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Single lrish Reflective Guy with feelings
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l thought at last l had made a connection with some on here.
l chatted they asked for pics they liked them.
l asked would it be possible if they could.
Nothing came.
Then they would meet if l paid for a room!!
l was told what is that crap?
l replied that crap are my feeling??
They blocked me!!
l will pay my way but demanding to pay to meet and play suggests a service may be provided!!!!
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It sounds like you trusted your gut feeling and you could well be right... although it's also possible they just didn't have any money for paying for a hotel room to meet you. Either way I wouldn't be getting overly sad about it. It's just a meet. Plenty more fish etc. |
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over a year ago
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Ya she didn’t have the bobs for the room or else she just didn’t want to meet ya.
In this day and age being blocked without explanation of any sort is the norm unfortunately.
I don’t agree with it but it is the world we live in.
Everyone has free will and ppl can change their minds if they want.
It’s just the way it is. |
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lm ok with people not wanting to meet with me (the job which they told me would not be poor)
Paying isnt a issue for me but treat each one with respect as least rather than toying with somebody.
lf l was into that l would have written in my profile!! |
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"too be honest l love visiting the Uk and meeting Fab members who are normal, naughty and nice (l think) maybe lm unfair but the garden path is longer in lreland and l keeping finding myself on it!"
When I lived in Mayo the local ladies liked my blow in English accent, I was surprised how many married women wanted a bit on the side 
I even got random Facebook message from a near neighbours wife after she saw me selling stuff on a local Facebook page.. Very forward |
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"lm ok with people not wanting to meet with me (the job which they told me would not be poor)
Paying isnt a issue for me but treat each one with respect as least rather than toying with somebody.
lf l was into that l would have written in my profile!!"
She's just a leach |
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Honestly I'd put your feelings in your back pocket and lose them when your taking your trousers off, it's a swinging site not lovematch...how do you get feelings for someone before even meeting them ? Saddle up and ride on... |
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over a year ago
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"l thought at last l had made a connection with some on here.
l chatted they asked for pics they liked them.
l asked would it be possible if they could.
Nothing came.
Then they would meet if l paid for a room!!
l was told what is that crap?
l replied that crap are my feeling??
They blocked me!!
l will pay my way but demanding to pay to meet and play suggests a service may be provided!!!!
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Where do feelings come into this? She wanted you to pay for everything and you rightly refused ..nsa and feeling don't mix..maybe you should be on a dating site instead |
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Eh, I disagree a lot with this sentiment. And I think it's a big part of why so many men struggle on this site.
Casual means lacking long term commitment.
It shouldn't mean cold and devoid of emotions. You should still be invested in the other person's experience. You should still be considerate and mindful of that.
The best casual sex is able to be intense little fling before going your separate ways.
Yer man here was excited but was then disappointed. It's okay for him to be getting a good vibe and LIKE a person from just talking.
We all generally much prefer fucking people we like, and a lot more people will want to fuck you if your likable.
From every woman in swinging I've talked to, the selection process for a fab meet and a tinder date as literally the same. You meet a Tinder date because they seem sound enough to grab a coffee with, not because you've declared them your soulmate.
Same applies for potentially FwBs here on Fab.
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From what I'm reading, the private meet scene is pretty terrible in Ireland with many fakes and no-shows. Many are switching to the social scene and meeting up that way. It's not for everyone but it's the easiest path.
Imagine if you'd booked that room and they didn't show (which was quite likely)? |
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"Eh, I disagree a lot with this sentiment. And I think it's a big part of why so many men struggle on this site.
Casual means lacking long term commitment.
It shouldn't mean cold and devoid of emotions. You should still be invested in the other person's experience. You should still be considerate and mindful of that.
The best casual sex is able to be intense little fling before going your separate ways.
Yer man here was excited but was then disappointed. It's okay for him to be getting a good vibe and LIKE a person from just talking.
We all generally much prefer fucking people we like, and a lot more people will want to fuck you if your likable.
From every woman in swinging I've talked to, the selection process for a fab meet and a tinder date as literally the same. You meet a Tinder date because they seem sound enough to grab a coffee with, not because you've declared them your soulmate.
Same applies for potentially FwBs here on Fab.
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100% agree. The best meets I've had personally have been boyfriend experience type meets. There HAS to be chemistry. Stone cold sex sounds fucking terrible. |
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"From what I'm reading, the private meet scene is pretty terrible in Ireland with many fakes and no-shows. Many are switching to the social scene and meeting up that way. It's not for everyone but it's the easiest path.
Imagine if you'd booked that room and they didn't show (which was quite likely)?"
I have to say this hasn't been my experience at all.
Every interaction I've had through messaging, the forum, socials, has been great.
Maybe it's because I don't message very many people? I used to not send any opening messages at all but these days I do every now and again and it's always been pleasant.
Maybe if you send a lot of messages the odds go up that you'll meet a messser? |
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"From what I'm reading, the private meet scene is pretty terrible in Ireland with many fakes and no-shows. Many are switching to the social scene and meeting up that way. It's not for everyone but it's the easiest path.
Imagine if you'd booked that room and they didn't show (which was quite likely)?
I have to say this hasn't been my experience at all.
Every interaction I've had through messaging, the forum, socials, has been great.
Maybe it's because I don't message very many people? I used to not send any opening messages at all but these days I do every now and again and it's always been pleasant.
Maybe if you send a lot of messages the odds go up that you'll meet a messser?"
Yeah I reckon you're right about that  |
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"From what I'm reading, the private meet scene is pretty terrible in Ireland with many fakes and no-shows. Many are switching to the social scene and meeting up that way. It's not for everyone but it's the easiest path.
Imagine if you'd booked that room and they didn't show (which was quite likely)?
I have to say this hasn't been my experience at all.
Every interaction I've had through messaging, the forum, socials, has been great.
Maybe it's because I don't message very many people? I used to not send any opening messages at all but these days I do every now and again and it's always been pleasant.
Maybe if you send a lot of messages the odds go up that you'll meet a messser?
Yeah I reckon you're right about that "
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"Thanks for ur honesty"
I'm not sure how much use it is to you in all fairness.
I just did search in Galway there for single women in my age range.
Total 81.
32 with no profile picture. I wouldn't even click on them.
Active in the last week about half.
Meet verified with a profile photo and active in the last week. 17
Out of those 17 then not everyone is going to be a good match so the number of possible matches is much smaller again.
_ofusplus are right. I think if you find yourself having to take chances on profiles that may or may not be legit you'll definitely have a better time at social events.
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