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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone here have the unfortunate experience of family finding out that you are swinging ? If so what was the outcome and how did you / they handle it? |
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My kids are young but they are being raised in an age appropriate sex positive environment.
I wouldn't do anything I was ashamed of and so it follows I would have no reason to hide it.
And any teenager these days is naturally going to have a broader and more inclusive language to understand sex and sexuality.
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"My kids are young but they are being raised in an age appropriate sex positive environment.
I wouldn't do anything I was ashamed of and so it follows I would have no reason to hide it.
And any teenager these days is naturally going to have a broader and more inclusive language to understand sex and sexuality.
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We're in a similar situation with our kids.. the rest of our family and some people at work know and don't care  |
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"My kids are young but they are being raised in an age appropriate sex positive environment.
I wouldn't do anything I was ashamed of and so it follows I would have no reason to hide it.
And any teenager these days is naturally going to have a broader and more inclusive language to understand sex and sexuality.
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By *om TangoMan
over a year ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
At the moment I wouldn’t like it. But once my kids get a bit older and understand things better I’ll likely wear a shirt saying “Bull for cuckolding” or “bull for hot wife”. I’ll be in my 50’s but. So might not look so cool on me. |
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My family(G) are all back in Scotland and I rarely speak with them so they don’t know, However most of R’s know and they’re fine with it.
At first they just wanted to know why and what we were doing. We told them why and said anything we did, we can’t discuss other people as not everyone is open or comfortable as us.
Now we get the comments oh I wish I was younger or that I had the confidence to do it and the oh I would be to jealous or scared the other one would run off with someone else. |
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No one in our family knows so far but we are still new to it so could always change  .
Mentioned it to some friends and turns out they've walked that path in the past  and now want to be kept updated on our adventures  .
Re our son, we've always talked open about sex with him. He knows we've got toys . We haven't told him about this and don't really intend to but we don't necessarily hide from him either. |
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"At the moment I wouldn’t like it. But once my kids get a bit older and understand things better I’ll likely wear a shirt saying “Bull for cuckolding” or “bull for hot wife”. I’ll be in my 50’s but. So might not look so cool on me. "
Rock it anyway bud  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"I'm petrified of going to an event and my parents being there, they have never said anything about the lifestyle but imagine the mortifying shame "
Would you be ashamed to see your parents or do you think they'd be ashamed of you |
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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago
Youghal |
A friend knows but he's a "help you bury the body" type friend.
We belive Mr's have suspicions following a couple of comments made. One blatant comment was "I hope you're not into wife swapping"
But we have our suspicions that they dabbled in the past.
Anyway, we don't shout it from the rooftops but wouldn't be worried if people knew either. Alot of our friends wouldn't be surprised. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if my family found out we were on fab I'd go into shut down mode. Its no ones business what my husband and I do. We are happy and thats all they need to know.Having said that I'd prefer them not to know. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"A friend knows but he's a "help you bury the body" type friend.
We belive Mr's have suspicions following a couple of comments made. One blatant comment was "I hope you're not into wife swapping"
But we have our suspicions that they dabbled in the past.
Anyway, we don't shout it from the rooftops but wouldn't be worried if people knew either. Alot of our friends wouldn't be surprised."
What about a delete the phone type friend |
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We had a discreet profile photo published in a tabloid news paper many years ago. Some siblings and friends saw it and recognised us. Not a great experience being honest but it's not been mentioned since. |
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
City Centre |
"I'm petrified of going to an event and my parents being there, they have never said anything about the lifestyle but imagine the mortifying shame "
Why would you be ashamed? Sure they are doing exactly the same thing!
Obviously, being your parents would be a bit of a shock but the fact that they are open minded enough to be on the scene they might not be too shocked to see you.
B x |
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By *uanpacMan
over a year ago
Cork/Limerick/Dublin |
I’m that wonderful position of not giving a f**k what anyone thinks..  life is for living and all that. Everyone used the site differently so everyone views it differently. May change my mind when my kids grow older but for now I don’t care who sees me haha |
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My family and inner circle know, they are real nosey and love hearing about all the orgys and human sacrifices lol,I wind them up also
However alot of them think socials are a brilliant idea and sound great fun and are even a bit jealous hearing I'm off on a weekend of fun.They don't judge but I don't care either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t mine at all. I’m out, having fun and exploring my sexual life. If they have a problem with it, that’s their business, if they want to ask questions I’m happy to answer anything they ask |
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My step sis found out I was on Fab. She said she would tell step mom if I didn't let her practice blow jobs on me. She had never given a BJ before, and wanted to learn how to do it for her new boyfriend. |
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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago
The bog |
"My step sis found out I was on Fab. She said she would tell step mom if I didn't let her practice blow jobs on me. She had never given a BJ before, and wanted to learn how to do it for her new boyfriend. "
Were u watch cruel intentions... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My step sis found out I was on Fab. She said she would tell step mom if I didn't let her practice blow jobs on me. She had never given a BJ before, and wanted to learn how to do it for her new boyfriend. "
Did your step min come in and show her how to do it properly..... |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
Far far away |
Only 1 close friend knows. My family are very very conservative and even lack basic human connection. The judgement would be overwhelming. Grew up in a household of no hugs or kisses ever and sex was shameful.
