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I don't do facepics on here because of how free some people are with others details and info and like to pass it on to others.
I've never asked for one either.
In the past the only time I've ever shared one was after we had already agreed to meet so we would recognise each other in the coffee shop.
Haven't done that in at least 3 years. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"Never asked for a face pic before a meet .....80 % of the time my first meet was a coffee anyway so if they thought I was ugly they never said 
You give a face pic before meet ? "
No ....sure they definitely wouldn't show
Told people what I looked like in the pub or cafe waiting for them.....colour of clothes or coat in the winter |
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"I don't do facepics on here because of how free some people are with others details and info and like to pass it on to others.
I've never asked for one either.
In the past the only time I've ever shared one was after we had already agreed to meet so we would recognise each other in the coffee shop.
Haven't done that in at least 3 years. "
Many refusals for not ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've only once sent a face pic here and having thought about it, I'll never do so again.
But I can offer a strategy that seems to be working for me. It's about maintaining plausible deniability. For example, if planning a meet, likely both people are driving. So 'pre-meet' at a filling station at an arranged time and both get fuel. If the vibe is good, a message to confirm colour of car or something. If something is not right, no problem, was just getting fuel at a filling station and that was nothing to do with fab. |
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Ahhh was stung a few years ago on here someone sharing my face pics and details, but haven’t learned my lesson! It’s only fair I share one if I’m expecting to see theirs! I prefer the likes of Snap chat that way you can see they’re real and if the face matches the body!! |
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"Ahhh was stung a few years ago on here someone sharing my face pics and details, but haven’t learned my lesson! It’s only fair I share one if I’m expecting to see theirs! I prefer the likes of Snap chat that way you can see they’re real and if the face matches the body!! "
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"I've only once sent a face pic here and having thought about it, I'll never do so again.
But I can offer a strategy that seems to be working for me. It's about maintaining plausible deniability. For example, if planning a meet, likely both people are driving. So 'pre-meet' at a filling station at an arranged time and both get fuel. If the vibe is good, a message to confirm colour of car or something. If something is not right, no problem, was just getting fuel at a filling station and that was nothing to do with fab."
What if you're Vibin with just a random stranger who is getting fuel? |
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"I don't do facepics on here because of how free some people are with others details and info and like to pass it on to others.
I've never asked for one either.
In the past the only time I've ever shared one was after we had already agreed to meet so we would recognise each other in the coffee shop.
Haven't done that in at least 3 years.
Many refusals for not ? "
Not once |
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I don't have a problem with sharing a face pic on the day of the coffee meet.
Sometimes I just get a good vibe and if we've been chatting for a while I don't mind either.
I've done one blind date and it work out amazing. |
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I have no issues sharing face pics once I established that the other party seems sound. I think a lot of attraction comes from the face and if I'm meeting with someone that isn't my type I wouldn't want to waste the time of everyone involved. And that obviously goes both ways.  |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn't ask for a face pic or I don't send a face pic is just to be safe rather meet for a cuppa first see if there is a spark if not move on, it's on my profile I don't send a face pic I still get asked to see my face   |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't ask for a face pic or I don't send a face pic is just to be safe rather meet for a cuppa first see if there is a spark if not move on, it's on my profile I don't send a face pic I still get asked to see my face "
From what I remember you told me the colour of your coat.....and your handbag when we met for lunch |
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"I've only once sent a face pic here and having thought about it, I'll never do so again.
But I can offer a strategy that seems to be working for me. It's about maintaining plausible deniability. For example, if planning a meet, likely both people are driving. So 'pre-meet' at a filling station at an arranged time and both get fuel. If the vibe is good, a message to confirm colour of car or something. If something is not right, no problem, was just getting fuel at a filling station and that was nothing to do with fab. What if you're Vibin with just a random stranger who is getting fuel?"
Hasn't happened yet but that could be fun too... |
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Ideally a face pic using one of the one view options on WhatsApp/Snap
If I get a good impression from reviews I might take a chance and go blind.
