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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How’s your body confidence? Would you get naked in front of me or others who’ve posted to this thread? Say something positive to someone who’s posted to this thread. Anyone who’s posted to the thread.
Say you’re in. Get chatting, flirting and maybe messaging them privately. You know the drill. The thread is open to anyone who can think of something positive to say about someone else’s body.
Good luck folks and happy fabbing.     |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
One of my pictures I'm naked with 4500 other people during a photo shoot in Dublin docks by the Artist Spencer Tunick
I also do nude swims usually once a month and hit nude beaches in Ireland and abroad
Nudity is not a problem.,intimacy with a few people is fine if I know them but always a little bit awkward the first time with someone new |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
Happy to be naked with people who want to see me naked. At the end of the day, if someone wants to have sex with me, they want to see my body. My body provides both me and others with pleasure and that’s pretty damn cool.
Striving for body neutrality rather than body confidence these days. I like certain parts more than others but I don’t detest any part of my body. It is what it is, it does what I need it to do and I’m grateful for that. |
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By *onny qMan
over a year ago
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I have done a few public naked events . I dont have a great body but there are more important things in life . I take part in a naked bike ride in Manchester , and last year there was 400 people cycling through Manchester city centre on Friday evening . Be yourself and be happy.  |
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By *onny qMan
over a year ago
limerick |
"I'm fairly confident being naked ,I've had kids so my belly isn't my favourite thing but I am what I am 
Em x"
Our bodies change as we go through life . Some Good , some not so good . Embrace the changes and be as naked as you want , and with who you want . Ps You look great in your pics x |
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"I have done a few public naked events . I dont have a great body but there are more important things in life . I take part in a naked bike ride in Manchester , and last year there was 400 people cycling through Manchester city centre on Friday evening . Be yourself and be happy. "
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Oooh Really ! Where can I find info about that ?
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Also, do I have to have a bike to take part ?  |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
I think I’m as much comfortable as confident, as with lots of other people I’m sure, it’s a evolving work in progress, I’m happy with where I am at the moment but realises there’s lots of room for improvement.
I’ve never had a problem being naked in front of other people but having said that, I’ve never taken pics of myself much less posted them before Fab.
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I grew up doing lots of excercise and continued that into my career. Right up until I was about 40 I was in very good shape. A few changes in circumstances and I had gained a couple of stone and had to buy a new wardrobe. I went from a certain level of pride and vanity in my physique to shame and embarrassment in very short order.
These days I feel like my body has found its own weight and most of my old clothes fit. There's a bit of my old shape and a bit of dad bod.
How I feel about that has changed quite a bit since I joined fab. Here I learned that women are attracted to a whole plethora of shapes and sizes and my interactions have grown my self confidence in a tangible way. This has also changed the way I think about my own attraction to others.
The other thing that's changed is my interest in photography and taking my own photos as kindled a creative side previously unexplored to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I grew up doing lots of excercise and continued that into my career. Right up until I was about 40 I was in very good shape. A few changes in circumstances and I had gained a couple of stone and had to buy a new wardrobe. I went from a certain level of pride and vanity in my physique to shame and embarrassment in very short order.
These days I feel like my body has found its own weight and most of my old clothes fit. There's a bit of my old shape and a bit of dad bod.
How I feel about that has changed quite a bit since I joined fab. Here I learned that women are attracted to a whole plethora of shapes and sizes and my interactions have grown my self confidence in a tangible way. This has also changed the way I think about my own attraction to others.
The other thing that's changed is my interest in photography and taking my own photos as kindled a creative side previously unexplored to me."
Your pics are HOTTTT  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Defo the older I get the less I care what others think of my body. Due to kids my stomach will never be what it was before sprogs and I am ok with that.
I know ppl who wouldn't dare get naked or wouldn't have sex unless its dark. Personally I think that's weird because last thing I'm thinking about whilst doing the deed is the other person/ peoples body shape/size.