Conversely I have become a hugely tactile person but its taken a long time to re progranne.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We had a discreet profile photo published in a tabloid news paper many years ago. Some siblings and friends saw it and recognised us. Not a great experience being honest but it's not been mentioned since. "
Sad to read this comment, nobody should have their private lives exposed by the media. |
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By *uniCouple
over a year ago
city center |
It would suck. Not that's nothing of their business, but it would be a rough couple of meets. But I think that after while everything would be fine, it's not a crime.
I think that they would be more curious than judgmental, most of people are, especially when they are in a long term relationship. |
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"It would suck. Not that's nothing of their business, but it would be a rough couple of meets. But I think that after while everything would be fine, it's not a crime.
I think that they would be more curious than judgmental, most of people are, especially when they are in a long term relationship."
Well said |
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"It's only taboo until it's not. Social circles are so small in Ireland, we are all tripping over each other's exes.
It's only taboo until it's not! Well said. "
100%! Couldn’t agree more. Why make it taboo? if people are comfortable and own their what they do |
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This island is so small, relatively new to this and already been in chats with persons very close to home
TBH doesn't bother me we all have our reasons for being here !!! Sure if people here are willing to put up naked pics, discuss desires etc with a veiw to a session ?? they should be grown up enough to chat it out with Family if occasion arises, but I shite no I wouldn't bring it up myself !!!! |
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Haven’t met relatives yet but we don’t go to many socials. There are a few of them going to weddings all over Ireland lately. They never left Mayo so, who are these people the wedding is for..?
Met loads we know socially at events. Never been an issue when meet them in normal vanilla lives chat away normal without mentioning extra curricular activities xx
Oh and if any of family are here…… Howyas ya dirty beggars. We don’t make our way anywhere as much as you’s lol lol 
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We aren't doing anything immoral or illegal, so have no issue with anyone finding either of us on fab.
It is EXTREMELY annoying when past colleagues find me here and feel the need to say "oh I wish I knew you were on fab sooner, we could have had so much fun"
No, mate, we wouldn't have had any fun regardless if I'm on fab or not. I didn't fancy you then and I still don't fancy you now.
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"We aren't doing anything immoral or illegal, so have no issue with anyone finding either of us on fab.
It is EXTREMELY annoying when past colleagues find me here and feel the need to say "oh I wish I knew you were on fab sooner, we could have had so much fun"
No, mate, we wouldn't have had any fun regardless if I'm on fab or not. I didn't fancy you then and I still don't fancy you now.
Missus "
Right?? Feel the same as y'all |
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I had arranged to meet a girl,she ask for a face pic so after a lot of messages I sent it too her, next thing she txt that she was gonna tell my wife if I didn't give her money a phone and cigarettes yes cigarettes! Well I didn't pay and today I am now divorced 🤷♂️🙈🤬 |
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"About 2 months ago got chatting to girl here. Was a few miles away. Few nights of chatting. She asked for a face picture and all I got back was “shit we know each other “ and got blocked. "
And the worst thing mate is you'll probably never know who she is |
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By *om TangoMan 22 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
"About 2 months ago got chatting to girl here. Was a few miles away. Few nights of chatting. She asked for a face picture and all I got back was “shit we know each other “ and got blocked.
And the worst thing mate is you'll probably never know who she is"
Very true but maybe as well. It could be a customer which might have been awkward. Doesn’t bother me at all |
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"About 2 months ago got chatting to girl here. Was a few miles away. Few nights of chatting. She asked for a face picture and all I got back was “shit we know each other “ and got blocked.
And the worst thing mate is you'll probably never know who she is
Very true but maybe as well. It could be a customer which might have been awkward. Doesn’t bother me at all"
Good man fair play to ye!! |
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Our lad knows we meet other people with bi women, like a bi support group lol. He knows Pinks has been on dates with women too. We have always been sex positive and explained things to him to his maturity level.
Have had people say they know us but don't share face pics themselves. We have our faces on the profile so pretty out there. If anyone recognises us they are free to say hi, we are not ashamed of being in the lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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My brother, sister and her husband know, told them I was trying something different to meet new people since Ive been single so long hahaha. They all thought I was nutts |
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Yes my whole family know. I never wanted to be in a vulnerable position where it was”held over me”. My family are very supportive and although they all are vanilla they do love hearing about my latest exploits they are happy for me as I was married to my childhood boyfriend until the last few years and are glad to see me now finally enjoying life and my freedom. |
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"Wish my family knew, I have nothing to hide, they are just very vanilla and wouldn’t understand it. Would not mind if they saw me on here at all "
Tell them- you might actually be surprised by their reaction. |
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By *s LollyWoman 5 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
I wouldn't like anyone to know, not that ive anything to be ashamed of just my young lad is very involved in sport and is very well known wouldn't want it to effect him in any way, even though he's played against someone ive met here 🙈😅 |
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"Wish my family knew, I have nothing to hide, they are just very vanilla and wouldn’t understand it. Would not mind if they saw me on here at all
Tell them- you might actually be surprised by their reaction. "
You think? Would love to chat to them and for them to hear about it all |
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"Yes my whole family know. I never wanted to be in a vulnerable position where it was”held over me”. My family are very supportive and although they all are vanilla they do love hearing about my latest exploits they are happy for me as I was married to my childhood boyfriend until the last few years and are glad to see me now finally enjoying life and my freedom. "
Which family members like hearing your experiences? |
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"Yes my whole family know. I never wanted to be in a vulnerable position where it was”held over me”. My family are very supportive and although they all are vanilla they do love hearing about my latest exploits they are happy for me as I was married to my childhood boyfriend until the last few years and are glad to see me now finally enjoying life and my freedom.
