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I would attend.
There's so much more to my sexuality than penetrative sex. In the right setting with the right ambiance and of course the right guests I'm sure it would make for a very sexually charged event. |
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I've been to nice kink/carnivale events like that where there was no hard sex allowed but plenty of sexy extras. Like tiny delight said with the right guests and atmosphere it can be a very erotic experience and feast for the senses.
It is hard to fully immerse yourself in the smell of scented candles and feel of lace or leather and touch of someone's lips etc if you're really focused on fucking them. At least for me anyway, but then I can't multitask  |
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"I would attend.
There's so much more to my sexuality than penetrative sex. In the right setting with the right ambiance and of course the right guests I'm sure it would make for a very sexually charged event. "
Agree, we also enjoy soft play as much as penetrative play, but again with the right setting and the right people. Everyone has their own likes/dislikes but for us mechanical sex isn't the end goal, we much prefer sensual play and kink play with equally minded people, if it ends in penetration then so be it, if it doesn't but we enjoy ourselves then that's good enough for us |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"Think we’d enjoy such a party with the right guests and atmosphere. Touch and kissing can be so arousing. M is bi so would girl on girl action be allowed at such a party ?"
Sure look as long as everything is agreed before hand I'd imagine it would be
Would man with man be as acceptable
I'd imagine not |
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Would be like organising a game of basketball and someone trying to persuade us that it's ok that they took all the hoops down, and it's just as much fun just bouncing the ball aimlessly about the pitch |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"Years and years ago on a different site myself and an ex went to one nobody told me it was a soft play only party so needless to say there was some looks when full sex started happening "
I actually assumed that couples could have full sex but only with each other and everyone else only hand/ mouth / toys as soft play |
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By *aid backMan 40 weeks ago
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"Years and years ago on a different site myself and an ex went to one nobody told me it was a soft play only party so needless to say there was some looks when full sex started happening
I actually assumed that couples could have full sex but only with each other and everyone else only hand/ mouth / toys as soft play "
This was someone else's Mrs that decided to mount me while I had someone sat on a face  |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"Years and years ago on a different site myself and an ex went to one nobody told me it was a soft play only party so needless to say there was some looks when full sex started happening
I actually assumed that couples could have full sex but only with each other and everyone else only hand/ mouth / toys as soft play
This was someone else's Mrs that decided to mount me while I had someone sat on a face "
Its not as if you could hear someone complain  |
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By *aid backMan 40 weeks ago
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"Years and years ago on a different site myself and an ex went to one nobody told me it was a soft play only party so needless to say there was some looks when full sex started happening
I actually assumed that couples could have full sex but only with each other and everyone else only hand/ mouth / toys as soft play
This was someone else's Mrs that decided to mount me while I had someone sat on a face
Its not as if you could hear someone complain "
I didn't it was only later there was a bit of a row between the woman and her husband |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"Yes Bog! I'd love an adult soft play area. Slides and ball pools with the padded mangle thing you can fire yourself through. Count me in. "
I was thinking throw in jelly or a gallon of lube just to make it interesting |
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"I find it had to think it a good idea.
I would imagine a lot of people would just give in temptation. "
Probably. Also I'd imagine many backing out at the last min once they realise they really weren't going to get their hole. |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"I find it had to think it a good idea.
I would imagine a lot of people would just give in temptation. "
But giving in with their partner to temptation would be normal I assume ( like most things I'm making this up as I go along )
Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex |
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I personally think it would be a no pressure way for couples and singles to introduce themselves to the lifestyle , if they haven't been to a party or such before. They wouldn't feel under pressure to "perform". These soft play parties have been a great success in the UK for many years. |
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Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex "
I met a couple before and the arrangement was very clear that there would be no penetrative sex or kissing (I think they were insecure about it) and that I was there to receive oral only. I couldn't go down on the woman either.
It was grand because it was very clear before we met but im not a massive fan of getting blowjobs. They enjoyed it though! |
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Obviously we all make up our own minds as to what we are happy with and nobody should step over agreed boundaries... but I feel I wouldn't want to be second fiddle on a meet and watch the others doing things that I'd like to do but I'm not allowed. |
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Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex
I met a couple before and the arrangement was very clear that there would be no penetrative sex or kissing (I think they were insecure about it) and that I was there to receive oral only. I couldn't go down on the woman either.
