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Have you ever had a meet where one thing in particular stopped the passion dead?
I still have nightmares about the time I was hugely turned on and excited by meeting someone only for it to turn torturous when we started kissing and her garlic breath made me want to throw up on the spot.
I can't remember how I kept things going but if there had have been a camera in the room I would have won an Oscar.
Has anyone else had a specific thing that killed the passion stone dead? |
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"Have you ever had a meet where one thing in particular stopped the passion dead?
I still have nightmares about the time I was hugely turned on and excited by meeting someone only for it to turn torturous when we started kissing and her garlic breath made me want to throw up on the spot.
I can't remember how I kept things going but if there had have been a camera in the room I would have won an Oscar.
Has anyone else had a specific thing that killed the passion stone dead?"
I'll tell you when I've had enough meets to start complaining   |
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"Getting punched in the face and a knee in the balls because she wanted me to retaliate put a bit of a dampener on things. "
Oof. Yeah that's the kind of thing that really needs to be negotiated beforehand. |
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind."
Were the kids ok? |
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By *ealmc1973Man
over a year ago
Limerick, Clare, Tipperary |
- Inability or unwillingness to engage in small talk is something, which begs immediate 'why bother anymore...' question.
- Judgmental spiel and praying gossip on other people.
- 'How many people did you meet off the site?'
- Then the rest
Nobody's perfect and everyone is here for a reason, which, ultimately, might not be the same as our companion's, if that is understood, all is fine though  |
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind.
Were the kids ok?"
I didn't hang around long enough to find out
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over a year ago
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind.
Were the kids ok?
I didn't hang around long enough to find out
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Did he acknowledge your presence at all? “Don’t mind me mate!” Or did he just talk over you?
So many questions! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind."
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind.
Were the kids ok?
I didn't hang around long enough to find out
Did he acknowledge your presence at all? “Don’t mind me mate!” Or did he just talk over you?
So many questions!"
Pretended I wasn't there. I think I was 20. She was probably about 50. I was a bar tender at the time. |
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind.
Were the kids ok?
I didn't hang around long enough to find out
Did he acknowledge your presence at all? “Don’t mind me mate!” Or did he just talk over you?
So many questions!
Pretended I wasn't there. I think I was 20. She was probably about 50. I was a bar tender at the time. "
You were tender after that. |
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By *odkajemWoman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind.
Were the kids ok?
I didn't hang around long enough to find out
Did he acknowledge your presence at all? “Don’t mind me mate!” Or did he just talk over you?
So many questions!
Pretended I wasn't there. I think I was 20. She was probably about 50. I was a bar tender at the time.
You were tender after that."
Not as tender as the poster above with the punch and knee to the balls!  |
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind.
Were the kids ok?
I didn't hang around long enough to find out
Did he acknowledge your presence at all? “Don’t mind me mate!” Or did he just talk over you?
So many questions!
Pretended I wasn't there. I think I was 20. She was probably about 50. I was a bar tender at the time. "
Did he know you were there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arrogant men. Men who boast to Willow about all the women they have and how incredible they are in general Really?? Wow there really are some clowns out there!"
Nothing worse than someone with an overinflated sense of their own ability. Not me though, I’m the fucking best! |
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Another thing that's happened a few times is a certain aloofness and even aggressiveness once you get there that wasn't hinted at in chatting.
You feel like you've just met Hannibal Lecter and can't relax at all.
It goes without saying this does not make for an enjoyable meet and one tries to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible.
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"When her husband walked into the bedroom at 1am and asked if the kids were ok.
I didn't know she had a husband or children.
Twenty three years ago and it's still seared into my mind.
Were the kids ok?
I didn't hang around long enough to find out
Did he acknowledge your presence at all? “Don’t mind me mate!” Or did he just talk over you?
So many questions!
Pretended I wasn't there. I think I was 20. She was probably about 50. I was a bar tender at the time.
Did he know you were there? "
I'll never know. He certainly knew I was there when he saw me in bed with his wife. He just asked about the kids then closed the door and went to bed. Then I left |
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"Getting punched in the face and a knee in the balls because she wanted me to retaliate put a bit of a dampener on things.
