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"I wouldn’t date anyone I ever met on fab. My trust issues were shot to shit before ever joining here. Now? I’d worry if he was bi/gay/into trans ladies, cheating, having 3 sums. I’m very vanilla in all honesty and I don’t think I’d ever trust another man after having my eyes opened here. " Between here and my job I don't think I'd ever trust a man but hope prevails If a relationship happens it happens | |||
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"Just curious... what's everyone's thoughts on finding a proper relationship on here? Is it possible? And is anyone looking for just that?" Depends on what you define a proper relationship as | |||
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"I wouldn’t date anyone I ever met on fab. My trust issues were shot to shit before ever joining here. Now? I’d worry if he was bi/gay/into trans ladies, cheating, having 3 sums. I’m very vanilla in all honesty and I don’t think I’d ever trust another man after having my eyes opened here. Between here and my job I don't think I'd ever trust a man but hope prevails If a relationship happens it happens" That's why fab isn't for everyone it's not a dating site.. its a eye opener indeed.. it all depends what your looking for | |||
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"I wouldn’t date anyone I ever met on fab. My trust issues were shot to shit before ever joining here. Now? I’d worry if he was bi/gay/into trans ladies, cheating, having 3 sums. I’m very vanilla in all honesty and I don’t think I’d ever trust another man after having my eyes opened here. " As soon as I get back into a relationship I'm a one woman man. I was burnt badly left with kids thankfully... Fab is solely to cut out the dating side which I don't have time for... | |||
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"For shites and giggles.. the 1st ever M&G I attended ... I bumped into my 1st ever serious girlfriend and her hubby. Was mad, we stayed in touch and meet for coffees but not swing stuff that was 1 too far... otherwise met lots here in the past and call friends but a relationship i think it would be like winning the lotto considering fabswibgers intent. " No profile pic .. why not .. I'm just curious why people have no profile pic? | |||
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"I met the most amazing man here on Fab, it's the best fun,laughs and fantastic connection and I would be lost without him.He is now my partner in crime and while we both had fun as singles on here,together is even better. This site is not a dating site but I know people who have met and had had better luck on here than dating apps and have found what they are looking for." Delighted for yis .. you put into better words than I tried .. really happy for ye I really mean it | |||
"I met the most amazing man here on Fab, it's the best fun,laughs and fantastic connection and I would be lost without him.He is now my partner in crime and while we both had fun as singles on here,together is even better. This site is not a dating site but I know people who have met and had had better luck on here than dating apps and have found what they are looking for." 2 nicer people u wont meet .well deserved | |||
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"Love is love. " Agree .. goodnight all x lou | |||
"Falling in love and having that special 'click' together, opening your heart and letting that other person in, being yourself and feeling safe with them. Building trust. Making plans. Going out in public together. Meeting friends and family. Is that what a 'proper relationship' looks like? We met here and that's what's happened "Yup we are they same, couldn't be happier. | |||
"Just for the people that say they wouldn't date someone off fab Does that mean...good enough to fuck but not to go for dinner for instance Or is it because you dont want to date " Both. I initially came here because I wasn’t ready to date, and a friend recommended here because there was no expectations… but the more I’ve seen on here, the more I doubt I’ll ever trust males again. It’s a whole other world. Men pretending not to be married, denying they have kids, it’s just a very different world to real life. I’ve met people on here who are neighbours of my parents and I knew for a fact he had a heavily pregnant girlfriend at home, but he was telling me he was single just out of a relationship. | |||
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"Just for the people that say they wouldn't date someone off fab Does that mean...good enough to fuck but not to go for dinner for instance Or is it because you dont want to date Both. I initially came here because I wasn’t ready to date, and a friend recommended here because there was no expectations… but the more I’ve seen on here, the more I doubt I’ll ever trust males again. It’s a whole other world. Men pretending not to be married, denying they have kids, it’s just a very different world to real life. I’ve met people on here who are neighbours of my parents and I knew for a fact he had a heavily pregnant girlfriend at home, but he was telling me he was single just out of a relationship. " Sure look if you’re coming out of a rough time of it (as in relationship)then obviously you need too keep your safety number one priority and we hope you get what you want from here if it’s not for you check out any time you like girl you don’t owe anyone on here anything | |||
