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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve come across many a profile saying looking for a regular fwb. What does friends with benefits mean to you? Have you ever managed to find one on here? |
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I have and I’m feeling so lucky..
he only lives round the corner from me and has his own place. We get to see eachother as much as we like and there’s no stress or drama..
we’ve had mmf’s and ffm’s and generally have the best fun together..
we also meet separately and come back together after to reconnect. |
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Have had one or two in my time 
To me they are people who you can as easily go for a coffee, walk, night out and have the Craic with as well as having some fun sex … but you don’t have to regularly meet or even chat to… just there to call on and if the mutual need is there… go for it.
Can also be someone who is literally a booty call to satisfy the urge as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have had one or two in my time
To me they are people who you can as easily go for a coffee, walk, night out and have the Craic with as well as having some fun sex … but you don’t have to regularly meet or even chat to… just there to call on and if the mutual need is there… go for it.
Can also be someone who is literally a booty call to satisfy the urge as well "
This! Still looking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s what it’s about respect each other always in each others presence then there won’t be any issues or drama. Also respecting they have their own lives outside the FWB relationship.
The reason why FWB situations don’t work out is because one of the parties starts to take the piss out of the other and starts pushing boundaries too far.
Sometimes feelings can get in the way too. But then if you can’t express and communicate how you really feel too the other person than an FWB situation or casual sex is not for you.
Anyone can develop feelings for others no shame in that at all. In that same sentence you gotta respect that persons decision if they don’t feel they same way you do.
Also don’t ever keep shagging anyone in the hopes they will develop feelings for you.
Does not work that way. Before you know it you are in Situationship. Those are the devils work never ever end well
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Ooooh I'm gonna be very controversial and enjoy a little debate.
I think FWB is the biggest con sold to mankind. You can't play this game and win. It will chew you up and spit you out. The fact is it rarely ends without one party falling in love, feeling hurt or having some form of regret.
I'm not interested in a FWB. I feel I'd be investing in all that sweet good stuff but in the back of your mind you just know the other person doesn't feel you're worthy to date or have a relationship with. You're invested till something better comes along.
I can see it working for people who are married or partnered though.
Give me a FB situation over that any day. I will fuck you but off you must fuck. keep it real and keep it simple
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"When you say fwb situations dont work out I've seen people on here 6 or 7 years at it
How long is it meant to work out for "
How long is a piece of string?
6-7 years sounds habitual or like a prison sentence by FWB standards 
After 6-7 years there's clearly more involved than meets with eye.
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"When you say fwb situations dont work out I've seen people on here 6 or 7 years at it
How long is it meant to work out for
How long is a piece of string?
6-7 years sounds habitual or like a prison sentence by FWB standards
After 6-7 years there's clearly more involved than meets with eye.
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I’ve had very successful FWBs where the fun was had for a time and when either wanted to move on we did… and moved decidedly in to the Friends Zone and moved on with life.
Had a few FWB situations and those that ended, ended well…
PS have an opening for a new FWB if there’s any interest out there |
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"Ooooh I'm gonna be very controversial and enjoy a little debate.
I think FWB is the biggest con sold to mankind. You can't play this game and win. It will chew you up and spit you out. The fact is it rarely ends without one party falling in love, feeling hurt or having some form of regret.
I'm not interested in a FWB. I feel I'd be investing in all that sweet good stuff but in the back of your mind you just know the other person doesn't feel you're worthy to date or have a relationship with. You're invested till something better comes along.
I can see it working for people who are married or partnered though.
Give me a FB situation over that any day. I will fuck you but off you must fuck. keep it real and keep it simple
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Therein is another question- what is the difference between a FB and a FWB…????? |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't know how fb situations work
Is it a last minute thing
Is it when you're horny
Can you organise it in advance ....how about a good ride saturday week
Can you have a few fb on the go at the same time
Can you have group fb mmf
Is it along the lines of ....why are you falling asleep in my bed afterwards....fuck off home
Does fb only work if one of you accommodates
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you say fwb situations dont work out I've seen people on here 6 or 7 years at it
How long is it meant to work out for
How long is a piece of string?
6-7 years sounds habitual or like a prison sentence by FWB standards
After 6-7 years there's clearly more involved than meets with eye.
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I think anything longer than 6 months to a year is just weird.
It’s meant to be a short term relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooooh I'm gonna be very controversial and enjoy a little debate.
I think FWB is the biggest con sold to mankind. You can't play this game and win. It will chew you up and spit you out. The fact is it rarely ends without one party falling in love, feeling hurt or having some form of regret.
I'm not interested in a FWB. I feel I'd be investing in all that sweet good stuff but in the back of your mind you just know the other person doesn't feel you're worthy to date or have a relationship with. You're invested till something better comes along.
I can see it working for people who are married or partnered though.
