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Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview |
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview"
Maybe it's your interview technique  |
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
Maybe it's your interview technique "
I assure you IM aware of that, so I reframe From doing it |
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
Maybe it's your interview technique
I assure you IM aware of that, so I reframe From doing it"
doing what? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
Maybe it's your interview technique
I assure you IM aware of that, so I reframe From doing it
doing what?"
Conversing in such a way where it seems like a interview, there could be better feedback/interest is all IM saying |
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It seems like a lot of hard work but that's the way it is here. It takes a bit of effort to arrange a meet and before you get to that stage you gotta like what you hear and see about that person/couple.
The girls that I know here are not looking to ride every guy on here and are put off with the every holes a goal mentality.
We are not all the same, what works for one girl might not work for another.
Guys that put in the effort seem to do better in my experience. Nothing wrong with asking for a coffee first to show your genuine. Better having a 'met for coffee' verification than a webcam one in my humble opinion. We all have to start somewhere.
Show me your pics and ya fancy a fuck messages get ya nowhere. 
Stick with it and hope you find what you're looking for. xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
Maybe it's your interview technique
I assure you IM aware of that, so I reframe From doing it
doing what?
Conversing in such a way where it seems like a interview, there could be better feedback/interest is all IM saying"
Unfortunately as has been said before, with the high ratio of men to women, it either takes an outstanding message or you just happen to get lucky it seems. |
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"It seems like a lot of hard work but that's the way it is here. It takes a bit of effort to arrange a meet and before you get to that stage you gotta like what you hear and see about that person/couple.
The girls that I know here are not looking to ride every guy on here and are put off with the every holes a goal mentality.
We are not all the same, what works for one girl might not work for another.
Guys that put in the effort seem to do better in my experience. Nothing wrong with asking for a coffee first to show your genuine. Better having a 'met for coffee' verification than a webcam one in my humble opinion. We all have to start somewhere.
Show me your pics and ya fancy a fuck messages get ya nowhere.
Stick with it and hope you find what you're looking for. xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
Maybe it's your interview technique
I assure you IM aware of that, so I reframe From doing it
doing what?
Conversing in such a way where it seems like a interview, there could be better feedback/interest is all IM saying
Unfortunately as has been said before, with the high ratio of men to women, it either takes an outstanding message or you just happen to get lucky it seems."
I agree with you there,,,but I think we should loosen up a tad... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree with you there,,,but I think we should loosen up a tad...
Lube is good for that "
Mentally not physically, I would go to the gym if that was the case |
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"I agree with you there,,,but I think we should loosen up a tad...
Lube is good for that
Mentally not physically, I would go to the gym if that was the case "
Watching a little porn might relax your mind 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
Maybe it's your interview technique
I assure you IM aware of that, so I reframe From doing it
doing what?
Conversing in such a way where it seems like a interview, there could be better feedback/interest is all IM saying
Unfortunately as has been said before, with the high ratio of men to women, it either takes an outstanding message or you just happen to get lucky it seems.
I agree with you there,,,but I think we should loosen up a tad..."
What do you mean? I was only giving you an answer to your question  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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why dont you try a meet and greet or a party that way a lot of females and cpls will have met you and chatted and hopefully you can take it from there any single guys we have met has been like this so much easier i would never meet a guy from just chattin on line tried it that way and it just dident work for us you really cant beat a face to face ........hope it works out |
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"I agree with you there,,,but I think we should loosen up a tad...
Lube is good for that
Mentally not physically, I would go to the gym if that was the case
Watching a little porn might relax your mind
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Its certainly relaxed my mind,,,perhaps a tad too much,, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"why dont you try a meet and greet or a party that way a lot of females and cpls will have met you and chatted and hopefully you can take it from there any single guys we have met has been like this so much easier i would never meet a guy from just chattin on line tried it that way and it just dident work for us you really cant beat a face to face ........hope it works out"
Good advice, will take it on board |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It seems like a lot of hard work but that's the way it is here. It takes a bit of effort to arrange a meet and before you get to that stage you gotta like what you hear and see about that person/couple.
