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"Block, block and away Not worth losing any time dwelling on it" Yep, would you spend time stressing over the wankers you meet offline? Just avoid in future. | |||
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"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. " Fuck me, that plot is convoluted | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. Fuck me, that plot is convoluted " Isn't it just  | |||
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 just block, block and just to be sure block-a-dee-block again sometimes the block list is longer than the friends list | |||
"It's probably the Liverpool Jersey.......only joking YNWA just block, block and just to be sure block-a-dee-block again sometimes the block list is longer than the friends list "Yeah prob that Liverpool top  | |||
"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. " Don't be surprised if this thread gets taken down. Thou shall not speak ill of FAB. | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. " Read twice. Still don't understand. | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. Read twice. Still don't understand. " Same hereb   glad I wasn't the only one.
Time for Angela Landsbury. Speaking of which, YouTube her exercise video | |||
"I'm not sure where you're seeing this "increasing number" of posts about abuse. There's always been a few of them floating about, some posted by people who have been victims, but many more are just "look at me and how cool I am" posts. I can't say I've seen any noticeable increase in either tbh. " There used to be about 1-2 post per week about someone being a bellend now its near every day saying “avoid this and that”. Just can’t get my head around why or what gives people the right to turn fucktard on other people, we all have an ego that likes to be massaged or even tickled now and then so why be a dick when told no thanks. that’s all rant over | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. Read twice. Still don't understand. Same hereb glad I wasn't the only one.
Time for Angela Landsbury. Speaking of which, YouTube her exercise video "4 times for me just got it lol | |||
"It's probably the Liverpool Jersey.......only joking YNWA just block, block and just to be sure block-a-dee-block again sometimes the block list is longer than the friends list "Easy on ms that’s the love of my life you are talking about | |||
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"It's probably the Liverpool Jersey.......only joking YNWA just block, block and just to be sure block-a-dee-block again sometimes the block list is longer than the friends list
Easy on ms that’s the love of my life you are talking about "Mine to | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. Read twice. Still don't understand. " I wrote it and it confused me. People have posted about being warned that others are speaking ill of them in various groups or pms. Those who are warning them have a history of speaking ill of others including those they are now warning. They must have their reasons but it doesn't give their warnings much credence. | |||
"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. Don't be surprised if this thread gets taken down. Thou shall not speak ill of FAB." You do realise that by coming in here and posting nonsense like that, that the thread is more likely to be taken down. The OP hasn’t broken any rules so stop trying to stir shite. | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. Read twice. Still don't understand. I wrote it and it confused me. People have posted about being warned that others are speaking ill of them in various groups or pms. Those who are warning them have a history of speaking ill of others including those they are now warning. They must have their reasons but it doesn't give their warnings much credence. " Ahh I understand thanks. Honestly I've given up trying to understand the freakish behaviour of some on here. It's bizarre | |||
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"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. Read twice. Still don't understand. I wrote it and it confused me. People have posted about being warned that others are speaking ill of them in various groups or pms. Those who are warning them have a history of speaking ill of others including those they are now warning. They must have their reasons but it doesn't give their warnings much credence. " Those you gossip to you also gossip about you. Best to stay clear of those types. Generally negative people | |||
"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. Don't be surprised if this thread gets taken down. Thou shall not speak ill of FAB. You do realise that by coming in here and posting nonsense like that, that the thread is more likely to be taken down. The OP hasn’t broken any rules so stop trying to stir shite. " Wow. Just my experience of late. Any negative issues have been removed. Thanks for your input | |||
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"I'm not sure where you're seeing this "increasing number" of posts about abuse. There's always been a few of them floating about, some posted by people who have been victims, but many more are just "look at me and how cool I am" posts. I can't say I've seen any noticeable increase in either tbh. There used to be about 1-2 post per week about someone being a bellend now its near every day saying “avoid this and that”. Just can’t get my head around why or what gives people the right to turn fucktard on other people, we all have an ego that likes to be massaged or even tickled now and then so why be a dick when told no thanks. that’s all rant over "Maybe they're being removed but I went back four or five pages on the mobile app version of the site and didn't find any. I also haven't seen any over the last week or two myself tbh. | |||
