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By *inden OP Man
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
You’re just been to a coffee meet/social etc.
Was the person or people you met what you were expecting, exceeded your expectations, completely different?
I try not to create too much of an idea about someone before I meet them and I’ve been incredibly luck to have met the people I’ve met, I’m not sure if they’ve felt the same way, I have a genuine fear of disappointing people who have been good enough to meet me……  |
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"I’m constantly surprised by how normal people from fab are in real life
I’m expecting full blown dirty perverts but anyone I’ve met from here are lovely"
Why do you got to meets that you expect to be the above ? Lmao  |
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By *ollypop9Woman
over a year ago
wouldn't you like to know |
I worry that much about people getting a wrong picture of me, well especially my size, that I send a "disclaimer" before a possible meet.
I give the person one last chance to walk away before wasting both our time.
It's been creating a laugh at times and an honest conversation. |
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I’m constantly telling people before we meet that my pics are mostly good angles and a good photographer and that I’m absolutely average in real life and they would walk right by me on the street, I get put off meeting lads who gush compliments at me coz it gives me the fear of being a let down in real life. In my past fab life I didn’t have the same worry coz I knew so many from meet and greets and they had seen me, but this time round the fear is real! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always get nervous before meeting someone. Wondering do I meet their expectations
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I never worry about their expectations, that's their problem. Some people will like me, some won't, some will be attracted, others won't. My concern is what I think of them! |
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"You’re just been to a coffee meet/social etc.
Was the person or people you met what you were expecting, exceeded your expectations, completely different?
I try not to create too much of an idea about someone before I meet them and I’ve been incredibly luck to have met the people I’ve met, I’m not sure if they’ve felt the same way, I have a genuine fear of disappointing people who have been good enough to meet me…… "
You have nothing to worry about...sure we all have different likes etc.
Do I get worried or concerned?nope...not really.  I just go and have a laugh. tough shit if someone doesn't like me as I'm not going to change |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
Get a bit nervous before any social especially if they're one on one ....good nervous not bad nervous maybe even butterflys in the stomach
It reminds me of the walk away from your mates at the teenage disco and up to a girl to say do you want to dance
98% of my socials are only ever to say hello,nice to put a face to the rest of you and the bigger thing for me .. their accent
Then anytime we chat in the forums or in messages I hear their voice as if they're talking
Haven't been disappointed yet as Ive never met anyone after just one message and have an idea of what people are like first
Still 2 women on here I'd love to have a coffee with |
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By the time I get around to meeting anyone I've been chatting for a long time so I've a pretty good idea of the type of person I'm meeting.
They aren't doing me a favour by meeting me and any hint that that's how they see the social and I wouldn't be there.
I've never been disappointed and I can only assume from the verifications they have given that I haven't been a disappointment either.
I don't get excited beforehand or suffer from nervous anticipation.
It's only a cup of coffee with a new friend. |
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I've always been pleasantly surprised. Especially being new I was quite nervous the first few coffees I had. But like Linden said above I was instantly reassured every time that the person I was meeting was a regular sound human being every time. |
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Not fear that the person I'm meeting is not what I'm expecting. My pics sell me better than I am in person (even i sometimes wonder if they are of me....lol). Feeling that I'm a let down when I meet new people for coffee  |
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"Not fear that the person I'm meeting is not what I'm expecting. My pics sell me better than I am in person (even i sometimes wonder if they are of me....lol). Feeling that I'm a let down when I meet new people for coffee "
The thing that caught me off guard when I met you was your softness. You have an aura of gentle kindness and smiling kind eyes. |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
I’ve always said that if I don’t get butterflies when I’m going to meet a new person, then it’s time to retire!
I don’t think you ever really know until you meet someone in person whether there’s really an attraction or not so you don’t really have anything to lose! At worst, you’ve had a chat with someone new (assuming they don’t turn out to be psycho) and at best, you’ve met someone you want to get to know better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't always do the social meet together, so if it's a single guy I go and if it's a couple we both go.
I have no expectations anymore.. a little bit of hope though. After all, as long as the tea is plentiful then we're off to a good start.