It was grand because it was very clear before we met but im not a massive fan of getting blowjobs. They enjoyed it though!"
So you basically watched? Or did you need to turn your back as well?  |
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Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex
I met a couple before and the arrangement was very clear that there would be no penetrative sex or kissing (I think they were insecure about it) and that I was there to receive oral only. I couldn't go down on the woman either.
It was grand because it was very clear before we met but im not a massive fan of getting blowjobs. They enjoyed it though!"
But you was made aware of this before meeting and still met them!
If it wasn't going to be something you enjoyed then why still meet? Not criticising but just wondering as you said your not that into blowjobs |
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Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex
I met a couple before and the arrangement was very clear that there would be no penetrative sex or kissing (I think they were insecure about it) and that I was there to receive oral only. I couldn't go down on the woman either.
It was grand because it was very clear before we met but im not a massive fan of getting blowjobs. They enjoyed it though!
But you was made aware of this before meeting and still met them!
If it wasn't going to be something you enjoyed then why still meet? Not criticising but just wondering as you said your not that into blowjobs "
Yes, I'd love a soft play party. I'll bring my massage table and oils. |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex
I met a couple before and the arrangement was very clear that there would be no penetrative sex or kissing (I think they were insecure about it) and that I was there to receive oral only. I couldn't go down on the woman either.
It was grand because it was very clear before we met but im not a massive fan of getting blowjobs. They enjoyed it though!
But you was made aware of this before meeting and still met them!
If it wasn't going to be something you enjoyed then why still meet? Not criticising but just wondering as you said your not that into blowjobs
Yes, I'd love a soft play party. I'll bring my massage table and oils. "
Ok so after Toxic you're the first on the party list |
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By *s LollyWoman 40 weeks ago
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Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex
I met a couple before and the arrangement was very clear that there would be no penetrative sex or kissing (I think they were insecure about it) and that I was there to receive oral only. I couldn't go down on the woman either.
It was grand because it was very clear before we met but im not a massive fan of getting blowjobs. They enjoyed it though!
But you was made aware of this before meeting and still met them!
If it wasn't going to be something you enjoyed then why still meet? Not criticising but just wondering as you said your not that into blowjobs
Yes, I'd love a soft play party. I'll bring my massage table and oils.
Ok so after Toxic you're the first on the party list "
Cough Cough what about me |
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But you was made aware of this before meeting and still met them!
If it wasn't going to be something you enjoyed then why still meet? Not criticising but just wondering as you said your not that into blowjobs "
I mean I don't mind blowjobs... 
Yeah the extra info is that it was their first time meeting another guy and just wanted some soft play really. They didn't even fuck themselves. But I like meeting people and trying things and they were a sexy couple so I said I'd help them out anyway with their first mmf experience
I'd have been disappointed if that's all they wanted if they weren't very clear and up front, but they absolutely were and I agreed to it so it was all good! |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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Are there couples that have MFM with one of the M not having penetrative sex
I met a couple before and the arrangement was very clear that there would be no penetrative sex or kissing (I think they were insecure about it) and that I was there to receive oral only. I couldn't go down on the woman either.
It was grand because it was very clear before we met but im not a massive fan of getting blowjobs. They enjoyed it though!
But you was made aware of this before meeting and still met them!
If it wasn't going to be something you enjoyed then why still meet? Not criticising but just wondering as you said your not that into blowjobs
Yes, I'd love a soft play party. I'll bring my massage table and oils.
Ok so after Toxic you're the first on the party list
Cough Cough what about me "
How are you with your hands |
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Hmmm that’s a good question!….
It’s not something we’re looking for, but can see where everyone is coming from.
We only have certain opportunities to play and would prefer a full on meet (gets rid of all our frustrations lol)
We use socials as ‘soft meets’ with the added bonus of full play with the right sparkles
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"I totally get the idea of softplay and think there's definitely a place for it between 2, 3 or 4 people but in a full on party I just cant see it being workable.
Too many moving parts as such "
At least half of the party is going to build up such fervour from all the foreplay, that they'll just have to start fucking! |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"I totally get the idea of softplay and think there's definitely a place for it between 2, 3 or 4 people but in a full on party I just cant see it being workable.