The girls that I know here are not looking to ride every guy on here and are put off with the every holes a goal mentality.
We are not all the same, what works for one girl might not work for another.
Guys that put in the effort seem to do better in my experience. Nothing wrong with asking for a coffee first to show your genuine. Better having a 'met for coffee' verification than a webcam one in my humble opinion. We all have to start somewhere.
Show me your pics and ya fancy a fuck messages get ya nowhere.
Stick with it and hope you find what you're looking for. xx
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Lexxi...
Totally agree with you there and absolutely love the "every holes a goal" phrase! 
Personally, I like to send an introductory email that shows youve taken the time to look and more importantly READ the persons profile. Tailor it to appeal to some of the desires and interests that person has.
If you get a PFO or dont recieve a reply within a few days, simply move on. No need to get all bitter and twisted about it, have a little respect for yourself and the individual you emailed.
If you get a positive response, then it's an opportunity that you really should take on board and take time to get to know the person/s. Whilst there are some on the site, most people are not on here for the wham-bam experience.
My mantra here is "you reap what you sow", invest a little of yourself and you might just be surprised how much you get in return! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have been swinging for a while now, both here in Ireland and the UK. One general observation I would make is that in Ireland women place a great deal of emphasis on chemistry and have a preference of taking things almost to the point of a relationship. I am not saying they want a relationship but the general conversation is steered a long way towards it.
I found in the UK that although chemistry was important the conversations where several notches below. |
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"why dont you try a meet and greet or a party that way a lot of females and cpls will have met you and chatted and hopefully you can take it from there any single guys we have met has been like this so much easier i would never meet a guy from just chattin on line tried it that way and it just dident work for us you really cant beat a face to face ........hope it works out
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By (user no longer on site)
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Magyar...
I would agree.. Nice to meet you at the Limerick m&g by the way. Even though you said my eyes were scary and did I wear contacts. But you have always been a gent anytime I've met you..
People certainly do get their panties in a twist about non replies etc and I do understand the frustration. As you say it's best to move on and never burn your bridges with that person. Further on down the line you might meet at a gathering or m&g and it can be embarrassing if you've acted the shithead from behind your laptop. Lol.
Yes you do reap what you sow and just cause you want it now doesn't mean you'll get it now but who knows you might get it next week or further down the swing road. Lol.
It's a very small community of those actively meeting.
Meet and greets are a great place to start for sure.
Just a thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lexxi...
Ah Limerick seems like a distant memory now, but those eyes have haunted me ever since! It was a delightful surprise to bump into you again, always an absolute pleasure when our paths do happen to cross. 
Meet and greets are fabulous social/sexual events that present a great opportunity to put faces to names and headless body shots from profile pictures! Having the opportunity to meet people in a no-pressure and fun environment is certainly the best way to enhance any of the contacts made online.
Lexxi, being the eternal optimist here, I look forward to bumping into you further down the swing road. Hopefully we will get the opportunity to do plenty of reaping!!  |
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview"
You afaird of a bit of hard work or something. Hard work is always worth it. Not instashag like some might think. |
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In my opinion exchanging a few plesantries does not entitle anyone to a shag. Just because its a swing site does NOT mean woman on here will just shag anyone. Treat people with respect and how u would like ur sis or family member to be treated as noway on this earth I'd meet anyone at the drop of a hat best way is to build a rapor and dnt rush it. |
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"In my opinion exchanging a few plesantries does not entitle anyone to a shag. Just because its a swing site does NOT mean woman on here will just shag anyone. Treat people with respect and how u would like ur sis or family member to be treated as noway on this earth I'd meet anyone at the drop of a hat best way is to build a rapor and dnt rush it. "
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview"
Trouble is for every girl on here there is on average up to five guys vying for their attention then consider that on no occasion is there just five guys messaging that one girl. Yesterday alone I went through three hundred and fifty messages. I did my utmost to reply courteously to all of them it may well not have been the reply they were hoping to receive but it was a reply all the same.
