So with all the new sexuality and fluidity about,it’s going to make it difficult to make out the he’s from the She’s, the them from the they’s, the it’s from the single blokes pretending to be couples . Just a thought from an ageing he him horny single bloke with a devilish sense of humour  |
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"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult. "
Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.
What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.
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"So with all the new sexuality and fluidity about,it’s going to make it difficult to make out the he’s from the She’s, the them from the they’s, the it’s from the single blokes pretending to be couples . Just a thought from an ageing he him horny single bloke with a devilish sense of humour "
Single blokes with couples profiles verifying themselves over and over  |
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"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult.
Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.
What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.
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A good solution of you're unsure and uncomfortable asking is to introduce yourself alongside your pronouns and offer them the opportunity to do the same. Either that or just avoid gendering language completely unless absolutely necessary. |
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"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult.
Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.
What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.
A good solution of you're unsure and uncomfortable asking is to introduce yourself alongside your pronouns and offer them the opportunity to do the same. Either that or just avoid gendering language completely unless absolutely necessary. "
I'm simply not going to introduce myself by my pronouns unless i'm directly asked. If someone is worried about being misgendered, then it's up to them to introduce themselves by their pronouns.
But if I'm unsure, yeah, I would just use their name to avoid the whole situation |
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"Better to politely ask what they prefer rather than misgender in my experience.
It's generally acceptable to use they if talking about someone when your not sure."
I dunno if it's better. If someone asked my mother if she was a man, it would ruin her Christmas   |
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"Some people taking this very seriously ??
I think the lunatics have taken over the asylum. Thankfully the disabled toilets are gender neutral lol  "
It'll be a cold day in hell when there's a gender neutral toilet in my household!
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"Better to politely ask what they prefer rather than misgender in my experience.
It's generally acceptable to use they if talking about someone when your not sure.
I dunno if it's better. If someone asked my mother if she was a man, it would ruin her Christmas "
She is Santa though right? Right? |
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"Some people taking this very seriously ??
I think the lunatics have taken over the asylum. Thankfully the disabled toilets are gender neutral lol "
The toilets are not disabled, the people who use them are. |
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"Some people taking this very seriously ??
I think the lunatics have taken over the asylum. Thankfully the disabled toilets are gender neutral lol
The toilets are not disabled, the people who use them are."
Very true but the word is challenged mea culpa but if it’s challenged anyone can use them. Back to square 1 |
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"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult.
Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.
What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.
A good solution of you're unsure and uncomfortable asking is to introduce yourself alongside your pronouns and offer them the opportunity to do the same. Either that or just avoid gendering language completely unless absolutely necessary.
I'm simply not going to introduce myself by my pronouns unless i'm directly asked. If someone is worried about being misgendered, then it's up to them to introduce themselves by their pronouns.
But if I'm unsure, yeah, I would just use their name to avoid the whole situation "
If you go and read what I said again you'll see I was talking about how to potentially deal with not being comfortable asking someone how they like to be addressed. I wasn't talking about someone being worried about being misgendered... I was talking about how to respectfully find out how they like to be addressed. |
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"What I was really talking about was the fluid people and how they should identify on here hood you are all so pent up . Chill pills needed guys "
The Genderqueer, non-binary and gender fluid people I know tend to go with they/them |
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"What I was really talking about was the fluid people and how they should identify on here hood you are all so pent up . Chill pills needed guys "
Male, female, trans man or woman... I've met and talked to people with all of these identities and can understand their thoughts and feelings on all of them.
But non binary and gender fluid people who's gender can change literally hourly or daily, they should both come under the umbrella term of "attention seekers"  |
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"So with all the new sexuality and fluidity about,it’s going to make it difficult to make out the he’s from the She’s, the them from the they’s, the it’s from the single blokes pretending to be couples . Just a thought from an ageing he him horny single bloke with a devilish sense of humour "
Definitely a personal pronoun nightmare! Btw, you don't need the apostrophes in your pronouns there, they are all just plurals |
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