Over many years I've had a few blid dates that I just knew weren't going anywhere from first sight. Not a lot of fun when time is limited |
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"I don't do facepics on here because of how free some people are with others details and info and like to pass it on to others.
I've never asked for one either.
In the past the only time I've ever shared one was after we had already agreed to meet so we would recognise each other in the coffee shop.
Haven't done that in at least 3 years.
Many refusals for not ?
Not once"
Ha ... just a piece of meat  |
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"I wouldn't ask for a face pic or I don't send a face pic is just to be safe rather meet for a cuppa first see if there is a spark if not move on, it's on my profile I don't send a face pic I still get asked to see my face
From what I remember you told me the colour of your coat.....and your handbag when we met for lunch
That's right Bog then you asked what colour was my knickers lol joking "
A gentleman should never need to ask such a question 
He should be shown  |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't ask for a face pic or I don't send a face pic is just to be safe rather meet for a cuppa first see if there is a spark if not move on, it's on my profile I don't send a face pic I still get asked to see my face
From what I remember you told me the colour of your coat.....and your handbag when we met for lunch
That's right Bog then you asked what colour was my knickers lol joking "
Sure you weren't wearing any |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't ask for a face pic or I don't send a face pic is just to be safe rather meet for a cuppa first see if there is a spark if not move on, it's on my profile I don't send a face pic I still get asked to see my face
From what I remember you told me the colour of your coat.....and your handbag when we met for lunch
That's right Bog then you asked what colour was my knickers lol joking
Sure you weren't wearing any "
I know.. I was hoping you wouldn't say lol  |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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Ive no hassle sharing a face pic on here but only with someone ive a interest in meeting with, if it's only a coffee or lunch with someone to get a verfie id not share and just say what im wearing or where im sitting ect...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nope...no face pic here , no problem on another form but the other person has to return one also but it doesn't always work out that way.When l said that to some in chatting here, they were highly offended and blocked me ..l suppose like anything when they didn't Respect a person's thoughts etc or get their way in seeing a face pic here they took the easy way & blocked... anyway my answer to the OP's question is no . |
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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
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We don’t share face pics with couples, we prefer to do a quick no obligation social coffee for the face to face. We’ve lost out on a few meets because of this approach no doubt, ach c’est la vie.
It’s not a popular position on here, but we insist on a face pic from a single guy at an early stage of messaging if he wants us to engage with a view to a meet, under the proviso that we will not exchange our face pic in return.
We’re prepared for the ‘fairness’ and ‘equality’ criticism but we resolutely maintain that the exposure and reputational risk is not shared equally in the MFM scenario - social ostracism vs slap on the back. We’ve also had no shortage of our ‘target’ men willing to engage on that basis so no need to depart from this approach. |
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"We don’t share face pics with couples, we prefer to do a quick no obligation social coffee for the face to face. We’ve lost out on a few meets because of this approach no doubt, ach c’est la vie.
It’s not a popular position on here, but we insist on a face pic from a single guy at an early stage of messaging if he wants us to engage with a view to a meet, under the proviso that we will not exchange our face pic in return.
We’re prepared for the ‘fairness’ and ‘equality’ criticism but we resolutely maintain that the exposure and reputational risk is not shared equally in the MFM scenario - social ostracism vs slap on the back. We’ve also had no shortage of our ‘target’ men willing to engage on that basis so no need to depart from this approach."
Sure that depends on who the male is and weather they consider their privacy as important in terms of reputational risk as you do your ! No ? |
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I never ask for a facepic, as, I honestly dont care what your face looks like. After chatting to both man and woman of a couple, and if I trust them, I'll send them a facepic, if they ask. So, if you're a couple that I can't send my facepic too, I won't meet you either. So, far my trustometre has worked well. |
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"I never ask for a facepic, as, I honestly dont care what your face looks like. After chatting to both man and woman of a couple, and if I trust them, I'll send them a facepic, if they ask. So, if you're a couple that I can't send my facepic too, I won't meet you either. So, far my trustometre has worked well. "
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"I've been asked for face pic on numerous occasions and requested a pic in return, but only once got one back. I think if someone requests a face pic they should send one first.