Too many moving parts as such
At least half of the party is going to build up such fervour from all the foreplay, that they'll just have to start fucking! "
But full sex with their partner is within the parameters of soft play is it not
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"I totally get the idea of softplay and think there's definitely a place for it between 2, 3 or 4 people but in a full on party I just cant see it being workable.
Too many moving parts as such
At least half of the party is going to build up such fervour from all the foreplay, that they'll just have to start fucking!
But full sex with their partner is within the parameters of soft play is it not
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I could be wrong, but I always assumed that there was no p-in-v at all at a soft play party. |
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By *1CorkCouple 40 weeks ago
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Think this would leave us a little frustrated and wanting more. If it was attended by couples that we had prospect of making connections with for a future full swap meet, then yes - like a supercharged tactile social. If soft swap couples only in attendance, then it’d be a negative from us. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"How about a softplay no kissing party?
That sounds like fun
Kissing seems to be a bigger issue for some couples completely "
This used to irk me but I could completely forego kissing now myself. I also no longer believe that shite about a correlation between food kissing and a good fuck....one is not a guarantee of the other |
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I dont understand 
If you want to go to a party and soft play then just go to a party and soft play! There should never be any pressure to full play if you dont want to.
I dont understand why there'd be a party where restrictions like that would be put on all attendees. Surely the attendees own wishes, and obv those who they are playing with, are what is really important.
Not that ive really noticed much about what other people are doing at sex parties but surely one couple/group can soft play beside another couple/group in full play? Or am i missing the point on this?
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"I dont understand
If you want to go to a party and soft play then just go to a party and soft play! There should never be any pressure to full play if you dont want to.
I dont understand why there'd be a party where restrictions like that would be put on all attendees. Surely the attendees own wishes, and obv those who they are playing with, are what is really important.
Not that ive really noticed much about what other people are doing at sex parties but surely one couple/group can soft play beside another couple/group in full play? Or am i missing the point on this?
Mrs Bugs"
I should have said there should never be any pressure to play at all! Whether that be soft or full! |
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"I dont understand
If you want to go to a party and soft play then just go to a party and soft play! There should never be any pressure to full play if you dont want to.
I dont understand why there'd be a party where restrictions like that would be put on all attendees. Surely the attendees own wishes, and obv those who they are playing with, are what is really important.
Not that ive really noticed much about what other people are doing at sex parties but surely one couple/group can soft play beside another couple/group in full play? Or am i missing the point on this?
Mrs Bugs"
Maybe some soft play couples wouldn't be comfortable with a party with full swap couples, sometimes full swap couples (and yes we have met some ourselves) would keep trying to convince them to go further than they are comfortable with
Just a different outlook on why this could work, as I'm sure full swap only parties happen |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"How about a softplay no kissing party?
That sounds like fun
Kissing seems to be a bigger issue for some couples completely
This used to irk me but I could completely forego kissing now myself. I also no longer believe that shite about a correlation between food kissing and a good fuck....one is not a guarantee of the other"
How does a guy fuck up a fuck, if you know what I mean, what makes it a bad fuck, other than he being all selfish in the play |
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"I dont understand
If you want to go to a party and soft play then just go to a party and soft play! There should never be any pressure to full play if you dont want to.
I dont understand why there'd be a party where restrictions like that would be put on all attendees. Surely the attendees own wishes, and obv those who they are playing with, are what is really important.
Not that ive really noticed much about what other people are doing at sex parties but surely one couple/group can soft play beside another couple/group in full play? Or am i missing the point on this?
Mrs Bugs
Maybe some soft play couples wouldn't be comfortable with a party with full swap couples, sometimes full swap couples (and yes we have met some ourselves) would keep trying to convince them to go further than they are comfortable with
Just a different outlook on why this could work, as I'm sure full swap only parties happen "
Sorry to hear that you've found yourself in a situation where people were trying to convince you to do something you are not comfortable doing. That is really NOT acceptable behaviour. In my experience it is far from the norm. |
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"I dont understand
If you want to go to a party and soft play then just go to a party and soft play! There should never be any pressure to full play if you dont want to.
