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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
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Think a person is too attractive for you on here?
I used to be so self conscious of punching above my weight so to speak. Now with time and maturity, I value my appearance more and if people like what they see, I take them at face value and don't overthink anymore.
What do the rest of you do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In answer to your question I would have to say no, I don’t think anyone should be too attractive to meet on here
Without it sounding like a cliche’, surely attractiveness is more than skin deep….
I have huge insecurities about my body since a very young age, but it has carried and nourished my beautiful children and I have the scars and stretch marks and the less than firm skin to prove it. I look beyond the photograph of a person, and try to get a glimpse of their persona. Which is why more often than not the most amazing meets can be formulated right here in the forums….   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with Cat. One of the pleasant surprises of getting older for me is caring less and less about what others look like and also worrying less and less about how I’m seen by others.
It’s much more about personality and meeting people you can connect with that way. Makes for a much more satisfying meet for everyone. |
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By *wagman32Man
over a year ago
Wicklow, Dublin |
As much as I hate to hear myself say it, Have to admit I would often not bother messaging profiles on fab if I deem them to be too attractive for me...just to get in there ahead of the crowd, that doesn't mean I think anything less of the people I do message |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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No i don't think so, as ive gotten older ive more confidence in myself when I look at a profile on here that catches my eye ill always read what their looking for if im in that category ill message, this is fab not elite.com  |
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Not at all. Grew out of that sort of idea years ago thankfully, comfortable in my own skin and I think it looks well.
It is not an easy thing for people to get over though, society can really push down on us all for it. |
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By *hane99Man
over a year ago
Bettystown/Balbriggan |
"From the lounge
Think a person is too attractive for you on here?
I used to be so self conscious of punching above my weight so to speak. Now with time and maturity, I value my appearance more and if people like what they see, I take them at face value and don't overthink anymore.
What do the rest of you do?"
If I see someone too good looking I nearly think it’s too good to be true and don’t reach out. Mad I know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I would struggle with this sometimes.
Attractiveness, for me, isn’t purely physical. I’m much more drawn to people’s personalities but I would sometimes get it hard to believe someone finds my body post kids attractive.
Trying to care less about it as I’m getting older, confidence is sexy as they say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In answer to your question I would have to say no, I don’t think anyone should be too attractive to meet on here
Without it sounding like a cliche’, surely attractiveness is more than skin deep….
I have huge insecurities about my body since a very young age, but it has carried and nourished my beautiful children and I have the scars and stretch marks and the less than firm skin to prove it. I look beyond the photograph of a person, and try to get a glimpse of their persona. Which is why more often than not the most amazing meets can be formulated right here in the forums…. "
You have pretty much summed up what it’s all about Cat. Beauty can be only skin deep buts it’s the person within, that make you attractive  |
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"Yeah I would struggle with this sometimes.
Attractiveness, for me, isn’t purely physical. I’m much more drawn to people’s personalities but I would sometimes get it hard to believe someone finds my body post kids attractive.
Trying to care less about it as I’m getting older, confidence is sexy as they say! "
In the darkness of the night beauty may be hidden but personality shines through like the brightest star.
Looks like you have both in full measure. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"No i don't think so, as ive gotten older ive more confidence in myself when I look at a profile on here that catches my eye ill always read what their looking for if im in that category ill message, this is fab not elite.com "
Whats wrong with Elitefab.com  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I would struggle with this sometimes.
Attractiveness, for me, isn’t purely physical. I’m much more drawn to people’s personalities but I would sometimes get it hard to believe someone finds my body post kids attractive.
Trying to care less about it as I’m getting older, confidence is sexy as they say!
In the darkness of the night beauty may be hidden but personality shines through like the brightest star.
Looks like you have both in full measure. "
That’s very kind, thank you |
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By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago
i travel all over |
"No i don't think so, as ive gotten older ive more confidence in myself when I look at a profile on here that catches my eye ill always read what their looking for if im in that category ill message, this is fab not elite.com
Whats wrong with Elitefab.com "
A bit clique-y and that’s a no no |
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Hell yes.
Not just on here, even women in the normal/vanilla world aswell.
There's loads of profiles on here, that I think that of them. That's just by looking at their profile. If I was to meet them, that might change my mind alright. I might turn into Forest Gump .
That hasn't changed with me, even as I've gotten older. I've never been hooked up on what I looked like, as in whatever shape,weight I was, that's me, take it or leave it. Even doe I've lost weight, I still don't think I'm God's gift(so to speak) on the women front. I am happy that I lost the weight. I've gotten a few compliments about it alright. I'm nearly thinking of telling people that somebody has finally came up with the formula that was used in the Nutty Professor, you can get it on the internet now.
I can't see thing's on that front changing anytime in the future, for me.
It's a confidence thing, not a body shape or anything like that with me. As I'm seriously bad at taking compliments aswell.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me a connection is a connection, it doesn't matter if you think if a person is out of your league , it is of course a different matter if she or he has no interest, if you're not their type etc but that should never stop you from touching base in the first place to find out |
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Honest answer; yes. Not insecurities or anything, just that we know we arent crazy gym fit and toned like some of the stunners on here and so would assume its not a good match, before we even start.. 
Recently broke that stigma, took the plunge and messaged two crazy hotties and its gone really well. Definetly taught us not to be afraid to shoot your shot.
Often times, you're your own worst critic. |
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"Honest answer; yes. Not insecurities or anything, just that we know we arent crazy gym fit and toned like some of the stunners on here and so would assume its not a good match, before we even start.. "
Oh we can relate to this too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From the lounge
Think a person is too attractive for you on here?
I used to be so self conscious of punching above my weight so to speak. Now with time and maturity, I value my appearance more and if people like what they see, I take them at face value and don't overthink anymore.
What do the rest of you do?"
Yes of course, i wouldnt message certain profiles as i know i am wasting my time. Also going on past replies from people i would consider really attractive.
Does this bother me, of course it does, the strange thing is i actually do better in bars and clubs that on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honest answer; yes. Not insecurities or anything, just that we know we arent crazy gym fit and toned like some of the stunners on here and so would assume its not a good match, before we even start..
Recently broke that stigma, took the plunge and messaged two crazy hotties and its gone really well. Definetly taught us not to be afraid to shoot your shot.
Often times, you're your own worst critic. "
You're probably right, I feel the same way, just haven't taken that plunge yet. You've encouraged me to at least try! Thanks! |
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"Honest answer; yes. Not insecurities or anything, just that we know we arent crazy gym fit and toned like some of the stunners on here and so would assume its not a good match, before we even start..
Recently broke that stigma, took the plunge and messaged two crazy hotties and its gone really well. Definetly taught us not to be afraid to shoot your shot.
Often times, you're your own worst critic. "
Did the same recently with a couple we noticed a long time ago but assumed they wouldn't be interested in us and like yourselves, it's looking good  |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
Waterford City |
I have to admit that I do often think people are out of my league. I am pretty confident in my day to day life and I'm very confident with people that I know are attracted to me but I can still hold myself back when I see very obviously attractive and fit profiles. |
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