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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago
The bog |
"I’m constantly telling people before we meet that my pics are mostly good angles and a good photographer and that I’m absolutely average in real life and they would walk right by me on the street, I get put off meeting lads who gush compliments at me coz it gives me the fear of being a let down in real life. In my past fab life I didn’t have the same worry coz I knew so many from meet and greets and they had seen me, but this time round the fear is real!"
I totally get this..I do have the fear sometimes as well... especially when someone builds ya up to be something that Ur not.. |
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"I've always been pleasantly surprised. Especially being new I was quite nervous the first few coffees I had. But like Linden said above I was instantly reassured every time that the person I was meeting was a regular sound human being every time."
This.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go with no expectations way I see it , its two adults having a chat over a coffee.
But I'm very clear to anyone I'm meeting that my pics are good angles, and I'm a big girl, I've had one guy walk out on me so I'm very cautious now when it comes to agreeing to meet. Personally I need to meet someone in person to know if I'm attracted to them. I'm sure a few have been let down when we've met but you can't like everybody |
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
City Centre |
"I always get nervous before meeting someone. Wondering do I meet their expectations
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I'm exactly the same! Ive been very lucky with the people I've met so far. It's actually a good ice breaker asking the person you meet 'did I live up to your expectations' can be a good laugh
B x |
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Anyone that we've met who has posted here have been pretty much exactly as we expected, no nasty surprises at all, all lovely, normal people.
Linden, still waiting to majorly disappoint you over coffee |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve always said that if I don’t get butterflies when I’m going to meet a new person, then it’s time to retire!
I don’t think you ever really know until you meet someone in person whether there’s really an attraction or not so you don’t really have anything to lose! At worst, you’ve had a chat with someone new (assuming they don’t turn out to be psycho) and at best, you’ve met someone you want to get to know better. "
This right here |
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By *inden OP Man
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"I always get nervous before meeting someone. Wondering do I meet their expectations
I'm exactly the same! Ive been very lucky with the people I've met so far. It's actually a good ice breaker asking the person you meet 'did I live up to your expectations' can be a good laugh
B x"
Ladies, I don’t think you have anything to be worried about…… 
But seriously, I think it’s probably worse for us men, and I don’t mind admitting, it’d always be worried I’d be a disappointment …..
And then I’d start to talk, and make it worse….. |
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By *inden OP Man
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"Anyone that we've met who has posted here have been pretty much exactly as we expected, no nasty surprises at all, all lovely, normal people.
Linden, still waiting to majorly disappoint you over coffee "
You won’t be disappointed, I’ve an excellent memory, I won’t forget to bring the bag for my head as per your instructions…….. |
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By *inden OP Man
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"I’m constantly surprised by how normal people from fab are in real life
I’m expecting full blown dirty perverts but anyone I’ve met from here are lovely"
Which just goes to show, people can be both…..   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The fun part is sitting with a perfectly normal person for a coffee while already knowing they are a kinky perv"
Or knowing what they look like naked before you meet them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The fun part is sitting with a perfectly normal person for a coffee while already knowing they are a kinky perv
Or knowing what they look like naked before you meet them "
this exactly! dates from other apps have so much lnformation exchanged. veris and forums kinda give you a good feel for a person. pics are great too. |
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By *inden OP Man
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"The fun part is sitting with a perfectly normal person for a coffee while already knowing they are a kinky perv
Or knowing what they look like naked before you meet them "
Ya, I spend a lot of time explaining some of my pics…… |
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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago
Dublin |
I rarely if ever develop strong feeling for someone I've never meet before so butterflies don't really come into it at a first meet. If you meet and then realise there's an attraction in person it's much different.
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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago
Sensual Center |
People we have met ...certainly didnt disappoint over coffee ....we would gladly have a second or third with them....and have ..you know who you are
Some are here ...
And others just weren't for us
Or
Us for them
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
City Centre |
"The fun part is sitting with a perfectly normal person for a coffee while already knowing they are a kinky perv
Or knowing what they look like naked before you meet them "
I always say so that's what you look like with clothes on
B x |
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"I’m constantly surprised by how normal people from fab are in real life
I’m expecting full blown dirty perverts but anyone I’ve met from here are lovely"
I'm used to it now but I remember in the early days being surprised by the normality of everyone. These days I understand that we are simply normal people. |
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Live all the different perspectives of a simple coffee social.
