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"Just an occasional bit of fun really. Not really a lifestyle for us. We met here and have both been here for a very long time, so this place is kinda like a piece of furniture lol" This is interesting that you met on here! That would be a cool little or not so little story to hear over a drink someday. | |||
"I find tinder the same op. way easier to get sex. face pics up front is a big help and the ratio of women to men is around 45:55 fab is far better though. more options and I'm here mostly for threesomes and moresomes. my aim is to find a girl and form a couple for club nights "I definitely understand that. | |||
"I'm on and of fab for nearly ten years I've done it all the Socials the clubs, and the chat groups it was so much drama so I've stopped going I do try help on the help a fabber out thread, and as for chat groups it can be hit and miss not everyone has the same sense of humour, so I just chat here "Well Lou, I have never (in my short time) found your comments boring. Even if I missed the humour. | |||
"I joined to explore things I'd never had the opportunity to explore or experience. I had very little sexual experience but lots of life experience aged 52. It seemed like a good place to chat to people about their experiences but I've never been like a kid in a candy shop. I've turned down twice as many offers as I've accepted because I'm fussy about who I get naked with. I've left and come back a few times. This is my 4th profile in 7 years but the one that has lasted the longest. It's not a lifestyle choice and always more of a hobby. I haven't used any part of the site apart from the forums for about 3 years, haven't sent a message in all that time either and couldn't tell you the last time I actually had a conversation with anyone on here. If I spend an hour a day on here that's about the height of it. I'm not on any other sites or in chatgroups so everything I do here is done publicly on the forums. I have a couples profile with an amazing fwb and for health reasons as well as other external circumstances we have never met anyone through that profile and don't get any messages on it either. I could quite happily walk away from here tomorrow without any issues because I'm not invested in it at all but it's a minor distraction. " I like the answer. 1 hour at a time per day is seems kind of like a therapy self medication session. Except no obligation. | |||
"I'm only on fab .. its enough for my little brain can take.. goodnight all chat tomorrow or Monday "Any luck in finding turf | |||
"Just an occasional bit of fun really. Not really a lifestyle for us. We met here and have both been here for a very long time, so this place is kinda like a piece of furniture lol This is interesting that you met on here! That would be a cool little or not so little story to hear over a drink someday. " It's a long and dirty story involving threesomes, foursomes, sex parties, polyamoury, and divorce
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"Just an occasional bit of fun really. Not really a lifestyle for us. We met here and have both been here for a very long time, so this place is kinda like a piece of furniture lol This is interesting that you met on here! That would be a cool little or not so little story to hear over a drink someday. It's a long and dirty story involving threesomes, foursomes, sex parties, polyamoury, and divorce
It really has it all "Now it sounds even more interesting. | |||
"Just an occasional bit of fun really. Not really a lifestyle for us. We met here and have both been here for a very long time, so this place is kinda like a piece of furniture lol This is interesting that you met on here! That would be a cool little or not so little story to hear over a drink someday. It's a long and dirty story involving threesomes, foursomes, sex parties, polyamoury, and divorce
It really has it all
Now it sounds even more interesting.
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And I love the chat and banter on the forums | |||
"Came for the sex. Stayed for the craic." Same | |||
It's brilliant to just be able to be open about what we want and vice versa | |||
 . So the forum is perfect. Also discovered an unexpected appreciation for taking pictures  .
Definitely looking forward to meet people socially and eventually hopefully for more. | |||
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"I was told there was cake" To get my cake... and eat it. | |||
I think that's a good reason, if any...no? | |||
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Obviously given those circumstances we both knew our sexual interests aligned. We stayed with other methods of finding playmates for a little while but it there were very few opportunities that suited what we were looking for. In my initial threesome search someone had mentioned Fab and here we are.