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"Just for the people that say they wouldn't date someone off fab Does that mean...good enough to fuck but not to go for dinner for instance Or is it because you dont want to date Both. I initially came here because I wasn’t ready to date, and a friend recommended here because there was no expectations… but the more I’ve seen on here, the more I doubt I’ll ever trust males again. It’s a whole other world. Men pretending not to be married, denying they have kids, it’s just a very different world to real life. I’ve met people on here who are neighbours of my parents and I knew for a fact he had a heavily pregnant girlfriend at home, but he was telling me he was single just out of a relationship. " Different world to real life? I think you'll find this is real, though, due to it being little old Ireland, it's unfortunately kept behind closed doors. Very sorry to hear that you were hurt and have trust issues with men, though I do understand it, as have been in similar situation many moons ago. Guess what? It was the woman who had been with someone else without my knowledge. Yes, it happens both ways. I don't believe Fab is any different in a relationship forming perspective than any other site. If you meet your true love, you'll probably know it, regardless of where it was. The difference with meeting them here is that you'll know a lot of their desires and already have decided that you can satisfy them and more. Whether you both decide to keep swinging is a definite conversation topic before you fully commit, obviously and you can then decide upon that commitment. One little bit of advice. If you don't want a future partner sneaking behind your back, keep them happy sexually, or have an open conversation any time you are not feeling the urges you had in the early parts of the relationship. You'll find that most of the married men who are here are because of their wives diminished libido (for whatever reason, of which there are many. I know ladies, don't jump on this single comment. I'm world wise and know you go through a lot) There are others who are just greedy fuckers, literally, whom I have no respect for. Hey, Happy Fabbing and do remember that Fab is what you make of it, in your own way and you owe nobody an explanation as to how you do that | |||
"Sure some people behave badly.. but not everyone. I just don't understand those single people who are looking for a partner, and are her for their own reasons, but not willing to meet a partner here. It's a bit hypocritical IMO." I’m not looking for a partner anywhere. I’m merely saying, I wouldn’t date someone from fab. Personally. | |||
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" One little bit of advice. If you don't want a future partner sneaking behind your back, keep them happy sexually, or have an open conversation any time you are not feeling the urges you had in the early parts of the relationship. You'll find that most of the married men who are here are because of their wives diminished libido (for whatever reason, of which there are many. I know ladies, don't jump on this single comment. I'm world wise and know you go through a lot) There are others who are just greedy fuckers, literally, whom I have no respect for. Hey, Happy Fabbing and do remember that Fab is what you make of it, in your own way and you owe nobody an explanation as to how you do that "Yikes! I’d have to strongly disagree with this… it’s not anyone else’s duty to prevent their partner from cheating and lying. If they’re not happy, they have no right to put their wife/partner in danger (sti etc) and decide to have the best of both worlds. If either party isn’t happy, that’s fair. Life is too short. But, leave. There is no excuse for lying and cheating and there’s nobody to blame but the cheater. | |||
" One little bit of advice. If you don't want a future partner sneaking behind your back, keep them happy sexually, or have an open conversation any time you are not feeling the urges you had in the early parts of the relationship. You'll find that most of the married men who are here are because of their wives diminished libido (for whatever reason, of which there are many. I know ladies, don't jump on this single comment. I'm world wise and know you go through a lot) There are others who are just greedy fuckers, literally, whom I have no respect for. Hey, Happy Fabbing and do remember that Fab is what you make of it, in your own way and you owe nobody an explanation as to how you do that
Yikes! I’d have to strongly disagree with this… it’s not anyone else’s duty to prevent their partner from cheating and lying. If they’re not happy, they have no right to put their wife/partner in danger (sti etc) and decide to have the best of both worlds. If either party isn’t happy, that’s fair. Life is too short. But, leave. There is no excuse for lying and cheating and there’s nobody to blame but the cheater. "Sorry, I did not mean to annoy you. However, I think you missed the part where I said to have an open conversation to explain why you may not be feeling the urge as much. What I mean is that conversation clears the doubts the other partner may be having if the rhythm of the relationship changes, especially when there may be no obvious reason. If this was a Fab partner, as in the original question, it's likely that sex would be an open topic and easily discussed. Without wanting to be personal, just to explain, my partner is impossible to talk with about sex outside of the bedroom after having some. Again, I do not mean to offend, only discuss openly. | |||
" One little bit of advice. If you don't want a future partner sneaking behind your back, keep them happy sexually, or have an open conversation any time you are not feeling the urges you had in the early parts of the relationship. You'll find that most of the married men who are here are because of their wives diminished libido (for whatever reason, of which there are many. I know ladies, don't jump on this single comment. I'm world wise and know you go through a lot) There are others who are just greedy fuckers, literally, whom I have no respect for. Hey, Happy Fabbing and do remember that Fab is what you make of it, in your own way and you owe nobody an explanation as to how you do that
Yikes! I’d have to strongly disagree with this… it’s not anyone else’s duty to prevent their partner from cheating and lying. If they’re not happy, they have no right to put their wife/partner in danger (sti etc) and decide to have the best of both worlds. If either party isn’t happy, that’s fair. Life is too short. But, leave. There is no excuse for lying and cheating and there’s nobody to blame but the cheater.
