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By *cuk4funCouple 45 weeks ago
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"I wouldn't take one for the team..
if someone catfishes u in any way... Good bye
Trust my gut
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This...our first meet was very close to been our last but thank God we met a fabulous cpl afterwards. Hornycouple from meath showed us how great fab can be but we've learned a lot too over the years . Quality over quantity and due diligence is our preference. |
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From the start here ,one of our rules was trust your gut, we've tweaked this continuously as time goes by, not because of us because of others. One thing that we find amazing about here is this really is a small community with alot of great people involved. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I would really, really, really stick to my rules, not let anyone circumvent them. No attached men, most of them are time wasters.
I would 100% value myself, as even though this site is fun, the reduction of normal boundaries is difficult for people to navigate.
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"I would really, really, really stick to my rules, not let anyone circumvent them. No attached men, most of them are time wasters.
I would 100% value myself, as even though this site is fun, the reduction of normal boundaries is difficult for people to navigate.
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Have to value yourself to teach people how to treat you. |
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By *affa31Woman 45 weeks ago
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I probably wouldn’t put myself in a few of the potentially dodgy situations I put myself in but I was in my early 20s and silly  thankfully nothing bad ever happened.
I don’t think I’d change anything else. Every situation was a learning curve and part of who I am today. |
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It's undeniably challenging for
people to navigate the blurring of
normal boundaries, especially
evident here but on other online platforms also. The disappearance of basic manners and respect is sad really. Treating others with the same decency you expect should
be a no-brainer. Sadly, my trust levels have taken a hit due to encounters with people lacking discretion under the guise of being "nice." I am also more aware of those skilled in emotional manipulation or gaslighting, often disguised as the epitome of charm.
Trust your instincts, they rarely lead you astray. |
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Take everything less personally, don't be afraid to get out there as myself and with my own personality.
Be clear from the very outset with myself about what I really want from fab and then go look for it/invite it |
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"I would not be as trusting.
I second this
I third this and trust your intuition it’s hardly ever wrong "
So true. There's a great book called 'the gift of fear' that goes into this. We'll sometimes ignore a feeling that took thousands of years to evolve, specifically for our safety, in order to rationalise something.
Trust yourself. And if someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. The word 'no' is a complete sentence.
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"It's undeniably challenging for
people to navigate the blurring of
normal boundaries, especially
evident here but on other online platforms also. The disappearance of basic manners and respect is sad really. Treating others with the same decency you expect should
be a no-brainer. Sadly, my trust levels have taken a hit due to encounters with people lacking discretion under the guise of being "nice." I am also more aware of those skilled in emotional manipulation or gaslighting, often disguised as the epitome of charm.
Trust your instincts, they rarely lead you astray."
Well said. I have for a long time thought this about any social media. The fervor to be "first" in commenting/reacting/cancelling is fucking nuts. People have forgotten how to sit back, do more research, reflect and come to conclusion on how they feel or understand something. Rather than taking a one sided battle axe to everything. Which I think it leads into the intense need for people to put on a persona that is who they appear to be but behind everything is much more sinister in capability. |
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