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Are couples with bi male unattractive?
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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Why do couples dislike couples with bi males? Are they afraid that the bi male cannot act as straight only if that's the agreement?
Is that the reason why there are so many undercover "straight" man?
It boggles my mind when people say "oh Mr is bi, we don't like couples with bi males" but until now we never got a clear answer to the why, so bringing it up here so see. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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We’re both straight, not Fab Straight/situationally straight/ spaghetti straight. It’s not that it would turn us off but it wouldn’t attract us. It’s the same with Bi women- just does nothing for me. |
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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I don't want to seem I'm complaining, I'm honestly interested in what could be the reasons. Obviously everyone has their own rules in place and totally support that, just curious to understand the reasons that take someone to have such rule. |
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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"We’re both straight, not Fab Straight/situationally straight/ spaghetti straight. It’s not that it would turn us off but it wouldn’t attract us. It’s the same with Bi women- just does nothing for me. "
I get that, Mrs is straight, but we've met with bi women and let them know that Mrs is straight and that is that. We never stopped meeting with a couple just because the female is bi, that's why gets us a bit confused and in search for an answer.
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By *og-ManMan 28 weeks ago
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Because maybe they think a bi man has had sex with other men so is more likely to carry an STI
Or maybe its because the male of the couple doesn't want another man to touch him as he's not bi
Id imagine that that's the top 2 reasons to be honest
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"Why do couples dislike couples with bi males? Are they afraid that the bi male cannot act as straight only if that's the agreement?
Is that the reason why there are so many undercover "straight" man?
It boggles my mind when people say "oh Mr is bi, we don't like couples with bi males" but until now we never got a clear answer to the why, so bringing it up here so see."
It's like me wouldn't meet a straight couple...  coz wouldn't be allowed to touch a lady.we all have our own reasons and needs/wants |
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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"Because maybe they think a bi man has had sex with other men so is more likely to carry an STI
Or maybe its because the male of the couple doesn't want another man to touch him as he's not bi
Id imagine that that's the top 2 reasons to be honest
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I get the STI point, although, that point is kinda moot. Everyone knows that many men on this site are "straight" and swear being straight. Then who in their perfect mind would trust that someone is clean, regardless of their sexual orientation?!?
The second point, of the man being afraid of being touched. Fair point, it's a matter of boundaries and they don't trust that we will keep on the right side of the line, but then again, we are having sex with strangers you have to trust that they are going to behave. We make all boundaries clear so that everyone can have a good time without any unfortunate surprises. We are also very picky upon social meeting, so we don't go with everyone, but we would never reject a social based on sexual orientation, unless they are way or lesbian, but then again, depends, if they are just looking for same room fun and not swapping. Yep, we either like the people or we don't.
But, yes those two points have crossed our minds as well and see to be the most reasonable ones. |
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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"Why do couples dislike couples with bi males? Are they afraid that the bi male cannot act as straight only if that's the agreement?
Is that the reason why there are so many undercover "straight" man?
It boggles my mind when people say "oh Mr is bi, we don't like couples with bi males" but until now we never got a clear answer to the why, so bringing it up here so see.
It's like me wouldn't meet a straight couple... coz wouldn't be allowed to touch a lady.we all have our own reasons and needs/wants"
Now that we understand, a straight person cannot act as a bi person. A bi person can just act as a straight if that's the agreement.
If you guys and us ever met socially we would never go from there, because Mrs is straight and she just can't act bi, but Mr has acted as straight 99% of the times and never meets with men, because doesn’t get horny when being just with the man. Even when the women are just watching things don't "raise to the moment"  |
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This is something we've wondered as well and have never seen a reason other than the, "everyone has their preferences" type of response and the speculative reasons as mentioned above.
Those speculations are of course based on historic and cultural prejudices and misinformation but they're very real for many people. Unfortunate in our opinion but you're not going to easily sway people with such entrenched notions of sexuality and behavior.