Now consider how this level of attention can affect many women who are not,in the everyday run of things,used to getting this level of attention. What u get is an over inflated opinion of oneself and a general lack of consideration for others. It leads to a superiority complex and put simply notions about how gorgeous and desirable the girl is.
In reality she may be none of these things and in many cases her attitude itself would be enough to put any self respecting guy off within minutes of speaking with her never mind any sexual involvement.
Now consider how much hard work is involved in dealing with that person (and i dont mean effort getting a shag out of em, cos that will probably be quite easy)and believe me some people just aren't worth the effort. You would be better off with a blow up doll she may have nothing between her ears but hey neither has that lady with the over inflated ego.
Enjoy ur search hope u don't have to turn over too many stones to find what ur looking for |
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
You afaird of a bit of hard work or something. Hard work is always worth it. Not instashag like some might think."
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"Does any other guy think the woman on this are a bit too much work in getting to know...whenever I do get past the introduction stage, it just seems there's never much Comeback/interest,....hard to create chemistry when it seems a one sided interview
Trouble is for every girl on here there is on average up to five guys vying for their attention then consider that on no occasion is there just five guys messaging that one girl. Yesterday alone I went through three hundred and fifty messages. I did my utmost to reply courteously to all of them it may well not have been the reply they were hoping to receive but it was a reply all the same.
Now consider how this level of attention can affect many women who are not,in the everyday run of things,used to getting this level of attention. What u get is an over inflated opinion of oneself and a general lack of consideration for others. It leads to a superiority complex and put simply notions about how gorgeous and desirable the girl is.
In reality she may be none of these things and in many cases her attitude itself would be enough to put any self respecting guy off within minutes of speaking with her never mind any sexual involvement.
Now consider how much hard work is involved in dealing with that person (and i dont mean effort getting a shag out of em, cos that will probably be quite easy)and believe me some people just aren't worth the effort. You would be better off with a blow up doll she may have nothing between her ears but hey neither has that lady with the over inflated ego.
Enjoy ur search hope u don't have to turn over too many stones to find what ur looking for "
Kind words...especially the blow up doll part...haha, I ain't hard up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"think u hurt his feelings, hes hidden his profile lol "
Lmfao oops I seem to make a habit of inadvertently hurting people's feelings.
Oh well it happens what can I say |
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"In my opinion exchanging a few plesantries does not entitle anyone to a shag. Just because its a swing site does NOT mean woman on here will just shag anyone. Treat people with respect and how u would like ur sis or family member to be treated as noway on this earth I'd meet anyone at the drop of a hat best way is to build a rapor and dnt rush it. "
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"In my opinion exchanging a few plesantries does not entitle anyone to a shag. Just because its a swing site does NOT mean woman on here will just shag anyone. Treat people with respect and how u would like ur sis or family member to be treated as noway on this earth I'd meet anyone at the drop of a hat best way is to build a rapor and dnt rush it.
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"Example: I just got a message from a guy, nice first message then second one had a cock pic attached, then 4rd one had a face pics attached and said he was horny....then 4th message asked for a meet....I said a coffee meet??? he said what ever sort of meet I wanted asap. Now he never did see a face pics of me and tbh I felt like the 'any hole' senario. When i told him this, he then sends a friend invite...to perv and wank over my private pics maybe?
Am I too fussy and a tad cynical????  "
Oops, am I not supposed to wank.over your pics. You should have said ... |
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"Example: I just got a message from a guy, nice first message then second one had a cock pic attached, then 4rd one had a face pics attached and said he was horny....then 4th message asked for a meet....I said a coffee meet??? he said what ever sort of meet I wanted asap. Now he never did see a face pics of me and tbh I felt like the 'any hole' senario. When i told him this, he then sends a friend invite...to perv and wank over my private pics maybe?
Am I too fussy and a tad cynical????
Oops, am I not supposed to wank.over your pics. You should have said ..."
Over my public pics, whatever u want but my private ones are a wee bit more detailed....  |
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