We're here for occasional dalliances with others and we're not lifestylers, although I do enjoy the socials and getting out with the girl friends I've met over the years | |||
"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. " Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. | |||
"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. " I'm in the wrong place than. Not here to fuck. I was recommended the site by a friend years ago and I joined, and have been on and off the site a few times, I don't consider myself a swinger but I have made a group of friends who I enjoy socialising with, I have explored a few things on my bucket list, why do I stay? Not 100% sure at the moment I guess I'm hopeful that I could find a fwb and just enjoy sex , and enjoy the social side. I guess we are all here for different reasons be pretty boring if we all just here to fuck | |||
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"Joined to annoy yous all "How's that working out for ye? | |||
"Joined to annoy yous all "Or flash them sexy legs | |||
"Joined to annoy yous all
How's that working out for ye? "aye!!!so far so good.lol I still haven't met you Lolly ffs | |||
"Joined to annoy yous all
Or flash them sexy legs "Or ass .lol Don't remind me that.lol Still embarrassed | |||
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"Joined to annoy yous all
How's that working out for ye? aye!!!so far so good.lol
I still haven't met you Lolly ffs "Hopefully one day | |||
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"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. I'm in the wrong place than. Not here to fuck. I was recommended the site by a friend years ago and I joined, and have been on and off the site a few times, I don't consider myself a swinger but I have made a group of friends who I enjoy socialising with, I have explored a few things on my bucket list, why do I stay? Not 100% sure at the moment I guess I'm hopeful that I could find a fwb and just enjoy sex , and enjoy the social side. I guess we are all here for different reasons be pretty boring if we all just here to fuck " I'm sure there are people here for different reasons. That's what I'm saying. But they are missing the point just as you are. As you said yourself. Your not a swinger. This is a sex site. That's the reason why the site exists. I love meeting people and socialising. Who are of an open mind towards sex. And I never said we're here "only" here to fuck. Sex is the end goal for swingers. But how you reach that goal, is what's fun and exciting. But yes , I'm afraid you are on the site for the wrong reasons. As much as it might be hard to here. And I sincerely mean no offence by it. As are so many others. This site is "Fab Swingers" it's at the top of the page. It's what you write into Google search. So why people have a problem with hearing its a sex site. Is puzzling . Wake up and smell the coffee folks. | |||
"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. I'm in the wrong place than. Not here to fuck. I was recommended the site by a friend years ago and I joined, and have been on and off the site a few times, I don't consider myself a swinger but I have made a group of friends who I enjoy socialising with, I have explored a few things on my bucket list, why do I stay? Not 100% sure at the moment I guess I'm hopeful that I could find a fwb and just enjoy sex , and enjoy the social side. I guess we are all here for different reasons be pretty boring if we all just here to fuck I'm sure there are people here for different reasons. That's what I'm saying. But they are missing the point just as you are. As you said yourself. Your not a swinger. This is a sex site. That's the reason why the site exists. I love meeting people and socialising. Who are of an open mind towards sex. And I never said we're here "only" here to fuck. Sex is the end goal for swingers. But how you reach that goal, is what's fun and exciting. But yes , I'm afraid you are on the site for the wrong reasons. As much as it might be hard to here. And I sincerely mean no offence by it. As are so many others. This site is "Fab Swingers" it's at the top of the page. It's what you write into Google search. So why people have a problem with hearing its a sex site. Is puzzling . Wake up and smell the coffee folks. " I kinda disagree with you, sorry
A swingers site and a sex site are different things. If I was on here for sex, I could and would have had a lot more sexual partners since we started swinging. But swing is far more than sex to us. It's a lifestyle, going to events where casual sex and BDSM are not taboo like they are in Vanilla life. I love watching people be free to express themselves in whatever way they want, whether that's dressing up or down, talking about sex or fucking a room full of strangers if they so desire. We've gone to many events and not played at all and we still had a great night of pure liberation.
We're here for different reasons but I disagree that it all boils down to just sex as the end goal.
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"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. I'm in the wrong place than. Not here to fuck. I was recommended the site by a friend years ago and I joined, and have been on and off the site a few times, I don't consider myself a swinger but I have made a group of friends who I enjoy socialising with, I have explored a few things on my bucket list, why do I stay? Not 100% sure at the moment I guess I'm hopeful that I could find a fwb and just enjoy sex , and enjoy the social side. I guess we are all here for different reasons be pretty boring if we all just here to fuck I'm sure there are people here for different reasons. That's what I'm saying. But they are missing the point just as you are. As you said yourself. Your not a swinger. This is a sex site. That's the reason why the site exists. I love meeting people and socialising. Who are of an open mind towards sex. And I never said we're here "only" here to fuck. Sex is the end goal for swingers. But how you reach that goal, is what's fun and exciting. But yes , I'm afraid you are on the site for the wrong reasons. As much as it might be hard to here. And I sincerely mean no offence by it. As are so many others. This site is "Fab Swingers" it's at the top of the page. It's what you write into Google search. So why people have a problem with hearing its a sex site. Is puzzling . Wake up and smell the coffee folks. I kinda disagree with you, sorry
A swingers site and a sex site are different things. If I was on here for sex, I could and would have had a lot more sexual partners since we started swinging. But swing is far more than sex to us. It's a lifestyle, going to events where casual sex and BDSM are not taboo like they are in Vanilla life. I love watching people be free to express themselves in whatever way they want, whether that's dressing up or down, talking about sex or fucking a room full of strangers if they so desire. We've gone to many events and not played at all and we still had a great night of pure liberation.