I dont understand why there'd be a party where restrictions like that would be put on all attendees. Surely the attendees own wishes, and obv those who they are playing with, are what is really important.
Not that ive really noticed much about what other people are doing at sex parties but surely one couple/group can soft play beside another couple/group in full play? Or am i missing the point on this?
Mrs Bugs
Maybe some soft play couples wouldn't be comfortable with a party with full swap couples, sometimes full swap couples (and yes we have met some ourselves) would keep trying to convince them to go further than they are comfortable with
Just a different outlook on why this could work, as I'm sure full swap only parties happen
Sorry to hear that you've found yourself in a situation where people were trying to convince you to do something you are not comfortable doing. That is really NOT acceptable behaviour. In my experience it is far from the norm. "
We no its not thr norm as we've also met some amazing people who are full swaps but have respected our boundaries, just feel some soft swap couples wouldn't to be in that situation |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"This sounds like something we would love to attend,
For some reason our couples page can't post on the forums,
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Try the advice on this thread to sort that out
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/help/1571364 |
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"I dont understand
If you want to go to a party and soft play then just go to a party and soft play! There should never be any pressure to full play if you dont want to.
I dont understand why there'd be a party where restrictions like that would be put on all attendees. Surely the attendees own wishes, and obv those who they are playing with, are what is really important.
Not that ive really noticed much about what other people are doing at sex parties but surely one couple/group can soft play beside another couple/group in full play? Or am i missing the point on this?
Mrs Bugs
Maybe some soft play couples wouldn't be comfortable with a party with full swap couples, sometimes full swap couples (and yes we have met some ourselves) would keep trying to convince them to go further than they are comfortable with
Just a different outlook on why this could work, as I'm sure full swap only parties happen
Sorry to hear that you've found yourself in a situation where people were trying to convince you to do something you are not comfortable doing. That is really NOT acceptable behaviour. In my experience it is far from the norm.
We no its not thr norm as we've also met some amazing people who are full swaps but have respected our boundaries, just feel some soft swap couples wouldn't to be in that situation "
Nobody wants to be in any situation where people are trying to convince them to do something they dont want to do, no matter what it is... kiss, soft play, full play, kinks, etc etc anything really! Thankfully it is not the norm! |
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By *og-Man OP Man 40 weeks ago
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"Just reading about this in The Lounge
Would you attend an event where soft play only was acceptable and fully agreed by everyone in advance
So like a social event but with handjobs?"
Making sure to wash your hands before putting them into the box of donuts |
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"Just reading about this in The Lounge
Would you attend an event where soft play only was acceptable and fully agreed by everyone in advance
So like a social event but with handjobs?"
Haha now i see the appeal! |
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"Just reading about this in The Lounge
Would you attend an event where soft play only was acceptable and fully agreed by everyone in advance
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Yes.
Just like we would attend a social where no play allowed or expected. |
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By *og-Man OP Man 31 weeks ago
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"Just reading about this in The Lounge
Would you attend an event where soft play only was acceptable and fully agreed by everyone in advance
Yes.
Just like we would attend a social where no play allowed or expected. "
Every social over here is like that to be honest
Meet lots of fab friends in a hotel venue
Nothing expected and any arrangements can be made in private for later upstairs if you want to |
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"Just reading about this in The Lounge
Would you attend an event where soft play only was acceptable and fully agreed by everyone in advance
Yes.
Just like we would attend a social where no play allowed or expected.
Every social over here is like that to be honest
Meet lots of fab friends in a hotel venue
Nothing expected and any arrangements can be made in private for later upstairs if you want to "
We've never been to a social where play is allowed.
Find pubs generally frown upon shagging in the bar.
Well, maybe apart from a few select ones. |
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As above, socials are usually no play (beyond stuff you'd get in any normal public place), and then play parties where full play is allowed. Or course everyone is free to just enjoy soft play at any play party if that's what they want. |
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By *ACOLCouple 31 weeks ago
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"Soft play party would an awesome night, several people have already mentioned it, but I'll re illiterate.
Foreplay is the most sensual and excitement building part of a play session. Xxtina "
Totally!!! We need that from our couple, although full swap is nice! Soft swap is the ultimate reward!
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, would be a lot of fun no doubt.
