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Manners it costs nothing
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So iv been on here and browsing through some really good profiles and I decided to send a message polite respectful messages with reading profiles ie age group ECT what the profile is looking for out of maybe close to 50 messages sent iv received back to replies is it so difficult to just respond and say no thanks or not for me ECT as it says manners cost nothing |
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"So iv been on here and browsing through some really good profiles and I decided to send a message polite respectful messages with reading profiles ie age group ECT what the profile is looking for out of maybe close to 50 messages sent iv received back to replies is it so difficult to just respond and say no thanks or not for me ECT as it says manners cost nothing "
what it comes down to is the volume of men on the site to women. There is way more men on here so women have the choice. She’s also probably getting a fair number of messages and can’t reply to them all.
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Its like this. I look at a profile before i answer a message. If theres nothing in there for me ill delete. Yes manners dont cost anything but when you are hit constantly with why nots, eff you youre just a such and such so i stopped answering with no thanks. Even with my filters i still get a chunk of mail every day. I dont want to spend my evenings sending no thanks messages when i could be having chats with people i want to meet. The FaQs quite clearly state the stance on no replies. |
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OP, please read and reply to every single post below. It's only a polite thing to do. Manners cost nothing:
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/introductions/1508135
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1410052
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1284191
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1327454
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/wales/1265363
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1254220
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1235512
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1201921
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1140611
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1069151
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/956923
That's just a few.... there's hundreds if not thousands of more where it came from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Picture this the roles are reversed and men of Fab are highly in demand. Your inbox has hundreds of messages from women. Most of them not your type too far away or have blank profiles or just send hi messages.
Are you honestly going to spend all that time every day replying no thanks to every single message. Then reply all over again when they don't take no for a answer? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sent messages yesterday some weren't replied to some were left unread. Did I feel the need to call a Wambulance no I just got over it! "
If you send me a message I will read it and respond  |
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By *anUTV/TS
over a year ago
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Maybe you should alter your profile, trying to get into someone's mind would freak me out. Basically I'm impenetrable and quite savvy and self aware Sinclair couldn't even get into my psyche,I'm too clued in for any bullshit l.
Saying you like to push boundaries sounds like you're not really interested in boundaries and pushing someone's boundaries could be considered undermining someone's trust or ability to feel safe and comfortable
Pic's help too and desperation is definitely a red flag in my observations .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want genuine feedback why not post one of the messages, maybe someone might give you some advice and it could help. Or don't.
It really is ladies choice all night , Evey night.
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Jaysus !!!!
I can't believe you sent out almost 50 msgs in just one sitting. 50?
How did it go ?
Super hot women
Hot women, and so on
All subjective to ones likes and dislike of course but you've no profile pic so it begs the question. How many msgs did you send to ppl with no profile pic ?? |
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"Jaysus !!!!
I can't believe you sent out almost 50 msgs in just one sitting. 50?
How did it go ?
Super hot women
Hot women, and so on
All subjective to ones likes and dislike of course but you've no profile pic so it begs the question. How many msgs did you send to ppl with no profile pic ?? "
FANTASTIC point! Bravo! |
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"So iv been on here and browsing through some really good profiles and I decided to send a message polite respectful messages with reading profiles ie age group ECT what the profile is looking for out of maybe close to 50 messages sent iv received back to replies is it so difficult to just respond and say no thanks or not for me ECT as it says manners cost nothing "
A friend of mine got about 100 messages in the first 20 minutes after registering here and she had over 300 by the end of the first hour so it can be difficult to get around to reading messages never mind replying |
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"Picture this the roles are reversed and men of Fab are highly in demand. Your inbox has hundreds of messages from women. Most of them not your type too far away or have blank profiles or just send hi messages.
Are you honestly going to spend all that time every day replying no thanks to every single message. Then reply all over again when they don't take no for a answer? "
Few weeks back somebody shared a screenshot of their profile on kik and it had over 80 unread messages. From what I understand that can be on the low side for some people.
I can barely clear my personal email account and my work email, that many messages on fab would make me want to hire somebody for the fabmin   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Picture this the roles are reversed and men of Fab are highly in demand. Your inbox has hundreds of messages from women. Most of them not your type too far away or have blank profiles or just send hi messages.