Sorry, I did not mean to annoy you.
However, I think you missed the part where I said to have an open conversation to explain why you may not be feeling the urge as much.
What I mean is that conversation clears the doubts the other partner may be having if the rhythm of the relationship changes, especially when there may be no obvious reason.
If this was a Fab partner, as in the original question, it's likely that sex would be an open topic and easily discussed.
Without wanting to be personal, just to explain, my partner is impossible to talk with about sex outside of the bedroom after having some.
Again, I do not mean to offend, only discuss openly."Your entitled to your opinion if people don’t agree with it that’s their choice just saying | |||
I do understand what you mean though and thanks for that | |||
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" One little bit of advice. If you don't want a future partner sneaking behind your back, keep them happy sexually, or have an open conversation any time you are not feeling the urges you had in the early parts of the relationship. You'll find that most of the married men who are here are because of their wives diminished libido (for whatever reason, of which there are many. I know ladies, don't jump on this single comment. I'm world wise and know you go through a lot) There are others who are just greedy fuckers, literally, whom I have no respect for. Hey, Happy Fabbing and do remember that Fab is what you make of it, in your own way and you owe nobody an explanation as to how you do that
Yikes! I’d have to strongly disagree with this… it’s not anyone else’s duty to prevent their partner from cheating and lying. If they’re not happy, they have no right to put their wife/partner in danger (sti etc) and decide to have the best of both worlds. If either party isn’t happy, that’s fair. Life is too short. But, leave. There is no excuse for lying and cheating and there’s nobody to blame but the cheater.
Sorry, I did not mean to annoy you.
However, I think you missed the part where I said to have an open conversation to explain why you may not be feeling the urge as much.
What I mean is that conversation clears the doubts the other partner may be having if the rhythm of the relationship changes, especially when there may be no obvious reason.
If this was a Fab partner, as in the original question, it's likely that sex would be an open topic and easily discussed.
Without wanting to be personal, just to explain, my partner is impossible to talk with about sex outside of the bedroom after having some.
Again, I do not mean to offend, only discuss openly."But then it’s your choice to A) ask her what’s wrong and how you can fix it so as you are content in the relationship B) Leave C) Make excuses and blame someone else for your actions. I understand what you’re saying, men are not getting enough sex at home but it’s not always the case. Sure, in some circumstances it is a factor (not an excuse) but sometimes, men just cheat because they can. It’s not that they’re unfulfilled at home. And they know it too, because when they’re caught they’ll cry like a little bitch, and beg and plead for second chances. | |||
" One little bit of advice. If you don't want a future partner sneaking behind your back, keep them happy sexually, or have an open conversation any time you are not feeling the urges you had in the early parts of the relationship. You'll find that most of the married men who are here are because of their wives diminished libido (for whatever reason, of which there are many. I know ladies, don't jump on this single comment. I'm world wise and know you go through a lot) There are others who are just greedy fuckers, literally, whom I have no respect for. Hey, Happy Fabbing and do remember that Fab is what you make of it, in your own way and you owe nobody an explanation as to how you do that
Yikes! I’d have to strongly disagree with this… it’s not anyone else’s duty to prevent their partner from cheating and lying. If they’re not happy, they have no right to put their wife/partner in danger (sti etc) and decide to have the best of both worlds. If either party isn’t happy, that’s fair. Life is too short. But, leave. There is no excuse for lying and cheating and there’s nobody to blame but the cheater.
Sorry, I did not mean to annoy you.
However, I think you missed the part where I said to have an open conversation to explain why you may not be feeling the urge as much.
What I mean is that conversation clears the doubts the other partner may be having if the rhythm of the relationship changes, especially when there may be no obvious reason.
If this was a Fab partner, as in the original question, it's likely that sex would be an open topic and easily discussed.
Without wanting to be personal, just to explain, my partner is impossible to talk with about sex outside of the bedroom after having some.
Again, I do not mean to offend, only discuss openly.
But then it’s your choice to
A) ask her what’s wrong and how you can fix it so as you are content in the relationship
B) Leave
C) Make excuses and blame someone else for your actions.
