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"I've definitely hit mine but more like a 2/3 life crisis I've always wanted to go to America and disappointed when I couldn't go for my 40th So after 18yrs of regret I'm going to Vegas next month to see U2 in The Sphere " Living your best life! | |||
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"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts "  
I believe it does alright. I think some people are better at not showing it to everybody(for some reason).
I personally don't think I'm going through it, right now. Others might think otherwise with me being on here.  
I personally wouldn't call it a crisis of any kind. More like have a reflection of your life. Have a think of anything that you haven't done yet. But you want to do it & can do it aswell. Maybe there's something you'd like to change in your life before now & you do it aswell, if possible for you.
What about yourself OP?
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"I've definitely hit mine but more like a 2/3 life crisis I've always wanted to go to America and disappointed when I couldn't go for my 40th So after 18yrs of regret I'm going to Vegas next month to see U2 in The Sphere " Sounds like a beautiful day…. | |||
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"I honestly think its the period in your life when you realise your mortality or that life is short and you begin to reflect or action things that you dont want to later regret not doing. " This seems to be a common theme of looking at your own mortality. Perhaps Covid also made people more introspective.. | |||
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"I've definitely hit mine but more like a 2/3 life crisis I've always wanted to go to America and disappointed when I couldn't go for my 40th So after 18yrs of regret I'm going to Vegas next month to see U2 in The Sphere " Jesus that’s brilliant enjoy every bit of it | |||
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"Haven't had one in the family thankfully but my old boss had one. Bought a souped up car, got hair implants and a few other things. Had to get rid of the car though as his wife wouldn't be in it with him. He was fairly henpecked "My heart goes out to him. The defeat of it. | |||
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"Haven't had one in the family thankfully but my old boss had one. Bought a souped up car, got hair implants and a few other things. Had to get rid of the car though as his wife wouldn't be in it with him. He was fairly henpecked
My heart goes out to him. The defeat of it."Mine didn't. He was a dickhead | |||
"Haven't had one in the family thankfully but my old boss had one. Bought a souped up car, got hair implants and a few other things. Had to get rid of the car though as his wife wouldn't be in it with him. He was fairly henpecked
My heart goes out to him. The defeat of it.
Mine didn't. He was a dickhead "Haha they usually are | |||
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"I don't do adulting, I'm a mermaid "Would be nice to meet with a mermaid but we do change. At 30 it was raising a family. At 40 it was college fees, rag week and conferring. Now I'm looking at 60 and somewhere in the middle of all of that my wife lost all interest in sex. Changed | |||
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"I have the need to buy an s2000 is that a crisis?" Absolutely not!! It's a necessity | |||
"I’m ok anyway I think I never use just for men Always drove a motorbike Always had my nipples pierced Always had a lions head tattoo on my back Maybe there is something going on "Well Lisa, you never know…… | |||
"I have the need to buy an s2000 is that a crisis? Absolutely not!! It's a necessity " It takes 2 to tango and every second should be enjoyed to the fullest. It is really really beautiful | |||
"I’m ok anyway I think I never use just for men Always drove a motorbike Always had my nipples pierced Always had a lions head tattoo on my back Maybe there is something going on
Well Lisa, you never know…… "Haha I asked her to read what I posted she was having a time out bar with a cup of tea at the time She just turned and said go way ya langer you don’t have any of them
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"I have the need to buy an s2000 is that a crisis? Absolutely not!! It's a necessity It takes 2 to tango and every second should be enjoyed to the fullest. It is really really beautiful " You won't lose money on it so why not? | |||
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"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts " I don’t think it means a crisis. It’s just you wise up. Look back over trivial stuff that annoyed you and you laugh at the bit of it you can remember. You reflect every 10 years. Age 10,20,30, 40 etc and focus on the stuff you can change and to hell with the rest. The body changes- you get more hair on your ass than on top of your head and a bit less tough. But it also spurs you on to force you to work harder and get yourself in better shape mentally and physically. Once you follow your passion everything else slots into place. Everyone is replaceable life carry’s on. Do what brings you joy (including fab lol). | |||
"I was congratulated on my 30th birthday for reaching middle age by a colleague, apparently my lifestyle at the time wasn’t conducive to even reaching 60…… Crises is a very strong word, I think it’s more a period in time when you have the combination of the feeling that you’re still young enough, and the life experience of how to enjoy it, the more important question for me is how long it lasts, forever I hope, I love it…… "Enjoy how ever you choose we only get one shot | |||
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"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far Joined Fab 4 new Tattoos Blonde blonde hair Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol" Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now | |||
"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts
I believe it does alright. I think some people are better at not showing it to everybody(for some reason).
