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If you took out all the time wasters fakes and people just looking for a quick bunk up how many genuine swingers do you think there would be in Ireland I really don't understand why if you aren't a genuine swinger why you are here just had a guy message me saying that it's so hard for guys on here yet I asked him had he tried going to any of the socials he said he was too shy if you are too shy toeet someone socially how do you expect anything else to happen just don't get it think the name of the site needs to change as it's clearly not just a swingers site |
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By *ustBoWoman 1 week ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I'm not a swinger I've never claimed to be but I've met some great people off here.
I don't see why others want to change the site to suit them and what they think it should be.
It's someone doesn't want to go to organised socials on here I don't see why the should be expected to.
Yes it might increase their chances of meeting someone they like but it's definitely not a guarantee either.
I don't really see how somebody being too shy to go to an organised social would have any bearing at all on whether they would show up to a one to one meet.
The name of the site is just that a name at this stage .People are on here for many different reasons. I've always found it easier to stick with those who have a similar outlook to mine and let others enjoy the site the way they want to. |
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"If you took out all the time wasters fakes and people just looking for a quick bunk up how many genuine swingers do you think there would be in Ireland I really don't understand why if you aren't a genuine swinger why you are here just had a guy message me saying that it's so hard for guys on here yet I asked him had he tried going to any of the socials he said he was too shy if you are too shy toeet someone socially how do you expect anything else to happen just don't get it think the name of the site needs to change as it's clearly not just a swingers site "
Define "genuine swinger" please? |
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I'm not saying people can't enjoy the site the way they want to I'm just expressing an opinion which is what the forums are for is it not no there is no guarantee of anything on here but surely if you want to experience the scene and see if it's for you or not you would try them out no point coming on moaning that it's so hard for single guys when you haven't even tried to make any effort |
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By *ustBoWoman 1 week ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"I'm not saying people can't enjoy the site the way they want to I'm just expressing an opinion which is what the forums are for is it not no there is no guarantee of anything on here but surely if you want to experience the scene and see if it's for you or not you would try them out no point coming on moaning that it's so hard for single guys when you haven't even tried to make any effort "
Surely if he has messaged though he has made an effort. Albeit probably a small one.
I know I'm pretty shy and I know that there is no way I would have gone to my first organised social alone the thought alone would have made me balk at going on the night.
I've never had a issue meeting anyone one to one though,so I don't see how both are thought to be the same.
And of course you can write your opinions on here that's exactly what the forums are for. I don't see where anyone said you can't. Just because not everyone will agree on things just adds to the discussion and I don't see why it always taken personally when they don't. I think it's good to see different points of view. |
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"A genuine swinger in my opinion for what it is worth is someone who is genuine a genuine person on here for the right reasons which to be is to learn about the scene and engage in it "
I have joined to learn about the scene, I have been to socials. I have met some great people. But right now I don't think I am ready for a MMF scenario for example. Whether that be my emotional state, performance anxiety or just plain nervous. So I would never call myself a genuine swinger. I am just hoping to make some good connections.
But it can be hard for new single guys here, they are stepping out of their comfort zone. Some have unrealistic expectations, some need to learn the rules of engagement and some don't realise the ratio of women to men here and the need for patience. |
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I'm not taking anything personally and more than welcome others views and opinions I like getting others point of view I would actually consider myself quite a shy person but sometimes you just have to put your big girl pants on and get on with it things don't just come to you you have to go looking for them |
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By *s LollyWoman 1 week ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Im 100% not a swinger never was, never will be, im here just over 9yrs at this stage and have always did fab on my term's and my way, ive met people one one one who wouldn't attend bigger functions and that's ok to, me personally love the social side of fab and would never judge anyone who dosent feel comfortable attend them...... |
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Fab suits different people in different ways.
As in life, we all have different wants and needs, plus personal circumstances, personalities, and confidence will affect attendance at socials.
I have been off and on the site for several years and chatted to and met guys when suited and have never attended a social as it is not my scene. I don't think any of my meets have either.
Not knocking them, just saying they are not the be all and end of the site.
You get what you put into Fab just like in life.
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As for me, being a single guy on fab.
Yes it is harder for a single guy. With allot of people on here not seeking that and looking for something that meets their needs which is complete fair. And then with the timewasters and fake profiles who have no intention of ever meeting anyone. These can make definitely make you ponder the question the OP raises.
