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What are you into?
How do you answer those types of questions? Should you answer them even!? Sometimes I want to tell them to f**k off when I get asked 'did you have fun' when you've mentioned you were at an organised social or a coffee meet!
I don't want to be a bitch about it, it's just a question after all but I hate being asked it all the same!! None of your business is what I say sometimes or I simply ignore their message!
The 'what are you into question' does annoy me sometimes because I have listed what I'm into and I have written in detail what I'd like to have happen! Are people really just asking for more info so they can wank themselves off and then hopefully cum?
What other questions do you hate being asked and how do you deal with them!!? |
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I hate when people presume you're gonna to be having fun just because you went to an organised social or just a coffee meet!! My guessing is that they're either being very nosy or wanting to get off on one!! Sometimes I get away with ignoring the question but other times, they continue to ask the question.... 
That's when I have to tell them 'never mind' or if all else fails 'it's none of your beeswax!! I don't want to be a bitch with my answer but sometimes you have no choice if you want to shut them up!! |
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"I hate when people presume you're gonna to be having fun just because you went to an organised social or just a coffee meet!! My guessing is that they're either being very nosy or wanting to get off on one!! Sometimes I get away with ignoring the question but other times, they continue to ask the question....
That's when I have to tell them 'never mind' or if all else fails 'it's none of your beeswax!! I don't want to be a bitch with my answer but sometimes you have no choice if you want to shut them up!! "
But asking if you had fun they may just be asking if you enjoyed yourself?
To be fair, must conversations in real life start with simple and often pointless questions. There's a huge expectation on people here to come up with something really meaningful and deep and it really doesn't reflect real life much if the time.
Obviously those of us with incredible wit and intellect, charm, etc, would never ask such a question but we can't ask be me.  |
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But on here, tbf, they ask the question to find out the gory details as they presume some 'sexual fun' has happened!! When you do answer with 'no fun happened' you get asked 'why not, life's too short' 'why didn't you arrange something' etc, etc!! |
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"But on here, tbf, they ask the question to find out the gory details as they presume some 'sexual fun' has happened!! When you do answer with 'no fun happened' you get asked 'why not, life's too short' 'why didn't you arrange something' etc, etc!! "
Ah, ok, that's just someone looking for some titillation.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I hate being asked by people I have never spoken to before:-
•had much luck mate?
•skype now?
•what are you into?
•i see you met 'x' what did yous do?
•Do you go to socials / M&Gs?
I would be more comfortable answering such questions when there has been an initial exchange of messages.
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Nearly the worst thing is when they say 'say hi to a certain fabber bla bla bla..... I may not even know the person even, just feel it's indescrete revealing a fabber who is going and they're probably passing on info about me going as well or something....
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"Nearly the worst thing is when they say 'say hi to a certain fabber bla bla bla..... I may not even know the person even, just feel it's indescrete revealing a fabber who is going and they're probably passing on info about me going as well or something....
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I know what you mean Rose. This has happened with me a few times when they ask "did you meet xxx?" Or "when you went to the m&g, was xxx there?"
This can be disconcerting as you say because they tend to reveal additional details about that person. Like how do they know who i am and they are still passing on such information. |
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"Nearly the worst thing is when they say 'say hi to a certain fabber bla bla bla..... I may not even know the person even, just feel it's indescrete revealing a fabber who is going and they're probably passing on info about me going as well or something....
I know what you mean Rose. This has happened with me a few times when they ask "did you meet xxx?" Or "when you went to the m&g, was xxx there?"
This can be disconcerting as you say because they tend to reveal additional details about that person. Like how do they know who i am and they are still passing on such information. "
It's people that I've been messaging for a good while who ask me those questions! |
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By *ACOLCouple 28 weeks ago
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If I have mentioned what we are into on our profile and they are still asking I would reply with - I don't know, you tell me! I am sure it is outline on our profile.
Or just don't reply.
