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over a year ago
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This is a thread to help unverified fabbers get verified. Simply say you’re in, what area you’re from and if you’d be willing to meet in order to verify someone who’s not verified by meeting in person.  |
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"This is a thread to help unverified fabbers get verified. Simply say you’re in, what area you’re from and if you’d be willing to meet in order to verify someone who’s not verified by meeting in person. "
If I may be so bold as to mirror your post in the opposite direction please. I’m looking to get meet verified. I’d love to meet a lady around Dublin or Meath or bits of Louth or Kildare for a coffee and a natter. I’ve chatted to folk here but between one thing and another, we haven’t reached the point of talking about meeting up. I work five over seven days on shifts, morning, afternoons and evenings. I’ll buy the coffees and the cream cakes. Thank you OP, sorry for being bold.  |
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Hello, I would like to be verified, so far I have been enjoying the forums, always a bit of craic to be had there, I would love to meet up for coffee with someone in the Carrick on Shannon or Longford areas, just for a chat and coffee. |
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I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think. |
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"I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think. "
A lot of lads think that a Veri from a guy would give the impression that they're Bi. The idea of these threads is for unverified members to meet up socially and all going well,get verified. It's irrelevant wether it's a guy/girl/couple/TV/TS or any other person that meets you...a veri simply shows that you're real,showed up,were on time and were hopefully respectful! I've offered on many of these threads to meet for coffee and the offer was only accepted once. Nice guy too...and not a bit Bi!!!! So lads,relax and enjoy the coffee even if it's with a bloke....I promise,you won't catch the Gay!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Theres alot of misconceptions with this thread.
1) having a coffee verification isnt going to change the world of fab drastically and open you up to a pussy tsunami
2) as the poster above said, meeting a lad doesnt make you gay or bi. Arguably makes you more genuine tbh.
3) a good 99% of the time, it is JUST coffee. The person offering may not have a single sexual interest but still want to help you get a little start.
Coffee meets show you're genuine and respectful. They're nice to have on profile.
Sorry guys  my rant is over... just a lil frustrated cause I love the social side of fab and often my coffee meets get cancelled because they expect more or aren't genuine enough to meet mr if I'm not around (and he isnt into coffee meets so it doesn't get offered alot)
Again, rant is over
I can arrange for mullingar for myself (mrs) if anyone needs. |
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"Theres alot of misconceptions with this thread.
1) having a coffee verification isnt going to change the world of fab drastically and open you up to a pussy tsunami
2) as the poster above said, meeting a lad doesnt make you gay or bi. Arguably makes you more genuine tbh.
3) a good 99% of the time, it is JUST coffee. The person offering may not have a single sexual interest but still want to help you get a little start.
Coffee meets show you're genuine and respectful. They're nice to have on profile.
Sorry guys my rant is over... just a lil frustrated cause I love the social side of fab and often my coffee meets get cancelled because they expect more or aren't genuine enough to meet mr if I'm not around (and he isnt into coffee meets so it doesn't get offered alot)
Again, rant is over
I can arrange for mullingar for myself (mrs) if anyone needs."
Ye(Mrs) & the poster above you are both right.
What I think it is in some cases, a guy wouldn't another guy to get verified. Is cause if they want to go to certain socials & don't have have a 4 or more meet verifications. They wouldn't be given an invite to the social, if 1 of the verifications is from another guy. It says it on some of the event organisers profiles.
Now I could be wrong aswell. |
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Irish is correct. There are events that won't accept straight guys verified by straight guys only but those events are generally fit 'well verified males' which means a little more than five coffee meets.
If this thread gets your first veri and that's what gets you started on the road to fab it really doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman. You can always ask the person writing it to affirm your sexual orientation if your concerned.
Thank about it this way. Take the Veri and get moving or wait maybe six months or more before you can convince a woman. Honestly it's a no brainer.
Also a social event for unverified members will get you more than 5 veri's.
I got 30 verifications over four events in two weeks.
