Does anyone else question all these titles & labels. I get so many messages from people who title themselves as being one thing or another, or ask us/me if we/I am dom/sub/ bi/ hotwife/ cuck.. bla bla bla...
What I cannot fathem is how can someone can be just one thing to everyone.
I like different things at different times with different people.. & I love when I get a partner that can read that. I like to know I'm pleasing a sexual partner, by reading them & vice versa from their eye contact, their breathing, their reactions, vocally, their moans or silence, how their body moves in for more or retreats.
When someone just performed their routine on you, it may have driven "Attracta" insane back in the day, & even driven me wild last night but here & now .... Nothing.
I love men, & cock & manliness, the smells, touches, toughness, vulnerability, but most of all reallness.
Anyway, I don't know where I'm going with this post but sure I'll throw it out there for
dissection.
Delilah xx
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I think it's more useful to see these kinds of things as more of a description than a label/title. It doesn't say everything about a person, but may describe one aspect of a person and what they are into. |
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I guess for those who are into a particular dynamic, the label might help them find others who are into the same, or who perhaps want to try it, or make a foray into that dynamic.
For anyone not singularly looking for a specific dynamic, it can be difficult to appreciate that someone might want that and only that. Also I'd imagine for them, that the experience will vary depending on the participants |
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I just tell everyone I’m a chameleon.
They can figure it out themselves and that’s way more craic.
We’re forever evolving and growing it’s a bit silly putting yourself in a box. |
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First two replies, thank-you.. I get what your saying & it makes so much sense.. guess I was trying to see what box I could be in, but love the chameleon concept..
Arah sure aren't ye a bright bunch.. xx |
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In the Fet community, labels are important to them. And those labels seem to define them. In swinging, it's actually quite vanilla( that's the first time I've said that, I've gone too far down the rabbit hole).
Take the word Dom. I don't like to use it, suggestions of domineering, non concensual, aggressive. I'd use the word confident and assertive to describe myself. Alas, that's not a fetish. |
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"I don't even know what some of the terms mean if I'm being honest .....yet I was clever enough to get a feckin tracker mortgage  "
I'm sure you coild find a way to include the tracker on your profile....  |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"In the Fet community, labels are important to them. And those labels seem to define them. In swinging, it's actually quite vanilla( that's the first time I've said that, I've gone too far down the rabbit hole).
Take the word Dom. I don't like to use it, suggestions of domineering, non concensual, aggressive. I'd use the word confident and assertive to describe myself. Alas, that's not a fetish. "
I am part of the Fet community, and I am Madochist Submissive. I enjoy pain as part of play. I’ve always been sexually submissive. I can’t change who I am. I don’t switch. My partner is a Dom- but he is never ever aggressive. He give me what I need. It is always with consent. I have never met a Dom who is aggressive to me. What you have described for being Dom is completely incorrect. A true Dom always respects their sub. I choose who I submit to, and with one word it all ends.
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"I don't even know what some of the terms mean if I'm being honest .....yet I was clever enough to get a feckin tracker mortgage "
Were you clever enough not to be still on a tracker though? 
I don't understand many of the labels but I can see a value in them. There's comfort in conformity even if the conforming is with other non conformist. It's far easier to say I'm a DDT ( for the uninitiated that's disappearing danish toys) than say I like to have pieces of Lego shoved up my Jacksie |
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"In the Fet community, labels are important to them. And those labels seem to define them. In swinging, it's actually quite vanilla( that's the first time I've said that, I've gone too far down the rabbit hole).
Take the word Dom. I don't like to use it, suggestions of domineering, non concensual, aggressive. I'd use the word confident and assertive to describe myself. Alas, that's not a fetish.
I am part of the Fet community, and I am Madochist Submissive. I enjoy pain as part of play. I’ve always been sexually submissive. I can’t change who I am. I don’t switch. My partner is a Dom- but he is never ever aggressive. He give me what I need. It is always with consent. I have never met a Dom who is aggressive to me. What you have described for being Dom is completely incorrect. A true Dom always respects their sub. I choose who I submit to, and with one word it all ends.
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But I'm sure there is more to you than just "Madochist Submissive" right? That doesn't fully describe every aspect of you.
I've had the displeasure of meeting a few aggressive Dom's unfortunately, and SA and physical/mental abuse is far from unheard of in that community. There are good and bad the same as everywhere else. Unfortunately the opportunity for abuse is clearly quite wide here. |
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