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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
I went with a fuck buddy to my first one so I had that safety blanket. The group was very friendly and welcoming though.
If you are going alone, you can join the chat group prior to get to know some people and maybe ask someone to meet you for a drink before ye go to the social. Makes it a bit easier. Also, let the host know you don’t know anyone and they can introduce you to a few people to get you started. |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
I attend most socials on my own, at the start it was very daunting but through group chat in the lead up helps. The more you attend the less daunting it gets as you build up a network of people who attend also so flying solo isn't as bad  |
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"I attend most socials on my own, at the start it was very daunting but through group chat in the lead up helps. The more you attend the less daunting it gets as you build up a network of people who attend also so flying solo isn't as bad "
that's true just getting first one out way you get more comfortable then |
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Dee said she was bored but that's because her partner at the time was too busy looking for the women he had spent months before perving on.
Jay was nervous as he's not great at socials due to large groups of people. Funnily enough we were originally introduced at a social many moons ago  |
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A very nice Fab lady met me for coffee the day before my first social and she was there to greet me when I walked in.
All the people there were really friendly and made me feel very welcome.
I no longer chat with that lady but I still owe her bigtime for helping me to get started. I have been to socials since and have no problem going solo. There is always someone more shy than you there who will be happy if you come over and say hello.
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"Dee said she was bored but that's because her partner at the time was too busy looking for the women he had spent months before perving on.
Jay was nervous as he's not great at socials due to large groups of people. Funnily enough we were originally introduced at a social many moons ago "
im similar to jay but think once get few drinks in me calm me down be fine I'd imagine |
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"A very nice Fab lady met me for coffee the day before my first social and she was there to greet me when I walked in.
All the people there were really friendly and made me feel very welcome.
I no longer chat with that lady but I still owe her bigtime for helping me to get started. I have been to socials since and have no problem going solo. There is always someone more shy than you there who will be happy if you come over and say hello.
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very nice that lady help you out. True there be others just as neverous I'd imagine |
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol "
You will not be alone in your predicament as there will always be someone else for whom it is their first time too. Conversely there will also be others that have been to many socials and clubs and will know half the room.
A decent host will introduce you to someone so that your not left sitting in a corner feeling awkward, most ikely someone that they know well and that will get the ball rolling.
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
Op....chat groups are set up a few days beforehand so you get talking to others and it helps to break the ice
Don't drink at all would be my advice..nervous beers can lead to having a few too many
Have a few no alcohol drinks and see how you get on |
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over a year ago
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My very first social, I was in hotel and decided I wasn't going. One of the guests attending seen me putting my room service tray putside the bedroom door and persuaded me to go. Had a great night.
My advice for anyone attending alone, pick one of the smaller socials to start with, most have a wee kik group before the event, often a few people will meet for pre drinks so no reason to be alone.
I've attended all alone |
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First one I went to was on my own and I'd never met a single person there.
I joined the chatgroup beforehand which helped a little and the hosts were very welcoming.
I've attended others where there was virtually no interaction from the hosts and I hadn't a clue who anyone was as there was no chatgroup and everyone was sitting around tables which isn't easy when trying to introduce yourself to a table full of people.
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"Op....chat groups are set up a few days beforehand so you get talking to others and it helps to break the ice
Don't drink at all would be my advice..nervous beers can lead to having a few too many
Have a few no alcohol drinks and see how you get on "
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"First one I went to was on my own and I'd never met a single person there.
I joined the chatgroup beforehand which helped a little and the hosts were very welcoming.
I've attended others where there was virtually no interaction from the hosts and I hadn't a clue who anyone was as there was no chatgroup and everyone was sitting around tables which isn't easy when trying to introduce yourself to a table full of people.
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yeah that sounds awakard ha |
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"My very first social, I was in hotel and decided I wasn't going. One of the guests attending seen me putting my room service tray putside the bedroom door and persuaded me to go. Had a great night.
My advice for anyone attending alone, pick one of the smaller socials to start with, most have a wee kik group before the event, often a few people will meet for pre drinks so no reason to be alone.
