"If u get friend zoned, keep at it, you might be out some night and end up hooking up. "
I'm not sure I agree - if I've met someone socially and there was no spark but we got on great as friends, I'd be a bit annoyed if they kept at it hoping for more. It would probably lead me to try and distance myself from them.
I'm also not sure it's emotionally healthy hanging on in some kind of false hope. |
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By *aseylee324Couple 13 weeks ago
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"If u get friend zoned, keep at it, you might be out some night and end up hooking up.
I'm not sure I agree - if I've met someone socially and there was no spark but we got on great as friends, I'd be a bit annoyed if they kept at it hoping for more. It would probably lead me to try and distance myself from them.
I'm also not sure it's emotionally healthy hanging on in some kind of false hope. "
Agreed, have been semi-stalked by men convinced that our "friendship" was going to evolve into something else. |
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I always think of people as potential friends and if there's chemistry there then maybe more. I am Demisexual so I don't feel sexually attracted to that many people.
I would be put off if someone hovered around hoping for more. In fact it would get on my nerves so no quicker way to get outright rejected |
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By *3nsesMan 13 weeks ago
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Not that I'd ever use the term, but being "friendzoned" simply means the person isn't attracted to you. There's nothing you can do about that, baring some type of significant facial surgery but I'll assume you'll be reluctant to do that. The next situation that can arise is that you meet someone and they are attracted to you, but they don't realise that and so nothing further happens. Now, how does one go a avoiding that situation? That's right, you all guessed correctly. You tell them two things.
1) that you find them attractive
2) you'd like to put your penis inside their vagina.
Now some people might recommend just leading with option 1 and leaving option 2 out of the conversation but where's the fun in that. |
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Only way is to avoid getting into the friendzone. If it starts as friends with no spark I don't believe it can change. To maintain the spark is important I reckon. Keep it sexy and keep the connection. Friends and fwb. If you take the friend bit too far it's doomed. |
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"I always think of people as potential friends and if there's chemistry there then maybe more. I am Demisexual so I don't feel sexually attracted to that many people.
I would be put off if someone hovered around hoping for more. In fact it would get on my nerves so no quicker way to get outright rejected"
Oh I like that term demisexual
That's definitely me. I'm very rarely attracted to a guy and when I am I probably friend zone them as not sure how to take it further |
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"I always think of people as potential friends and if there's chemistry there then maybe more. I am Demisexual so I don't feel sexually attracted to that many people.
I would be put off if someone hovered around hoping for more. In fact it would get on my nerves so no quicker way to get outright rejected
Oh I like that term demisexual
That's definitely me. I'm very rarely attracted to a guy and when I am I probably friend zone them as not sure how to take it further "
What makes you feel attracted to a guy Mary Lou? |
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"So you messaged, met for coffee and got along really well.
How do you keep it from bypassing the FWB/FB stage and going directly to the Friend Zone.
Asking for a FWOB."
Unfortunately there might have been no chemistry for 1 of ye. It does happen sadly.
Like others said no point trying to pursue something if its only 1 sided .
Would rather keep a friendship than nothing.
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"So you messaged, met for coffee and got along really well.
How do you keep it from bypassing the FWB/FB stage and going directly to the Friend Zone.
Asking for a FWOB.
Unfortunately there might have been no chemistry for 1 of ye. It does happen sadly.
Like others said no point trying to pursue something if its only 1 sided .
Would rather keep a friendship than nothing.
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Yeah I'd agree with this, they just might not fancy you but still enjoy your company and that's got to be respected.
However one thing I will add is that sometimes, only sometimes!, a bit of body contact can ignite a spark that may not have been immediately obvious.
A gentle touch on the back when walking through a crowded bar or pulling out a chair, a brief knee against knee while chatting, hand brushing the shoulder while helping with a coat... Social subtleties, and not everyone is comfortable with body contact, but sometimes it can make a difference. |
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