Lina. |
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"If I have mentioned what we are into on our profile and they are still asking I would reply with - I don't know, you tell me! I am sure it is outline on our profile.
Or just don't reply.
Lina. "
Must try that reply in future!!   |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"Nearly the worst thing is when they say 'say hi to a certain fabber bla bla bla..... I may not even know the person even, just feel it's indescrete revealing a fabber who is going and they're probably passing on info about me going as well or something....
I know what you mean Rose. This has happened with me a few times when they ask "did you meet xxx?" Or "when you went to the m&g, was xxx there?"
This can be disconcerting as you say because they tend to reveal additional details about that person. Like how do they know who i am and they are still passing on such information.
It's people that I've been messaging for a good while who ask me those questions! "
Mines come from a mix of people I know but mainly come from people I have neither met or talked to before unfortunately. To me, discretion is more important than spreading any such details. |
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When people send me messages like this I like to kill their horns immediately
What you into....oh I love a bit of crochet and if I'm feeling really naughty I'll break out the knitting
You has much fun lately... oh the bouncy castle I was on for my nieces Communion was great fun thanks for asking 
Did you get up to much at the weekend... oh the middle aisles in Lidl were popping off |
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"When people send me messages like this I like to kill their horns immediately
What you into....oh I love a bit of crochet and if I'm feeling really naughty I'll break out the knitting
You has much fun lately... oh the bouncy castle I was on for my nieces Communion was great fun thanks for asking
Did you get up to much at the weekend... oh the middle aisles in Lidl were popping off "
Love these answers, will use these in future!!!  |
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"So no saying hi/hey/hello and no asking questions
They're ok, it's the probing questions that are a pain in the arse!!
I like the way you got "probing" and "arse" into the same sentence  "
Trust you to pick up on my comment lol!!!! |
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By *panishRebelMan 28 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
In fairness asking if someone had fun at an event is not a weird question.
With no preamble it may be awkward or a bit to quick etc....
However a simple reply of yes I had fun or no we didn't have fun would open it up to a more interesting conversation.
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"In fairness asking if someone had fun at an event is not a weird question.
With no preamble it may be awkward or a bit to quick etc....
However a simple reply of yes I had fun or no we didn't have fun would open it up to a more interesting conversation.
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But why should I have to say fun wasn't had or if fun was had, it can bring unwelcome messages then.... |
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It wrecks my head when "what u into" is the response I get to a well-thought-out, reasonably detailed message expressing interest.
A lot of what I'm into is on my profile and I include a snippet in the message as well to make it easier for people.
It really puts me off, shows clearly there is no genuine interest and I'm wasting my time, at least I'm not alone in being irked by these kinds of questions/responses and it's a universal problem |
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"In fairness asking if someone had fun at an event is not a weird question.
With no preamble it may be awkward or a bit to quick etc....
However a simple reply of yes I had fun or no we didn't have fun would open it up to a more interesting conversation.
But why should I have to say fun wasn't had or if fun was had, it can bring unwelcome messages then.... "
It's not really that deep! It's a yes or no question, a simple conversation starter, you don't have to converse.
This question only annoys people If its asked by someone they've no interest in!...If you find the person attractive and want to chat, you'll most likely have no issue with the question! |
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I tend to wait a few days (at worst) or a few weeks (at best) before I start probing what they're into. If they start telling me that they're into embroidery or knitting before even a hint of anything related to passion or sensuality then I cull the conversation there and then. |
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By *panishRebelMan 28 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"In fairness asking if someone had fun at an event is not a weird question.
With no preamble it may be awkward or a bit to quick etc....
However a simple reply of yes I had fun or no we didn't have fun would open it up to a more interesting conversation.
But why should I have to say fun wasn't had or if fun was had, it can bring unwelcome messages then.... "
You don't have to say anything. It seems odd to me the way individuals get treated with distain because they asked the question. Everyone is free to respond how they like or feel. As long as respect is given both ways life is easier.