I'm less concerned about the photos- I don't do good angles, so in real people can be pleasantly surprised.
I do get some nerves, but I try to manage with low expectations - it's just coffee.
My thing is mostly to try manage the slow shy start I tend to have until I get a hint of interest |
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Its great to see some picture on a persons profile to give you some kind of idea of what they look like, but there are so many apps & filters now you just dont know what to think.
Its nice to meet face to face and see them in person, some have looked better in person than they have in their pics.
Never judge a book by its cover or should it be filter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely ever meet now so yes I would get nervous even though we would have been chatting for quite a while beforehand.
Totally different to when I originally joined near 10 years ago. Think its an age thing. |
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I guess coffee meets are a dual purpose.. sometimes it can be just as a friend from the forums or taking a chance to have a coffee meet to exchange stories with a fellow fabber..
Fab peeps meeting at all has obvious sex connotations…
I’d only be nervous if I wanted it to go well..  |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
Far far away |
I not very nervous before a meet. I see it like chatting to someone in a train. I don't over plan or over think. That's why I love the flow of conversations, the richness of diversity in people and their stories. I try to be honest and upfront on leaving. Maybe a fab friend or a fabulous friend. Therein is the beauty of interactions. |
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"The fun part is sitting with a perfectly normal person for a coffee while already knowing they are a kinky perv
Or knowing what they look like naked before you meet them "
That’s the gas thing that gets me.!
We see each other practically naked, then chat, then meet - it’s like backwards to real life..!!
But still always butterflies and afraid to disappoint..!! |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
Trying to guess who you're meeting based on them naked while everyone has clothes on in the bar or coffee shop
Apologies to the lady fabber in Waterford who has the exact same left eye as Castello so I spoke to her on that basis for a minute
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think about this. What is the point of going out and meeting others if you don't feel any excitement or butterflies. I'd give up if I felt nothing. "
Pretty much why we're not meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think about this. What is the point of going out and meeting others if you don't feel any excitement or butterflies. I'd give up if I felt nothing.
Pretty much why we're not meeting"
What do get out of being here then ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think about this. What is the point of going out and meeting others if you don't feel any excitement or butterflies. I'd give up if I felt nothing.
Pretty much why we're not meeting
What do get out of being here then ? "
Furthering my anthropological studies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think about this. What is the point of going out and meeting others if you don't feel any excitement or butterflies. I'd give up if I felt nothing.
Pretty much why we're not meeting
What do get out of being here then ?
Furthering my anthropological studies"
A online study so |
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Bog it isn’t like you to not just ask for the coffee lol.
As for me I tend to not do the 121s unless I know you and usually just meet at a social event or a party saves any awkwardness and yes my pics are all angles but a confidence thing not a catfish scenario but if u can see my friends pics that is me lol! |
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"Bog it isn’t like you to not just ask for the coffee lol.
As for me I tend to not do the 121s unless I know you and usually just meet at a social event or a party saves any awkwardness and yes my pics are all angles but a confidence thing not a catfish scenario but if u can see my friends pics that is me lol! "
Angles couldn't make your smile any prettier  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bog it isn’t like you to not just ask for the coffee lol.
As for me I tend to not do the 121s unless I know you and usually just meet at a social event or a party saves any awkwardness and yes my pics are all angles but a confidence thing not a catfish scenario but if u can see my friends pics that is me lol!
Angles couldn't make your smile any prettier "
I've told Belle this,she has a stunning smile. X |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Most of the people I have met have been pretty much as I expected them to be two were definitely not like their pics they aged a lot overnight
But I don't really have a picture in my head of what I expect them to be until I meet them in person. Most have been dead on and bar guy who was really pushy I don't regret meeting anyone I met off here even when it didn't go beyond a social.
I don't get nervous before meeting anyone anymore I did at the start but when I am meeting new people (which I'm not at present) I don't get nervous as we have chatted for quite a while beforehand and I see it as just a coffee and a chat to see how we get on. If we decide to take things farther in the future than yes I might get a small bit of butterflies before that meet. |
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