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Nothing wrong with asking for one to be sent to you before you send yours. |
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"Will you or won't you ????
Face down ass up ,,, of look into my eyes ,, not around the look into my eyes
Meeting with or without a face pic first and why ?  "
Would prefer that a face pic a first! And why would they want to not show thier face? |
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"Will you or won't you ????
Face down ass up ,,, of look into my eyes ,, not around the look into my eyes
Meeting with or without a face pic first and why ?
Would prefer that a face pic a first! And why would they want to not show thier face?"
Don't worry about why others behave the way they do. Just put that simple measure in place and you have your safeguard. |
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"I've been asked for face pic on numerous occasions and requested a pic in return, but only once got one back. I think if someone requests a face pic they should send one first.
Nothing wrong with asking for one to be sent to you before you send yours."
I think its a bit shifty to ask before sending tbh  |
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"Will you or won't you ????
Face down ass up ,,, of look into my eyes ,, not around the look into my eyes
Meeting with or without a face pic first and why ?
Would prefer that a face pic a first! And why would they want to not show thier face?"
Some people lead private lives ... some people are never comming out as swingers/bi /cd etc ... some can't be trusted ,,, some are here to blackm#il etc etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We neither give nor expect facepics, too many here who cannot respect boundaries, besides pics don't give us an idea whether there will be any attraction in the flesh, best to meet socially in our opinion. |
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"I've been asked for face pic on numerous occasions and requested a pic in return, but only once got one back. I think if someone requests a face pic they should send one first.
Nothing wrong with asking for one to be sent to you before you send yours.
I think its a bit shifty to ask before sending tbh "
I mean... If someone asks for a face pic without sending theirs, then as for theirs first before sending. Sorry wasn't clear at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That feeling when you realise you had one set at public for the last two days …( slowly begins to head butt the wall..)
It doesn't show the damage done by the doors "
Oh I have face pics that do … |
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"That feeling when you realise you had one set at public for the last two days …( slowly begins to head butt the wall..)"
Lol... If you watch new pics you regularly see accidental image verification pics pop up too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would never meet without seeing who I am meeting.
Personality and how we get on in chat is by far more important but appearance does matter to a smaller degree.
I am being honest.  |
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"I love the excitement of a blind social meet!
Had one not so long ago and it worked out great! "
Yep, it's exciting not knowing what they look like before a social. We never do hookups without a prior social and face pics don't give the full story anyway. |
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"I've been asked for face pic on numerous occasions and requested a pic in return, but only once got one back. I think if someone requests a face pic they should send one first.
Nothing wrong with asking for one to be sent to you before you send yours."
I think it's good etiquette if you want to see a face pic that you send yours to them first. |
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I always share a face pic shows your sincere about meeting. It's just the right thing to do if you want to meet.
If they don't return with face pic I know they wouldn't meet anyway and they're wasting my time and everyone else who they come in contact with. |
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"Ive no hassle sharing a face pic on here but only with someone ive a interest in meeting with, if it's only a coffee or lunch with someone to get a verfie id not share and just say what im wearing or where im sitting ect......"
Ahhh I should have kept chatting. Didn't no your face pic rule |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ahhh was stung a few years ago on here someone sharing my face pics and details, but haven’t learned my lesson! It’s only fair I share one if I’m expecting to see theirs! I prefer the likes of Snap chat that way you can see they’re real and if the face matches the body!! "
Well now someone can not do that, as they can be charged for sharing private pictures of you with out Concent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always get a face pic before any meet. Don't do blind date.
Same here"
Some don't like sharing face pictures on line it's not safe,but people asking for a face pic and people not asking both should be respected .. just meet for a chat and a cuppa first .. you may be good looking personality as a dry shit .. so looks ain't everything .. personality will always come first |
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I say it on my profile. Personally I've no problem with sharing face pic, aslong as they are willing to send 1 back. If it's a couple both parties need to be in it aswell. Just like alot of people ask for in there bios.