I am sapio so maybe that's where I differ. |
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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago
Meath / Dublin / Birmingham |
I'd prefer to put on a bit of weight to be honest. It's not for the want of trying. I'm naturally just skinny. I've had people tell me I'm lucky, I can eat and eat and not put on weight but being honest, I don't like it at all... |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
Far far away |
I have a hate hate relationship with my body. For as long as I can remember I wasnt ever happy. Never good enough was compounded by infidelity. So its taken a lot of self introspection and realising that worth is not defined by external assessment of beauty by others. Being kind has a greater impact than aesthetics.
Hopefully hate will be replaced by like someday. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been happy with my body as I'm only 5ft every every pound shows on my body my boobs and ass, my back hurts, I remb getting a message from a random person here saying I like your fat belly  some days I'm like fuck it, just embrace it, shake what your Momma gave ya lol. Life is to short to be worrying about weight been tall or short .. fuck it I say  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy being naked with another naked person (or two  ), there are no filters or notions in that scenario. I wouldn't be all that comfortable being naked in public but i haven't been in years. Maybe I just need the right nudey buddy |
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By *s louWoman
over a year ago
Enniskillen |
Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact!"
I'm the same Ms lou it's my tummy I blame my 3 kids lol only joking |
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By *s louWoman
over a year ago
Enniskillen |
"Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact!
I'm the same Ms lou it's my tummy I blame my 3 kids lol only joking "
Mine get the blame too! |
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"I have a hate hate relationship with my body. For as long as I can remember I wasnt ever happy. Never good enough was compounded by infidelity. So its taken a lot of self introspection and realising that worth is not defined by external assessment of beauty by others. Being kind has a greater impact than aesthetics.
Hopefully hate will be replaced by like someday. "
I know it's easy for me to say this & not for you, to believe it. The infidelity had nothing to do with you or your body shape. Despite what the other person might have said to you or you used to tell yourself. Your being to hard on yourself,not an easy thing to STOP doing I know. Believe in yourself.  |
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"Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact!
I'm the same Ms lou it's my tummy I blame my 3 kids lol only joking
Mine get the blame too!"
Now, Now ladies, don't be blaming ye're kids. It's by having kid's, that's made ye, what ye are, REMEMBER that. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't have a lot of confidence in being naked especially in front of someone new as there are parts of my body I despise. And I keep saying I'll lose weight but it's still a work in progress albeit slow with bumps in the journey but I'll get there.
In saying that when you are with someone who does help build your confidence,that makes a massive difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact!
I'm the same Ms lou it's my tummy I blame my 3 kids lol only joking
Mine get the blame too!
Now, Now ladies, don't be blaming ye're kids. It's by having kid's, that's made ye, what ye are, REMEMBER that. "
Some mammies have kids and have a stomach like a wash board .. mines like a surf board |
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Confidence overall HELL NO. Never been confident about anything in my life. Definitely not, on the woman front(can't see that changing EVER). Despite how I'm come a cross in real life.
Body confidence, never took any heed of it really. I always new I was big(that's the word I use), even as a child. I've gotten digs cause of my size in the past alright, like when I was jue, is it twins your having? They could come from people that I know very well. 1 time I was in a clothes department of chain story. A kid boy, wanted to hit his dad(I assume) in the belly. The guy/dad said don't hit me. Hit him & pointed at me. I gave a little smile & fod it off. Thankfully I was NEVER asked what bra size am I.
I've never had a problem getting naked in a room,like a changing/locker room in front of other guy's. I wouldn't be comfortable being naked in a room or in front of a group of women, not at first anyway's.
Thankfully I did lose weight about 3.5 year's ago now. I'm wearing clothes sizes that I used to wear while in my late teens. Still no more confident, cause of it. 
Do I wish I was this size or shape, while I was in my 20's, HELL YES. I wasn't, there's no point in me thinking like that. I still wouldn't go around topless in public, despite how hot it would be. I'm still a work in progress, I like to think & TRY to tell meself that aswell(easier said, than done). As at time's I'd be worried about putting the weight back on again.
I always told meself I am who I am & what I'm,despite what size/shape I'm.
I/we just need to believe in ourselves. |
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"Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact!
I'm the same Ms lou it's my tummy I blame my 3 kids lol only joking
Mine get the blame too!
