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"For me it’s that I’ll never be enough and I’ll always be a fuck up, that I’m afraid to love again. And I’m scared shitless of someone telling me they love me. "
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Hmmmm good question, It has takin some learning but I’ve learned to accept myself for who I am and not try be someone else just to please people. I may not have the ``Good looks ‘’ or the best body or personality on this site that everyone on here is looking for and having got pissed off by the amount of people that said this to me or was like no we can’t invite you to this or that cause you’re not what everyone wants.
I’ve learned to accept that I am who I am and people either like or don’t like I can’t change the way I look thats my identity and unique to me. As is every else in their natural beauty.
So Op and everyone don’t take anything that anyone says to you on here to heart cause it’s not worth it.
There is a lot of superficial people on here and you gota remember that there not living in the real world ……..
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That I have allowed energy vampires to suck too much of my energy leaving no energy for the important things in life
That I mask way too much
I question my reactions to people's behaviour, blaming myself for my reaction rather than if my reaction was warrantied
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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I'm different than most people.i think very differently about plenty of stuff. I need alone time and that sometimes comes across as being unavailable. And my good nature has been taken advantage of. But I'd never change that  |
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This is one of the best threads. It's great how people are opening up, especially the men. It's important to talk. This is a good community and things like this show it. Am free to chat with anyone who wants to vent. Have a great day all ye amazing people |
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I accept about myself that my traumas and sadnesses have led to me being convinced that I will never find a partner who loves me and whom I also love and will therefore die alone sooner rather than later.
I accept that there is no evidence for this, and that this is just the trauma response
I accept that I distance myself from people in order to further this fantasy
I accept that I seek ways to leave some little legacy behind, while disliking that I do because of my belief that I don't really matter
Etc etc etc |
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By *enitMan 20 weeks ago
Galway |
"I am more than my womb. Getting it removed will not make me less of a woman. I will be better after the surgery and hopefully pain free for the first time in over 20 years. "
Good for you, hope it all goes well for you |
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By *enitMan 20 weeks ago
Galway |
"Being nice isn't a weakness
Stubborn as a bull..hello Taurus
My boob's are attached to me, but l ain't attached to them. 
Not everyone likes hugs..but goddammit l like giving them.
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I like them . . . |
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By *panishRebelMan 20 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"That it’s ok that I have a very high sex drive. For a long time I viewed it as a problem to be solved. Now I accept that it’s an undeniable part of who I am as a person."
Three cheers to that |
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"I'm different than most people.i think very differently about plenty of stuff. I need alone time and that sometimes comes across as being unavailable. And my good nature has been taken advantage of. But I'd never change that "
It's good to acknowledge that you need alone time - I do as well, most of us do but many don't admit it and partly for the reason you gave above. |
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"That I have allowed energy vampires to suck too much of my energy leaving no energy for the important things in life
That I mask way too much
I question my reactions to people's behaviour, blaming myself for my reaction rather than if my reaction was warrantied
Mr S"
I've only realised recently how much I mask, and have done for most of my adult life. I think my life would be quite different had I not been doing it. But hey.. old dog, new tricks.. |
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I accept everything about myself.no one is perfect and if you don't accept what the man above has given you as a person well you will never be happy.we all have our weaknesses or fears or good points bad points but no matter where you go in the world there will always be someone better looking,worse looking smarter not as smart quieter louder braver richer poorer happier sadder healthier or sicker the list goes on.at the end of the day.we are all so different but so similar but acceptance of your own life and fortune's is what we should all be doing not just picking one bad or good trait we have. |
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"I accept everything about myself.no one is perfect and if you don't accept what the man above has given you as a person well you will never be happy.we all have our weaknesses or fears or good points bad points but no matter where you go in the world there will always be someone better looking,worse looking smarter not as smart quieter louder braver richer poorer happier sadder healthier or sicker the list goes on.at the end of the day.we are all so different but so similar but acceptance of your own life and fortune's is what we should all be doing not just picking one bad or good trait we have."
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I discovered in the last couple of years that I have a sensory processing disorder.
