in Holy Catholic Ireland.
Baby steps, don't push it. Keep talking (especially as pillow talk) and maybe eventually she will agree to setting up a couples profile here. You haven't a hope of organising a successful MFM or hotwife experience from a single male profile. Maybe you can then attend a social together to meet people for a chat, not necessarily to follow through with the fantasy.
In time she may start to feel comfortable about the idea, especially when she chats to other very normal, friendly couples doing exactly that.
The importantly thing is not to rush things and take it at her pace.
Also, beware that your relationship must be rock solid to cope with the pressures that swinging can often pose to couples. What if she decides down the road that she wants to meet guys on her own, how would you feel about being left out?
Best of luck!
Mrs  |
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Maybe start a couple profile together on here that she can have interaction with.
Respectfully, a single man profile stating about this fantasy, with no input from the partner, looks questionable.
Just my two pennies worth. |
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"Leave the poor woman alone. If she wanted to fuck someone else she'd either have already done it, or have mentioned it to you. Just mho
I disagree, especially if she has already shown interest.
It can take a long time to go from the interest stage to coming around to the idea of making the fantasy a reality (and I am speaking from experience). Many women fantasise but very few make it a reality. The stigma can be very offputting for women who grew up in Holy Catholic Ireland.
Baby steps, don't push it. Keep talking (especially as pillow talk) and maybe eventually she will agree to setting up a couples profile here. You haven't a hope of organising a successful MFM or hotwife experience from a single male profile. Maybe you can then attend a social together to meet people for a chat, not necessarily to follow through with the fantasy.
In time she may start to feel comfortable about the idea, especially when she chats to other very normal, friendly couples doing exactly that.
The importantly thing is not to rush things and take it at her pace.
Also, beware that your relationship must be rock solid to cope with the pressures that swinging can often pose to couples. What if she decides down the road that she wants to meet guys on her own, how would you feel about being left out?
Best of luck!
Mrs "
We agree |
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I disagree, especially if she has already shown interest.
It can take a long time to go from the interest stage to coming around to the idea of making the fantasy a reality (and I am speaking from experience). Many women fantasise but very few make it a reality. The stigma can be very offputting for women who grew up in Holy Catholic Ireland.
Baby steps, don't push it. Keep talking (especially as pillow talk) and maybe eventually she will agree to setting up a couples profile here. You haven't a hope of organising a successful MFM or hotwife experience from a single male profile. Maybe you can then attend a social together to meet people for a chat, not necessarily to follow through with the fantasy.
In time she may start to feel comfortable about the idea, especially when she chats to other very normal, friendly couples doing exactly that.
The importantly thing is not to rush things and take it at her pace.
Also, beware that your relationship must be rock solid to cope with the pressures that swinging can often pose to couples. What if she decides down the road that she wants to meet guys on her own, how would you feel about being left out?
Best of luck!
Mrs "
This ^^^ |
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"Hi. Have a fantasy to see my wife with another man. We've talking about it loads but she is very shy and paranoid as im am the only man she has been with.any advice from people in the same situation would be greatly appreciated "
It's your fantasy talking is one thing reality very different. If you keep pushing her into a situation just to please yourself it could all backfire on you. She may resent you for it . |
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My wife and I were the very same, it takes time, we started off with a couples massage on holidays, found it very kinky, then moved on to just a male massage for my wife, while I watched, I joined in at the start, 4 hands, then I took a back seat and enjoyed, we have moved on at a slow pace, but yes take it slow, get intouch if you need to talk, _avechrissy here, enjoy xxx. |
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By *aughty MilfCouple 11 weeks ago
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"Maybe start a couple profile together on here that she can have interaction with.
Respectfully, a single man profile stating about this fantasy, with no input from the partner, looks questionable.
Just my two pennies worth."
Agreed |
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hi op. very common fantasy. arrange someone from here to 'chat her up' when you are out some night . treat it as a social. there will be plenty of volunteers here. best of luck and take it slow like other posters have suggested |
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"Hi. Have a fantasy to see my wife with another man. We've talking about it loads but she is very shy and paranoid as im am the only man she has been with.any advice from people in the same situation would be greatly appreciated "
I would not push the subject! Let it be… |
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"Hi. Have a fantasy to see my wife with another man. We've talking about it loads but she is very shy and paranoid as im am the only man she has been with.any advice from people in the same situation would be greatly appreciated
It's your fantasy talking is one thing reality very different. If you keep pushing her into a situation just to please yourself it could all backfire on you. She may resent you for it ."
I agree what you saying right there |
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"Hi. Have a fantasy to see my wife with another man. We've talking about it loads but she is very shy and paranoid as im am the only man she has been with.any advice from people in the same situation would be greatly appreciated "
It may just be your fantasy, and not necessarily hers. And makes her feel uncomfortable. |
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100% agree with many of the couples posting on here. I (f) was incredibly reluctant and to try swinging or any form of non-monogamy. Hubby had wanted to swing / have other join for years and suggested or asked but I initially viewed it as him not loving me or anything anting more. When we discussed it properly and I understood I realised it was out of love and desire for me but that took a long time.
After time and when I saw it for what it was I became the dominant player and wanted it just as much as him.
It takes time, very open communication and a very very strong relationship.
You also need to be ok with her not being ok. If you’re not ok with that then you need to ask if this relationship is for you, not a nice thought but one you need to consider.
Best of luck with it. |
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"hi op. very common fantasy. arrange someone from here to 'chat her up' when you are out some night . treat it as a social. there will be plenty of volunteers here. best of luck and take it slow like other posters have suggested"
Do NOT do this unless your wife consents to it. You would be completely removing any say she has. Can you imagine how she and the other man would feel if it were to backfire? It's the exact opposite of taking things slowly and putting her in a situation where she may well feel pressured and backed into a corner |
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Just something that's come to mind, go easy on the booze, try and talk about you fantasy openly, just say she said to you about her fantasy, was to watch you with another male, honestly what would you say, you giving him a blow job, and him burying his sausage in you, interesting don't you think, _avechrissy here.include your wife in your profile, you look like your single guy, something to think about. |
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She knows im bi and knows id like another man fucking me. She does it to me. We have a couple profile already but shes very shy about engaging on it with people. I set this one up to look for advice to help her because she doesnt be on for chatting much yet |
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