Now, Now ladies, don't be blaming ye're kids. It's by having kid's, that's made ye, what ye are, REMEMBER that.
Some mammies have kids and have a stomach like a wash board .. mines like a surf board "
That maybe true alright. They're not you, remember that. Beside's they could be looking at you & wish they were more like you. Don't forget the either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Confidence overall HELL NO. Never been confident about anything in my life. Definitely not, on the woman front(can't see that changing EVER). Despite how I'm come a cross in real life.
Body confidence, never took any heed of it really. I always new I was big(that's the word I use), even as a child. I've gotten digs cause of my size in the past alright, like when I was jue, is it twins your having? They could come from people that I know very well. 1 time I was in a clothes department of chain story. A kid boy, wanted to hit his dad(I assume) in the belly. The guy/dad said don't hit me. Hit him & pointed at me. I gave a little smile & fod it off. Thankfully I was NEVER asked what bra size am I.
I've never had a problem getting naked in a room,like a changing/locker room in front of other guy's. I wouldn't be comfortable being naked in a room or in front of a group of women, not at first anyway's.
Thankfully I did lose weight about 3.5 year's ago now. I'm wearing clothes sizes that I used to wear while in my late teens. Still no more confident, cause of it.
Do I wish I was this size or shape, while I was in my 20's, HELL YES. I wasn't, there's no point in me thinking like that. I still wouldn't go around topless in public, despite how hot it would be. I'm still a work in progress, I like to think & TRY to tell meself that aswell(easier said, than done). As at time's I'd be worried about putting the weight back on again.
I always told meself I am who I am & what I'm,despite what size/shape I'm.
I/we just need to believe in ourselves. "
Well said ,, as a kid I got bullied I've a lazy eye the name calling was shocking, my parents never got it sorted when I got older I was told nothing can be done .. ahh well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact!
I'm the same Ms lou it's my tummy I blame my 3 kids lol only joking
Mine get the blame too!
Now, Now ladies, don't be blaming ye're kids. It's by having kid's, that's made ye, what ye are, REMEMBER that.
Some mammies have kids and have a stomach like a wash board .. mines like a surf board
That maybe true alright. They're not you, remember that. Beside's they could be looking at you & wish they were more like you. Don't forget the either. "
That's why I believe a good personality is priceless x |
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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago
Galway |
To anyone who has said that they don’t like their body, what really helped me was to pepper my social media with bodies that look like mine. Particularly if you follow people for clothes inspo, following people whose bodies look like yours is much better mentally that following people who are a lot slimmer etc. It’s also helpful to see what clothes might look like on my body rather than trying to translate it from a size 6!
Seeing people with bodies like mine living their best lives, enjoying their bodies and not getting caught up in what people think of them has definitely caused a gradual mental shift about how I see my body.
I think the whole body positivity thing can be hard as fuck. It’s perfectly normal to not love everything about your body. Body neutrality is more palatable to me - I might not love every bit but each bit does it’s job (mostly well!) and that’s enough.
Tbf, posting pics here and the ego boost around that helps too
I totally get that your body changing is a lot to get used to but your body is a wonderful thing no matter how it looks on the outside. Be gentle with it and yourself  |
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"Confidence overall HELL NO. Never been confident about anything in my life. Definitely not, on the woman front(can't see that changing EVER). Despite how I'm come a cross in real life.
Body confidence, never took any heed of it really. I always new I was big(that's the word I use), even as a child. I've gotten digs cause of my size in the past alright, like when I was jue, is it twins your having? They could come from people that I know very well. 1 time I was in a clothes department of chain story. A kid boy, wanted to hit his dad(I assume) in the belly. The guy/dad said don't hit me. Hit him & pointed at me. I gave a little smile & fod it off. Thankfully I was NEVER asked what bra size am I.
I've never had a problem getting naked in a room,like a changing/locker room in front of other guy's. I wouldn't be comfortable being naked in a room or in front of a group of women, not at first anyway's.
Thankfully I did lose weight about 3.5 year's ago now. I'm wearing clothes sizes that I used to wear while in my late teens. Still no more confident, cause of it.