"I'm not sure where you're seeing this "increasing number" of posts about abuse. There's always been a few of them floating about, some posted by people who have been victims, but many more are just "look at me and how cool I am" posts. I can't say I've seen any noticeable increase in either tbh. There used to be about 1-2 post per week about someone being a bellend now its near every day saying “avoid this and that”. Just can’t get my head around why or what gives people the right to turn fucktard on other people, we all have an ego that likes to be massaged or even tickled now and then so why be a dick when told no thanks. that’s all rant over
Maybe they're being removed but I went back four or five pages on the mobile app version of the site and didn't find any. I also haven't seen any over the last week or two myself tbh. "That's the shit stirring point I'm trying to make. Negative feedback has been taken down of late | |||
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"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. " Like yourself op I'm always happy to answer and explain my situation to those who ask. And as such I haven't had any abusive messages. No reply or deleted message fine I'll just move on. As for the ones doing that, as another poster has said, they're most likely from entitled types, who are easily avoided if you read the bios and pay heed to the forums. | |||
"I'm not sure where you're seeing this "increasing number" of posts about abuse. There's always been a few of them floating about, some posted by people who have been victims, but many more are just "look at me and how cool I am" posts. I can't say I've seen any noticeable increase in either tbh. There used to be about 1-2 post per week about someone being a bellend now its near every day saying “avoid this and that”. Just can’t get my head around why or what gives people the right to turn fucktard on other people, we all have an ego that likes to be massaged or even tickled now and then so why be a dick when told no thanks. that’s all rant over
Maybe they're being removed but I went back four or five pages on the mobile app version of the site and didn't find any. I also haven't seen any over the last week or two myself tbh.
That's the shit stirring point I'm trying to make. Negative feedback has been taken down of late"This posts aren't critical of fab at all though so I don't believe they are being taken down. I've been here every day for the past while and I haven't seen one thread about men being bellends. | |||
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"I had some horrible messages last week not that they bother me ,but I did notice all the men were older men 54+ A no thanks resulted in being called a c**t. Cus that will make a girl change her mind ." Jaysus, I'm glad I'm not an ould lad like that! 
Oh wait... | |||
"I had some horrible messages last week not that they bother me ,but I did notice all the men were older men 54+ A no thanks resulted in being called a c**t. Cus that will make a girl change her mind ." That's the key! There's one way to make sure your rejection was warranted and that's with an abusive response | |||
"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. " sexual frustration people wanting that shag say no they get angry lmao | |||
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"Id imagine the type of person that gets angry and sends an abusive message to anyone gets really annoyed when they get blocked without a reply " Aaaarrrgh! | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. " Holy shit batman... its the riddler.... and he's of his nut | |||
"I'm not sure where you're seeing this "increasing number" of posts about abuse. There's always been a few of them floating about, some posted by people who have been victims, but many more are just "look at me and how cool I am" posts. I can't say I've seen any noticeable increase in either tbh. There used to be about 1-2 post per week about someone being a bellend now its near every day saying “avoid this and that”. Just can’t get my head around why or what gives people the right to turn fucktard on other people, we all have an ego that likes to be massaged or even tickled now and then so why be a dick when told no thanks. that’s all rant over "I am not seeing posts every day saying " avoid anything or anyone" ???? Guys perception is powerful... and internally driven  | |||
"No idea if there's an increase in it as I haven't received any in a long time. I have seen very familiar words and phrases used in status updates and forum posts recently though from people who have been victims of some form of verbal abuse or claims of people talking about them. Familiar in so much as they were all words and phrases used by the people warning them of the rumours in private messages not so very long ago. Strangely enough aimed directly at the people they are now warning. Curiouser and curiouser. Read twice. Still don't understand. I wrote it and it confused me. People have posted about being warned that others are speaking ill of them in various groups or pms. Those who are warning them have a history of speaking ill of others including those they are now warning. They must have their reasons but it doesn't give their warnings much credence. Those you gossip to you also gossip about you. Best to stay clear of those types. Generally negative people " Best to just not gossip at all | |||