You really seem to attract drama ! "
Why do you reckon that? Two nutjobs in 7 years isn't a bad return tbf. |
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over a year ago
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I got farted on once … which I , ya know , said fair enough, happens to us all, don’t embarrass the girl and stay looking for the little man in the boat…
Then the smell hit ….
Egg mayo with a hint of Pinot Grigio |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arranged to meet on a Thursday and then when we met he proceeded to tell me as he was missing his “Thursday night pints” I better give him a blow job…."
Soooo many things wrong with that statement .. 
Who said romance is dead !?  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"Arranged to meet on a Thursday and then when we met he proceeded to tell me as he was missing his “Thursday night pints” I better give him a blow job…."
Hope you at least bought him a few pints |
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"I got farted on once … which I , ya know , said fair enough, happens to us all, don’t embarrass the girl and stay looking for the little man in the boat…
Then the smell hit ….
Egg mayo with a hint of Pinot Grigio "
The little man in the boat |
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
I am a bit paronoid after all the dirty fingernails comments. If you make your living gardening,,.. You wouldn't believe the effort that goes in to try and clean those nails.... And when you finish for the third time, feck they are still not right. |
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
Biggest turn off for me, happened on my first Tinder date..... I hadn't a clue. It was coffee, but she looked younger then her written profile, but sure how bad is that. Then we chatted more felt good. But there was a feeling I couldn't put my finger on. She quickly brought me back to her place which I felt was odd. But I live in Spain so things are a little different. She kissed me. Which was beautiful.
Then she gave me a breakdown of her prices. That wasn't beautiful.
I scarpered quick.
I also met a 40 year old lady for an evening, but she was 60 plus.... Thing is if she had just said her real age, I wouldn't have minded.
So far in the swinger world I've had a higher standard of honesty. People have freedom to say what they want or need or hope for without fear of being judged. That's the most attractive thing for me.
No need to hide, or pretend something else. That's the most unattractive thing for me. (Not talking role play ) |
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"Arranged to meet on a Thursday and then when we met he proceeded to tell me as he was missing his “Thursday night pints” I better give him a blow job…."
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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago
The bog |
"Lying about age , if I want a granny I'll hang out at Bingo ... Never realised the hygiene issues of some guys on here til I went to DV8 last night. It's a tough station ladies "
Shit I'm a granny so I may start going to bingo so..dammit.. |
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"I am a bit paronoid after all the dirty fingernails comments. If you make your living gardening,,.. You wouldn't believe the effort that goes in to try and clean those nails.... And when you finish for the third time, feck they are still not right. "
No offence meant to anyone working in an industry where they use their hands i.e gardeners, mechanics etc. Its the genuinely I havent bothered to clean them people I was referring to! |
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"I am a bit paronoid after all the dirty fingernails comments. If you make your living gardening,,.. You wouldn't believe the effort that goes in to try and clean those nails.... And when you finish for the third time, feck they are still not right.
No offence meant to anyone working in an industry where they use their hands i.e gardeners, mechanics etc. Its the genuinely I havent bothered to clean them people I was referring to!"
I wouldn't take offence anyway. But I do make sure I try still.
I treat meets like dates anyway.... Cause really they are.
Fresh shave etc
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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"One said my verification might help him get with another fab lady. I was just a rung on the ladder "
Desperation.
Maybe after a meet would I ask. But tentatively. Definitely not straight up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After a coffee meet, I once went to a guys house, he had left the house unlocked and said to go on in.jeez I thought he had been burgled, his house was a tip and dirty too.
I sent him a text saying I couldn't make it and left before he arrived 
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Let's see....
Going to their house for a "coffee" and I kitchen like a dump, bin overflowing etc and the smell.
Going down to find sweaty, smelly out of control pubic hair.
A couple talking themselves up and then the experienced bi woman freaking when Pinks went down on here and him lying in a posing pouch that looked like a slug on a leaf, softer than a Victoria sponge. |
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"I am a bit paronoid after all the dirty fingernails comments. If you make your living gardening,,.. You wouldn't believe the effort that goes in to try and clean those nails.... And when you finish for the third time, feck they are still not right.
No offence meant to anyone working in an industry where they use their hands i.e gardeners, mechanics etc. Its the genuinely I havent bothered to clean them people I was referring to!"