However, I have to say, yes it can be frustrating sometimes filtering through this. But, when you give it some time you will meet the genuine ones. I for one am very genuine and use this app exactly what it is for. And the hope is that eventually I won't have to filter through all the bullshit and build a nice network of the people who want it too. |
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"If you took out all the time wasters fakes and people just looking for a quick bunk up how many genuine swingers ….. "
I can be a little time waster. Life gets in the way and I change plans unexpectedly sometimes. I don’t look for a bunk up… I’m genuine but we can debate about ‘swinger’…..
"…..why if you aren't a genuine swinger why you are here ….. "
It’s an easy answer for me. I love sex! That’s why I’m on fab. I might learn the ropes of a swingers life as I go. Meanwhile I’ll try to fulfill my natural needs as a woman. I think most men do the same on fab…  |
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"If you took out all the time wasters fakes and people just looking for a quick bunk up how many genuine swingers do you think there would be in Ireland I really don't understand why if you aren't a genuine swinger why you are here just had a guy message me saying that it's so hard for guys on here yet I asked him had he tried going to any of the socials he said he was too shy if you are too shy toeet someone socially how do you expect anything else to happen just don't get it think the name of the site needs to change as it's clearly not just a swingers site "
We have met a few people in our time here and havs neved been to an organised social event as we were I won't say shy but cautious about who we may meet. Does that not make us genuine?. For us we prefer to organise a social with a couple or a few people together rather than a big social, that being said we are going to dip our toe into a social event this month just to see how we feel going forward.
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I've been to socials, and to be honest, there not for me. I prefer the chat on here, meet have fun repeat with certian genuine individuals here.
Actually, I turn off when I see a page with endless verifications and all are from socials. Makes me laugh.
Let each person do this on their own terms.  |
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I think people will approach it whatever way suits themselves, whether that be good or bad. A lot of men are here for quick hook-ups, and complain when the site doesn't meet their requirements! They won't attend socials as that requires some effort on their part. Which is obviously and outrageous expectation!
I see lots of couples that are rampant swingers and cant get enough of it, practically every week and others that dip in and out a couple of times a year when it suits.
It's difficult to define swingers, we'll all have our own interpretation. |
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By *panishRebelMan 1 week ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"If you took out all the time wasters fakes and people just looking for a quick bunk up how many genuine swingers …..
I can be a little time waster. Life gets in the way and I change plans unexpectedly sometimes. I don’t look for a bunk up… I’m genuine but we can debate about ‘swinger’…..
…..why if you aren't a genuine swinger why you are here …..
It’s an easy answer for me. I love sex! That’s why I’m on fab. I might learn the ropes of a swingers life as I go. Meanwhile I’ll try to fulfill my natural needs as a woman. I think most men do the same on fab… "
I think you hit the nail on the head!
Love of sex is what brings people here. It's the common denominator. There is a huge variety of possible expressions and desires to do with sex.
Recently I found out who the originators of this site are. They lived here in Spain on the Costa Blanca for a number of years. They started a whole heap of things here too. I don't think they are upset that their site is being used in non swinger ways.
I don't consider myself a swinger, even curiosity about swinging brought me here. Swinging in it's truest form is for couples, (as I understand it). However this site still works for singles like myself and others. Across all spectrums. We all have preferences and lines we don't cross or rarely cross etc.
As long as decency respect and grace is given by everyone here, it all works.
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"I'm not judging anyone everyone is free to do what they want the way they want too was just aaking a simple question "
It’s not simple. Swinging has been created by couples for couples. Does it mean that all the singles should leave the site?
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"I'm not judging anyone everyone is free to do what they want the way they want too was just aaking a simple question
It’s not simple. Swinging has been created by couples for couples. Does it mean that all the singles should leave the site?
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Yes...
Dm me for logistics for the migration ladies. |
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"I'm not judging anyone everyone is free to do what they want the way they want too was just aaking a simple question
It’s not simple. Swinging has been created by couples for couples. Does it mean that all the singles should leave the site?
Yes...
Dm me for logistics for the migration ladies. "
Nah, _unflowers don’t like to change the field  |
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I'm not a swinger and I have zero interest in "the scene".
This isn't a lifestyle choice for me, it's a hobby and nothing more.
I have been to socials and wouldn't be in a rush back to one.