I personally don't think I'm going through it, right now. Others might think otherwise with me being on here.
I personally wouldn't call it a crisis of any kind. More like have a reflection of your life. Have a think of anything that you haven't done yet. But you want to do it & can do it aswell. Maybe there's something you'd like to change in your life before now & you do it aswell, if possible for you.
What about yourself OP?
"A continuation from me on me.
I was NEVER able to build a life(so to speak) for myself. As like where I wanted to be in (X) No of year's time, ie job, house etc. As anytime I tried to think like that it'd all go to shit. Whatever age I was or am, as it's not far from happening again to me. I'm VERY slowly trying to build a life for meself still. It'll either start falling into place(at last) or fall apart & go to shit again  . Time will tell eitherway. I believe that I've less day's in front of me from now on. It's just trying to make them better for me, in someway, if possible. I also believe that some people wouldn't go through the mid life crisis, as they've been fitting for so long, trying to get things sorted. That it wouldn't affect them at all, as they'll have spend most if not all of they're life fitting to get thing's together for them, so to speak. | |||
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"It's the 13th of September I had to turn on heating .. "Fuck’n hell Lou if I turn on the heating I’m dead she’ll fuck me out | |||
"It's the 13th of September I had to turn on heating ..
Fuck’n hell Lou if I turn on the heating I’m dead she’ll fuck me out"Honest to god its raining out dark and its freezin .. I swear I've the heating on | |||
"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far Joined Fab 4 new Tattoos Blonde blonde hair Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now " I would bet my bollocks, that you probably don't have a woman, and on the off chance thar you have , she hasn't got a clue you're on here, or even knows this place exists. | |||
"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far Joined Fab 4 new Tattoos Blonde blonde hair Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now I would bet my bollocks, that you probably don't have a woman, and on the off chance thar you have , she hasn't got a clue you're on here, or even knows this place exists." Haha I have and she does do yours | |||
"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far Joined Fab 4 new Tattoos Blonde blonde hair Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now I would bet my bollocks, that you probably don't have a woman, and on the off chance thar you have , she hasn't got a clue you're on here, or even knows this place exists. Haha I have and she does do yours " If you ask a question and the person you asked the question of is it not politeness to give an answer back Sorry op | |||
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"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts" Yes. Yes. Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis. I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse. I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life. For the better  | |||
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"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts Yes. Yes. Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis. I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse. I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life. For the better " | |||
"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts Yes. Yes. Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis. I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse. I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life. For the better "I had a similar trajectory and in my early 40s was fitter and more confident than in my entire life. Unfortunately a triple whammy of divorce, both my parents becoming ill and dependent on me (as well as having 3 kids as a single parent), and development of chronic long term conditions myself - most likely due to stress - has left me unable to pursue physical fitness or the career change I wanted to make. Sometimes you just have to make the best of what you've got, while trying to be all things to the people you care about. | |||
"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts Yes. Yes. Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis. I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse. I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life. For the better
I had a similar trajectory and in my early 40s was fitter and more confident than in my entire life. Unfortunately a triple whammy of divorce, both my parents becoming ill and dependent on me (as well as having 3 kids as a single parent), and development of chronic long term conditions myself - most likely due to stress - has left me unable to pursue physical fitness or the career change I wanted to make. Sometimes you just have to make the best of what you've got, while trying to be all things to the people you care about."And it's exactly that last sentence that hits the spot! It's about the people you care about - we can't change the hand we've been dealt but we can make the best of bad situations. Life might not be ideal, or the dream come true - but I fully believe in leaving a legacy of having loved and cared and done the best to support those I love. So fair deuce to conquering your changes and being there for those who need you! I hope you have a good support network to help on your bad days! Believe me, the changes I started to implement haven't resulted in my end goals either - unfortunately life has a tendency to get in the way. I'm still not set up professionally the way I "should" or "could" be according to some, and lifestyle wise I'm a mess while I'm absolutely prioritising supporting my children with their needs. So I've gone from physically fit and an emotional wreck while going through massive changes to feeling emotionally competent to handle pretty much anything life throws my way (and there's lots of shit thrown ) to back to relatively poor lifestyle with no exercise and less than wholesome foods.