Which family members like hearing your experiences? "
My sister actually. She helped me put the restraints under my mattress |
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"Wish my family knew, I have nothing to hide, they are just very vanilla and wouldn’t understand it. Would not mind if they saw me on here at all
Tell them- you might actually be surprised by their reaction.
You think? Would love to chat to them and for them to hear about it all "
You don’t have to go into details but they do have a good laugh at my expense when I get stood up, or the 6”2 lad turns out to be 5”4. |
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"Yes my whole family know. I never wanted to be in a vulnerable position where it was”held over me”. My family are very supportive and although they all are vanilla they do love hearing about my latest exploits they are happy for me as I was married to my childhood boyfriend until the last few years and are glad to see me now finally enjoying life and my freedom.
Which family members like hearing your experiences?
My sister actually. She helped me put the restraints under my mattress "
...do go on...  |
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By *om TangoMan 5 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
Few around me know I’m involved in the lifestyle after I was exposed to my ex wife. But doesn’t bother me. More will know from next spring onwards as I’ve planned to add a few swingers tattoos to my body. I’ve nothing to be ashamed of as anyone I’ve be involved with was well over the age of consent and also give their consent. It’s a lifestyle I’m very proud to be involved in and have made many good friends. There is no or very little judgement involved in this wonderful community and I intend to be a part of it for many many years |
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"Few around me know I’m involved in the lifestyle after I was exposed to my ex wife. But doesn’t bother me. More will know from next spring onwards as I’ve planned to add a few swingers tattoos to my body. I’ve nothing to be ashamed of as anyone I’ve be involved with was well over the age of consent and also give their consent. It’s a lifestyle I’m very proud to be involved in and have made many good friends. There is no or very little judgement involved in this wonderful community and I intend to be a part of it for many many years "
...im just gonna stick with the pampas grass in the front garden, and a few tasteful upside down pineapples on the fridge door...
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"Few around me know I’m involved in the lifestyle after I was exposed to my ex wife. But doesn’t bother me. More will know from next spring onwards as I’ve planned to add a few swingers tattoos to my body. I’ve nothing to be ashamed of as anyone I’ve be involved with was well over the age of consent and also give their consent. It’s a lifestyle I’m very proud to be involved in and have made many good friends. There is no or very little judgement involved in this wonderful community and I intend to be a part of it for many many years ...im just gonna stick with the pampas grass in the front garden, and a few tasteful upside down pineapples on the fridge door..."
We always had pampas grass in our front and back garden and ate a lot of pineapple so obvs subconsciously this was the lifestyle for me xx |
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"Few around me know I’m involved in the lifestyle after I was exposed to my ex wife. But doesn’t bother me. More will know from next spring onwards as I’ve planned to add a few swingers tattoos to my body. I’ve nothing to be ashamed of as anyone I’ve be involved with was well over the age of consent and also give their consent. It’s a lifestyle I’m very proud to be involved in and have made many good friends. There is no or very little judgement involved in this wonderful community and I intend to be a part of it for many many years ...im just gonna stick with the pampas grass in the front garden, and a few tasteful upside down pineapples on the fridge door...
We always had pampas grass in our front and back garden and ate a lot of pineapple so obvs subconsciously this was the lifestyle for me xx"
...im sure you lived up the road from me....or mabye I was dreaming...hahaha |
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"I wouldn't like anyone to know, not that ive anything to be ashamed of just my young lad is very involved in sport and is very well known wouldn't want it to effect him in any way, even though he's played against someone ive met here 🙈😅"
How old was the lad met lol .. imagine if he shared the pics in the changing rooms that's it you took any pics 🤣 |
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By *om TangoMan 3 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
I got exposed to the ex wife a few months ago and off course she then told a few of my kids. At the time it was shit but looking back it was a good thing. I’m not ashamed of being in the lifestyle. Those outside of this lifestyle thinks it’s all about riding and fucking. Anyone that really into lifestyle knows it more than sex. Personally it’s a community and friendship. Meeting like minded people with the freedom of being fit to talk to without judgement. I’ve many good friends from here that I’ve never even kissed never mind played with. I’ve 3 fab customers and soon to have a 4th customer that’s on fab. I’ll never play with any of them but I do enjoy our chats and meetings for coffee/dinner. Away to many think swinging is about meeting up for sex. Use this lifestyle right and yous can have lots of friends yous can chat to about anything. It’s not to be feeling ashamed of what anyone gets up to. |
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