Give me a FB situation over that any day. I will fuck you but off you must fuck. keep it real and keep it simple
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I have to agree with a lot of what you are saying. For me personally I think it works better when both partners are married or attached. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"For me it's someone who is more than just a booty call.
A friendship where the benefits are just a bonus.
Yes I am lucky to have found that here.
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Funnily enough this is my thoughts as well on it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me it's someone who is more than just a booty call.
A friendship where the benefits are just a bonus.
Yes I am lucky to have found that here.
Funnily enough this is my thoughts as well on it "
Justbo, you do seem like someone I’d like to get to know. But filters are filters. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't know how fb situations work
Is it a last minute thing
Is it when you're horny
Can you organise it in advance ....how about a good ride saturday week
Can you have a few fb on the go at the same time
Can you have group fb mmf
Is it along the lines of ....why are you falling asleep in my bed afterwards....fuck off home
Does fb only work if one of you accommodates
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In my experience of fbs no they don't stay the night,unless you have planned a hotel meet with them. But I wouldn't want one to stay over at mine not would I have stayed at theirs if they accommodated.
You can plan in advance but it is just fuck and go with a bit of chat thrown in.
Yes you can have a few fbs on the go at once I don't see why not. You like each other enough to want to shag them but you're not invested in any real proper friendship with them really.I know in my experience of them we had good fun and enjoyed the time we had together but we knew it was based around sex and I wouldn't want to spend a full day with them doing other things.
I don't see why you couldn't have group FB sessions at least you would know everyone there |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"For me it's someone who is more than just a booty call.
A friendship where the benefits are just a bonus.
Yes I am lucky to have found that here.
Funnily enough this is my thoughts as well on it
Justbo, you do seem like someone I’d like to get to know. But filters are filters. "
They are indeed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's where we started out. We were very practical and knew what we thought we wanted from our friendship. Then the feels happened and they didn't creep up, more hit us like a steam train and very early on.
Is it possible to have that purely fwb situation? I think so but the conditions have to be right for both parties involved |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooooh I'm gonna be very controversial and enjoy a little debate.
I think FWB is the biggest con sold to mankind. You can't play this game and win. It will chew you up and spit you out. The fact is it rarely ends without one party falling in love, feeling hurt or having some form of regret.
I'm not interested in a FWB. I feel I'd be investing in all that sweet good stuff but in the back of your mind you just know the other person doesn't feel you're worthy to date or have a relationship with. You're invested till something better comes along.
I can see it working for people who are married or partnered though.
Give me a FB situation over that any day. I will fuck you but off you must fuck. keep it real and keep it simple
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This 100% all day... |
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"Ooooh I'm gonna be very controversial and enjoy a little debate.
I think FWB is the biggest con sold to mankind. You can't play this game and win. It will chew you up and spit you out. The fact is it rarely ends without one party falling in love, feeling hurt or having some form of regret.
I'm not interested in a FWB. I feel I'd be investing in all that sweet good stuff but in the back of your mind you just know the other person doesn't feel you're worthy to date or have a relationship with. You're invested till something better comes along.
I can see it working for people who are married or partnered though.
Give me a FB situation over that any day. I will fuck you but off you must fuck. keep it real and keep it simple
I have to agree with a lot of what you are saying. For me personally I think it works better when both partners are married or attached. "
There's a fair amount of married/attached single people on fab seeking others in similar situations as themselves for fwb. In a lot of cases it suit's their needs so much better and works really well.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me it's someone who is more than just a booty call.
A friendship where the benefits are just a bonus.
Yes I am lucky to have found that here.
Funnily enough this is my thoughts as well on it
Justbo, you do seem like someone I’d like to get to know. But filters are filters.
They are indeed "
At least I got a reply from you! Lol What more can I ask for?  |
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"Ooooh I'm gonna be very controversial and enjoy a little debate.
I think FWB is the biggest con sold to mankind. You can't play this game and win. It will chew you up and spit you out. The fact is it rarely ends without one party falling in love, feeling hurt or having some form of regret.
I'm not interested in a FWB. I feel I'd be investing in all that sweet good stuff but in the back of your mind you just know the other person doesn't feel you're worthy to date or have a relationship with. You're invested till something better comes along.
I can see it working for people who are married or partnered though.
Give me a FB situation over that any day. I will fuck you but off you must fuck. keep it real and keep it simple
I have to agree with a lot of what you are saying. For me personally I think it works better when both partners are married or attached.
There's a fair amount of married/attached single people on fab seeking others in similar situations as themselves for fwb. In a lot of cases it suit's their needs so much better and works really well.