They are always used as the default setting for someone to get a verification if they are struggling but telling someone they aren't genuine if they have no interest in learning sign language to communicate in a disco seems strange.
One to one meets for me have always been much more attractive and a much better way of getting to know someone. |
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"If you took out all the time wasters fakes and people just looking for a quick bunk up how many genuine swingers do you think there would be in Ireland I really don't understand why if you aren't a genuine swinger why you are here just had a guy message me saying that it's so hard for guys on here yet I asked him had he tried going to any of the socials he said he was too shy if you are too shy toeet someone socially how do you expect anything else to happen just don't get it think the name of the site needs to change as it's clearly not just a swingers site "
Op what's your definition of a true swinger?
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Ah…… none of us here are swingers. Personally I’m just on here for tips on how to improve my knitting techniques, while perving pictures and videos…. Occasionally chatting with others who have the same love of knitting.
I think we all do this differently. Some people love the socials and the bigger parties, others prefer 121s, some like to meet couple to couple, some are looking just for women or just for men………
To say not going to social doesn’t make one a swinger then, whoop we’re not swingers. Over the 17 years online we’ve only ever been to 3 socials. They just aren’t our cup of tea. We prefer smaller more intimate relaxed meets where we can chat properly to who we are meeting and really get to know them properly.
We all have our own way to meet others, as others have said live and let live.
Dove xXx |
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I agree to some extent but then fab has been the same for so long I mean who's the genuine people after all so many married and their wife /partner doesn't know they on here ...does that make them genuine? Certainly not! does a single bloke looking a lady friend for fun ..make him genuine either more likely not! I've been on here a good few years and still certain people come over as genuine and prove themselves to be not so genuine...
I definitely reckon there should be a filter for genuine swingers , single looking couples ,couples looking singles type thing ..and single blokes looking lady friends and vice versa would cut the search down quite quickly...but can't see that happening anytime soon xx |
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By *matorMan 1 week ago
Craigavon |
I've come into this site both as a curiosity and exploration thing. If something comes of it so be it...if not then it's not the end of the world.
If the door is closed at the first hurdle because people aren't "true swingers" then that world becomes very small, and the people who might find this is a place they can flourish within themselves never get getting going. So that world only gets smaller again until it's just that room with the same 5 true swingers riding into the sunset one last time lol you aren't allowed to use fab until you're already verified swinger
I also had no idea the extent of "parties" there are on this island either until I came on here. So the notion of going to any wasn't there and if you read the majority of things posted here...us single non verified guys are the plague of the site! Any wonder someone new might be intimidated about going to an event with no one they've ever met or know.
I don't think there's anything wrong with joining, looking and seeing there's more to explore than you thought and learning as you go
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"I definitely didn't think it was possible to have a place for a single straight guy to get so many offers to have his cock sucked by eager gay men  "
Dont forget your filters to stop men from messaging you |
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By *matorMan 1 week ago
Craigavon |
"I definitely didn't think it was possible to have a place for a single straight guy to get so many offers to have his cock sucked by eager gay men
Dont forget your filters to stop men from messaging you "
It would be eerily quiet then lol |
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"I've come into this site both as a curiosity and exploration thing. If something comes of it so be it...if not then it's not the end of the world.
If the door is closed at the first hurdle because people aren't "true swingers" then that world becomes very small, and the people who might find this is a place they can flourish within themselves never get getting going. So that world only gets smaller again until it's just that room with the same 5 true swingers riding into the sunset one last time lol you aren't allowed to use fab until you're already verified swinger
I also had no idea the extent of "parties" there are on this island either until I came on here. So the notion of going to any wasn't there and if you read the majority of things posted here...us single non verified guys are the plague of the site! Any wonder someone new might be intimidated about going to an event with no one they've ever met or know.
I don't think there's anything wrong with joining, looking and seeing there's more to explore than you thought and learning as you go
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I agree with a lot of this.
It can be intimidating and daunting. I feel it myself, even as someone who's been to their fair share of social events. I'm fairly quiet and introverted - and I know there are people who'll disagree with that statement but I'm like the proverbial swan, calm on the surface and legs paddling like bejaysus under the water - so I have to really push myself out of my comfort zone for socials. I'm lucky insomuch as I attend with friends and I usually will already know someone there. If I had to go on my own I'm not sure I would. But then again I don't think I'd class myself as a swinger. I'm more in the sex positive camp, who occasionally enjoys a bit of small group action.