I've attended all alone "
thanks for advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol "
I went to my first group social on my own. It was a kik group lunch and I was very lucky that a delightful couple SensualnFun met me before everyone arrived. Even though I'd been in the group for a couple of months, I was still a little nervous meeting everyone. After a few minutes my nerves left me as everyone was so nice and friendly. So my advice would be just take the chance and do it. |
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By *entlemuleMan
over a year ago
all over tipperary and the midlands |
"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol "
My first was a hotel Social. I found the kik group great to break the ice. And there were two couples who took me under their wing. I was very nervous at the start but I think I've come out of my shell a little now. Lol. |
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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago
That place in |
My 1st sociol was in a hotel,walked in with one man and left with another lol
Was invited by 1st man was nice I had to walk in with he did his thing I did mine but meet MD that night and the rest they say is history |
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Yep definitely one of the smaller socials with around 20 people tend to be best for those attending alone. It's more difficult for single males, you really need to go out of your comfort zone. The ladies will naturally attract people. |
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
I went to my first group social on my own. It was a kik group lunch and I was very lucky that a delightful couple SensualnFun met me before everyone arrived. Even though I'd been in the group for a couple of months, I was still a little nervous meeting everyone. After a few minutes my nerves left me as everyone was so nice and friendly. So my advice would be just take the chance and do it. "
okay thanks |
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"Yep definitely one of the smaller socials with around 20 people tend to be best for those attending alone. It's more difficult for single males, you really need to go out of your comfort zone. The ladies will naturally attract people."
true think smaller one would be best
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
My first was a hotel Social. I found the kik group great to break the ice. And there were two couples who took me under their wing. I was very nervous at the start but I think I've come out of my shell a little now. Lol. "
that's good lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For a couple who are only begining their journey, where/what socials are best ? Personally speaking I'm edging towards a small group meet/private party situation?  but interested to know what other fabbers would recommend xx thanks in advance, L xx |
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Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
My first social was in Belfast and I went with a someone I had met socially before. It was good to meet people I had chatted to on here at it.
I've been to a few now some have been good craic others not so much.I wouldn't be that bothered about going to the larger ones anymore.I think if I do go again I'd prefer a smaller social where it is easier to chat to people. |
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
My first was a hotel Social. I found the kik group great to break the ice. And there were two couples who took me under their wing. I was very nervous at the start but I think I've come out of my shell a little now. Lol. "
A little ur a pro now at them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first social was an opener I'd never been to a club I went with a guy I got chatting to on the chat group it was his first social also,we left early as knowbody was chatting to us, but I went back had a great time I even went up stairs  I've been to a few socials from the forums |
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My first social was a popup coffee social. So the group was fairly small, when I got there anyway's.  
I was fairly nervous while driving to it.  
When I got into the hotel. I was thinking "Here goes nothing". As I meet the group I was made welcome & relaxed into it. REALLY glad I went to it.
I am hoping to go to another social in a few months, if everything goes well.
That said, I'll be nervous enough beforehand again. As it'll be with bigger group & I'll be on my own again. Even if I don't come across that way at the time. It'll almost be like the first social, as I'll hardly know anybody at it. If anyone at all.
Agree if there's a chat group setup beforehand, can be a great help to newbie people.
I know it wouldn't be easy. You can do it OP. |
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Only been to one myself , as I'm not that great with large groups and when a good few already know each other it's hard to break into the conversation, but said I'd give it a go. And not knowing anyone didn't know what to expect. That said ,did chat with a few people but only small talk really. The hosts did make an effort to make me feel welcome though ,as they could probably sense I was a bit outta place. So, my advice is maybe get chatting to the group who are going and give it a try |
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"For a couple who are only begining their journey, where/what socials are best ? Personally speaking I'm edging towards a small group meet/private party situation? but interested to know what other fabbers would recommend xx thanks in advance, L xx"
From personal experience a popup coffee social, could be, what ye're looking for. When they could up on the forum. I'm only starting meself aswell. So can't say or think of any other socials or private parties to go too.
Good luck with it. Ye'll be great at it, after a few mins into it. |
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"For a couple who are only begining their journey, where/what socials are best ? Personally speaking I'm edging towards a small group meet/private party situation? but interested to know what other fabbers would recommend xx thanks in advance, L xx
Thank you xx
From personal experience a popup coffee social, could be, what ye're looking for. When they could up on the forum. I'm only starting meself aswell. So can't say or think of any other socials or private parties to go too.