Accepting it and learning to live with it has been a journey.
30 years of social anxiety explained.
I accept now that if I meet people in a busy bar that I'm not going to be myself due to sensory overload and I might just leave early and that's ok.
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"I discovered in the last couple of years that I have a sensory processing disorder.
Accepting it and learning to live with it has been a journey.
30 years of social anxiety explained.
I accept now that if I meet people in a busy bar that I'm not going to be myself due to sensory overload and I might just leave early and that's ok.
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How did you discover this? |
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"I discovered in the last couple of years that I have a sensory processing disorder.
Accepting it and learning to live with it has been a journey.
30 years of social anxiety explained.
I accept now that if I meet people in a busy bar that I'm not going to be myself due to sensory overload and I might just leave early and that's ok.
How did you discover this? "
That's a story best told over gin. The short version is therapy. |
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"I discovered in the last couple of years that I have a sensory processing disorder.
Accepting it and learning to live with it has been a journey.
30 years of social anxiety explained.
I accept now that if I meet people in a busy bar that I'm not going to be myself due to sensory overload and I might just leave early and that's ok. "
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Love this
"For me it’s that I’ll never be enough and I’ll always be a fuck up, that I’m afraid to love again. And I’m scared shitless of someone telling me they love me.
You'll be just plenty for the right person "
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"For me it’s that I’ll never be enough and I’ll always be a fuck up, that I’m afraid to love again. And I’m scared shitless of someone telling me they love me. "
That's me also once something nice come it's like I go self destruction and destroy everything especially relationships. |
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Where to start?
I am ok with not being well hung.
I am non-confrontational and diplomatic but to some people that looks like being spineless.
Some people don't get my sense of humour. But some people do so I am ok with that.
I might obsess about something but I try to turn that to my advantage. |
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I genuinely used to think I was invisible, especially to women, and they only saw me when they needed something done.
Then about 10 years ago i discovered I wasn't at all and in the years since I have come to accept that at times I still like to be invisible on my own terms but I control how visible I am. |
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By *s LollyWoman 20 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Dating or relationships are definitely not for me because i can't be faithful to just one person....
Snap
I also can't settle on a favourite gender even  "
Men for the sexy time
Women for the boobies and kisses  |
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By *eordie.Woman 20 weeks ago
The Sticks |
"Dating or relationships are definitely not for me because i can't be faithful to just one person....
Snap
I also can't settle on a favourite gender even
Men for the sexy time
Women for the boobies and kisses "
Cumere you  |
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"Dating or relationships are definitely not for me because i can't be faithful to just one person....
Not wanting a relationship can feel like your out of step with the whole world sometimes. "
Being in a relationship and being non monogamous can also feel this way...I forget that not everyone lives like this  |
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By *orkguy086Man 20 weeks ago
Happy to travel or get Hotel |
That I made the biggest mistake of my life and because of it, I lost the woman I should have married and the family I always want..
But on the other hand, I think she's happier now and it's all I want for her and her children. |
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"For me it’s that I’ll never be enough and I’ll always be a fuck up, that I’m afraid to love again. And I’m scared shitless of someone telling me they love me. "
You can't know that as you don't have crystal balls.
For me it's that while my plus size body isn't everyone's taste, for those few who I choose to share my body with can't get enough and so I accept that I'm not conventionally sexy I still am. |
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What a super topic and so many positive replies, the amount of people who in this world and alot on here who live in a false world of pretending to not have any issues and not identifying any flaws and who constantly change and adapt to the other people to just fit in or to please the crowd or even try change there appearance to just fit it.
This thread shows that beyond the imagine we all see visually of a person, their uniqueness is true to themselves, each and everyone of us living trough life’s battles but more importantly being able to cross the many humps and bumps in the path of life. |
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By *panishRebelMan 20 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
I've accepted that the synchronization between mind and body has separated a little. The body is aging faster than the mind! Things that I could do without a second thought in sport etc now take more effort. Sport has become like magnifying glass on the sepperation. My mind says do this and expects the body to follow instantly. However the body is not such a well oiled machine anymore and grinds to a halt quicker. |
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"That maybe I’ll never suceed at fab 
Give it a chance, you're only on fab 3 weeks!! Check out the help a fabber thread on the Irish forums!! "
Thank you. I must have a squint at that before I get too despondent |
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"That maybe I’ll never suceed at fab
Give it a chance, you're only on fab 3 weeks!! Check out the help a fabber thread on the Irish forums!!
