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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could be completely surrounded by people and still feel lonely. Or life goes at a crazy pace so when you do stop it can be difficult to slow down and be alone.
Getting out into nature always helps me. |
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"sometimes its a bitch being single and alone"
There's a time and a place for everything. I feel it too being on my own, although it helps having 3 kids 50 percent of the time and work.
Then those dark hours with longing hit. You can do things that distract you or you can push through it.
It's not easy. But you can come stronger out the other side.
Hang in there. And when you can't, distract yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Join a local group with similar interests or do a bit of voluntary work it gets you out and about "
This, evening classes or courses are all starting up around now and are a good way to get yourself out and meeting new people. Charities and support groups always need volunteers, if you can drive, people need help getting to appointments. |
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Check out your local Men's Sheds they seem to be excellent way to meet other men. Maybe try gardening might be local allotments. Join a running group to train for 5k. Local drama club either they look for people to help out behind the scenes. This time of year is hard with dark evenings drawing in |
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
Some very good advice above.
From personal experience, I find it's good to tell someone you are going to go to an event.
It's harder to back out that way.
When the blackness comes fight clever.
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"sometimes its a bitch being single and alone
Yes its shit. This place will probably make you feel worse though.
The loneliest I ever felt was when I was married!"
Sorry to hear that Rosie.
I know women get a ton of shit offers here, but many men get zero offers, and accepting that kind of rejection can take its toll if they aren't feeling strong. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"sometimes its a bitch being single and alone
Yes its shit. This place will probably make you feel worse though.
The loneliest I ever felt was when I was married!"
I use to say I was living in a full house and lonely as hell
Lots of good ideas listed above that work
Being a volunteer works if you're willing to put a bit of effort into it especially if it's a role where you're meeting people and charities always need the help
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"Me too, hardest but best decision i ever made was to leave. "
Me too 6 year relationship after 2 it was just so lonely, nearly 2 years out, back doing things j want and like but loneliness stills flowing me around, a bit of female company now and then would be nice.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes you can be in a large group of people you know and still be lonely. It's a tough place fab, you're literally judging a book by its cover lol. I find it hard to be witty and charming over a msg but no issue face to face. But when you do connect with someone it's class and the world's a better place again! |
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Fact man.
Focus on what you love to do. To hell with everything else. Focus on the simple things, warm place to sleep, food on the table, fresh air, nature. Comedy such as Brendan grace. The select few true friends we all have. A very famous singer said he had over a million friends but only 11 true friends that would have his back if he were rich or poor.
We all need to look forward to something. Speak to gp, whoever, Eat healthier, little more exercise. Whatever it takes to get back on the horse and blaze into the sunset. Wish you well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isint that what wer trying on fab
Na, fab isn't a good place if you feel lonely.  "
Fab can...and does..be a place that seriously f**k's up your mental health,if anyone here takes what happens or is said here to heart ..don't ..for your own well being..
If any person feels lonely ..do what they love to do .. whatever it is ..movies .. games..music ..walks , hiking.. chatting with friends..we all need something to look forward to.. people that are here are here for their own reasons but always remember Fab isn't the be all and end all ..and never will be . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Isint that what wer trying on fab
Na, fab isn't a good place if you feel lonely.
Fab can...and does..be a place that seriously f**k's up your mental health,if anyone here takes what happens or is said here to heart ..don't ..for your own well being..
If any person feels lonely ..do what they love to do .. whatever it is ..movies .. games..music ..walks , hiking.. chatting with friends..we all need something to look forward to.. people that are here are here for their own reasons but always remember Fab isn't the be all and end all ..and never will be ."
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"sometimes its a bitch being single and alone
Yes its shit. This place will probably make you feel worse though.
The loneliest I ever felt was when I was married!
Sorry to hear that Rosie.
I know women get a ton of shit offers here, but many men get zero offers, and accepting that kind of rejection can take its toll if they aren't feeling strong."