Do I wish I was this size or shape, while I was in my 20's, HELL YES. I wasn't, there's no point in me thinking like that. I still wouldn't go around topless in public, despite how hot it would be. I'm still a work in progress, I like to think & TRY to tell meself that aswell(easier said, than done). As at time's I'd be worried about putting the weight back on again.
I always told meself I am who I am & what I'm,despite what size/shape I'm.
I/we just need to believe in ourselves.
Well said ,, as a kid I got bullied I've a lazy eye the name calling was shocking, my parents never got it sorted when I got older I was told nothing can be done .. ahh well "
Thank you.
That's shocking altogether. I got bullied meself aswell(that's putting it mildly). My mother never stepped in or did anything(really) about it. Hey that's life. |
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"Not happy with mine at all. Finding it harder as the years go by to get the weight off. My stomach area is the bit I really detest, but after a couple of operations I'm never going to have a flat one. I just need to get used to the fact!
I'm the same Ms lou it's my tummy I blame my 3 kids lol only joking
Mine get the blame too!
Now, Now ladies, don't be blaming ye're kids. It's by having kid's, that's made ye, what ye are, REMEMBER that.
Some mammies have kids and have a stomach like a wash board .. mines like a surf board
That maybe true alright. They're not you, remember that. Beside's they could be looking at you & wish they were more like you. Don't forget the either.
That's why I believe a good personality is priceless x "
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I've never carried any weight and always been in and around the 12 stone mark all my life apart from a one year period in my early 40s when due to illness I put on a stone and a half.
I have no scars or saggy bits but yet I didn't have an ounce of body confidence, never had my shirt off in public and always chose the cubicle option rather than an open changing room.
I was completely invisible to women as far as I was concerned.
It was only just a few months before turning 50 that I realised I wasn't invisible and a couple of life changing and life affirming things happened at that time and I haven't looked back since.
I joined here 2 years later and my early attempts at fab pics were shit because I had never taken pics of myself and there was no way I would have posted any pics at all on here prior to that.
It's not all about weight. |
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"To anyone who has said that they don’t like their body, what really helped me was to pepper my social media with bodies that look like mine. Particularly if you follow people for clothes inspo, following people whose bodies look like yours is much better mentally that following people who are a lot slimmer etc. It’s also helpful to see what clothes might look like on my body rather than trying to translate it from a size 6!
Seeing people with bodies like mine living their best lives, enjoying their bodies and not getting caught up in what people think of them has definitely caused a gradual mental shift about how I see my body.
I think the whole body positivity thing can be hard as fuck. It’s perfectly normal to not love everything about your body. Body neutrality is more palatable to me - I might not love every bit but each bit does it’s job (mostly well!) and that’s enough.
Tbf, posting pics here and the ego boost around that helps too
I totally get that your body changing is a lot to get used to but your body is a wonderful thing no matter how it looks on the outside. Be gentle with it and yourself "
Well said & true.
More than likely putting my feet in it, over the rest of this post.
Personally I don't do social media like that, nor do I know/follow men that are the same size/shape as me. Not saying it can't be done, cause it can & does be down. Looking at a woman model or even a man model & trying to imagine the clothes there wearing on you, is wrong. The sooner having thin model's like that, stops being the norm, the better. The Beautiful south have a song that sumes up body size brilliantly, can't actually think of the actual name of it now, I think anyway's.
I don't like taking pictures or getting my picture taken. That said it does give the ego a boost. When somebody comments on it/them or fabs it/them on here, I'd be lying if I said it didn't. |
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"I've never carried any weight and always been in and around the 12 stone mark all my life apart from a one year period in my early 40s when due to illness I put on a stone and a half.
I have no scars or saggy bits but yet I didn't have an ounce of body confidence, never had my shirt off in public and always chose the cubicle option rather than an open changing room.
I was completely invisible to women as far as I was concerned.
It was only just a few months before turning 50 that I realised I wasn't invisible and a couple of life changing and life affirming things happened at that time and I haven't looked back since.
I joined here 2 years later and my early attempts at fab pics were shit because I had never taken pics of myself and there was no way I would have posted any pics at all on here prior to that.