I understand what you’re saying, men are not getting enough sex at home but it’s not always the case. Sure, in some circumstances it is a factor (not an excuse) but sometimes, men just cheat because they can. It’s not that they’re unfulfilled at home. And they know it too, because when they’re caught they’ll cry like a little bitch, and beg and plead for second chances. "Completely agree with you that some men, and women, will chase the hare regardless of home life. That's in their makeup and for them to deal with and cry Foul, as they do. Personally, which I really don't want to discuss as part of the thread, I have tried option A but having difficulty with the open, honest conversation. To the point I'm considering option B but a lot to consider before that. In the meantime, I restate that a "proper relationship " can definitely be found on Fab, as much as anywhere else, and that I think it would be a much more open, honest relationship as a result of that. How often do you meet someone whereby you know beforehand that they like it in back/dressing as opposite gender at weekends/flogging/toys/bdsm/etc.? Makes a lot of discussion, play and connecting so much better. I wish I'd had it when I was younger | |||
I was going to try send this privately but decided not to, so that others would check out what you have received. I would also use versions of their usernames, with occasional # or * so admin don't annoy you but others know, especially women, who writes that kind of abusive, disrespectful crap | |||
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"I would love a relationship but I would find it hard to trust a person from here for anything long term. Ive made amazing friends which to me is more of a bonus than any quickie. Im happy with the fwb label as its probably the nearest to what I'm looking for. But I'm not in a hurry. Better to find one diamond than a bag of coals. " Is it your belief that men outside of fab are more trustworthy (with regards to potential cheating) than those who are on fab? | |||
"Just curious... what's everyone's thoughts on finding a proper relationship on here? Is it possible? And is anyone looking for just that?" I think possible, but most single woman block men! It’s like their lesbian | |||
" One little bit of advice. If you don't want a future partner sneaking behind your back, keep them happy sexually, or have an open conversation any time you are not feeling the urges you had in the early parts of the relationship. You'll find that most of the married men who are here are because of their wives diminished libido (for whatever reason, of which there are many. I know ladies, don't jump on this single comment. I'm world wise and know you go through a lot) There are others who are just greedy fuckers, literally, whom I have no respect for. Hey, Happy Fabbing and do remember that Fab is what you make of it, in your own way and you owe nobody an explanation as to how you do that
Yikes! I’d have to strongly disagree with this… it’s not anyone else’s duty to prevent their partner from cheating and lying. If they’re not happy, they have no right to put their wife/partner in danger (sti etc) and decide to have the best of both worlds. If either party isn’t happy, that’s fair. Life is too short. But, leave. There is no excuse for lying and cheating and there’s nobody to blame but the cheater.
Sorry, I did not mean to annoy you.
However, I think you missed the part where I said to have an open conversation to explain why you may not be feeling the urge as much.
What I mean is that conversation clears the doubts the other partner may be having if the rhythm of the relationship changes, especially when there may be no obvious reason.
If this was a Fab partner, as in the original question, it's likely that sex would be an open topic and easily discussed.
Without wanting to be personal, just to explain, my partner is impossible to talk with about sex outside of the bedroom after having some.
Again, I do not mean to offend, only discuss openly.
But then it’s your choice to
A) ask her what’s wrong and how you can fix it so as you are content in the relationship
B) Leave
C) Make excuses and blame someone else for your actions.
I understand what you’re saying, men are not getting enough sex at home but it’s not always the case. Sure, in some circumstances it is a factor (not an excuse) but sometimes, men just cheat because they can. It’s not that they’re unfulfilled at home. And they know it too, because when they’re caught they’ll cry like a little bitch, and beg and plead for second chances. "Just read your bio anyone who wonders what messages to women are like have a read and than guys wonder why they get no reply. | |||
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"I think people over think this question. Two people meet and decide to start a relationship because they have clicked. That can happen anywhere, anytime - FAB or not. How to make any relationship work is communication and ground rules - for some that’s monogamy for some that isn’t. I’ve fallen in and out of situationships on here - FAB has never been the reason we got together / stayed together/ broke up - but it has been where we met. FAB then either becomes a place to hang out or it doesn’t- That could just as easily be a bar / an actual dating site but the conditions of staying or always the same. Is it a happy relationship through which both can grow - stay. If not - leave - keep it simple. " Very well put, it's not about where you meet, it's about compatibility, trust and communication. | |||
"I think people over think this question. Two people meet and decide to start a relationship because they have clicked. That can happen anywhere, anytime - FAB or not. How to make any relationship work is communication and ground rules - for some that’s monogamy for some that isn’t. I’ve fallen in and out of situationships on here - FAB has never been the reason we got together / stayed together/ broke up - but it has been where we met. FAB then either becomes a place to hang out or it doesn’t- That could just as easily be a bar / an actual dating site but the conditions of staying or always the same. Is it a happy relationship through which both can grow - stay. If not - leave - keep it simple. Very well put, it's not about where you meet, it's about compatibility, trust and communication. " | |||