 
I hear ya & your right it can be alright. Once I come in from work, that's it I don't see anybody again. Until I go to work the next day, that's usually my story. I live in an estate, nobody calls to me. But if I was having meets here, I'm sure plenty in the estate would know about it. 
There's good & bad points to being single aswell OP. Good thing = you can do what you want. Whenever you want, in anyway you want to do it, so to speak.
Bad thing = Being like Rosie, in a marriage/relationship, still feel like your along.
Aswell I'm sorry to hear that Rosie.
If your not in a good place, Fab will bring you down further alright. There's plenty of single men, that don't get an offer, of anything at all. 
Try not to stay inside all of the time OP. Get out at all, if possible. Go for a walk somewhere, even go to a pub, don't have to have a drink at all. Your bount to get talking to someone, while your there, even get a dog or a pet of somekind.
You've gotten good advice already OP. Do what you want to do, at your own pace OP. Keep the head, there's better day's ahead OP.  |
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Tough being alone...I had it. All mates in college....only one whi didn't. I decided to work in a pub....Best decision ever. You are getting paid to socialise....it helps confidence....you get people skills.....purpose aswell |
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"sometimes its a bitch being single and alone
Yes its shit. This place will probably make you feel worse though.
The loneliest I ever felt was when I was married!"
Same here Rosie .. its brutal |
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I hit a spell where I left my marriage left my gorgeous home to move into a rental all during covid then lost my job 6 weeks after the move and never felt more alone in my life but I started volunteering a couple of nights a week in a food bank and homeless charity and it put everything into perspective for me plus I felt like I had a purpose again. I met some interesting folk with some real tough stories who were really good people and I found myself wanting to head out and see them. And ya never know who u might meet and where life takes you when u venture in different circles. It’s the dark nights watching a movie on ur own I hate. Well some of the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hit a spell where I left my marriage left my gorgeous home to move into a rental all during covid then lost my job 6 weeks after the move and never felt more alone in my life but I started volunteering a couple of nights a week in a food bank and homeless charity and it put everything into perspective for me plus I felt like I had a purpose again. I met some interesting folk with some real tough stories who were really good people and I found myself wanting to head out and see them. And ya never know who u might meet and where life takes you when u venture in different circles. It’s the dark nights watching a movie on ur own I hate. Well some of the time. "
I hope your ina good place now Belle |
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"I hit a spell where I left my marriage left my gorgeous home to move into a rental all during covid then lost my job 6 weeks after the move and never felt more alone in my life but I started volunteering a couple of nights a week in a food bank and homeless charity and it put everything into perspective for me plus I felt like I had a purpose again. I met some interesting folk with some real tough stories who were really good people and I found myself wanting to head out and see them. And ya never know who u might meet and where life takes you when u venture in different circles. It’s the dark nights watching a movie on ur own I hate. Well some of the time. "
Oh feck... I understand this. I was divorced the week before lock down. No room to go wild and flush out the bad vibes. |
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By *kee87Man
over a year ago
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Loneliness can be horrible, but we don't need to be lonely, there's always people out there, I think on fab it's about making friends too, so if anyone is feeling a bit lonely or a bit down, I'm always here for a chat, male female or whatever, nothing sexual or anything like that, just a genuine chat, I'm happy to meet people looking to meet friends and have coffee or do an activity, and also make friends myself, don't be shy, we all deserve to be happy, were here for a good time not a long time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sometimes it's for the best. Went from Struggling to afford rent on a big house for the two of us to renting a crappy room in a house share to getting my own place and hosting my own movie nights with friends. Being single can be a time of growth, you can really focus on yourself without having to factor in a second party. Long bouts of it sucks ass though and you start to feel lost |
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"Loneliness can be horrible, but we don't need to be lonely, there's always people out there, I think on fab it's about making friends too, so if anyone is feeling a bit lonely or a bit down, I'm always here for a chat, male female or whatever, nothing sexual or anything like that, just a genuine chat, I'm happy to meet people looking to meet friends and have coffee or do an activity, and also make friends myself, don't be shy, we all deserve to be happy, were here for a good time not a long time "
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