It's not all about weight. "
Lucky you & good for on you.
I'm about a third lighter now, then what I was about 5 or 6 years ago. I'm still heavier than you.
I've no trouble with the changing part.
The women front, that hasn't changed for me, in anyway. Even after I was out 1 night & a young woman was standing in front of me in a pub, near at interal door in it. She was like a cross between her jaw hitting the floor &(silently) saying fuck, once she seen me. Like I said on another thread before I wouldn't take any heed of the signals from a woman, that's interested in me.
That's life & who I am. |
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By *s louWoman
over a year ago
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"The Beautiful south have a song that sumes up body size brilliantly, can't actually think of the actual name of it now, I think anyway's"
Think it was called Perfect 10 or something like that. I love it |
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"The Beautiful south have a song that sumes up body size brilliantly, can't actually think of the actual name of it now, I think anyway's
Think it was called Perfect 10 or something like that. I love it"
Ya,that's it
So do I. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never carried any weight and always been in and around the 12 stone mark all my life apart from a one year period in my early 40s when due to illness I put on a stone and a half.
I have no scars or saggy bits but yet I didn't have an ounce of body confidence, never had my shirt off in public and always chose the cubicle option rather than an open changing room.
I was completely invisible to women as far as I was concerned.
It was only just a few months before turning 50 that I realised I wasn't invisible and a couple of life changing and life affirming things happened at that time and I haven't looked back since.
I joined here 2 years later and my early attempts at fab pics were shit because I had never taken pics of myself and there was no way I would have posted any pics at all on here prior to that.
It's not all about weight. "
Good to hear that brother
It's not always about the weight, but that's always been an issue for me |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
Far far away |
The internal dialogue is one of our harshest critics. Perhaps the key affirmations on here for me is that people are attracted to every type of person and physique.
I think would I say to a friend the unkind things I say to myself. It helps stop that inner critique. |
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"The internal dialogue is one of our harshest critics. Perhaps the key affirmations on here for me is that people are attracted to every type of person and physique.
I think would I say to a friend the unkind things I say to myself. It helps stop that inner critique. "
Exactly & true. Easier said than done doe. We need to stop being so hard on ourselves,not just on the weight/size front either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And even this site doesn't help, I'll probably get a ban but I have to say it,doing the top pics thing does it really need to be a thing, it's just my opinion |
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"And even this site doesn't help, I'll probably get a ban but I have to say it,doing the top pics thing does it really need to be a thing, it's just my opinion"
Probably not, some people live for it, on here doe. You don't need to worry about it, doe. |
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I far from have a good physique but I'm confident enough to get naked in an appropriate situation.
My confidence doesn't come from being cocky or anything just from having attended naked events, beaches, life modelling, bodypaint modelling and the WNBR. Oh and when I got over 40 I didn't care what other people thought, I am who I am so take me as I am or bugger off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I far from have a good physique but I'm confident enough to get naked in an appropriate situation.
My confidence doesn't come from being cocky or anything just from having attended naked events, beaches, life modelling, bodypaint modelling and the WNBR. Oh and when I got over 40 I didn't care what other people thought, I am who I am so take me as I am or bugger off."
Take me as I am .. or piss off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You’re meant to say I’m in and say something positive about someone else. 
Oops ,I didn't read the memo
Wouldn’t worry, it doesn’t look anyone has!
Soz OP "
In that case Lou, you have eye catching cleavage.. I wouldn't even mind my pint being interfered with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You’re meant to say I’m in and say something positive about someone else.
Oops ,I didn't read the memo
Wouldn’t worry, it doesn’t look anyone has!
Soz OP
Wouldn’t worry about the, thread has just gone off I a different direction than I thought it would. It’s been any eye opener in many ways. "
Thank you ,it can happen,its nice to open up get things of your chest, fab is like free therapy .. that's the truth, that's why I love here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't be 100% happy with the body love to loose a bit of the gut but considering I was still playing over 35s football last year training etc its not too bad the extra but of hight hides is well
I would be happy to get naked with the right people as they want to be naked with me
Great Post op
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You’re meant to say I’m in and say something positive about someone else.