Good luck with it. Ye'll be great at it, after a few mins into it. "
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult "
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know. |
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"For a couple who are only begining their journey, where/what socials are best ? Personally speaking I'm edging towards a small group meet/private party situation? but interested to know what other fabbers would recommend xx thanks in advance, L xx
Thank you xx
From personal experience a popup coffee social, could be, what ye're looking for. When they could up on the forum. I'm only starting meself aswell. So can't say or think of any other socials or private parties to go too.
Good luck with it. Ye'll be great at it, after a few mins into it. "
Your welcome L. |
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know. "
Yeah it’s just very difficult, a lot of people are either no single males and when it’s not that it 28 and up or 30 and up . Have never been into the vanilla lifestyle , never had the balls to go to a social and now it’s a kick in the teeth trying to sort it . I’ll try the help a Faber thread thanks |
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"My first social was a popup coffee social. So the group was fairly small, when I got there anyway's.
I was fairly nervous while driving to it.
When I got into the hotel. I was thinking "Here goes nothing". As I meet the group I was made welcome & relaxed into it. REALLY glad I went to it.
I am hoping to go to another social in a few months, if everything goes well.
That said, I'll be nervous enough beforehand again. As it'll be with bigger group & I'll be on my own again. Even if I don't come across that way at the time. It'll almost be like the first social, as I'll hardly know anybody at it. If anyone at all.
Agree if there's a chat group setup beforehand, can be a great help to newbie people.
I know it wouldn't be easy. You can do it OP. "
thanks mate |
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"My first social was in Belfast and I went with a someone I had met socially before. It was good to meet people I had chatted to on here at it.
I've been to a few now some have been good craic others not so much.I wouldn't be that bothered about going to the larger ones anymore.I think if I do go again I'd prefer a smaller social where it is easier to chat to people. "
yeah smaller ones be defo easier to talk and get to know people I think |
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know.
Yeah it’s just very difficult, a lot of people are either no single males and when it’s not that it 28 and up or 30 and up . Have never been into the vanilla lifestyle , never had the balls to go to a social and now it’s a kick in the teeth trying to sort it . I’ll try the help a Faber thread thanks "
28 or 30 and up ... number of people or age?
I've never seen an age restricted social. |
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know.
Yeah it’s just very difficult, a lot of people are either no single males and when it’s not that it 28 and up or 30 and up . Have never been into the vanilla lifestyle , never had the balls to go to a social and now it’s a kick in the teeth trying to sort it . I’ll try the help a Faber thread thanks "
Ya, I know, it can be tuff alright. Ya, try that thread, even if nothing happens this month. They'll be a new 1, every month. Keep trying it & interact on different threads as best as you can aswell. |
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know.
Yeah it’s just very difficult, a lot of people are either no single males and when it’s not that it 28 and up or 30 and up . Have never been into the vanilla lifestyle , never had the balls to go to a social and now it’s a kick in the teeth trying to sort it . I’ll try the help a Faber thread thanks
28 or 30 and up ... number of people or age?
I've never seen an age restricted social."
I'd sat it was age range on profiles he's on about, not a social. No neither have I. |
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"My first social was a popup coffee social. So the group was fairly small, when I got there anyway's.
I was fairly nervous while driving to it.
When I got into the hotel. I was thinking "Here goes nothing". As I meet the group I was made welcome & relaxed into it. REALLY glad I went to it.
I am hoping to go to another social in a few months, if everything goes well.
That said, I'll be nervous enough beforehand again. As it'll be with bigger group & I'll be on my own again. Even if I don't come across that way at the time. It'll almost be like the first social, as I'll hardly know anybody at it. If anyone at all.
Agree if there's a chat group setup beforehand, can be a great help to newbie people.
I know it wouldn't be easy. You can do it OP. thanks mate "
Your welcome OP. |
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know.
Yeah it’s just very difficult, a lot of people are either no single males and when it’s not that it 28 and up or 30 and up . Have never been into the vanilla lifestyle , never had the balls to go to a social and now it’s a kick in the teeth trying to sort it . I’ll try the help a Faber thread thanks
28 or 30 and up ... number of people or age?
I've never seen an age restricted social."