Anybody that ask for a face pic & even a full body pic. But not implying or willing to share 1 or both in return. As I said on bio, it goes both ways & only fair. That's what I personally think, not everybody does think like that & that's their right, each to they're own.
I do feel abit on my gard when I see on bios that ask/demand for them. Don't seem to be interested to returning them( each to they're own). |
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Most that have asked for face have not returned the gesture. Some have and we've chatted away, though some chats fizzle out.
One notable face pic exchange was receiving one in return with a message to say basically only fair to send one but that she wasn't interested. Respect to that lady. |
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"Most that have asked for face have not returned the gesture. Some have and we've chatted away, though some chats fizzle out.
One notable face pic exchange was receiving one in return with a message to say basically only fair to send one but that she wasn't interested. Respect to that lady."
Respect goes both ways .. that's why I'd rather meet up for a chat over a cuppa first .. but as they say here each to their own |
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"In fairness I often look for a face pic if I’m been honest. I don’t think anything will go anywhere without physical attraction. There is other things also but that’s needed 2"
Ya,that's true alright. The thing is, are you willing to send 1 back to them aswell? |
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"Most that have asked for face have not returned the gesture. Some have and we've chatted away, though some chats fizzle out.
One notable face pic exchange was receiving one in return with a message to say basically only fair to send one but that she wasn't interested. Respect to that lady.
Respect goes both ways .. that's why I'd rather meet up for a chat over a cuppa first .. but as they say here each to their own "
Oh I'd that scenario is welcomed also |
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"In fairness I often look for a face pic if I’m been honest. I don’t think anything will go anywhere without physical attraction. There is other things also but that’s needed 2
Ya,that's true alright. The thing is, are you willing to send 1 back to them aswell?"
Same. But if we're not interested we don't send ours. Can't see the point. Although if we've asked we'll usually have sent ours first |
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Generally we meet based on setting out what we both are wearing and Sue puts a small bag on table in front of her so they find us. Colour differs and I only know when we go out for our pre meet meal before our social/ sex date meet. It’s our club swingers routine we still follow. Restaurant meal few drinks sex in corner of swingers club to all as above except sex is after pub social and back to our place. |
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"In fairness I often look for a face pic if I’m been honest. I don’t think anything will go anywhere without physical attraction. There is other things also but that’s needed 2
Ya,that's true alright. The thing is, are you willing to send 1 back to them aswell?
Same. But if we're not interested we don't send ours. Can't see the point. Although if we've asked we'll usually have sent ours first "
I understand that.. if someone isn’t attracted to you then so be it , don’t need to see them at that stage when you’ll never see them either ways |
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"We don’t share face pics with couples, we prefer to do a quick no obligation social coffee for the face to face. We’ve lost out on a few meets because of this approach no doubt, ach c’est la vie.
It’s not a popular position on here, but we insist on a face pic from a single guy at an early stage of messaging if he wants us to engage with a view to a meet, under the proviso that we will not exchange our face pic in return.
We’re prepared for the ‘fairness’ and ‘equality’ criticism but we resolutely maintain that the exposure and reputational risk is not shared equally in the MFM scenario - social ostracism vs slap on the back. We’ve also had no shortage of our ‘target’ men willing to engage on that basis so no need to depart from this approach."
So do you ask a couple to share their face pic?
Not bother me, more than lightly if there is good connection at coffee or not. Sometimes a face pic does do justify of there will be good chemistry or not. Less time waisted |
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"I always share a face pic shows your sincere about meeting. It's just the right thing to do if you want to meet.
If they don't return with face pic I know they wouldn't meet anyway and they're wasting my time and everyone else who they come in contact with. "
Its inaccurate to associate not sending a face pic with not showing up ! As you can see from some replies , some people aren't comfortable with their face pic attached to fab . Dosnt mean they won't show ! |
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