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Just a question for the gentleman
Having a chat with the hubby about meets and what he does with another fb. I asked him why he doesn't do it like that with me his reply because you are my wife my baby,
Now gents do ye treat meets different to your partner.
Grabbing the popcorn |
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"Just a question for the gentleman
Having a chat with the hubby about meets and what he does with another fb. I asked him why he doesn't do it like that with me his reply because you are my wife my baby,
Now gents do ye treat meets different to your partner.
Grabbing the popcorn "
Ahhh thats a very nice way of saying ... she's more fun  |
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Think it's a multi layered answer. Treat the other lady with the same respect and care as your partner. However, sexually it's all about the chemistry you both have and her likes and dislikes. If Pinks wants to try something I do with someone else who am I to say no. It's her sexual exploration as much as mine. |
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If you could do all the things you want to do with your wifer ..... why would you want a FB?
It's when your wife doesn't do the things or acts you enjoy or shows no enthusiasam, that you look for a FB.
I had one.
My true soul mate.
I felt I was my true self.
I'm pinning now.
I don't think I can be my true self with my wife as home.
She wouldn't allow me or understand |
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Fair question.
Young and pregnant.
Chance for regular sex. A life partner as one would think.
Tastes change and our minds open up.
It's only when you try something new that you realise what you had/have is bland and stale |
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over a year ago
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"Fair question.
Young and pregnant.
Chance for regular sex. A life partner as one would think.
Tastes change and our minds open up.
It's only when you try something new that you realise what you had/have is bland and stale"
Maybe your wife feels the same as you do. Is she aware of how you feel ? |
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I know it's an oversimplification, but if I wasn't sexually compatible with my partner then I'd have to either come to a mutual arrangement or end the relationship. It's not fair to go without your needs, and it's also not fair to betray her. Getting towards a very overdone topic tho so I won't comment further than this. |
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Back to the original topic... I feel that if someone is going to be intimate enough to have sex with me then they are owed my best efforts just like Laura is. The best solo meets I've had have been boyfriend/girlfriend experience type meets. If there isn't passion I'm not interested. That's why I'm very picky and meet rarely. |
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Works both ways, missus wanted a guy to be more dominant with her in a meet nd I've always wanted to go that bit more dominant than we have before. I asked why u want someone else and not me and she said because I can't take u serious when I attempt Dom mode and I make her laugh too much ha ha which is fair enough, all that did is want me to be more dominant and when she laughed she got punished and she didn't laugh then, was a sexual punishment before anyone loses it lol
I did experience being Dom like with another married female as she said the same thing she can't take her husband seriously and they just laugh at eachother. I really enjoyed it as we had no laughing moments that can ruin the mood |
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"I’m very curious as to what the OPs partner will do to/with a meet that he won’t do to/with her.
Is it a level of intimacy or is it certain acts?"
I guess more groping less gentle lol but I'm fine with the less delicate treatment |
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"Almost sounds as if the husband sees the wife as more worthy of respect and consideration than the sex partner
Or a mammy...  "
Definitely not mammy ha ha we get it on lots but I noticed some women are moaners (porn star moans)I'm not maybe that's what works |
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
Speaking as a divorcee.... I may be disqualified.
However I reckon the chemistry with every single person is different. So often what works well with one, feels different with another, and it's the feeling you may likeore then the action or it could be the other way around. The connect with your wife, is also a quasi spiritual, emotional, physical roller coaster which has heightened highs and lows. A fb is safe. While there is respect, or in my view at least, should be, if it goes tits up, the loss is less, the risk is less, and your life isn't turned upside down.
One man may feel free by this, another may feel tied down by this. I don't think there is one, neat pat answer.
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"Almost sounds as if the husband sees the wife as more worthy of respect and consideration than the sex partner
Or a mammy...
Definitely not mammy ha ha we get it on lots but I noticed some women are moaners (porn star moans)I'm not maybe that's what works "
Didn't mean you guys xx
It is proven that some men see their wives more like mothers who keep the house and kids rather than sexual beings worthy of exciting sex. In turn the wives start seeing their men as kids too who need picked up after and their sex drives for their men drop as who on earth would get horny after spending all day working, cleaning, cooking and raising kids...