Might seem to be a stupid question to ask. How do you know that they haven't bothered to clean them? Without asking or getting a feeling of what they do for a living. Even if a person cuts there nails short, dirt can still get in & sometimes can be harder to remove, then if there nails are somewhat long.
I'm not saying dirty nails is nice to see, far from it.
Farmer's use sprayer's for certain jobs, that are coloured. The after spray could get on a person, even when they use gloves. As in above the end of the glove, from the wrist, up the arm. They wouldn't come off fully for a good while, like days. Even after washing yourself a No of times. What are they supposed to do?
Stay away from a social or cancel a meet? Highly unlikely they'll be wearing long sleeves clothes, this time of the year. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
In fairness there's a difference between clean dirt and dirty dirt if you know what I mean
if you're coming from work and its a coffee meet you normally are clean even in workwear once you've washed your hands and face ....its not rocket science
If its a play meet after work then have a shower when you get to the hotel or house
Very few people go home from work in filthy dirty clothes anymore |
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Weeks of setting, great banter and just no physical attraction when we met....
Missionary and the smell of stale cigarette breath
Being mid ride and Spotting my sister (who didn't live there) in the back garden of what I thought was a free house...
"We have to leave... NOW!" |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
On a meet its someone who decides that a coffee meet should be more and decides to push things. The type of person who thinks just because you are on here that you are up for anything they want to do to you. And also seem to ignore the word no.
On a meet where you have sex it's when the other person makes absolutely no effort at all.
Other than that bad hygiene and all the normal turn offs most people have. |
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Bad breath - huge ick.
Women who think they can have any man - ick ick.
Men, who think swinging women are fair game - ick ick.
BO (not you, Bo).
Wannabe photographers - as soon as the phone comes out - pants come on and away the fuck I go. Refuse to be added to anyone's bj/sex photo collections for their fab profile iiiiiiick
Missus |
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Top turn off for me has to be bad hygiene.
Around ten years ago when I was still relatively new to Fab there was a woman I had been chatting to back and forth for a while.
We lived quite a distance apart and at the time I didn't drive.
One Saturday night on a whim, I decided to book a hotel for her and I and she hopped on a train from just over the border down south.
It was evening time so by the time she arrived there was no option for a train home.
The first thing that caught me by surprise was that she did not look like her pics.
Ok......I am not shallow and I don't go solely for looks, as personality is more important for me.
The issue for me was not how she looked but more the fact that I felt that I had been lied to, or deceived.
But I thought "Feck it, she has come all the way here and there are no trains until tomorrow so I'll power through it.
In the room though I could barely perform after she pounced on me. It turned out she had come straight from work and she smelt of body odour, and her breath smelt like dog shit or something akin to it.
I couldn't understand why she didn't "freshen up". There was a shower there in the bathroom, any amount of towels, and a huge bottle of mouthwash so it's not like she couldn't avail of these facilities.
I didn't want to be rude by saying something or just leaving her in the room, plus I had no way home that late at night anyway.
Instead I feigned a headache for the majority of the night until I could walk her to the train station the next morning.
My lesson was well learned and now I would never ever arrange any kind of play meet with anyone that I have never yet met in person.
Social meet first is an absolute must for me. |
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"I am a bit paronoid after all the dirty fingernails comments. If you make your living gardening,,.. You wouldn't believe the effort that goes in to try and clean those nails.... And when you finish for the third time, feck they are still not right. "
Yep and oil is a cunt |
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"Lying about age , if I want a granny I'll hang out at Bingo ... Never realised the hygiene issues of some guys on here til I went to DV8 last night. It's a tough station ladies
Shit I'm a granny so I may start going to bingo so..dammit.."
Eyes down for a full house  |
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over a year ago
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"Have you ever had a meet where one thing in particular stopped the passion dead?
I still have nightmares about the time I was hugely turned on and excited by meeting someone only for it to turn torturous when we started kissing and her garlic breath made me want to throw up on the spot.
I can't remember how I kept things going but if there had have been a camera in the room I would have won an Oscar.
Has anyone else had a specific thing that killed the passion stone dead?"
Hygiene is key!!! |
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