Oops ,I didn't read the memo
Wouldn’t worry, it doesn’t look anyone has!
Soz OP
Wouldn’t worry about the, thread has just gone off I a different direction than I thought it would. It’s been any eye opener in many ways.
Thank you ,it can happen,its nice to open up get things of your chest, fab is like free therapy .. that's the truth, that's why I love here "
Off to bed, maybe I should start this thread again in the morning. |
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"You’re meant to say I’m in and say something positive about someone else.
Oops ,I didn't read the memo
Wouldn’t worry, it doesn’t look anyone has!
Soz OP
Wouldn’t worry about the, thread has just gone off I a different direction than I thought it would. It’s been any eye opener in many ways.
Thank you ,it can happen,its nice to open up get things of your chest, fab is like free therapy .. that's the truth, that's why I love here
Off to bed, maybe I should start this thread again in the morning. "
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I wasnt always confident in my body. When I was younger I was shy, embarrassed, even ashamed of my naked body. Allthough when people see pics of me as a younger man, they tell me how handsome and sexy I looked. But, i couldnt see it.
Now, i love being naked,happy in my skin, confident in my sexuality. It has taken a lifetime to get here. |
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My loss of body confidence isn't in the context of how I'm seen by others naked per se. It's more about how advancing years are taking a toll on my physical strength and health, combined with the mood swings of menopause and no doubt the psychological impact of living in a society where youth and appearance are the sources of a woman's "value". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My loss of body confidence isn't in the context of how I'm seen by others naked per se. It's more about how advancing years are taking a toll on my physical strength and health, combined with the mood swings of menopause and no doubt the psychological impact of living in a society where youth and appearance are the sources of a woman's "value"."
You look amazing |
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I don’t think anybody is ever 100% happy with their bod. Lose a few pounds here or there, wish this was smaller and this was bigger etc etc.
Thing I’ve learned here too is not to get hung up with all the fitter younger specimens on here.
Years of football changing rooms has taken any naked shyness away from me. So have no probs getting naked even with my far from perfect bod.
Personality is the main connection and when that happens nakedness should happen naturally for us to embrace and enjoy each other - lumps n bumps n all
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I was just doing a quick scan of the profiles there and the vast majority of the contributions are from people who have left 40 way behind. Many of the ladies are mums (because they say so in their posts)…. So I think we all should be taking a bow when we look back on our life’s experiences and achievements and the impact some of those things have had on our physical appearance … maybe even embrace the scars humps and lumps as trophies. Time takes its toll and nobody is getting any younger… Personally I am comfortable being naked with someone who wants to be naked with me and I think that’s what matters …. L |
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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago
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"I was just doing a quick scan of the profiles there and the vast majority of the contributions are from people who have left 40 way behind. Many of the ladies are mums (because they say so in their posts)…. So I think we all should be taking a bow when we look back on our life’s experiences and achievements and the impact some of those things have had on our physical appearance … maybe even embrace the scars humps and lumps as trophies. Time takes its toll and nobody is getting any younger… Personally I am comfortable being naked with someone who wants to be naked with me and I think that’s what matters …. L "
Being able to create and carry a new life is a accolade worth being proud of. |
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By *anther PurrrsWoman
over a year ago
the Shadows Purrring or Roaring |
"I was just doing a quick scan of the profiles there and the vast majority of the contributions are from people who have left 40 way behind. Many of the ladies are mums (because they say so in their posts)…. So I think we all should be taking a bow when we look back on our life’s experiences and achievements and the impact some of those things have had on our physical appearance … maybe even embrace the scars humps and lumps as trophies. Time takes its toll and nobody is getting any younger… Personally I am comfortable being naked with someone who wants to be naked with me and I think that’s what matters …. L "
Purrrfectly said |
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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago
PDI 12-26th Nov 24 |
"I was just doing a quick scan of the profiles there and the vast majority of the contributions are from people who have left 40 way behind. Many of the ladies are mums (because they say so in their posts)…. So I think we all should be taking a bow when we look back on our life’s experiences and achievements and the impact some of those things have had on our physical appearance … maybe even embrace the scars humps and lumps as trophies. Time takes its toll and nobody is getting any younger… Personally I am comfortable being naked with someone who wants to be naked with me and I think that’s what matters …. L
Purrrfectly said "
Nothing to worry about looking at your pics |
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I really don't know why some people as they age ..both male & female...