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That is very true I think. People have needs and sometimes having someone to be able to fuck and have fun with can be a great release from normal life for some people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Surely a fwb is someone who you’d go out with for a drink, something to eat, go to the cinema and actually want to spend time with. Well a least that covers the friends bit. Our have I just got it all wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely a fwb is someone who you’d go out with for a drink, something to eat, go to the cinema and actually want to spend time with. Well a least that covers the friends bit. Our have I just got it all wrong? "
If you're also intimate then is that not more like a partner?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Surely a fwb is someone who you’d go out with for a drink, something to eat, go to the cinema and actually want to spend time with. Well a least that covers the friends bit. Our have I just got it all wrong?
If you're also intimate then is that not more like a partner?? "
That’s probably where the whole confusion part comes in with me. Wouldn’t you go out for a drink with a friend? |
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"Surely a fwb is someone who you’d go out with for a drink, something to eat, go to the cinema and actually want to spend time with. Well a least that covers the friends bit. Our have I just got it all wrong?
If you're also intimate then is that not more like a partner??
That’s probably where the whole confusion part comes in with me. Wouldn’t you go out for a drink with a friend? "
Could fwb then be called casual dating? |
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"Surely a fwb is someone who you’d go out with for a drink, something to eat, go to the cinema and actually want to spend time with. Well a least that covers the friends bit. Our have I just got it all wrong?
If you're also intimate then is that not more like a partner??
That’s probably where the whole confusion part comes in with me. Wouldn’t you go out for a drink with a friend?
Could fwb then be called casual dating?"
I think putting the word “dating” in there leaves it open to an assumption that it might progress to something more serious / monogamous…
But if you’re looking for something casual - ping me a DM hmmmmmm |
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"Surely a fwb is someone who you’d go out with for a drink, something to eat, go to the cinema and actually want to spend time with. Well a least that covers the friends bit. Our have I just got it all wrong?
If you're also intimate then is that not more like a partner??
That’s probably where the whole confusion part comes in with me. Wouldn’t you go out for a drink with a friend?
Could fwb then be called casual dating?
I think putting the word “dating” in there leaves it open to an assumption that it might progress to something more serious / monogamous…
But if you’re looking for something casual - ping me a DM hmmmmmm "
Ooh, perhaps, unintentional but it could be read that way for sure. And thanks,  |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"Surely a fwb is someone who you’d go out with for a drink, something to eat, go to the cinema and actually want to spend time with. Well a least that covers the friends bit. Our have I just got it all wrong?
If you're also intimate then is that not more like a partner??
That’s probably where the whole confusion part comes in with me. Wouldn’t you go out for a drink with a friend?
Could fwb then be called casual dating?
I think putting the word “dating” in there leaves it open to an assumption that it might progress to something more serious / monogamous…
But if you’re looking for something casual - ping me a DM hmmmmmm
Ooh, perhaps, unintentional but it could be read that way for sure. And thanks, "
I have fwb that stay over or we get a hotel, I think it’s the questions that neither of us ask which makes it enjoyable and fun and funny too relaxing few hours |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's where we started out. We were very practical and knew what we thought we wanted from our friendship. Then the feels happened and they didn't creep up, more hit us like a steam train and very early on.
Is it possible to have that purely fwb situation? I think so but the conditions have to be right for both parties involved "
I think the 'feelings' are the hard thing to control. In my experience, a fwb can start of great and the friendship and fun works well. But the feelings can start, especially if you are in contact daily even just to chat. You are sharing a part of your life that most cannot tell anyone about.
So can anyone who is in a long term fwb relationship share how they control these feeling and the 'L' word isn't used especially if one or both parties are not free to take it further?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's where we started out. We were very practical and knew what we thought we wanted from our friendship. Then the feels happened and they didn't creep up, more hit us like a steam train and very early on.
Is it possible to have that purely fwb situation? I think so but the conditions have to be right for both parties involved
I think the 'feelings' are the hard thing to control. In my experience, a fwb can start of great and the friendship and fun works well. But the feelings can start, especially if you are in contact daily even just to chat. You are sharing a part of your life that most cannot tell anyone about.
So can anyone who is in a long term fwb relationship share how they control these feeling and the 'L' word isn't used especially if one or both parties are not free to take it further?
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For us there was no question of even trying to control it. It happened and we ran with it. Thankfully we were both equally blown away |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a relationship, even if people like to pretend otherwise, and like all relationships has the potential for misunderstandings, abuse and hurt feelings or egos along with the good. |
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"Ooooh I'm gonna be very controversial and enjoy a little debate.
I think FWB is the biggest con sold to mankind. You can't play this game and win. It will chew you up and spit you out. The fact is it rarely ends without one party falling in love, feeling hurt or having some form of regret.
I'm not interested in a FWB. I feel I'd be investing in all that sweet good stuff but in the back of your mind you just know the other person doesn't feel you're worthy to date or have a relationship with. You're invested till something better comes along.
I can see it working for people who are married or partnered though.
Give me a FB situation over that any day. I will fuck you but off you must fuck. keep it real and keep it simple
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Bang on the money girl. |
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