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"Does it exist? Have you experienced it? What does mid life mean you? Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make. Thoughts Yes. Yes. Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis. I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse. I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life. For the better
I had a similar trajectory and in my early 40s was fitter and more confident than in my entire life. Unfortunately a triple whammy of divorce, both my parents becoming ill and dependent on me (as well as having 3 kids as a single parent), and development of chronic long term conditions myself - most likely due to stress - has left me unable to pursue physical fitness or the career change I wanted to make. Sometimes you just have to make the best of what you've got, while trying to be all things to the people you care about.
And it's exactly that last sentence that hits the spot! It's about the people you care about - we can't change the hand we've been dealt but we can make the best of bad situations. Life might not be ideal, or the dream come true - but I fully believe in leaving a legacy of having loved and cared and done the best to support those I love. So fair deuce to conquering your changes and being there for those who need you! I hope you have a good support network to help on your bad days!
Believe me, the changes I started to implement haven't resulted in my end goals either - unfortunately life has a tendency to get in the way. I'm still not set up professionally the way I "should" or "could" be according to some, and lifestyle wise I'm a mess while I'm absolutely prioritising supporting my children with their needs.
So I've gone from physically fit and an emotional wreck while going through massive changes to feeling emotionally competent to handle pretty much anything life throws my way (and there's lots of shit thrown ) to back to relatively poor lifestyle with no exercise and less than wholesome foods.
I know which I prefer "I apologise to the OP, the 2 Ladies in this post, aswell to the other people in this thread, for bringing the tone of this thread down with my post now. The 2 ladies are(in most cases) life can & will throw some curvy ball's at some people, more so than other's. Look after family members as best as you can. If you've kid's in your life, try to give them memories & morals/standard's to live with/by. (Now for the downer part) While your doing your best to look after your parent/s or extended family members. They could be the reason your own health isn't good, be that mentally,physically or other things aren't working out in your life for you. By them always at you to do stuff for them, treating you badly. While others that does little to nothing for them. They're jumping through hoops to help them, nearly always saying yes to these people. While nearly always saying no to you. To change your life around for whatever reason. Could be seen as a mid life crisis, by come people. You could have to walk away, leave them alone & just get on with your own life. Not always an easy thing to do. (Right bring on the grief about this post).  | |||
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"There is no grief about your post. Facing change, difficult people and challenging situations. People react in many different ways.. Resilience is part of this and also accepting what you can and cannot change. I can only speak for myself. My road involved 5 year process to which I read every self help book available. I then attended a gestalt counsellor for 2 years to unpick my brain. Did I have a crisis, in many ways yes. But do I feel more empowered, happier than ever and more fulfilled I do. Each changed input =a changed output... That's my saying.. Not a book.. Good luck " Ya,that's true alright. Glad to hear your happier now OP.
That's a good way to think about it & it's true aswell. THANK'S & you aswell OP. | |||
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