Are you honestly going to spend all that time every day replying no thanks to every single message. Then reply all over again when they don't take no for a answer?
Few weeks back somebody shared a screenshot of their profile on kik and it had over 80 unread messages. From what I understand that can be on the low side for some people.
I can barely clear my personal email account and my work email, that many messages on fab would make me want to hire somebody for the fabmin "
I have over 500 messages and I can’t get rid off even half of them, help  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It also helps if you don’t just copy and paste other people’s bios…I’ve a good memory and I’ve read those ‘lines’ before  "
Agree it’s so nothing when copy paste, I ignore them too |
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First day we created our profile it got about 30 messages first day and that was with no photos, it being a couple profile and very little text.
We blocked single men after that, even with our clear profile when we unblocked them a few weeks back we still got lots of messages 
So blocked them again... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out. "
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw |
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"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw"
Thank you I still lol when I read them too |
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True, it doesn't alright.
That said, you say on your profile that you were on here before. Did you do this back then?
How did you get on then?
50 messages? That took some work. Fair do's to you. 
Like what was said already, by the different posters.
You didn't help yourself, by doing that, considering you were on here in the past. Look after your own profile, interact on here more, then they (MIGHT) be willing to answer/interact with you. It mightn't be nice or easy. It's the luck of the draw, with being on here, more or less OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw
Thank you I still lol when I read them too "
My favourite is the one about you disappointing your ancestors. That must have hurt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ll fire off some messages every now and then but usually include a face pic… some people reply some don’t… with all of the normal dating apps that people are used to seeing photos so it’s a bit 90’s to message someone with none up… can’t see you ever really getting anywhere without some visible…  |
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"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw
Thank you I still lol when I read them too
My favourite is the one about you disappointing your ancestors. That must have hurt "
Not even a little bit. With the accommodation crisis I’m kind of honored to live rent free in those peoples head haha |
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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago
South County Dublin |
"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw
Thank you I still lol when I read them too "
Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 euros |
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"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw
Thank you I still lol when I read them too
Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 euros"
all of those messages are direct copy and paste! Someone asked me if I was on EI and got annoyed when I asked what EI was |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw
Thank you I still lol when I read them too
Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 eurosall of those messages are direct copy and paste! Someone asked me if I was on EI and got annoyed when I asked what EI was "
What is EI |
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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago
South County Dublin |
"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.
With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages
Very funny profile btw
Thank you I still lol when I read them too
Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 eurosall of those messages are direct copy and paste! Someone asked me if I was on EI and got annoyed when I asked what EI was "
What is EI anyway. I've read your profile and some of the replies leave a lot to be desired. Half of those guys must be keyboard warriors. I've been to a few socials and most of the guys lads and ladies are sound. Sorry about the replies thankfully not all men are like that. |
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I accompanied a girl to a few socials parties and we also met on our own a few years back. At one point she had 1300 unread mails . OP I’m assuming you’re inexperienced on here, but you will soon realise sending unsolicited mail on its own simply doesn’t work . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have over 500 messages and I can’t get rid off even half of them, help
500! 
How does somebody even manage with that?
Occasionally just select all and delete?
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I can’t delete al as I chatting with few guys and I don’t want to mess with them. I have a lot filters , but it’s not really working. 5 minutes online I will get from 5 messages and up. |
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"So iv been on here and browsing through some really good profiles and I decided to send a message polite respectful messages with reading profiles ie age group ECT what the profile is looking for out of maybe close to 50 messages sent iv received back to replies is it so difficult to just respond and say no thanks or not for me ECT as it says manners cost nothing "
Have a read of our profile and you may realise why most don't reply esp as you say you've seen some really good profiles! |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
Only 50 messages?
Phhhh, amateur……
Did you remember to attach a dic pic, just in case?
In this instance manners cost time, and some people don’t have much to waste, their saving their time by not replying and they’re saving your time by not giving to read a rejection, you really should be more grateful…..
To all who haven’t replied to my messages, thank you, I appreciate it….. |
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"Ah, the struggle is real. Even with a profile filled with enticing pics and a captivating bio, the chances on fab can still be slim. It seems that real women are quite rare around here."
Lots of Real women but just the ratio of men is crazy so the odds are stacked. |
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