worry so much about their physical shape..l think that they should be glad or appreciate their own bodies and be happy in their own skin ..would l be more happy with a woman l was having sex with if we were both on the same wavelength as or have sex with a woman that was physically great but wrecked my head mentally ?? ..only one winner there ..and clear winner at that |
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"I really don't know why some people as they age ..both male & female...
worry so much about their physical shape..l think that they should be glad or appreciate their own bodies and be happy in their own skin ..would l be more happy with a woman l was having sex with if we were both on the same wavelength as or have sex with a woman that was physically great but wrecked my head mentally ?? ..only one winner there ..and clear winner at that "
That's not good if she messed with your head .. good ridence,hope your ina better place now? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The Beautiful south have a song that sumes up body size brilliantly, can't actually think of the actual name of it now, I think anyway's
Think it was called Perfect 10 or something like that. I love it"
Yup..there's a line in it that says " every penny don't fit the slot " ..and it's true ..don't be with anyone that makes fun of weight or size..they simply haven't a clue and are so narrow minded. |
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"I really don't know why some people as they age ..both male & female...
worry so much about their physical shape..l think that they should be glad or appreciate their own bodies and be happy in their own skin ..would l be more happy with a woman l was having sex with if we were both on the same wavelength as or have sex with a woman that was physically great but wrecked my head mentally ?? ..only one winner there ..and clear winner at that "
What about one that was in great shape but didn't wreck your head?
Of course in an ideal world everyone would love the skin they're in. It doesn't work like that though. There's a myriad of reasons that people have body confidence issues that can't be solved with a "chin up love, sure couldn't it be worse"
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"I really don't know why some people as they age ..both male & female...
worry so much about their physical shape..l think that they should be glad or appreciate their own bodies and be happy in their own skin ..would l be more happy with a woman l was having sex with if we were both on the same wavelength as or have sex with a woman that was physically great but wrecked my head mentally ?? ..only one winner there ..and clear winner at that
What about one that was in great shape but didn't wreck your head?
Of course in an ideal world everyone would love the skin they're in. It doesn't work like that though. There's a myriad of reasons that people have body confidence issues that can't be solved with a "chin up love, sure couldn't it be worse"
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Well if she was in great shape and didn't wreck my head she wouldn't be with me in the first place
No .l get what your saying .l really do ..l know women that are of a certain age and they will not go into a pub where younger ones are simply because they feel they can't " compete " with them..l could never understand that ...take here for example .l was told by a woman here ...shes not here anymore..that if a guy messaged her ..she would check his veri's etc to see if he was with a hotter girl ..if he was she wouldn't reply to him at all .. simply because she'd feel sexually inferior.. again l couldn't understand that but it does go to show that not everyone thinks the same way , l do understand that maybe it's ok to say be happy in your own skin etc but ,as you rightly say , not everyone thinks or feels like that . |
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"I really don't know why some people as they age ..both male & female...
worry so much about their physical shape..l think that they should be glad or appreciate their own bodies and be happy in their own skin ..would l be more happy with a woman l was having sex with if we were both on the same wavelength as or have sex with a woman that was physically great but wrecked my head mentally ?? ..only one winner there ..and clear winner at that "
Would I be more happy with a woman that I was on the same wavelength and that I was physically attracted to? Why settle for one?
A person is a whole body and mind. Spirit and soul too if you like. It's ok to be attracted to people for different reasons.
Saying that people should appreciate the skin they are in feels easy. Many things can change a body and it can be hard to get used to a change or being different especially if people treat you differently. And they do. As men we do not experience the same level of cultural pressure to conform to an image largely generated by men.