"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. Like yourself op I'm always happy to answer and explain my situation to those who ask. And as such I haven't had any abusive messages. No reply or deleted message fine I'll just move on. As for the ones doing that, as another poster has said, they're most likely from entitled types, who are easily avoided if you read the bios and pay heed to the forums." Maybe given the fact that most people who replied here said that they don't get abused, Just maybe this abuse isn't actually taking place. | |||
"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. Like yourself op I'm always happy to answer and explain my situation to those who ask. And as such I haven't had any abusive messages. No reply or deleted message fine I'll just move on. As for the ones doing that, as another poster has said, they're most likely from entitled types, who are easily avoided if you read the bios and pay heed to the forums. Maybe given the fact that most people who replied here said that they don't get abused, Just maybe this abuse isn't actually taking place. "47 reply’s and some are from the same people hardly represents the whole of fab, just a very small percentage I would think. Just last night I seen a status update about such and such doesn’t like you saying no and became abusive, went to find it today and couldn’t so perhaps either they are getting removed or people update the post, think it’s removed after 3 days anyway are they not so ya can’t really check back that far. Just saying that I can’t get my head round why the great entitled people just can’t move on and dish out abuse that’s all, hope I haven’t touched a nerve there  | |||
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"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. Like yourself op I'm always happy to answer and explain my situation to those who ask. And as such I haven't had any abusive messages. No reply or deleted message fine I'll just move on. As for the ones doing that, as another poster has said, they're most likely from entitled types, who are easily avoided if you read the bios and pay heed to the forums. Maybe given the fact that most people who replied here said that they don't get abused, Just maybe this abuse isn't actually taking place.
Bit of a dick reply. Are you saying he is making it up?"No he isn’t it definitely does and hunting also but is it for everyone on fab definitely not | |||
"As most above have said ,just block and move on ! Had a guy not so long ago that I'd been chatting to and altho I explained to him we wherent meeting as stated on our profile ,eventually because I wouldnt sucumm to his charms ,he accused me of being the male half of us here without (My Knowledge ),I couldn't give a fiddlers so I just blocked him." this has happened to us on here enough of times don’t bother | |||
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"For some people who want to ignore the abuse or say they haven’t experienced it or just want to sit with their head up their own backside and say they haven’t seen it, I have calculated a few figures that say it is rife and is happening. I have had 2 meets from this site and both said they received it after a quick no thanks. I’m currently chatting not meeting 3 people and they all said they have had it from people so that’s 100% of people I know on here. Still wanna sit in the dark then take this thread as a small part of fab as an example. Out of 51 messages from 24 different sources 17 say yes they have experienced it = 72.%. 5 say they have not received any = 20% and 2 said they know about it and have seen it but not to them = 8%. Just because you don’t see it or experience it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. I like to breathe oxygen even though I can’t see it I’m glad it is there . Just saying have a great day peeps it’s hump day "Yes it does happen on here. No it's not rife but it does happen. Filters really help with it though so does ignoring it and blocking the people when it does happen. How exactly do you want people to react to it. Cry, get upset that some random asshole on here gave them abuse ? It is easier just to roll you eyes and block them.Fab like any other internet site will have assholes and trolls who abuse and get a kick out of that. To be shocked when it happens is naive at best .All you can do is control your reaction to it it's that simple. People using virtue signalling as a way to prove they aren't like all those nasty people is almost as bad to me and I quite often have found on here those that do are hypocrites as well. And this is a comment not aimed at the op but just my personal experience on here. | |||