We still wonder sometimes but hey, people will be people- would never expect to change anyone's mind but thank you for bringing it up x  |
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Oh Mrs. just reminded me of an exchange she had on Reddit once with a woman who admitted she thought bi men would somehow have a diminished attraction to her, as if sexual attraction is somehow spread between genders. She said she realized it was a misguided notion but couldn't help but feel it anyway and wanted to ensure a man would be "entirely I to her" |
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"Because maybe they think a bi man has had sex with other men so is more likely to carry an STI
Or maybe its because the male of the couple doesn't want another man to touch him as he's not bi
Id imagine that that's the top 2 reasons to be honest
I get the STI point, although, that point is kinda moot. Everyone knows that many men on this site are "straight" and swear being straight. Then who in their perfect mind would trust that someone is clean, regardless of their sexual orientation?!?
The second point, of the man being afraid of being touched. Fair point, it's a matter of boundaries and they don't trust that we will keep on the right side of the line, but then again, we are having sex with strangers you have to trust that they are going to behave. We make all boundaries clear so that everyone can have a good time without any unfortunate surprises. We are also very picky upon social meeting, so we don't go with everyone, but we would never reject a social based on sexual orientation, unless they are way or lesbian, but then again, depends, if they are just looking for same room fun and not swapping. Yep, we either like the people or we don't.
But, yes those two points have crossed our minds as well and see to be the most reasonable ones."
Plenty of "straight" guys daily on my inbox asking to be fucked blablabla . My point is whatever people say on their profile you will never know if is that true or not. Keep it on mind. Thats why I love social or a quick chat before any meeting. |
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"Oh Mrs. just reminded me of an exchange she had on Reddit once with a woman who admitted she thought bi men would somehow have a diminished attraction to her, as if sexual attraction is somehow spread between genders. She said she realized it was a misguided notion but couldn't help but feel it anyway and wanted to ensure a man would be "entirely I to her""
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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"Oh Mrs. just reminded me of an exchange she had on Reddit once with a woman who admitted she thought bi men would somehow have a diminished attraction to her, as if sexual attraction is somehow spread between genders. She said she realized it was a misguided notion but couldn't help but feel it anyway and wanted to ensure a man would be "entirely I to her""
Ahaha, clearly that woman never had swingers fun, she looks like one of those monogamous people that are in their 5th marriage planning on the 6th |
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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"Because maybe they think a bi man has had sex with other men so is more likely to carry an STI
Or maybe its because the male of the couple doesn't want another man to touch him as he's not bi
Id imagine that that's the top 2 reasons to be honest
I get the STI point, although, that point is kinda moot. Everyone knows that many men on this site are "straight" and swear being straight. Then who in their perfect mind would trust that someone is clean, regardless of their sexual orientation?!?
The second point, of the man being afraid of being touched. Fair point, it's a matter of boundaries and they don't trust that we will keep on the right side of the line, but then again, we are having sex with strangers you have to trust that they are going to behave. We make all boundaries clear so that everyone can have a good time without any unfortunate surprises. We are also very picky upon social meeting, so we don't go with everyone, but we would never reject a social based on sexual orientation, unless they are way or lesbian, but then again, depends, if they are just looking for same room fun and not swapping. Yep, we either like the people or we don't.
But, yes those two points have crossed our minds as well and see to be the most reasonable ones.
Plenty of "straight" guys daily on my inbox asking to be fucked blablabla . My point is whatever people say on their profile you will never know if is that true or not. Keep it on mind. Thats why I love social or a quick chat before any meeting. "
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"Because maybe they think a bi man has had sex with other men so is more likely to carry an STI
Or maybe its because the male of the couple doesn't want another man to touch him as he's not bi
Id imagine that that's the top 2 reasons to be honest
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Any Bi men I know test regularly. Not just the SH:24 one which isn't fully comprehensive but go to a clinic for full tests.
It seems testing is less rigorous in the swinging community but in kink and fetish its considered ethical and not doing it regularly is a red flag |
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By *plfeb18 OP Couple 28 weeks ago
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We do it twice a year, once using the sh24 another going up to smithfield's chartermedical.