Thank you. I must have a squint at that before I get too despondent "
Good, don't give up before you've started!!  |
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"That maybe I’ll never suceed at fab
Give it a chance, you're only on fab 3 weeks!! Check out the help a fabber thread on the Irish forums!!
Thank you. I must have a squint at that before I get too despondent
Good, don't give up before you've started!! "
You should be a motivation coach Love the rose btw |
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"That I'm just good enough to fuck but not good enough for a relationship!!
I'm just me and I like myself, I like what I've become!!"
Resonated with this one. Self love is the best foundation to anything further though so we're good |
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"That I fell madly in love with someone who can’t give me what I need back. Milly x"
That's a hard one for sure. Been there. Sometimes we need to decide to love ourselves more & walk away despite not wanting to. |
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Really great forum topic & discussion. So good to talk openly about things. My inbox is always open for anyone wanting to chat anytime
I've accepted that I'm flawed, have insecurities (some rational, some irrational). That I am my own worst critic & that I irritate some people (prob more than a few ha) But that that's just me. I work on what I can & accept the things I can't change. I interact with those who see the good aspects of me & wish those that don't, all the best & move on. I accept that I'm a continuous work in progress, evolving all the time, but that I can still enjoy the moments along the way |
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"That I'm just good enough to fuck but not good enough for a relationship!!
I'm just me and I like myself, I like what I've become!!
Resonated with this one. Self love is the best foundation to anything further though so we're good "
Glad it's not just me that feels this!! |
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"That I fell madly in love with someone who can’t give me what I need back. Milly x
That's a hard one for sure. Been there. Sometimes we need to decide to love ourselves more & walk away despite not wanting to. "
That's the hardest part and I agree, we need to learn to love ourselves and accept what is to be and enjoy life to the best of our ability!! |
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By *laudshaenCouple 20 weeks ago
between sligo and leitrim |
Me, all.of.me, as I.am, work in progress, far from perfect, still learning, forgiving, which has made being OK with myself all the easier, if I forgive others, why not myself first |
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"That I'm just good enough to fuck but not good enough for a relationship!!
I'm just me and I like myself, I like what I've become!!
Resonated with this one. Self love is the best foundation to anything further though so we're good
Glad it's not just me that feels this!! "
I'm sure there's a fair few that feel that way. We should start a club |
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"That I fell madly in love with someone who can’t give me what I need back. Milly x
That's a hard one for sure. Been there. Sometimes we need to decide to love ourselves more & walk away despite not wanting to.
That's the hardest part and I agree, we need to learn to love ourselves and accept what is to be and enjoy life to the best of our ability!! "
There's plenty of fun to be had & I've no doubt about our abilities to enjoy it |
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"That I'm just good enough to fuck but not good enough for a relationship!!
I'm just me and I like myself, I like what I've become!!
Resonated with this one. Self love is the best foundation to anything further though so we're good
Glad it's not just me that feels this!!
I'm sure there's a fair few that feel that way. We should start a club "
Definitely, we need a support group!!! |
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"That sounds about right. I am scared that when it comes around I won’t recognise it and set to in my ways to change "
But you won't need to change because you'll be who and where and what you're meant to be! Trust yourself x |
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By *runchMan 19 weeks ago
Dublin |
"Skinny/scrawny look...
Ate to bulk up countless times, barely go up or down a kilo ever
Goddamn genetics  "
I started with Starting Strength in my late teens and exploded thereafter. If you are not lactose intolerant, milk is your best friend along with heavy* lifting. I don't follow this anymore but a great way to get started.
*this varies depending on the individual and lifting experience
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