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Can someone look bette in person than in picture? Reason being is if i met anyone at a social or that they’d say i look better than in pictures? But when mailing anyone it goes great till asked for face pic then its like straight noway. Just wondering on yer opinions |
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I think there are definitely pictures that don't accurately show someone. That means both pics that look better than reality, and those that look worse. It's depends on the photo rather than the person |
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"Can someone look bette in person than in picture? Reason being is if i met anyone at a social or that they’d say i look better than in pictures? But when mailing anyone it goes great till asked for face pic then its like straight noway. Just wondering on yer opinions "
Yes and no.
I've met people that look nothing like their pics, or the pics are a few years older.
I'm honest from the start about my size, don't use filters abd a face pic is currently how I look |
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By *s LollyWoman 12 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Filter's and makeup are magical for some people on here, generally people just see the body before the face, some people are crap at selfies me included, ive been sent facepics that ive not at that time been attracted to yet in person they look better, its all about the angle and good lighting taken good pictures..... |
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I've definitely been very attracted to several people in person that I wouldn't have been interested in based on a face pic. Some people have a charisma that hooks me. It's nothing I can predict. So I don't ask for face pics. I have to meet someone to truly know... |
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It has went the other way for me before, when I received a face picture I was not attracted to them but I met the person later at an event and it was completely different. It was the way she walked with confidence and a cheeky look made all the difference. |
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"I've definitely been very attracted to several people in person that I wouldn't have been interested in based on a face pic. Some people have a charisma that hooks me. It's nothing I can predict. So I don't ask for face pics. I have to meet someone to truly know..."
Agreed 
Face pics miss so much. We'd prefer not to see them. |
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"I've definitely been very attracted to several people in person that I wouldn't have been interested in based on a face pic. Some people have a charisma that hooks me. It's nothing I can predict. So I don't ask for face pics. I have to meet someone to truly know...
Agreed
Face pics miss so much. We'd prefer not to see them."
Sometimes they add too much. Bad light and bad angles and bad cameras.
And some people just don't like taking selfies. I know I grimace.
So I'm the same. Prefer to meet without face pics. I'll send if asked but I don't usually ask. |
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By *og-ManMan 12 weeks ago
somewhere |
I find that if I'm taking a selfie its better with the lights out
I enjoy the fact that I haven't got a clue what most people look like until I meet them face to face
My mind allocates them a look and then if I finally meet them my mind replaces the image I had of them with what they actually look like
Prefer no face pics in advance |
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"I find that if I'm taking a selfie its better with the lights out
I enjoy the fact that I haven't got a clue what most people look like until I meet them face to face
My mind allocates them a look and then if I finally meet them my mind replaces the image I had of them with what they actually look like
Prefer no face pics in advance "
This 👆👆👆
It's fun to anticipate the social, having no clue what they look like. It adds to the excitement
We'd only meet if we clicked with the messaging so we know we'll at least have a decent chat and the social won't have been for nothing if there's no attraction. |
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By *ACOLCouple 12 weeks ago
limerick |
"I don't take/send selfies... prefer to disappoint people in person, baby! 😎"
I send pics with no make up and just not much effort. So the disappointment isn't too bad when they meet us 😅
Our personalities are better 🥰 or so we heard.😇
Lina. |
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By *aseylee324Couple 12 weeks ago
Valley of Squinting Windows |
I've never encountered anyone who looked better than their pics, most people with any level of intelligence can figure out good angles!
It's personality that makes someone attractive or not, you can't see that in a pic. |
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You should always have at least one photo without a filter just in case you get lost and people are looking for some super model instead Mrs. Brown
Not big fan of filters I only use them for messing around, all my pictures here just natural and only belongs to me |
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By *astelloWoman 12 weeks ago
Far far away |
I'm still giggling at bogman, trying to identify the one blue eyed girl at a social. Tbf you found me. But pics are one dimensional and meeting in person is multi dimensional.
Having engrossed myself in blind date UK for the past week..it seems connections can work. |
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I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.
And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.
Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.
Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..
🤣🤣 |
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By *og-ManMan 12 weeks ago
somewhere |
"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.
And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.
Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.
Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..
🤣🤣"
Nothing worse that standing there like a prat and everyone else knows you've been stood up especially before the days of mobiles |
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By *aseylee324Couple 12 weeks ago
Valley of Squinting Windows |
"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.
And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.
Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.
Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..
🤣🤣"
Ah but nothing beats the kick of watching someone's face fall when they realise you're the person they're meeting  |
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"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.
And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.
Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.
Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..
🤣🤣
Nothing worse that standing there like a prat and everyone else knows you've been stood up especially before the days of mobiles "
I've never been stood up... the absolute cheek of ya...
She just went to the wrong McD's honest... |
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STEP 1: PRIMER. ...
STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...
STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...
STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...
STEP 5: POWDER. ...
STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...
STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...
STEP 8: BROWS.
Always works for me  |
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"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...
STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...
STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...
STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...
STEP 5: POWDER. ...
STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...
STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...
STEP 8: BROWS.
Always works for me "
Step 1. Attempt to smile
Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer
Step 3. Don't smile
Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"
Step 5. Throw phone away |
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I'm 1 of those men, that's brutal at taking pictures of myself. I don't use filters, that much. I'd prefer a person to not be expecting alot or thinking I'm something special. Only to meetup & freak out, when then realise it's me, there meeting.🥴🥴
Afterall what's wrong with a person being there self & if others don't like it. It's fine, they can move on ASAP?🤔🤷♂️😉😂👍 |
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"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...
STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...
STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...
STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...
STEP 5: POWDER. ...
STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...
STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...
STEP 8: BROWS.
Always works for me
Step 1. Attempt to smile
Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer
Step 3. Don't smile
Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"
Step 5. Throw phone away"
Or cock size, I've had no complaints yet....
Or the good old torso, what am I meant to do with a torso  |
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"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...
STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...
STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...
STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...
STEP 5: POWDER. ...
STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...
STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...
STEP 8: BROWS.
Always works for me "
Feck all that I am Beautiful as I am without plastering my face with all this stuff, just good sex and smiles makes my even prettier. I better spend all that time shagging  |
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"I couldn't imagine organising a meet without having seen a face pic.
And yes I know they can be misleading but still it's an important step for me.
Although I do remember back in the day arranging a few dates with girls who's number you got on a night out and not having the vaguest recollection of what they looked like.
Standing outside McDonald's pretending to recognise 3 or 4 people until the right person walked up..
🤣🤣"
Ah here, McDonald’s? I’m not surprised she didn’t turn up. |
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By *og-ManMan 12 weeks ago
somewhere |
"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...
STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...
STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...
STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...
STEP 5: POWDER. ...
STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...
STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...
STEP 8: BROWS.
Always works for me
Step 1. Attempt to smile
Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer
Step 3. Don't smile
Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"
Step 5. Throw phone away
Or cock size, I've had no complaints yet....
Or the good old torso, what am I meant to do with a torso "
The boot of your car....sorry I think you meant something else |
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By *og-ManMan 12 weeks ago
somewhere |
"I'm still giggling at bogman, trying to identify the one blue eyed girl at a social. Tbf you found me. But pics are one dimensional and meeting in person is multi dimensional.
Having engrossed myself in blind date UK for the past week..it seems connections can work. "
Looking at women and only concentrating on their eye was a bit of a challenge alright until I found you |
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"STEP 1: PRIMER. ...
STEP 2: COLOUR CORRECTOR. ...
STEP 3: FOUNDATION. ...
STEP 4: CONCEALER. ...
STEP 5: POWDER. ...
STEP 6: BRONZER & CONTOUR. ...
STEP 7: HIGHLIGHTER. ...
STEP 8: BROWS.
Always works for me
Step 1. Attempt to smile
Step 2. Realise I look like a deranged serial killer
Step 3. Don't smile
Step 4. Every single recipient "you should smile"
Step 5. Throw phone away
Or cock size, I've had no complaints yet....