We're here for different reasons but I disagree that it all boils down to just sex as the end goal.
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"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. I'm in the wrong place than. Not here to fuck. I was recommended the site by a friend years ago and I joined, and have been on and off the site a few times, I don't consider myself a swinger but I have made a group of friends who I enjoy socialising with, I have explored a few things on my bucket list, why do I stay? Not 100% sure at the moment I guess I'm hopeful that I could find a fwb and just enjoy sex , and enjoy the social side. I guess we are all here for different reasons be pretty boring if we all just here to fuck I'm sure there are people here for different reasons. That's what I'm saying. But they are missing the point just as you are. As you said yourself. Your not a swinger. This is a sex site. That's the reason why the site exists. I love meeting people and socialising. Who are of an open mind towards sex. And I never said we're here "only" here to fuck. Sex is the end goal for swingers. But how you reach that goal, is what's fun and exciting. But yes , I'm afraid you are on the site for the wrong reasons. As much as it might be hard to here. And I sincerely mean no offence by it. As are so many others. This site is "Fab Swingers" it's at the top of the page. It's what you write into Google search. So why people have a problem with hearing its a sex site. Is puzzling . Wake up and smell the coffee folks. I kinda disagree with you, sorry
A swingers site and a sex site are different things. If I was on here for sex, I could and would have had a lot more sexual partners since we started swinging. But swing is far more than sex to us. It's a lifestyle, going to events where casual sex and BDSM are not taboo like they are in Vanilla life. I love watching people be free to express themselves in whatever way they want, whether that's dressing up or down, talking about sex or fucking a room full of strangers if they so desire. We've gone to many events and not played at all and we still had a great night of pure liberation.
We're here for different reasons but I disagree that it all boils down to just sex as the end goal.
Mrs (open to debate) This... "This is a site to Facilitate the swinging community. What differentiates swingers from the Vanilla community. They practice having free and uninhibited sex in a non monogamous manner. The original question by the OP. Was why are you on the site. That should be the answer. But because I use the word sex site. It makes people uneasy. But themselves the facts. It's like comparing apples with pears. We're here for open and casual sex. | |||
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"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. I'm in the wrong place than. Not here to fuck. I was recommended the site by a friend years ago and I joined, and have been on and off the site a few times, I don't consider myself a swinger but I have made a group of friends who I enjoy socialising with, I have explored a few things on my bucket list, why do I stay? Not 100% sure at the moment I guess I'm hopeful that I could find a fwb and just enjoy sex , and enjoy the social side. I guess we are all here for different reasons be pretty boring if we all just here to fuck I'm sure there are people here for different reasons. That's what I'm saying. But they are missing the point just as you are. As you said yourself. Your not a swinger. This is a sex site. That's the reason why the site exists. I love meeting people and socialising. Who are of an open mind towards sex. And I never said we're here "only" here to fuck. Sex is the end goal for swingers. But how you reach that goal, is what's fun and exciting. But yes , I'm afraid you are on the site for the wrong reasons. As much as it might be hard to here. And I sincerely mean no offence by it. As are so many others. This site is "Fab Swingers" it's at the top of the page. It's what you write into Google search. So why people have a problem with hearing its a sex site. Is puzzling . Wake up and smell the coffee folks. " I love the social side, I love how people are open and expressive about their dislike, likes and fantasies, I have ezper8enced some amazing things, I've learnt to enjoy sex, I can wear sexy clothes and take pictures without feeling conscious of my size ( most of the time. Would love to be more open to having random sex with guys but at 49 can't see me starting now | |||
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"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. " For me personally Tinder or the likes are a waste of time. It has worked for some people, not for me. If I was to take Tinder or the likes seriously & religiously. I'd be thinking along the lines of 1,All women are stuckup bitches. 2, I must be 1 of the ugliest guys in the world. 3, I'd be alot SADER & BITTER of a BASTARD of a man, than I am. 1,I know that's not true about women, even before I joint Tinder. 2, Still (???) Over that answer for me yet. 3, I didn't need to join Tinder to be a sader & bitter bastard. I've been through other shit for that to happen to me. NOW To meetup with other people, in different parts of the Country. If I visit an area of the Country. I know people, I can meetup with in the area. Be that for a social or to play. Yes this is a sex site. It's also a social site aswell(so to speak). Sex isn't the be all & end all of thing's with me,never was in the past. Also if I visit other Countries, I might be able to find someone to meet in that Country, like yourself OP or might make plans with someone off of here to visit some place. I'm quite shy about & inexperience on this side of my life. If that changes GREAT, if it doesn't, no harm done. I heard about Fab on a social media platform. People I was friends with on it, told me to join up. I was at home 1 evening last year & I decided to have a look on here. I joined up early this year. How long I'll be here is another question, that time will tell me. At least people are talking to me on here(for now anyway's ). Some might think this is a weird thing to say. For me it could also be classed as a Hobby of sorts. As I meetup with different people to talk about something & maybe do something aswell. It's what we've all got in common with each other on here. | |||