Age on profiles meaning I can’t message some people to even try meet for a social or anything which just makes it a lot harder |
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know.
Yeah it’s just very difficult, a lot of people are either no single males and when it’s not that it 28 and up or 30 and up . Have never been into the vanilla lifestyle , never had the balls to go to a social and now it’s a kick in the teeth trying to sort it . I’ll try the help a Faber thread thanks
Ya, I know, it can be tuff alright. Ya, try that thread, even if nothing happens this month. They'll be a new 1, every month. Keep trying it & interact on different threads as best as you can aswell. "
only recently been able to because you’ve to be on fab a 336 hours I think to be able to even join in on the forums  |
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"Can you do cam verification? I can’t get meet verification because I haven’t got any verifications from socials which I can’t attend because I’ve no verifications . If I was gay or bi , I’d be verified by now is there anything I can do ? Meet one of the organisers for a coffee or something because every social I try attend is the same , I work nights on a 7 day week roster and can barely ever attend and then when I can I’m not verified to be able to even get an invite .. I understand why the rules are put in place but it makes things very difficult for new people and I wouldn’t mind I was verified with my ex when we had a couples page about 2 years ago but it was deleted before we broke up and starting fresh and it’s very difficult
Nothing wrong with getting cam verified. As far as I can see its little to no good to you. When trying to go to a social meet/event. It's the meet verifications that's important to you on that front. Others might say I'm wrong.
Have you tried Help a Faber thread, to see if you can get verified?
Its not easy I know.
Yeah it’s just very difficult, a lot of people are either no single males and when it’s not that it 28 and up or 30 and up . Have never been into the vanilla lifestyle , never had the balls to go to a social and now it’s a kick in the teeth trying to sort it . I’ll try the help a Faber thread thanks
Ya, I know, it can be tuff alright. Ya, try that thread, even if nothing happens this month. They'll be a new 1, every month. Keep trying it & interact on different threads as best as you can aswell. only recently been able to because you’ve to be on fab a 336 hours I think to be able to even join in on the forums "
So I believe alright. Personally was on Fab, months before I went near the forum. So I don't know or take any heed of it. Your able to do it now, that's the mainthing. |
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I always attend to socials on my own and that is fine, what really makes the difference is if I am welcomed or not by the host and their regular friends cause, in this world, almost every body knows each other, therefore some events suit for me and some others are much better to avoid them. |
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"I always attend to socials on my own and that is fine, what really makes the difference is if I am welcomed or not by the host and their regular friends cause, in this world, almost every body knows each other, therefore some events suit for me and some others are much better to avoid them.
You back in Ireland?
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"I always attend to socials on my own and that is fine, what really makes the difference is if I am welcomed or not by the host and their regular friends cause, in this world, almost every body knows each other, therefore some events suit for me and some others are much better to avoid them.
You back in Ireland?
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Yes, but keep travelling very often, tomorrow Germany btw |
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I was nearly sick with nerves, knew nobody and I'm shy so was questioning myself right up to the door... a really good guy who is now a good friend messaged me and told me where he was so I made a beeline for there and sat down. He got me a drink as I couldn't talk to anyone lol... couple drinks in and slowly started to mingle. Everyone was just lovely and welcoming and I haven't looked back since... it can still be daunting though! |
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over a year ago
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I was very nervous and anxious the whole day at the thought of going alone.
Thankfully though, a woman agreed to meet me outside and took me in. She introduced me to a lot of her friends and acquaintances.The reception I received was brilliant. I was made to feel so welcome and made many new friends. The nerves soon left me.
My initial intentions were to stay for an hour or so just to show my face, so to speak, but I ended up staying the whole night. So glad I went!! |
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol "
I want to go to dv8 social, but be on my own and feels bit out place to go… have not got tickets yet!
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
I want to go to dv8 social, but be on my own and feels bit out place to go… have not got tickets yet!
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Wait & see if you get a ticket first. Then join the chat group or put a status up date on your profile to get people to contact you. It wouldn't be as bad for you then.
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
I want to go to dv8 social, but be on my own and feels bit out place to go… have not got tickets yet!
I will purchase tomorrow
Wait & see if you get a ticket first. Then join the chat group or put a status up date on your profile to get people to contact you. It wouldn't be as bad for you then.