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"I think people over think this question. Two people meet and decide to start a relationship because they have clicked. That can happen anywhere, anytime - FAB or not. How to make any relationship work is communication and ground rules - for some that’s monogamy for some that isn’t. I’ve fallen in and out of situationships on here - FAB has never been the reason we got together / stayed together/ broke up - but it has been where we met. FAB then either becomes a place to hang out or it doesn’t- That could just as easily be a bar / an actual dating site but the conditions of staying or always the same. Is it a happy relationship through which both can grow - stay. If not - leave - keep it simple. " Love this. | |||
I’ve also met some of my closest friends through fab and I trust them as much as I trust vanilla life friends. A number of them are male and it bugs the shit out of me to see people saying that men on fab can’t be trusted. | |||
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"I wouldn’t date anyone I ever met on fab. My trust issues were shot to shit before ever joining here. Now? I’d worry if he was bi/gay/into trans ladies, cheating, having 3 sums. I’m very vanilla in all honesty and I don’t think I’d ever trust another man after having my eyes opened here. As soon as I get back into a relationship I'm a one woman man. I was burnt badly left with kids thankfully... Fab is solely to cut out the dating side which I don't have time for... " Fab is for fun only. Also as a single parent it’s my duty at the moment to rear.my offspring. When they get to a certain age. I will put in the effort to meet someone again I haven’t given up on love completely. But for now fab suits me I seriously doubt I will meet my future husband on here though. I have taught about it maybe meeting someone here but I don’t think being a loved up swinging couple is for me, despite having a love for swinging. Don’t think I could share someone who I truly love. Works amazing for some couples not for me | |||
"Just curious... what's everyone's thoughts on finding a proper relationship on here? Is it possible? And is anyone looking for just that?" He happened to be very lost - I found him and saved him. Just don't let his parents know he's gagged and bound in the attic - sssshhhhh  | |||
"Just curious... what's everyone's thoughts on finding a proper relationship on here? Is it possible? And is anyone looking for just that? He happened to be very lost - I found him and saved him. Just don't let his parents know he's gagged and bound in the attic - sssshhhhh "
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"I find it absolutely bizarre that people say they can’t trust guys here but are still looking to ride them. You’re willing to put yourself in a vulnerable position with them but think they’re all untrustworthy? It’s the ultimate red flag for me to see anyone saying I’d never date someone from fab but they are on dating sites looking for a partner. People here are fine to use but not good enough to be seen with? I’ve had two relationships that formed through meeting on fab and while I’m not actively looking for a partner at this point in my life, if it was to happen that I met someone here that evolved from a fwb situation into more, then great. Open communication is important in any relationship no matter where you meet them and at least they’d know from the start that I’m a horny bitch
I’ve also met some of my closest friends through fab and I trust them as much as I trust vanilla life friends. A number of them are male and it bugs the shit out of me to see people saying that men on fab can’t be trusted. "Yep pretty much hit the nail on the head with this. I totally agree . | |||
"I wouldn’t date anyone I ever met on fab. My trust issues were shot to shit before ever joining here. Now? I’d worry if he was bi/gay/into trans ladies, cheating, having 3 sums. I’m very vanilla in all honesty and I don’t think I’d ever trust another man after having my eyes opened here. As soon as I get back into a relationship I'm a one woman man. I was burnt badly left with kids thankfully... Fab is solely to cut out the dating side which I don't have time for... Fab is for fun only. Also as a single parent it’s my duty at the moment to rear.my offspring. When they get to a certain age. I will put in the effort to meet someone again I haven’t given up on love completely. But for now fab suits me I seriously doubt I will meet my future husband on here though. I have taught about it maybe meeting someone here but I don’t think being a loved up swinging couple is for me, despite having a love for swinging. Don’t think I could share someone who I truly love. Works amazing for some couples not for me " As a divorced Father, I feel very similar. I am really waiting for all the kids to be older before I settle with someone seriously. Having said that, the qualities I looked for in previous times, and now have changed. I guess I have been fabbed. | |||
"I find it absolutely bizarre that people say they can’t trust guys here but are still looking to ride them. You’re willing to put yourself in a vulnerable position with them but think they’re all untrustworthy? It’s the ultimate red flag for me to see anyone saying I’d never date someone from fab but they are on dating sites looking for a partner. People here are fine to use but not good enough to be seen with? I’ve had two relationships that formed through meeting on fab and while I’m not actively looking for a partner at this point in my life, if it was to happen that I met someone here that evolved from a fwb situation into more, then great. Open communication is important in any relationship no matter where you meet them and at least they’d know from the start that I’m a horny bitch
I’ve also met some of my closest friends through fab and I trust them as much as I trust vanilla life friends. A number of them are male and it bugs the shit out of me to see people saying that men on fab can’t be trusted.