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"My ex long term partner and co parent in crime recommended fab to me when I was helping set up her Tinder profile True story " Fab is much better than any dating site | |||
"My ex long term partner and co parent in crime recommended fab to me when I was helping set up her Tinder profile True story " Lovely story  | |||
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"I'm on fab nearly 10years I'm just trying to keep with the lingo " Jeeze the lingo that keeps changing so quickly lol | |||
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"My ex long term partner and co parent in crime recommended fab to me when I was helping set up her Tinder profile True story " how are you two not together still! lovely story | |||
"I think ...now don't quote me, but 99% of people on Fab are here for sex ? It's a swinging site, it's not Tinder or PoF "You'd be surprised the number of people who claim the opposite | |||
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"I think ...now don't quote me, but 99% of people on Fab are here for sex ? It's a swinging site, it's not Tinder or PoF
You'd be surprised the number of people who claim the opposite"Oh I know only to well that this is true. And they bring their social media habits with them. Such as being judgemental of the people who are here for the right reason. Frowning on the fact that they treat the site as it was intended. And use the term "quality over quantity" when one person's idea of "quality" and "quantity" are objective. And what your actual doing is saying is your a slut or man whore. And I'm better than you. Rant over! ?? | |||
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"I really disagree with this assumption men make about women being "not sexually open". and you only ever hear men say it. because that's not what women are experiencing. Men on Fab are required to treat you better. There's verifications and word gets around about a bad egg. They men know we all have our pick of willing fells, and we know what we want. they are required to be respectful. You can check out a guys verifications form other meets and social events. You can see that other women have vouched for him. Men on Tinder are too often, really disrespectful. Plenty of guys on there brand us as "recreational; use only" like we're objects to use and discard. For all my female friends good hookups are the minority, and sadly there's also the very real fear of being murdered that kind of gets in the way of hooking up freely.Tinders also a place for single people who are open to relationships, so refraining from hooking up is a good strategy to out those who will ghost you after the deed. So there's nothing different or more "sexually liberated"about the women on Fab. I'd be way more cautious with Tinder too, and would never hook up with a guy outside the scene right away. it's just a different context. Among my female swingers friends we've all experienced weird comments from men saying we are "holding back" if we aren't into something (or someone), and "letting go" if we are. It always feels like they decide whether or not we are "sexually liberated" depending entirely on if we're doing what they want us to. We all have different sexual preferences, desires, and choices. and we respond to different situations in different ways. " Agree completely but why do you let these guys bother you? Any guy who accuses me of not being "liberated" because I won't do something will get a straight block, we would not be compatible at all. On the safety thing, I think it should be made very clear to women outside of the scene, how safe swing parties generally are. Ladies can have fun in secure, safe, fun environments as opposed to taking a risk with a randomer off Tinder. Women outside the scene are not aware of this aspect and don't consider joining Fab because of some other pre-conceived (and incorrect) ideas. | |||
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"Why are you on fab? What reason? When did it first occur to you? Where were you when you decided? I read a bio earlier today and we both messaged some observations about why people are on fab. Personally I have got more sexual contact off of tinder. Yet I prefer fab. I feel like I will intimate people if I let them know the full extent of me and my desires and willingness to try new things. Tinder works more or less, depending on how the wind blows, but most people are afraid to let their full selves loose on it. Everyone is holding back. So we play this cagy game. Sometimes it works other times it explodes. Fab is similar, but there is the basic acceptance that people are not afraid of sexual liberation from fear of desire or constraint. While the basic and fundamental balance of respect and consent remains, anything can be discussed, tried, explored imagined. All within reason. So while I like the next level basic assumption that sex is good in so many ways, more then can be listed and free to share, I wonder what brings others here. Let me know please. I will read over time. Cheers. Hi OP. You ask , why are people on fab. I'll tell you . There looking to fuck! . I see your