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I've had a few negative experiences in my time here, most of which have been either initiated or perpetuated by people who are very far removed from their public image.
They are so invested in the validation they receive here that they will stoop to any level to maintain that.
I often wonder if all their recent verifications were privy to the rumours, tales and demonisation spread by these "lovely people" about them over a period of time would they see them in a different light?
If you are aware that others have been talking about you or have been warned about certain characters take a step back for a second and join the dots.
The first piece of the jigsaw is the informant. |
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"I've had a few negative experiences in my time here, most of which have been either initiated or perpetuated by people who are very far removed from their public image.
They are so invested in the validation they receive here that they will stoop to any level to maintain that.
I often wonder if all their recent verifications were privy to the rumours, tales and demonisation spread by these "lovely people" about them over a period of time would they see them in a different light?
If you are aware that others have been talking about you or have been warned about certain characters take a step back for a second and join the dots.
The first piece of the jigsaw is the informant. "
Juicy! I don't normally go for gossip, but this sounds fun. |
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By *og-ManMan 51 weeks ago
somewhere |
This week alone in the papers in Dublin
A man who should be on the sex register in England disappeared after being found hiding out in Dublin for 5 months and offering his services as a handyman to woman
Can't help think of the anonymous posters who put up on the forums that they're handymen who'll do work in your house for sexual favours
Also another court case and another website where a man used it to find women to attack and rob
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Terrible things happen and they do. We need to think about safety and how we need to protect ourselves and our privacy in a pragmatic way. How much information do we give freely about ourselves, our families and where we live. Whether we like it or not there are bad people using sites like these to inflict serious harm.
I've come to learn not everyone is your friend or wants the best for you.
This article may be distressing to some. Use your own discretion to read.
https://www.thejournal.ie/clare-man-charged-with-inciting-two-other-men-to-rape-woman-6294525-Feb2024/?utm_source=shortlink |
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By *astello OP Woman 51 weeks ago
Far far away |
This forum post isnt to create fear, but for me it brings back into focus that not everthing appears as it seems. I have had a few cases of persistence to the person who thought it amusing to out my public life.. So he knows, l know.. Im sure theyre are many on here who are coerced, bullied and intimated.
This Netflix movie brought this back into focus. |
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I've only had one significantly bad experience here. Despite no red flags, despite me making it abundantly clear that I did not want sex on a first meet, despite me saying no over and over, my underwear was forceably ripped off me and unprotected penetration attempted. When I have to physically fight to get away from someone, I will die on the hill of warning others about that person.
He may not have ever done that before and he may not ever do it again, personally I don't care...the potential for sexual violence is there. |
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I have mostly had enjoyable interactions on here with relatively sane people who don't take themselves too seriously.
But I have also received some vindictive comments from some fab folk who believe they have a monopoly on selfrighteousness.
Luckily my many years of life experience have taught me how to respect difference and ignore ignorance.
And btw at the moment my block list stands at "0".
Vive la Difference!
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"I've only had one significantly bad experience here. Despite no red flags, despite me making it abundantly clear that I did not want sex on a first meet, despite me saying no over and over, my underwear was forceably ripped off me and unprotected penetration attempted. When I have to physically fight to get away from someone, I will die on the hill of warning others about that person.
He may not have ever done that before and he may not ever do it again, personally I don't care...the potential for sexual violence is there. "
Shocking and disgusting 
That's a terrible experience to go through.. |
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By *tmanMan 51 weeks ago
newry |
"I've only had one significantly bad experience here. Despite no red flags, despite me making it abundantly clear that I did not want sex on a first meet, despite me saying no over and over, my underwear was forceably ripped off me and unprotected penetration attempted. When I have to physically fight to get away from someone, I will die on the hill of warning others about that person.
He may not have ever done that before and he may not ever do it again, personally I don't care...the potential for sexual violence is there. "
Hope you reported him and he gets what he deserves. When a woman or man says no, that has to be respected and accepted. |
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By *ustBoWoman 51 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"I've only had one significantly bad experience here. Despite no red flags, despite me making it abundantly clear that I did not want sex on a first meet, despite me saying no over and over, my underwear was forceably ripped off me and unprotected penetration attempted. When I have to physically fight to get away from someone, I will die on the hill of warning others about that person.