We don't play that often with other people, so I want to imagine that people that are more active would do similar. But even if people do, we just don't risk it. There are stis that are not curable and despite not being life threatening are a pain, herpes for instance. And others that are just not detectable like some strains of HPV.
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Same. It's honestly the dream to have a night with a bi couple as a single bi man.
As much as Ireland's come a long way in the last twenty years, bi male's are still seen as gay lads pretending to be into girls as a security thing. It's been an issue within my own dating life where I've told two separate girls I've been seeing that I'm bi only for that to be the end of our situation altogether. Generally why I don't even bother telling people now. I seem as straight as the next lad so why bother if people aren't prepared to believe it's a genuine thing. |
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I personally think your skirting around the elephant in the corner. It's homophonic. Plain and simple. I'm bi and I've been openly discriminated against. To say that bi men are more likely to give you an STI is ridiculous. Women are just as likely to be infected. Especially on a swingers site. |
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"I personally think your skirting around the elephant in the corner. It's homophonic. Plain and simple. I'm bi and I've been openly discriminated against. To say that bi men are more likely to give you an STI is ridiculous. Women are just as likely to be infected. Especially on a swingers site. "
Homophobia. Bloody predictive text |
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"I personally think your skirting around the elephant in the corner. It's homophonic. Plain and simple. I'm bi and I've been openly discriminated against. To say that bi men are more likely to give you an STI is ridiculous. Women are just as likely to be infected. Especially on a swingers site. "
Gotta agree. I've always thought this was difficult to explain away any other way  |
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"I personally think your skirting around the elephant in the corner. It's homophonic. Plain and simple. I'm bi and I've been openly discriminated against. To say that bi men are more likely to give you an STI is ridiculous. Women are just as likely to be infected. Especially on a swingers site.
Gotta agree. I've always thought this was difficult to explain away any other way "
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"I personally think your skirting around the elephant in the corner. It's homophonic. Plain and simple. I'm bi and I've been openly discriminated against. To say that bi men are more likely to give you an STI is ridiculous. Women are just as likely to be infected. Especially on a swingers site.
Gotta agree. I've always thought this was difficult to explain away any other way "
Thank you. I feel that people people are hiding behind the argument of, " well that's my choice. As though that somehow justifies their behaviour. Doesn't make it any less homophobic. |
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From my experience (now ATM I haven't done anything bi yet, but I want to try a double BJ from a couple) once couples learn that after I mention it, they are a bit unnerved even if I wasn't suggesting it to said couple |
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Hubby here and I’m straight.
I’ve no issues with bi-males in a couple meet or in a MFM meet.
Once everyone is getting on ,clicks and is having and a good time,it really shouldn’t matter,
Hotwife is straight and we’ve played with couples were the lady is bi. So there’s no difference. |
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Well it's there for everyone to see. Bi sexual males, are the only people who lie about their sexuality. And say their straight. Why is that? Because of discrimination.
I applaud every man. Who has Bi curious or sexual on their profile.
And appeal to all other fab straight guys. Own your sexuality. If you lose friends, then they were never true friends to begin with.
Because until every guy is happy to post whatever their sexuality is. Nothing is going to change. |
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"Well it's there for everyone to see. Bi sexual males, are the only people who lie about their sexuality. And say their straight. Why is that? Because of discrimination.
I applaud every man. Who has Bi curious or sexual on their profile.
And appeal to all other fab straight guys. Own your sexuality. If you lose friends, then they were never true friends to begin with.
Because until every guy is happy to post whatever their sexuality is. Nothing is going to change. "
Well said.
We are only looking for Bi guys at the moment. I'd hate to think they were lying and saying they are Bi but won't touch my partner (m) if it came to it. Likewise all the ones who are curious but won't say it on their profiles, we are missing out on you.
If you say you are straight we 100% respect that. But yet my partner gets lots of Feeld hits with so called straight profiles. |
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