Yep pretty much hit the nail on the head with this. I totally agree . "Yep, I agree with this. It's best that people know who you are as early as possible, preferably from the start. | |||
"I find it absolutely bizarre that people say they can’t trust guys here but are still looking to ride them. You’re willing to put yourself in a vulnerable position with them but think they’re all untrustworthy? It’s the ultimate red flag for me to see anyone saying I’d never date someone from fab but they are on dating sites looking for a partner. People here are fine to use but not good enough to be seen with? I’ve had two relationships that formed through meeting on fab and while I’m not actively looking for a partner at this point in my life, if it was to happen that I met someone here that evolved from a fwb situation into more, then great. Open communication is important in any relationship no matter where you meet them and at least they’d know from the start that I’m a horny bitch
I’ve also met some of my closest friends through fab and I trust them as much as I trust vanilla life friends. A number of them are male and it bugs the shit out of me to see people saying that men on fab can’t be trusted. "It's hilarious to see people apply blanket judgements to fab users, yet think it shouldn't then apply equally to themselves. | |||
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"Just curious... what's everyone's thoughts on finding a proper relationship on here? Is it possible? And is anyone looking for just that?" We found each other here. 3 years now and still going strong Misses | |||
"I don’t think it’s that they’re not good enough to be seen with? I’ve been out with a guy I met on fab. We’ve gone for all day drinks, pizza, dinner, he’s picked me up when I’ve been out with my friends. He’s a good person and it’s nothing to do with being seen with him. Do I trust him? No. Was he honest? No. Would I be able to date him? No. Would I think he was lying to me every time he was on his phone? Yes. Does it mean I think he’s a bad person? No. " That could easily happen outwith Fab also. | |||
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"Laura was very active on fab before I met her. Does that mean I shouldn't trust her? Or does this just apply to men?" We've heard men say exactly the same about women, "couldn't trust a woman I met on fab" | |||
"Laura was very active on fab before I met her. Does that mean I shouldn't trust her? Or does this just apply to men?" Trust should be part of every relationship either on or off fab. It doesn't relate either sex and also trust in relation to fidelity. | |||
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"Just don't get it. Because someone has nostrings sex they aren't trustworthy? Bonkers stuff" I think it’s more the fact in my experience they’ve lied about not being married, denied having kids and one guy took a condom off during sex. So ya, combined with the mad messages I receive, and knowing for fact a neighbour was messaging me on here without realizing, 4 days before his 8.5 month pregnant girlfriend had her baby shower (that my sister was attending), kind of makes me a bit weary. | |||
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"I don’t think it’s that they’re not good enough to be seen with? I’ve been out with a guy I met on fab. We’ve gone for all day drinks, pizza, dinner, he’s picked me up when I’ve been out with my friends. He’s a good person and it’s nothing to do with being seen with him. Do I trust him? No. Was he honest? No. Would I be able to date him? No. Would I think he was lying to me every time he was on his phone? Yes. Does it mean I think he’s a bad person? No. That could easily happen outwith Fab also. " Oh I know, which is why I joined fab instead of dating “properly”. | |||
"I find it absolutely bizarre that people say they can’t trust guys here but are still looking to ride them. You’re willing to put yourself in a vulnerable position with them but think they’re all untrustworthy? It’s the ultimate red flag for me to see anyone saying I’d never date someone from fab but they are on dating sites looking for a partner. People here are fine to use but not good enough to be seen with? I’ve had two relationships that formed through meeting on fab and while I’m not actively looking for a partner at this point in my life, if it was to happen that I met someone here that evolved from a fwb situation into more, then great. Open communication is important in any relationship no matter where you meet them and at least they’d know from the start that I’m a horny bitch
I’ve also met some of my closest friends through fab and I trust them as much as I trust vanilla life friends. A number of them are male and it bugs the shit out of me to see people saying that men on fab can’t be trusted.