It can be tough for single guys on here. Berating them for being too nervous or shy to attend socials really isn't helpful, and I'm not sure there's a direct correlation between how someone feels about attending socials and their ability to engage in great sex *shrug*
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"I wasn't berating anyone I was simply stating that if they weren't willing to meet someone in public how were they going to get anywhere with the site "
True, a lot of men on here just want a quick fumble and run out the door. Sure don’t need to talk or relax, just pounce and run! 
I suppose it’s all back to how we have different expectations from the site. For every man who doesn’t like to chat or meet socially, there is a ratio of 1 woman to 50 men (I am being glass half full this morning) who also enjoys the same as them. Now the ones who moan they can’t get meets, who are basically just looking for an oul quickie don’t get me started on them…..  |
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The majority on the site aren't swingers like they say. Swinging is a lifestyle not just onto the site and sleeping with the bulk of the opposite gender. If that's what someone is about that's ok but it's not swinging. |
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By *allowsWoman 1 week ago
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I’ve heard I’m shy from a hell of alot of fellas. When I point out socials can be meeting in a pub they seem shocked cos to them any meet off here is an orgy lol and everyone is butt naked . |
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Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger. |
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"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger."
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity. |
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"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity."
Definition pulled direct copy and paste online: “ Swinging, earlier commonly known as wife-swapping, is a sexual activity in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship sexually engage with others for recreational purposes. Swinging is a form of non-monogamy and is an open relationship. People may choose a swinging lifestyle for a variety of reasons.” |
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"I wasn't berating anyone I was simply stating that if they weren't willing to meet someone in public how were they going to get anywhere with the site "
There's a world of difference between meeting someone one on one in public and attending socials though, no? |
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"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity."
Err, I did say that in my comment. |
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By *runchMan 1 week ago
Dublin |
"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity."
Does swinging include meeting for a game of checkers? |
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"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity.
Does swinging include meeting for a game of checkers? "
This is the type of comment that makes me laugh have you been to swinging communities or clubs around the world I encourage you to go to Cape D. And experience it |
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"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity.
Does swinging include meeting for a game of checkers?
This is the type of comment that makes me laugh have you been to swinging communities or clubs around the world I encourage you to go to Cape D. And experience it "
Is there really good games if checkers? |
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By *runchMan 1 week ago
Dublin |
"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity.
Does swinging include meeting for a game of checkers?
This is the type of comment that makes me laugh have you been to swinging communities or clubs around the world I encourage you to go to Cape D. And experience it "
So tell me what is so amazing about such communities which is not sex related that I am seemingly missing out on.
I don't want to travel halfway across the world to a swinging community only to realise they sit around playing checkers. |
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"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity.
Does swinging include meeting for a game of checkers?
This is the type of comment that makes me laugh have you been to swinging communities or clubs around the world I encourage you to go to Cape D. And experience it
So tell me what is so amazing about such communities which is not sex related that I am seemingly missing out on.
I don't want to travel halfway across the world to a swinging community only to realise they sit around playing checkers. "
Wait till you find the social that does bingo  |
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"Been around a long time on fab. Met lots of great people along the way. Most of them have varying opinions of what a swinger is. I'm single and like to meet and chat with others,not always leading to sex. I enjoy fab lifestyle as and when it happens, for me it's not the be all and end all. But would class myself as a part time swinger.
Swinging doesn't always mean sexual activity.
Does swinging include meeting for a game of checkers?
This is the type of comment that makes me laugh have you been to swinging communities or clubs around the world I encourage you to go to Cape D. And experience it
So tell me what is so amazing about such communities which is not sex related that I am seemingly missing out on.
I don't want to travel halfway across the world to a swinging community only to realise they sit around playing checkers.
Wait till you find the social that does bingo "
Please tell me there is one
I feel I've now reached that stage in my life  |
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So tell me what is so amazing about such communities which is not sex related that I am seemingly missing out on.
I don't want to travel halfway across the world to a swinging community only to realise they sit around playing checkers. "
Best way is to check, mate. |
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By *rRiosMan 1 week ago
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So tell me what is so amazing about such communities which is not sex related that I am seemingly missing out on.
I don't want to travel halfway across the world to a swinging community only to realise they sit around playing checkers.
Best way is to check, mate."
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