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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago
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Whats it like meeting as a couple and meeting other couples
When its one on one its easy enough to find enjoyment with each other
When there's 4 people involved is it a bit more difficult
Is it hard to concentrate on the person you're with when you can see your partner enjoying themselves beside you with someone else
Do you enjoy seeing them with someone else or do you want to join in
Do the couples move between partners sticking to agreed sexual boundaries..ie any bi play
Do you prefer same room or separate room fun
Any pitfalls you can think off
Any advice you can give
Might not have explained myself properly but Im sure some others have their own questions too and maybe experienced couples have some answeres
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The 4 way attraction is the devil - never take one for the team
Talk about what you want, your boundaries and how you might feel about potential scenarios as things play out. Ensure the couple are on the same page and are seeking the same things.
Listen to your gut feeling. How's the chat going beforehand? Are there any alarm bells ringing? Don't be afraid to discuss any misgivings.
Read the room. Watch out for anyone feeling uncomfortable or being sidelined
It's ok to be nervous. It's ok to put the brakes on at any point.
We're not interested in separate room swapping so no advice to give on that front unfortunately and taking turns doesn't really appeal either. We'd rather a more all-in scenario  |
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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
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It’s why we’re here. We like experiencing and giving pleasure with new partners… also experiencing playmates with different physical or aesthetic characteristics that we don’t / can’t provide to each other. Then there’s the group play dynamic - for us she particularly loves the touch of three people and being spitroasted during the session. It’s a feast for the senses - touch and sight. Then there’s compersion - the joy of seeing each other enjoy themselves at a slight remove. Not every meet ticks every box, but there’s enough aspects that we can experience immense joy from any meet that has us excited in advance of it. |
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So much easier to find a +1 than a +2. , but when it does happen it can be awesome!
The dynamics obviously differ from couple to couples and some do have rules, but we prefer to give each other the freedom to just go with the flow.
We are both v picky and would rather not play at all than compromise. Am very happy to see her enjoying herself with or without my interaction |
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We have found a good few couples that we both like playing with it. Sometimes it can be difficult but we joined fab to enhance our sex life together as a couple so that's the only way we play and we get plenty of action and we are happy so it does happen. |
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If every couple was waiting for the magical 4 way click then I’m sure there would be very little meets happening, the 4 way click is an art in itself, just the same as the elusive unicorn.
For us we can normally judge the vibe on chat as to whether or not play will happen, if the other couple are courteous, have a wicked sense of humour and both are running the profile, then we are 80% there before we ever meet for a social or play. We’re more than likely not going to be 100% a perfect fit for them and vice versa them for us, but if all are happy to play then why not. We always read the room and ensure everyone is comfortable, we make sure nobody is sidelined and always like to discuss how far the meet is potentially going to go well in advance, be it soft play or full swap.
As above we joined to enhance our sex life with new experiences, we joined as a couple do we play and make decisions as a couple. |
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We met on Fab and became a couple. That is as far as we have got lol,we actually haven't worked out do we want to play together or separately.
Great questions Bog ,to think on ,it's a discussion we must have |
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Traditional "swinging" is all about couples, couples meeting couples and swapping and having group sex.
So everything you've describing is quintessential swinging.
The details are up to the individuals.
People vary in how much they enjoy watching, or whether they just focus on their play mate. Whether or not they are bi varies.
I don't think of single men as swingers. Just people who hope to play with swingers. Swinging is all about being a non-monogamous couple. That scene of being committed but outside the norms of monogamous relationship. And meeting other couples who share that and understand it is great.
I'd say that's why over half of couple.profiles won't meet singles and only meet couples. It's easier with people who understand the dynamic.
I have no interest in meeting men individually. I might only make an exception for the trusted male half my swinger pala. Unfortunately. Women to negotiate casual sex from a place of fearing sexual violence. I'm just never going to feel as safe meeting strangers as a man would.
Having my partner with me puts me at ease, I only have to do half as much work to keep conversation going.
I know he'll look out for me. And even if things don't work out I always have someone to go home with.
I wouldn't say I get off on him with other women. But I feel proud of him when I can see that he's showing her a great time. It kind of makes me want to get him home to bed myself.
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