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol "
OP most important part if going alone
Be urself and dont go with expectations on the night. Get involved in the kik chat and most have pre drinks .get urself along to that . Will settle any nerves u may have . If u don't put urself out there ull never know. |
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
I want to go to dv8 social, but be on my own and feels bit out place to go… have not got tickets yet!
I will purchase tomorrow
Wait & see if you get a ticket first. Then join the chat group or put a status up date on your profile to get people to contact you. It wouldn't be as bad for you then.
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
OP most important part if going alone
Be urself and dont go with expectations on the night. Get involved in the kik chat and most have pre drinks .get urself along to that . Will settle any nerves u may have . If u don't put urself out there ull never know. "
Ya,that's true & good advice. |
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"I was nearly sick with nerves, knew nobody and I'm shy so was questioning myself right up to the door... a really good guy who is now a good friend messaged me and told me where he was so I made a beeline for there and sat down. He got me a drink as I couldn't talk to anyone lol... couple drinks in and slowly started to mingle. Everyone was just lovely and welcoming and I haven't looked back since... it can still be daunting though!"
yep very daunting but once ye over first one should get easier
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"Out curiosity what were peoples first experience epecially those going alone as if I went be going alone which be daunting basically meeting load strangers basically lol
OP most important part if going alone
Be urself and dont go with expectations on the night. Get involved in the kik chat and most have pre drinks .get urself along to that . Will settle any nerves u may have . If u don't put urself out there ull never know. "
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"I was very nervous and anxious the whole day at the thought of going alone.
Thankfully though, a woman agreed to meet me outside and took me in. She introduced me to a lot of her friends and acquaintances.The reception I received was brilliant. I was made to feel so welcome and made many new friends. The nerves soon left me.
My initial intentions were to stay for an hour or so just to show my face, so to speak, but I ended up staying the whole night. So glad I went!!"
yep prob would regretted if you didn't go thinking what if happens in real life were your like damn should went there or done that etc lol |
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"I always attend to socials on my own and that is fine, what really makes the difference is if I am welcomed or not by the host and their regular friends cause, in this world, almost every body knows each other, therefore some events suit for me and some others are much better to avoid them. "
You would definitely be welcomed. Decent profile and personality |
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
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OP firstly start off with a coffee meet and get a verification.
Dv8 have non-verified socials midweek some months keep an eye on their profile and on Forums.
Heading into anything new can be daunting but it's exciting.
Embrace it and enjoy!
The room full of strangers will be friends by end of the night.
Lots of chat groups are set up prior to events get chatting and arrange to meet people before and go in together. I still do that to this day!
I went to my first social over 10 years ago and now host them. They are SO much fun and the best way to meet people!
Get it out of your head they are all strangers and that everyone knows everyone. Everyone started out just like you....
B x
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"I have never been to one and unlikely to when there is no interaction from locals on the site "
Lots of interaction from locals!
It might not seem like it on fab, but there's a pretty big community up north, they just don't bother much with private mail on this site :p |
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"OP firstly start off with a coffee meet and get a verification.
Dv8 have non-verified socials midweek some months keep an eye on their profile and on Forums.
Heading into anything new can be daunting but it's exciting.
Embrace it and enjoy!
The room full of strangers will be friends by end of the night.
Lots of chat groups are set up prior to events get chatting and arrange to meet people before and go in together. I still do that to this day!
I went to my first social over 10 years ago and now host them. They are SO much fun and the best way to meet people!
Get it out of your head they are all strangers and that everyone knows everyone. Everyone started out just like you....
B x
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okay thanks great advice I'll take on board |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was very nervous and anxious the whole day at the thought of going alone.
Thankfully though, a woman agreed to meet me outside and took me in. She introduced me to a lot of her friends and acquaintances.The reception I received was brilliant. I was made to feel so welcome and made many new friends. The nerves soon left me.
My initial intentions were to stay for an hour or so just to show my face, so to speak, but I ended up staying the whole night. So glad I went!! yep prob would regretted if you didn't go thinking what if happens in real life were your like damn should went there or done that etc lol "
Exactly!!! |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
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I went to my first social with a friend. Very nervous but had a ball. Think cos my friend was as nervous but also as chatty.
After that l went solo but realised its just being social and the hosts are excellent.. |
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