It's hilarious to see people apply blanket judgements to fab users, yet think it shouldn't then apply equally to themselves."Tbh I don’t think it’s a trust thing it’s just t that it can’t be taken seriously imo. Tbh I think the men on here are far more honest than on dating apps. I’m here a number of years now and only came across one man who blatantly lied about having a partner and kids. I get chatting to men and after a bit of convo it becomes obvious that they have a whole other life. I ask them is your partner aware you are here and they always say no. Advise them then this convo can’t continue and they be like fine. I personally think some people are far more likely to lie on dating apps than fab. My advice to anyone using fab or any other app always trust your gut | |||
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"I met the most amazing man here on Fab, it's the best fun,laughs and fantastic connection and I would be lost without him.He is now my partner in crime and while we both had fun as singles on here,together is even better. This site is not a dating site but I know people who have met and had had better luck on here than dating apps and have found what they are looking for. Delighted for yis .. you put into better words than I tried .. really happy for ye I really mean it "It's not perfect, but ya know, it suits us both, you just never know what can happen here.And thank you xxxx | |||
"It's called fabswingers for a reason it's a swinging site not a relationship site good luck to anyone who has met on the site and is happy but wouldn't be for me " Awaaah but ya never know who you can meet here ,that's the fun of it.This is the equivalent to a dating site these days, so my vanilla dating friends have told me. | |||
"I met the most amazing man here on Fab, it's the best fun,laughs and fantastic connection and I would be lost without him.He is now my partner in crime and while we both had fun as singles on here,together is even better. This site is not a dating site but I know people who have met and had had better luck on here than dating apps and have found what they are looking for. 2 nicer people u wont meet .well deserved " right back at ya xxxx | |||
"I'm sure it could happen naturally if people were meeting regularly enough. Feelings could form with the connection & interactions. For me I am on here as I don't want a relationship just sexy time fun. So each to their own. That's what's great about this site we each approach it our own way. " Perfectly said | |||
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"Personally I have found girls from Tinder etc more deceptive and there's plenty just looking for a free night out. At least on Fab everything is pretty much on the table before you meet although it's difficult for most women to believe on either platform that you're actually choosy and not just here for a quick fcuk. " ?? this. | |||
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"People fall in love all over the shop. No one plans it. Usually it's my willingness to commit to driving across the country or get on a plane without a second thought that's a sure sign I'm getting the feels. That and a willingness to sleep in someone else's bed three nights in a row. I swore blind the last time I was on Tinder that I had no interest in a relationship. Oh how my friends laughed when I introduced my new girlfriend. On the subject of trust. This is the internet. Trust is not a part of the deal until it's earned. End of. Women meeting men for free dinner's? That's a high price to pay for a bit of grub and I'd be dubious unless we're taking Michelin stars. Lots of men meeting women just for free sex though. Come to think of it. Everyone is. Nothing to see here." There's free dinner  | |||
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"Have you found someone special!" After 17 year's of monogamy it's taken me nearly three years to find my single self. I'd never rule it out though. Love fearlessly Fuck selflessly | |||
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"Was to Navyorchid lol" I thought so | |||
"Just curious... what's everyone's thoughts on finding a proper relationship on here? Is it possible? And is anyone looking for just that?" I'm sure a proper relationship is quite possible as much on here as anywhere else. Of course there will be cheaters, liars and dodgey folk here but is that any different to vanilla dating sites or a pub/nightclub, I think not. I would be very much open to finding a partner on here, if it happens well and good, if not I'll just continue on living. | |||
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"I think it'd be cool to fall down the rabbit hole with someone from here. Imagine the crazy fun you'd have with a like minded lover.. " You got to live life and enjoy the rabbit hole | |||
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"it's a poor rabbit that depends on one hole " Absolutely! | |||
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"I wasn't going to post on this thread but then thought why the hell not. Who is to say that a proper relationship can't be formed here. Just because it may not have worked out for you doesn't mean it can't work out for others. Fab seems to have made some people quite bitter here and if thats the case then ask yourself why do you stay here? why don't you just leave? There's too much negativity here and I for one won't miss your posts. People saying that they wouldn't date anyone thats on fab but yet you would willingly have sex with them. That to me says more about your character than theirs and a definite red flag. No one chooses who they fall for or where they end up falling for someone be it tinder fab or just out and about. Maybe its just you that is the problem and not who you meet. We all have had not so good experiences here but hey thats life. How you choose to deal with it sets you apart from the moaning ninnys and negative nellies. Yes I am happily married to a wonderful man and yes I am lucky . I do see the couples that have met each other here and they show that yes it is possible to find that someone to form a relationship and some have even married . So don't diss what you can't find . I don't trust a lot but I don't let negative fab posts influence me either way. If you find someone worth forming a relationship with them seize that opportunity. X " I think it shows how people see others worth. Sadly yeah I agree it's major red flag. I'm sure there's a high percentage that don't use the forums that would have the same views on what a person's purpose and worth is on fab and a lot do not see other fab users as an equal, you're just a commodity. I'm way too open and impulsive to restrict myself and my choices. Anything can and does happen if you let it. | |||
