I think that's harsh. It's uncomfortable to say You don't really do it for me. I generally ask/send face pic if I feel there is a connection and I'd still meet for a social anyway. I'm finding that a face pic has no baring on the attraction I feel when I meet someone. |
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I think it's impolite to ask without sending one first. And it's certainly impolite to ask and then immediately block if not interested.
When I'm asked I will point out that the person asking should send first. If they don't like that then it was never meant to be.
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"I've had this happen to me, chat for a bit send a face pic (usually first and none in return) then get blocked  "
Buy why would you assume that because you send a face pic, the recipient will send one back? |
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"I've had this happen to me, chat for a bit send a face pic (usually first and none in return) then get blocked
Buy why would you assume that because you send a face pic, the recipient will send one back? "
I think if you’re asked for a face pic and send one, it’s not unreasonable to expect one in return. It should also be okay to say you’re not interested without any unpleasantness |
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"I've had this happen to me, chat for a bit send a face pic (usually first and none in return) then get blocked
Buy why would you assume that because you send a face pic, the recipient will send one back?
I think if you’re asked for a face pic and send one, it’s not unreasonable to expect one in return. It should also be okay to say you’re not interested without any unpleasantness "
It does feel natural to expect a photo back but from the point of view of a person who isn't interested there's no point in sending one.
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I suppose it’s the fact that people want to be nice and don’t have the heart to say look I’m not into you, plus from some of the comments from people’s profiles the abusive messages start if they don’t get a reply, I think that’s why the block button is used |
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I think I'd prefer a reply that said "thanks for the mail and picture but I don't think you're my type" than no reply or blocked but I guess that must depend on how many mails people are getting.
Id love to know what sort of mail count is normal especially for women on here. Anyone want to share. |
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Personally I've no problem telling someone who sends a photo with their first mail that they're not my type in a polite reply.
Back in a day when I used to entertain the "let's chat for a bit before exchanging photos" brigade - I found it to be extremely unpleasant and awkward to tell someone that although the banter is great, there is no chance of me ever having sex with them. Solution - I now avoid having any conversation with anyone who doesn't send a face pic with the opening message or one after.
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By *ogladyWoman 42 weeks ago
The bog |
I'm not gonna to meet someone who I don't know what they look like..not only is it that I need to be attracted to them (might seem vein to some but it's law of nature that people end up together because of attraction) but it is also a safety issue... |
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"I think I'd prefer a reply that said "thanks for the mail and picture but I don't think you're my type" than no reply or blocked but I guess that must depend on how many mails people are getting.
Id love to know what sort of mail count is normal especially for women on here. Anyone want to share. "
I get on average about 20 per day. Not many, but replying to all eats into the time I spend on Fab, and time that I could be spending having meaningful interactions with people who (a) are my type, (b) I'm already having conversations with, and (c) using the forum. Add to that the message volume almost always increases when online.
Who wants to spend all their time here answering initial messages? How are you ever meant to cultivate a connection with someone if you spend all your time doing Fabmin?
I'm answer to the OP, you're likely just not their type. It's a clumsy way of handling it but, as HC said, it gets exponentially more awkward to say "I'm not physically attracted to you" the longer you chat with someone. |
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By *aseylee324Couple 42 weeks ago
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We neither request not provide face pics, much easier establish attraction or lack thereof in a quick social meet. Plus there are far too many nosey and indiscreet people on here who swap pics with third parties without permission.
If people don't like our approach, they needn't meet us.
Generally though, I would have thought a request for a pic should have the asker's own pic attached. |
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"We neither request not provide face pics, much easier establish attraction or lack thereof in a quick social meet. Plus there are far too many nosey and indiscreet people on here who swap pics with third parties without permission.
If people don't like our approach, they needn't meet us.
Generally though, I would have thought a request for a pic should have the asker's own pic attached."
I very rarely send face pictures after finding ones from years ago when I first joined here uploaded on certain porn sites. I only found out recently after using the face recognition site pimeye. So I urge people to be cautious about sending them |
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I send a face pic in the first few messages, or as an opener, or as soon as I'm asked at least. Saves time. I know how many messages couples and single women get on here, I've been part of a couples profile and I know the hours of fabmin to get through everyone.
Certainly don't have that as a single guy 
If I'm blocked immediately that's fine. Not their type, or as someone said they might know me and just have a panic block.
'No thanks' is a perfectly reasonable response.
I will say being ghosted is a little annoying though! |
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I very rarely send face pictures after finding ones from years ago when I first joined here uploaded on certain porn sites. I only found out recently after using the face recognition site pimeye. So I urge people to be cautious about sending them "
Just curious were they sexy face pics? Just cos there are some sites that just trawl the net for regular face pics so nobody is safe really. Or maybe I'm too accepting of that.
I've definitely had my vids end up on porn sites |
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I've never once asked for a facepic in all the years I've been here.
I've never attached one to a message either.
If a profile asks for that in their bio I have skipped on passed.
As others have said, some people are too free and easy with what they are prepared to pass on to others and while they may be careful with their own info and images, they don't apply that principle to what they have collected from others.
I may share a pic with someone I've already agreed to meet so we will recognise one another in the coffee shop but then again I may not. |
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"Is there not a group on other social media where ladies can drop a pic into and other ladies comment on the pic. I've heard it's savage on the men folk  "
Yes, and quite unnecessarily nasty from what I've heard. And a group for 'real' savage verifications that nobody would put on their own profile.
But to be fair there's also groups like that for the women: 'rate a slut'-type groups etc
I know some women then who refuse to join those groups discussing men and also red flag those who engage in that sorta thing.
Honestly though if you start getting overly nervous about all that you'd never do anything on here. |
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By *eijaWoman 42 weeks ago
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OP it's totally rude! Obviously a sign of no interest but no need to be rude about it...the way some couples treat guys is just awful..the positive from this is they showed you straight away the kinda people they are...would you really want to meet someone like that?
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We've had this happen recently (they didnt block us but) we swapped "direct" kil pics but doubted them as as soon as they were swapped the male said the female had decided not to swing in the end and it would be just him. Politely declined and the following week get a message saying she wanted to again so this time asked to do a video call to verify them as a couple video on and see them both, the camera was quickly moved away to which the female says to the male "(name) they can't see us" and then call disconnected. Sent them a message and said it was ok if we weren't their cup of tea but could just say instead of cutting call" they never replied. It's harsh to tell someone same but i dont think we look any diff to pics we had sent so unsure what happened. We didn't loose any sleep over it.Xx |
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