It's not just gratitude for what we that helps with body issues. It's also the compassion and understanding of others. |
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"I really don't know why some people as they age ..both male & female...
worry so much about their physical shape..l think that they should be glad or appreciate their own bodies and be happy in their own skin ..would l be more happy with a woman l was having sex with if we were both on the same wavelength as or have sex with a woman that was physically great but wrecked my head mentally ?? ..only one winner there ..and clear winner at that
What about one that was in great shape but didn't wreck your head?
Of course in an ideal world everyone would love the skin they're in. It doesn't work like that though. There's a myriad of reasons that people have body confidence issues that can't be solved with a "chin up love, sure couldn't it be worse"
Well if she was in great shape and didn't wreck my head she wouldn't be with me in the first place
No .l get what your saying .l really do ..l know women that are of a certain age and they will not go into a pub where younger ones are simply because they feel they can't " compete " with them..l could never understand that ...take here for example .l was told by a woman here ...shes not here anymore..that if a guy messaged her ..she would check his veri's etc to see if he was with a hotter girl ..if he was she wouldn't reply to him at all .. simply because she'd feel sexually inferior.. again l couldn't understand that but it does go to show that not everyone thinks the same way , l do understand that maybe it's ok to say be happy in your own skin etc but ,as you rightly say , not everyone thinks or feels like that ."
I'm sorry for not replying to your pm .. I really prefer chatting here .. sorry its just my thing |
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By *iamtazCouple
over a year ago
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If you had off asked this question six months ago I would have said no but we’ve been to turkey now 8 stone down feeling great and happier in my self but yes I’d get naked now in front of any one |
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By *om TangoMan
over a year ago
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Couldn’t give a shat who see me naked. I’ve a bit of a beer belly. Doesn’t bother me a bit. Bullet hole scar top of my back normally makes a good talking point. Wouldn’t have the biggest of cocks but it’s filled a few prams ?? |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"If you had off asked this question six months ago I would have said no but we’ve been to turkey now 8 stone down feeling great and happier in my self but yes I’d get naked now in front of any one "
But have no pics on your profile
Was Turkey a good experience as you hear so many stories |
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I WISH I was less body confident!
When I look in the mirror, I see a golden god, sculpted to the proportions of Michelangelo's David.
Probably means I'll die young of cholesterol or heart disease. If I was less confident or body shamed once in a while, it would probably be the kick up the arse to need to eat healthier and exercise once in a while. |
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"I WISH I was less body confident!
When I look in the mirror, I see a golden god, sculpted to the proportions of Michelangelo's David.
Probably means I'll die young of cholesterol or heart disease. If I was less confident or body shamed once in a while, it would probably be the kick up the arse to need to eat healthier and exercise once in a while."
Jeez you're on a roll today |
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I was happy enough until i was in a clothes shop a month or so ago. When i went into the changing room, there were mirrors on all sides and I suddenly saw myself from all angles. Jesus that fairly burst my bubble back running now to try to shift some pounds. Mirrors are a dose! |
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I'm always a bit conscious naked around someone new, but good lighting helps Only kidding, I've tried through fab to lose any remaining hang ups and I'm at the stage now where if u look at my profile, I actually don't give a shit anymore I've plenty of naked pics, and I am who I am .. I love my body, as does my husband ..he adores and craves me Him on the other hand gets naked at any opportunity..no confidence issues there haha xx L |
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Only back from our holidays some where saying I looked amazing and some where saying she looked ah well
Ye know the rest but do women take it more seriously than men when going on holidays that is
And I know in a partnership situation the lady usually does all the paperwork for everyone to travel well my gem does anywt |
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By *indenMan
over a year ago
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"Have to say I am starting to be less self-conscious about my body since we joined fab recently. I am actually starting to enjoy taking pictures, to hubby's great joy . "
Be careful, I started out like that and before you know it you’ve got condiments on your special area…..
A slippery slope…… |
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"Have to say I am starting to be less self-conscious about my body since we joined fab recently. I am actually starting to enjoy taking pictures, to hubby's great joy .
Be careful, I started out like that and before you know it you’ve got condiments on your special area…..
A slippery slope……"
Oh, I am very careful about condiments. The risk that people want to have a bite of you is too great |
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