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"Works both ways, missus wanted a guy to be more dominant with her in a meet nd I've always wanted to go that bit more dominant than we have before. I asked why u want someone else and not me and she said because I can't take u serious when I attempt Dom mode and I make her laugh too much ha ha which is fair enough, all that did is want me to be more dominant and when she laughed she got punished and she didn't laugh then, was a sexual punishment before anyone loses it lol
I did experience being Dom like with another married female as she said the same thing she can't take her husband seriously and they just laugh at eachother. I really enjoyed it as we had no laughing moments that can ruin the mood "
I get this. I absolutely cannot roleplay with Laura without giggling lol
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Oh god there are so many reasons, my ex was quite selfish in bed despite her thinking otherwise. I was all for this initially as I thought "serving" her needs was par for course. Years of my needs not being met were shite looking back but you have so much other stuff going you don't think about it too much..
Very easy to be open with a fab partner, they are much more likely to be open-minded, more giving and open to reciprocation. Not to mind the kinky stuff!! |
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"Why are fab partners more open minded and giving, and reciprocal?
Plenty of partners and potential partners are all that"
Completely agree, I wrote more likely to be. That is a generalisation on my part. |
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"Why are fab partners more open minded and giving, and reciprocal?
Plenty of partners and potential partners are all that"
Perhaps it's too do with the upfront communication and match making that happens here. |
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that plus the extra adrenaline rush of a new woman possibly.
he has more than likely seen nude photos of her and flirted online with her. plus it's possibly a once off and he's bringing his A game with a meet from here.
very interesting  |
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"Works both ways, missus wanted a guy to be more dominant with her in a meet nd I've always wanted to go that bit more dominant than we have before. I asked why u want someone else and not me and she said because I can't take u serious when I attempt Dom mode and I make her laugh too much ha ha which is fair enough, all that did is want me to be more dominant and when she laughed she got punished and she didn't laugh then, was a sexual punishment before anyone loses it lol
I did experience being Dom like with another married female as she said the same thing she can't take her husband seriously and they just laugh at eachother. I really enjoyed it as we had no laughing moments that can ruin the mood
I get this. I absolutely cannot roleplay with Laura without giggling lol
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Yeh it's funny like but u can still enjoy it but I see the appeal of u wanted someone else to do it if it was more extreme |
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I've noticed that i do this also!
During ONS I feel i dont hold back, where as if im seeing someone i have feelings for i hold back a little, in case they don't reciprocate the kinky side of me and I frighten then off! |
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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
Cork |
May be castigated for this but there is a comfort in knowing that there’ll be lots more sex with my wife and we can have many different types of sex as a result - including slow intimate sex and including, dare I say it, lazy sex. However, a new meet brings a type of seize the moment energy - swinging from the chandelier type sex. |
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"Fair question.
Young and pregnant.
Chance for regular sex. A life partner as one would think.
Tastes change and our minds open up.
It's only when you try something new that you realise what you had/have is bland and stale"
Holy fuck thats a pretty shitty way to refer to "your wife" ! |
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"Almost sounds as if the husband sees the wife as more worthy of respect and consideration than the sex partner
Or a mammy...
Definitely not mammy ha ha we get it on lots but I noticed some women are moaners (porn star moans)I'm not maybe that's what works
Didn't mean you guys xx
It is proven that some men see their wives more like mothers who keep the house and kids rather than sexual beings worthy of exciting sex. In turn the wives start seeing their men as kids too who need picked up after and their sex drives for their men drop as who on earth would get horny after spending all day working, cleaning, cooking and raising kids...
Missus "
Their missing out big time imo. Nothing better that explosive sexual energy with someone you love |
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"Sex is always different with someone you love.. I think that explains it anyways .."
This is true for me.
I had a partner once tell me I was the best sex she ever had. I asked her why because she was quite a bit more experienced than me and she simply stated 'because I love you'. Swoon.
I've never had sex with anyone else while I was in a relationship so can't comment on how different it feels or how I might behave.
I can say with some certainty that if I am with someone they have my all and I can't imagine ever wanting to be with someone who didn't inspire that in me.
I have no idea if that would change should I fall in love and swing with a partner. |
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"Our sex is to cherish our relationship it’s not only about bodies… it’s about souls…
Sex with others is a treat for the body only..
that’s why there is absolutely no jealousy between us. "
I think you just earned the sweetest couple of the week award…if there was such one. That’s so beautifully put |
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I'm loving this thread & it has me nodding in agreement & more confused in equal parts. Thankfully we have an amazing sex life & swinging has brought it to another level & we connect more after a meet like nothing I had ever experienced before. I think I am different with meets than I usually am with him, but not so different than how we were together when we first got together 20 years ago. But now we are used to each other, our likes & dislikes & what gets each other off so that becomes the default rather than the exploration we used to have.. this probably makes no sense..lol |
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