Or the good old torso, what am I meant to do with a torso
The boot of your car....sorry I think you meant something else "
Ah I can see how it's like a true detective novel now ha ha
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I prefer to meet in person than rely on face pics or the fantasy that's being portrayed in a profile. I've been catfished before and it wasn't pleasant.
I never give my face pic. I've had people refusing to speak to me because of this. Not because they're annoyed with my boundaries but simply they need to feel attraction to a face pic before investing their time. That's fair.
Bet yes OP, I find attraction and connections with people when I meet them that doesn't always translate in their profiles or photos. I love that about fab and RL. |
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By *og-ManMan 12 weeks ago
somewhere |
A face photo isn't 100% perfect as a way of knowing if there's any attraction between 2 people ....its just the starter with the main course to follow
However no matter how good a person looks if they have a terrible personality then nothing will ever happen so there's not going to be any desert
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I’m of 2 minds about face pics… didn’t used to send but I have recently and got turned down after… so really maybe it’s a good thing as it saved me from wasting my time…
Personally I prefer meeting people because I’m rarely attracted to a face pic and some men I met and really liked, I might not have met them if I had seen their pic… 
Attraction is a funny thing…
That said I ask for face pics… to see how serious people are… so many men playing games on fab! |
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One of the problems as a man on fab is when I say I don't exchange facepics and have never asked for one, some people associate that with a willingness to fuck anyone whereas the opposite is actually true.
When I'm meeting I don't exchange pics because I chat for weeks or months before agreeing to a social and physical attraction often isn't relevant because I know beforehand that it will only ever be a social.
The only reason for sharing a pic is so we will recognise each other in the coffee shop.
I've never met anyone on a one to one social who didn't look like their pics but I have had people at group socials introduce themselves and there is no way in hell I would have picked them out of a lineup because their pics are obviously filtered to fuck. |
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By *aelicDMan 12 weeks ago
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Have to agree with this. While I've no problem swapping a facepic, there is the undeniable thrill of mystery when you meet someone without knowing what they look like.
Obviously I understand the safety concern for women so it's a tricky one. No hard and fast answer I feel. |
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By *og-ManMan 12 weeks ago
somewhere |
"Glad that I’m
Not the only one here so . I find people are all into me they’ll chat etc but when they ask for face pic its like em no sorry not for me!!!!"
But you can never be for everyone no matter what you look like
You need to realise that
Do you find some women attractive and other women not as attractive ....its the same thing
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"Glad that I’m
Not the only one here so . I find people are all into me they’ll chat etc but when they ask for face pic its like em no sorry not for me!!!!"
Why not (just hear me out!) change your strategy? Attend organised socials and dazzle the laydeez with your stunning personality there  |
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"Glad that I’m
Not the only one here so . I find people are all into me they’ll chat etc but when they ask for face pic its like em no sorry not for me!!!!
Why not (just hear me out!) change your strategy? Attend organised socials and dazzle the laydeez with your stunning personality there "
You defo gota point there |
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The conversation in Pulp Fiction about personality comes to mind. As for pictures on here representing reality. I am yet to meet anyone that looked better in reality than their pictures. Some didn't even look like the same person, I left a verification and then got dogs abuse saying I accused them of catfishing. They didn't even look like cousins 😂😂😂, catfish, more like lochnesscatfishmonster |
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"If the person is not willing to send me a face picture I simply don't keep chatting. So many unattractive men get into my inbox, even me stating what is my type!"
I respect your choice, i must , it's your choice. In saying this , you must also respect the choices of everyone else you communicate with on here by the same rules and standards. |
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I still remember my first and only social In the pub... I didn't recognize a single woman, with men it wasn't much better... I was sure I had mistaken the place or date of the meeting. People knew each other and talked, creating groups, I was like air... |
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Take honest pics and maybe down play the picture, better to be pleasantly surprised than disappointed. Especially if someone has the irreversible look of disappointment on their face when they meet you in person lol. |
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