He may not have ever done that before and he may not ever do it again, personally I don't care...the potential for sexual violence is there. "
That's horrific and should never happen to anyone.
I had a guy get very pushy with me on a social meet and I also had to fight him off but not to the extreme that it happened to you. I have spoken about it before on here. It's disgusting some people think that way and think it's acceptable.
As for the program it's scary how far people will go and how obsessed they get about someone.
I agree with tiny delight about being careful about what you share about yourself,because some unfortunately just want to gather information and pass it on or use it against you.
That being said most of my interactions on here have been good with only a few rotten apples in between. |
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I've never had a bad experience. I do my due diligence before every meet and don't get led by my dick. If I meet for a social, I like to choose the venue, usually a local hotel, in the foyer or bar, under the cameras. I always have a wingman who knows where I am. I have met some "strange" people here, but that's just a curiousity of Fab. I'm aware that some fabber's I've met, have shared my name and phone number at socials. I don't like that, but can live with it. |
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"I've never had a bad experience. I do my due diligence before every meet and don't get led by my dick. If I meet for a social, I like to choose the venue, usually a local hotel, in the foyer or bar, under the cameras. I always have a wingman who knows where I am. I have met some "strange" people here, but that's just a curiousity of Fab. I'm aware that some fabber's I've met, have shared my name and phone number at socials. I don't like that, but can live with it. "
Bad experiences can and do happen even when one does their due diligence |
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"I've never had a bad experience. I do my due diligence before every meet and don't get led by my dick. If I meet for a social, I like to choose the venue, usually a local hotel, in the foyer or bar, under the cameras. I always have a wingman who knows where I am. I have met some "strange" people here, but that's just a curiousity of Fab. I'm aware that some fabber's I've met, have shared my name and phone number at socials. I don't like that, but can live with it. "
I've spoken often enough on here about my very first fab meet 8 years ago.
I met her twice for coffee socials in public places and we chatted for weeks before going to an hotel.
She had deliberately neglected to tell me what her kink was and punched me full in the face and drove her knee into my balls without warning.
She wanted me to retaliate but I told her she had picked the wrong person for that shit and if she had been honest with me from the start it never would have gone as far as the hotel.
I left her in the room I had paid for and left the site a few days later thinking everyone here was a loon.
I've never made the same mistake again but I have met people socially who have amazing fab profiles and are delightful to chat to in person but complete psychopaths as soon as you spurn their advances or dare to say you aren't interested. |
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She had deliberately neglected to tell me what her kink was and punched me full in the face and drove her knee into my balls without warning.
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You'd imagine that type of kink is a bit more niche so the chances she was likely to surprise convert someone into exploring it with her via a punch in the face and a knee into the balls is quite slim odds I'd imagine 
What a strange experience  |
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By *aseylee324Couple 51 weeks ago
Valley of Squinting Windows |
I think we've all seen psycho drama played out in public here by people with apparently no control over their own impulses or feelings. They're the tip of the iceberg given how many people are likely to be more sophisticated in the art of deception. Be careful always, not everyone has your best interests at heart and sometimes, they're the very people who are nice as pie on the forums. |
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Nothing surprises me on here but I genuinely do wonder what goes through some people's heads when they are lamenting negative experiences or storytelling but surround themselves with forumites who know everyone's stories.
They will tell you anything and everything about anyone and everyone except themselves.
It can't really be that difficult to see the links but for some it obviously is. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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We met and got talking to a couple through fab naturally. Really down to earth and now they're really good friends.
Another couple reached out to us got talking and so on. Chatting away and you know yourself after a while the vibe felt off so we started to withdraw and politely decline invites and so on.
Made the mistake one night of telling them our plans for a weekend. We were heading out to our fab friends for a weekend of fun.
Out of the blue the guy in the odd couple decides to go through some of verifications and manages to track down our friends. He then starts quizzing the lady of said couple about us.
Asking details, how we met, where are we going and then decides that he would try to pressure said couple for an invite.
Our friend told us that about all of this so it was left to me to then try to put them straight.
It was just a cluster fuck and really off putting. It got to the point that the female of the odd couple ended up apologizing for her partner's behaviour, but honestly it came across as a ploy to try and get us to bite the bullet and meet with them.... Just really odd behaviour |
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