Asking for sex on a coffee meet will very likely net you a bad rep. Girls talk. |
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"Irish is correct. There are events that won't accept straight guys verified by straight guys only but those events are generally fit 'well verified males' which means a little more than five coffee meets.
If this thread gets your first veri and that's what gets you started on the road to fab it really doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman. You can always ask the person writing it to affirm your sexual orientation if your concerned.
Thank about it this way. Take the Veri and get moving or wait maybe six months or more before you can convince a woman. Honestly it's a no brainer.
Also a social event for unverified members will get you more than 5 veri's.
I got 30 verifications over four events in two weeks.
Asking for sex on a coffee meet will very likely net you a bad rep. Girls talk. "
Delectableicecream, is right aswell. These threads are only here to help unverified, get verified. So they can go to some socials & other people will meet them aswell.  |
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"I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think. "
You are quite right lots of single males presume that because you have a verification from a man that they must be bi or gay or something which is stupid and also they will try to get more than what's being offered in a cuppa and a chat they think that they have a chance at a fuck too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think.
You are quite right lots of single males presume that because you have a verification from a man that they must be bi or gay or something which is stupid and also they will try to get more than what's being offered in a cuppa and a chat they think that they have a chance at a fuck too"
Surely a veri from a couple doesn’t say if it’s from the male or female half of a couple. Doesn’t it just appear as a veri from a couple and nobody can tell if it was the male, female or both half’s of the couple you met with!  |
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"I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think.
You are quite right lots of single males presume that because you have a verification from a man that they must be bi or gay or something which is stupid and also they will try to get more than what's being offered in a cuppa and a chat they think that they have a chance at a fuck too
Surely a veri from a couple doesn’t say if it’s from the male or female half of a couple. Doesn’t it just appear as a veri from a couple and nobody can tell if it was the male, female or both half’s of the couple you met with! "
Depends entirely on how the veri is written. I've seen a few by a couple that was written in singular person, so I assume only one half went to meet. |
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"I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think.
You are quite right lots of single males presume that because you have a verification from a man that they must be bi or gay or something which is stupid and also they will try to get more than what's being offered in a cuppa and a chat they think that they have a chance at a fuck too
Surely a veri from a couple doesn’t say if it’s from the male or female half of a couple. Doesn’t it just appear as a veri from a couple and nobody can tell if it was the male, female or both half’s of the couple you met with!
Depends entirely on how the veri is written. I've seen a few by a couple that was written in singular person, so I assume only one half went to meet. "
I had a dozen or so veries on a previous profile from couples through a fab hiking group. Only one of those was from meeting both halves. Most of them were from the male half and the veries all stated that and one or two were from the female half and they also mentioned that only one of them had met me. |
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Could I just add that one of the best ways to possibly get a meet is to have photos on your profile. I dont know of anyone that would meet someone with a silhouette as their profile pic!! Also put some info on there about yourself! Make an effort lads!! |
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"Could I just add that one of the best ways to possibly get a meet is to have photos on your profile. I dont know of anyone that would meet someone with a silhouette as their profile pic!! Also put some info on there about yourself! Make an effort lads!!"
Ya,that's true alright. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think.
You are quite right lots of single males presume that because you have a verification from a man that they must be bi or gay or something which is stupid and also they will try to get more than what's being offered in a cuppa and a chat they think that they have a chance at a fuck too"
I verified a guy and he got no ends dog abuse of women for being secretly gay or bi when he was infact very straight. It does happen to the point a few guys who are bi don’t show as bi to enhance their chances as there does seem to be a lot of biphobia towards men. |
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"I'd love to take part in this, and have reached out to people on this thread. I find there is 'some' lads who only want to meet with the mrs of a couple and have expectations of more than a coffee and push for that. It really takes the fun and the want to help out of it. If it's simply to be verified then meeting the mr or a man should be as valid as meeting the mrs. That's just my take as a mrs of a couple. To me, reading a veri from a lad in a couple would show more than a mrs of a couple but that's my own personal thought. To only want to accept veri from the mrs is silly but I'm open to seeing what others think.