relatively new to Fab. I'm afraid your missing one fundamental point . Your making a very common mistake, that has become very common among new members of Fab "swingers". That this is a sex site. First and foremost. Nothing else. Just a site for people who like casual sex. "No strings attached". Tinder is a dating site. So the pretense on Tinder, is your cautious and guarded not to offend the person you are attracted to. Where as with Fab. Those barriers are removed. " I think you assume incorrectly that I miss the point. Reading through here, it's obvious that for some it is a sex site, for others it is a swinger site etc. Also to clarify. I am not exactly new to this scene. In Spain I use another site. I was recommended this site by someone who pointed out the other site was dead in Ireland and fab worked. As far as Tinder goes... Technically it's a dating site, but for large numbers it's also a sex hook up site. Usually I find not a one night stand kind of hook up, but a one month fling kind of hook up. As far as dating, I am very picky.... And the closest I got recently was the old fashioned way, I'm a bar. Unfortunately circumstance prevent us from being a couple. But that is beyond our control. But Fab works well for me. I like the craic on the Irish forum. And if you had read more carefully I think you would realise this. Cheers | |||
"I have above societies ideas of sex. Id say the average fella from tinder would run a mile if I told him sone of my deepest desires. Find it easier to tale to men on here and ppl are far more honest when sex is not the elephant in the room. " Absolutely agree. On tinder you slowly build up step by step to certain questions knowing that she (in my case) may not be able to handle things, ideas, curiosities, openness etc | |||
"I really disagree with this assumption men make about women being "not sexually open". and you only ever hear men say it. because that's not what women are experiencing. Men on Fab are required to treat you better. There's verifications and word gets around about a bad egg. They men know we all have our pick of willing fells, and we know what we want. they are required to be respectful. You can check out a guys verifications form other meets and social events. You can see that other women have vouched for him. Men on Tinder are too often, really disrespectful. Plenty of guys on there brand us as "recreational; use only" like we're objects to use and discard. For all my female friends good hookups are the minority, and sadly there's also the very real fear of being murdered that kind of gets in the way of hooking up freely.Tinders also a place for single people who are open to relationships, so refraining from hooking up is a good strategy to out those who will ghost you after the deed. So there's nothing different or more "sexually liberated"about the women on Fab. I'd be way more cautious with Tinder too, and would never hook up with a guy outside the scene right away. it's just a different context. Among my female swingers friends we've all experienced weird comments from men saying we are "holding back" if we aren't into something (or someone), and "letting go" if we are. It always feels like they decide whether or not we are "sexually liberated" depending entirely on if we're doing what they want us to. We all have different sexual preferences, desires, and choices. and we respond to different situations in different ways. " Thinking on what you said about all women being liberated. I agree tinder is a dodgy place, for men too. Although I know having talked to girl friends it's multiple times worse for you ladies. Each person is in a different place and let's face it, the willingness to act on our desires sets people on Fab apart from on other sites. Obviously there are exceptions. But reading through the replies, it definitely seems, that there are a variety of different reasons for staying on fab. Yes sex is implicit. So yes it's a sex site. But it's a sex site with respect woven in to it. The swinger side is always there. For some this means it's more a social site. The safety aspect of verification and socials mean many feel secure in a way they would not be on Tinder or Badoo or POF, which while technically dating sites, in reality have many on just sex hunting. | |||
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"I'm really enjoying this discussion and like a lot of discussions on here it's been quite elucidating. I don't believe there's any specific definition of what fab is that would fit neatly into how it is utilised by so many different people. And in the spirit of non judgement, not (kink) shaming and encouraging inclusivity, who is anyone to say what fab is to someone else? Fab stopped being exclusively a swingers site quite some time ago, if it ever was that. Saying otherwise doesn't make it so. What's in a name? That's all it is. A name." 100% | |||
"I'm really enjoying this discussion and like a lot of discussions on here it's been quite elucidating. I don't believe there's any specific definition of what fab is that would fit neatly into how it is utilised by so many different people. And in the spirit of non judgement, not (kink) shaming and encouraging inclusivity, who is anyone to say what fab is to someone else? Fab stopped being exclusively a swingers site quite some time ago, if it ever was that. Saying otherwise doesn't make it so. What's in a name? That's all it is. A name." it’s like what i said earlier in the thread. A lot sign up here with sex as the ultimate aim but that often circles away and other things like parties M&G are a priority. Endless times I have read on profiles on here “not meeting anymore or only here for M&Gs” but I do agree with most of those people day 1, it would have been a different outlook. | |||