Perhaps the original opp is really concerned with a lack of respect and a fear of something else then the actual question of did you have fun? |
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"In fairness asking if someone had fun at an event is not a weird question.
With no preamble it may be awkward or a bit to quick etc....
However a simple reply of yes I had fun or no we didn't have fun would open it up to a more interesting conversation.
But why should I have to say fun wasn't had or if fun was had, it can bring unwelcome messages then....
You don't have to say anything. It seems odd to me the way individuals get treated with distain because they asked the question. Everyone is free to respond how they like or feel. As long as respect is given both ways life is easier.
Perhaps the original opp is really concerned with a lack of respect and a fear of something else then the actual question of did you have fun?"
Nah, I just wondered what other people thought about it!! |
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"So no saying hi/hey/hello and no asking questions
They're ok, it's the probing questions that are a pain in the arse!! "
I get what you are saying i think. But I would suggest some of those asking questions are just trying to keep the conversation going. I understand there are those just being nosey too. It can he quite difficult to keep a females attention when they get so much from all directions. |
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"Starting conversation is hard enough so using a social or m&g as reference is an ice breaker what else are you meant to say did you watch Emmerdale last night "
I usually start with nice leg's what time do they open at |
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By *dfabMan 28 weeks ago
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"Starting conversation is hard enough so using a social or m&g as reference is an ice breaker what else are you meant to say did you watch Emmerdale last night "
That's a good question actually, as if they said yes, I delete the conversation |
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By *dfabMan 28 weeks ago
Dunboyne |
Can't see OP profile but if it's detailed as mentioned, then no need to ask.
It's just a conversation filler from someone who hasn't read it.
I'd more likely ask Oh I see you mentioning X on interests. Have you tried this? Or what's your experience of Y? Mine was Z but I might try it again. Etc. Etc.
Not just lazy questions |
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"Starting conversation is hard enough so using a social or m&g as reference is an ice breaker what else are you meant to say did you watch Emmerdale last night
I usually start with nice leg's what time do they open at "
OMG Rosy this is brilliant, love it!!!!!! |
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By *ceryMan 28 weeks ago
Malahide & Waterford |
"Starting conversation is hard enough so using a social or m&g as reference is an ice breaker what else are you meant to say did you watch Emmerdale last night
I usually start with nice leg's what time do they open at "
When's closing time ?? |
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"When people send me messages like this I like to kill their horns immediately
What you into....oh I love a bit of crochet and if I'm feeling really naughty I'll break out the knitting
You has much fun lately... oh the bouncy castle I was on for my nieces Communion was great fun thanks for asking
Did you get up to much at the weekend... oh the middle aisles in Lidl were popping off "
Love a bouncy castle |
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"What are you into?
How do you answer those types of questions? Should you answer them even!? Sometimes I want to tell them to f**k off when I get asked 'did you have fun' when you've mentioned you were at an organised social or a coffee meet!
I don't want to be a bitch about it, it's just a question after all but I hate being asked it all the same!! None of your business is what I say sometimes or I simply ignore their message!
The 'what are you into question' does annoy me sometimes because I have listed what I'm into and I have written in detail what I'd like to have happen! Are people really just asking for more info so they can wank themselves off and then hopefully cum?
What other questions do you hate being asked and how do you deal with them!!?"
Its tricky to avoid the story seekers. Or Wank Fodder seekers. I fell into that trap. I learnt the hard way after wasting my time so much it affected my normal schedule.
I now call them 50p a word guys. As I feel like yes, I'll tell you my fantasies and my past fun (no names) but it will cost you 50p per word.
At the same time what do you say as an icebreaker? If I said did you have fun at the M&G I expect a generic yes. But if they say things about other people I see that as them not being that discrete. An exception to this is if I know the teller in real life as well and they are telling me about mutual friends being present at the M&G. But still no play details required.
A good online icebreaker for new contacts is saying a bit about my day (that could be really boring) and then saying I'm listening to x music - what's your favourite? |
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