You are quite right lots of single males presume that because you have a verification from a man that they must be bi or gay or something which is stupid and also they will try to get more than what's being offered in a cuppa and a chat they think that they have a chance at a fuck too
I verified a guy and he got no ends dog abuse of women for being secretly gay or bi when he was infact very straight. It does happen to the point a few guys who are bi don’t show as bi to enhance their chances as there does seem to be a lot of biphobia towards men."
A guy need only display the verification long enough to get to the next step.
What you need is meet verification that confirms your identity. That's it's only function. Your alive and you turn up. Then you have the chance to get a meet with someone you like or you might now have access to a social event.
Anyone giving abuse should be given the usual block/report treatment. No one cares about what that type of people think
Being comfortable and confident in your sexuality is a very attractive quality. As is having the courage and honesty to meet a guy. I believe more women/ would appreciate than not. |
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By *ork35Man
over a year ago
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Folks, ive posted on this thread a few times offering my help for fabbers get a veri. I recieved a nasty message saying i shouldn't veri another guy. Its not right.
A lot of people think that a Veri from the same sex would give the impression that they're Bi, gay, or curious. The idea of these threads is for unverified members to meet up socially and all going well,get verified. It's irrelevant wether it's a Guy/Lady/couple/TV/TS, CD or any other person that meets you. A veri simply shows that you're real,showed up,were on time and were hopefully respectful! I've offered on many of these threads to meet for coffee and the offer has been accepted. Its never bothered me if it was a guy, girl, tv etc. So people,relax and enjoy the coffee and scone, pint, glass of wine, water, soda what ever suits,even if it's with a bloke, lady, tv,cd. Remember, the person who messages you asking for a veri is more nervous and regardless of your preference any request should be honoured. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can be available for socials this month as long as have proper notice and not hours before. And understand that it's only a cuppa no chance of anything else. No naughtiness on a first meet lol"
I'm a single fella who is in the coleraine/portstewart area daily for work. Would love the opportunity of a coffee social to get verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Folks, ive posted on this thread a few times offering my help for fabbers get a veri. I recieved a nasty message saying i shouldn't veri another guy. Its not right.
A lot of people think that a Veri from the same sex would give the impression that they're Bi, gay, or curious. The idea of these threads is for unverified members to meet up socially and all going well,get verified. It's irrelevant wether it's a Guy/Lady/couple/TV/TS, CD or any other person that meets you. A veri simply shows that you're real,showed up,were on time and were hopefully respectful! I've offered on many of these threads to meet for coffee and the offer has been accepted. Its never bothered me if it was a guy, girl, tv etc. So people,relax and enjoy the coffee and scone, pint, glass of wine, water, soda what ever suits,even if it's with a bloke, lady, tv,cd. Remember, the person who messages you asking for a veri is more nervous and regardless of your preference any request should be honoured."
Precisely it. Sadly some do think otherwise but I’m glad so many men are offering up their availability to give veri’s |
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We have searched far and wide for a perfect pint of Guinness and decided the best way to find it is to do a pub crawl!
21st of October afternoon (time to be confirmed) - Belfast City Centre.
Anyone welcome to tag along to get verified. Just send us a pm if you would like to come  |
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I'd love to know the stats on threads like this:
Q1. What proportion of straight lads looking for veris would accept a kind lad's offer of a coffee?
Q2. What proportion of people looking for a veri would attend a social for unverifieds?
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"I'd love to know the stats on threads like this:
Q1. What proportion of straight lads looking for veris would accept a kind lad's offer of a coffee?
Q2. What proportion of people looking for a veri would attend a social for unverifieds?
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Interesting questions...not sure about Q2 but Q1 is Very few. I've offered to meet guys for coffee many times, purely to verify them from threads like these and only one lad took up the offer. The rest completely blanked me. So I don't bother now. I think that most expect a woman to meet them with the hope of play happening and quite a few think it makes them gay/bi if they meet a guy! Or at least they wouldn't want to be seen having a coffee with a guy in case others thought they were a couple!! Just my opinion... |
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"I'd love to know the stats on threads like this:
Q1. What proportion of straight lads looking for veris would accept a kind lad's offer of a coffee?
