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If you don't drink how do you chillax on a 1st meet
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By *om TangoMan 18 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
I’d never dream of turning up for a first social with drink in me. Whatever about meeting in a bar and having a drink fair enough. Plus if I turned up for a 1 on 1 social and the other person had drink taken it would be a red flag |
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"For me a good long clears all the nerves & gets ya right in the zone !
I feckin missed putting in the word "snog "
So should have read a good long snog
I thought you meant
"wank" "
this could be a whole new forum game, i was thinking gin  |
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I'd be put off if someone needed to have a few drinks before meeting me, even if it's to settle the nerves.
Many are nervous about meeting new people, it's not uncommon but it's just another person and I kinda think you're more likely to make a good impression just being yourself, nervous or not, rather than shored up by alcohol.
Sure, meet up and have a pint together, but if you turn up and you've already had a couple then go on to have a couple more during the social then you're going to be pretty well on.
And I'm just talking about a social meet here.
I'd be even less impressed if it was to meet for sex, to the point I'd probably not go ahead with it
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I've the opposite problem lol I'm off drink over 20 years and I have to pull myself back from being over confident, I'm quite direct and flirty without drink. Not arrogant but confident and good fun and very socially aware.
Definitely not submissive, my problem is being this way can put dominant guys off as some don't like the feminine side being more savvy and knowing what they want |
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By *ustBoWoman 18 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't drink anymore well very very rarely. I've never had a drink when I'm meeting someone because I usually met during the day and I am always driving anyhow ,and a first meet is just a social anyhow.
I've never been really nervous before any meet anyhow. A few butterflies in my tum but that is it. If I felt that nervous that I needed something to calm my nerves I think I would cancel if I'm honest. Because it would mean I wasn't comfortable with whom I was meeting.
Didn't see this thread when I posted on the other one. |
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I don't get nervous, and also don't drink on a meet.
One of my first meets was with a couple, who guaranteed I could stay the night in their house in the country.So we had a few drinks. Unfortunately, they had a huge screaming argument,and I decided to leave and drive away. Never again. |
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First meet and greet, usually coffee or a short walk. No need for booze.
Sex : I m a nervous talker, if we can get snogging and laughing that helps to move things along. A night visit will prob involve wine. I much prefer relatively sober sex, just have to get over the initial awkwardness of moving things to the bedroom. |
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"I don't get nervous, and also don't drink on a meet.
One of my first meets was with a couple, who guaranteed I could stay the night in their house in the country.So we had a few drinks. Unfortunately, they had a huge screaming argument,and I decided to leave and drive away. Never again. "
Ya too much alcohol ruins a good night.. and what is it with so many couples who end up fighting in circumstances like these. I’ve seen it so many times that i actually don’t meet couples alone anymore  |
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"Never worry about a meet. It’s just another person. If they are not a psycho, then it’s grand. Coffee and chat, sometimes stroll work perfectly "
Yeah same as this. Meet somewhere public. And keep the meet in perspective, don't overthink it  |
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I've never d*unk alcohol on a first meet. It would impare my judgement, well maybe not 1 or 2 but it could. I've done quite a few now and don't really get nervous any more... unless it's nervous excited and that's a good thing. |
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By *rnicaMan 17 weeks ago
The Great Outdoors |
I don't drink at all. No issue with someone having a drink once I get to know them, but as a man I'd be very wary around a woman who needed a drink just to meet me.
I'd much prefer someone being a little shy/nervous/giddy around me initially as it's authentic and probably a reasonable indicator of attraction. Honestly, I'm also likely to be nervous and chatty as well the first time I meet someone hot, but I would be inclined to tell the person rather than hide/suppress it - there's every chance they feel the same.
Best advice I could offer to minimise nerves/anticipatory anxiety is turnup with zero expectations and be yourself.
If you click, you click. If you don't, that's no big deal. |
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