"I wasn't going to post on this thread but then thought why the hell not. Who is to say that a proper relationship can't be formed here. Just because it may not have worked out for you doesn't mean it can't work out for others. Fab seems to have made some people quite bitter here and if thats the case then ask yourself why do you stay here? why don't you just leave? There's too much negativity here and I for one won't miss your posts. People saying that they wouldn't date anyone thats on fab but yet you would willingly have sex with them. That to me says more about your character than theirs and a definite red flag. No one chooses who they fall for or where they end up falling for someone be it tinder fab or just out and about. Maybe its just you that is the problem and not who you meet. We all have had not so good experiences here but hey thats life. How you choose to deal with it sets you apart from the moaning ninnys and negative nellies. Yes I am happily married to a wonderful man and yes I am lucky . I do see the couples that have met each other here and they show that yes it is possible to find that someone to form a relationship and some have even married . So don't diss what you can't find . I don't trust a lot but I don't let negative fab posts influence me either way. If you find someone worth forming a relationship with them seize that opportunity. X " Absolutely! Spot on! | |||
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"Well said Inquisitive Lady " I second that | |||
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"I wasn't going to post on this thread but then thought why the hell not. Who is to say that a proper relationship can't be formed here. Just because it may not have worked out for you doesn't mean it can't work out for others. Fab seems to have made some people quite bitter here and if thats the case then ask yourself why do you stay here? why don't you just leave? There's too much negativity here and I for one won't miss your posts. People saying that they wouldn't date anyone thats on fab but yet you would willingly have sex with them. That to me says more about your character than theirs and a definite red flag. No one chooses who they fall for or where they end up falling for someone be it tinder fab or just out and about. Maybe its just you that is the problem and not who you meet. We all have had not so good experiences here but hey thats life. How you choose to deal with it sets you apart from the moaning ninnys and negative nellies. Yes I am happily married to a wonderful man and yes I am lucky . I do see the couples that have met each other here and they show that yes it is possible to find that someone to form a relationship and some have even married . So don't diss what you can't find . I don't trust a lot but I don't let negative fab posts influence me either way. If you find someone worth forming a relationship with them seize that opportunity. X " Well said IL totally agree...love is love and you can find it in the strangest of places
I couldn't see myself ever having a vanilla relationship again. Being in a relationship with a like minded person is ideal in my eyes
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"I wasn't going to post on this thread but then thought why the hell not. Who is to say that a proper relationship can't be formed here. Just because it may not have worked out for you doesn't mean it can't work out for others. Fab seems to have made some people quite bitter here and if thats the case then ask yourself why do you stay here? why don't you just leave? There's too much negativity here and I for one won't miss your posts. People saying that they wouldn't date anyone thats on fab but yet you would willingly have sex with them. That to me says more about your character than theirs and a definite red flag. No one chooses who they fall for or where they end up falling for someone be it tinder fab or just out and about. Maybe its just you that is the problem and not who you meet. We all have had not so good experiences here but hey thats life. How you choose to deal with it sets you apart from the moaning ninnys and negative nellies. Yes I am happily married to a wonderful man and yes I am lucky . I do see the couples that have met each other here and they show that yes it is possible to find that someone to form a relationship and some have even married . So don't diss what you can't find . I don't trust a lot but I don't let negative fab posts influence me either way. If you find someone worth forming a relationship with them seize that opportunity. X "  | |||
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"I think it'd be cool to fall down the rabbit hole with someone from here. Imagine the crazy fun you'd have with a like minded lover.. " Oh, we do xx | |||
"I wasn't going to post on this thread but then thought why the hell not. Who is to say that a proper relationship can't be formed here. Just because it may not have worked out for you doesn't mean it can't work out for others. Fab seems to have made some people quite bitter here and if thats the case then ask yourself why do you stay here? why don't you just leave? There's too much negativity here and I for one won't miss your posts. People saying that they wouldn't date anyone thats on fab but yet you would willingly have sex with them. That to me says more about your character than theirs and a definite red flag. No one chooses who they fall for or where they end up falling for someone be it tinder fab or just out and about. Maybe its just you that is the problem and not who you meet. We all have had not so good experiences here but hey thats life. How you choose to deal with it sets you apart from the moaning ninnys and negative nellies. Yes I am happily married to a wonderful man and yes I am lucky . I do see the couples that have met each other here and they show that yes it is possible to find that someone to form a relationship and some have even married . So don't diss what you can't find . I don't trust a lot but I don't let negative fab posts influence me either way. If you find someone worth forming a relationship with them seize that opportunity. X Well said inq. The added bonus of being able to share yourself completely who wouldn't want that " | |||
"I'm sure it could happen naturally if people were meeting regularly enough. Feelings could form with the connection & interactions. For me I am on here as I don't want a relationship just sexy time fun. So each to their own. That's what's great about this site we each approach it our own way. Perfectly said" Thank you | |||