Q2. What proportion of people looking for a veri would attend a social for unverifieds?
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This would make a great thread of its own. |
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"I'd love to know the stats on threads like this:
Q1. What proportion of straight lads looking for veris would accept a kind lad's offer of a coffee?
Q2. What proportion of people looking for a veri would attend a social for unverifieds?
Interesting questions...not sure about Q2 but Q1 is Very few. I've offered to meet guys for coffee many times, purely to verify them from threads like these and only one lad took up the offer. The rest completely blanked me. So I don't bother now. I think that most expect a woman to meet them with the hope of play happening and quite a few think it makes them gay/bi if they meet a guy! Or at least they wouldn't want to be seen having a coffee with a guy in case others thought they were a couple!! Just my opinion... "
That's my thinking too and why we wouldn't bother with these threads.
Fair play for offering when you did though |
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"I'd love to know the stats on threads like this:
Q1. What proportion of straight lads looking for veris would accept a kind lad's offer of a coffee?
Q2. What proportion of people looking for a veri would attend a social for unverifieds?
Interesting questions...not sure about Q2 but Q1 is Very few. I've offered to meet guys for coffee many times, purely to verify them from threads like these and only one lad took up the offer. The rest completely blanked me. So I don't bother now. I think that most expect a woman to meet them with the hope of play happening and quite a few think it makes them gay/bi if they meet a guy! Or at least they wouldn't want to be seen having a coffee with a guy in case others thought they were a couple!! Just my opinion...
That's my thinking too and why we wouldn't bother with these threads.
Fair play for offering when you did though "
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"I'd love to know the stats on threads like this:
Q1. What proportion of straight lads looking for veris would accept a kind lad's offer of a coffee?
Q2. What proportion of people looking for a veri would attend a social for unverifieds?
This would make a great thread of its own."
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"I'd love to know the stats on threads like this:
Q1. What proportion of straight lads looking for veris would accept a kind lad's offer of a coffee?
Q2. What proportion of people looking for a veri would attend a social for unverifieds?
This would make a great thread of its own.
You probably wouldn't get accurate stats though "
True it would be a good thread & also highly unlikely to be accurate at the sametime.
I got a DM from another lad, saying that we'd meetup & he'd verify me, at the time. We sent a few DM's & that's the last I heard from him. So I ended going to a popup coffee social instead. I personally wouldn't have had or have a problem with meeting another guy. As for people thinking I'm gay, bi or the likes, I'm sure they think that about me, without them knowing about here or me being on it aswell. It's up to them to think that, not me to try & change them. |
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"Willing to help out after 11th October (as will be away until then). Can do coffee meet in Belfast, Lisburn, Ards, Bangor and surrounding areas xx"
hey I would love some help getting verified if you guys can help please give me a message as I am outside your age range to message yous
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If you're single, unattached obviously, well hung 7 inches plus, fit and mature say 30 + I've no problem verifying someone. If they're not too far away from Clare
If you're attached and sneaking around behind your partners back I wouldn't have any interest. Just not for me.
I don't need to apologise for having strict boundaries. |
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"I’m happy to verify in my area. Sligo covering Donegal, Leitrim and Mayo.
Met a local newbie today and already posted a verification. "
What about meeting someone from Galway? Willing to travel of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am verified but i would love to meet more people on the site and delve a lottle deeper into what this side of life has to offer.
Im in Dublin can meet anywhere in the county! |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Hi 46 M North County Dublin, I'm visiting from the US for the week, I'd love to get verified, so I can attend the Envy party on Saturday. If anyone is up for a coffee let me know, thanks!"
I think you need to read their profile to see if you qualify for an invite to their party even with a single coffee meet veri |
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I got my first veri off a "Help a Fabber" thread having struggled for a few months to make progress on here...(thank you Fab Angel). Haven't looked back since. I am always willing to meet any genuine newbies in the Cork/Kerry/Limerick area to confirm they exist, have a pulse and dont appear to be total nutters.
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