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"For some people who want to ignore the abuse or say they haven’t experienced it or just want to sit with their head up their own backside and say they haven’t seen it, I have calculated a few figures that say it is rife and is happening. I have had 2 meets from this site and both said they received it after a quick no thanks. I’m currently chatting not meeting 3 people and they all said they have had it from people so that’s 100% of people I know on here. Still wanna sit in the dark then take this thread as a small part of fab as an example. Out of 51 messages from 24 different sources 17 say yes they have experienced it = 72.%. 5 say they have not received any = 20% and 2 said they know about it and have seen it but not to them = 8%. Just because you don’t see it or experience it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. I like to breathe oxygen even though I can’t see it I’m glad it is there . Just saying have a great day peeps it’s hump day "What percentage don't get any actual abuse but have managed to weaponise the abuse culture for their own benefit? The professional victims? | |||
"For some people who want to ignore the abuse or say they haven’t experienced it or just want to sit with their head up their own backside and say they haven’t seen it, I have calculated a few figures that say it is rife and is happening. I have had 2 meets from this site and both said they received it after a quick no thanks. I’m currently chatting not meeting 3 people and they all said they have had it from people so that’s 100% of people I know on here. Still wanna sit in the dark then take this thread as a small part of fab as an example. Out of 51 messages from 24 different sources 17 say yes they have experienced it = 72.%. 5 say they have not received any = 20% and 2 said they know about it and have seen it but not to them = 8%. Just because you don’t see it or experience it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. I like to breathe oxygen even though I can’t see it I’m glad it is there . Just saying have a great day peeps it’s hump day "there's 29922 people online right now Just saying | |||
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"In fairness anyone that is on fab a long time knows that some abuse happens. Good filters and learning how to use the block button reduces it a lot. Both men and women that join here learn fast that you need to grow a thick skin to survive here. But I also wouldn't call it rife. Its like everything. There are always a few bad apples trying to ruin everyone's fun. It's best to just block, report and move on. " I have lots of filters on so abuse is nil. In my previous fab life I did get grief and that did concern me enough to leave for a while. Would I stay if I was getting lots of abuse even with filters on? Definately not. I wouldn't get or take it in real life so why would I stay on a site and read abusive messages from faceless keyboard warriors who can't accept you don't want to communicate with them never mind shag them? Just my opinion. | |||
"In fairness anyone that is on fab a long time knows that some abuse happens. Good filters and learning how to use the block button reduces it a lot. Both men and women that join here learn fast that you need to grow a thick skin to survive here. But I also wouldn't call it rife. Its like everything. There are always a few bad apples trying to ruin everyone's fun. It's best to just block, report and move on. I have lots of filters on so abuse is nil. In my previous fab life I did get grief and that did concern me enough to leave for a while. Would I stay if I was getting lots of abuse even with filters on? Definately not. I wouldn't get or take it in real life so why would I stay on a site and read abusive messages from faceless keyboard warriors who can't accept you don't want to communicate with them never mind shag them? Just my opinion. "They are the best though I love a good old keyboard warrior chat, over time they seem to disappear then reappear bolder than ever. The block button and I have become very close since I started my fab journey lol I’d be lost without him now | |||
"For some people who want to ignore the abuse or say they haven’t experienced it or just want to sit with their head up their own backside and say they haven’t seen it, I have calculated a few figures that say it is rife and is happening. I have had 2 meets from this site and both said they received it after a quick no thanks. I’m currently chatting not meeting 3 people and they all said they have had it from people so that’s 100% of people I know on here. Still wanna sit in the dark then take this thread as a small part of fab as an example. Out of 51 messages from 24 different sources 17 say yes they have experienced it = 72.%. 5 say they have not received any = 20% and 2 said they know about it and have seen it but not to them = 8%. Just because you don’t see it or experience it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. I like to breathe oxygen even though I can’t see it I’m glad it is there . Just saying have a great day peeps it’s hump day "Well you have men confused at least. You said there was an increase in posts about this issue, presumably meaning forum posts, which I said I haven't noticed. You now seem to be talking about abuse by pm which I'm going to assume happens, rather than posts about it. The two are different things in my mind. I genuinely read your original post as a "hey, why can't other men be as cool as me" type post but maybe I'm being harsh? Everywhere there are humans, there will be rows and ructions. Here is no different. | |||
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"We’ve found folk who we don’t wish to meet invariably polite when we tell them as much. Using filters geared to our preferences helps I’m sure, as does being polite. The only folk we’ve blocked to date are those whose views (aired on forums) differ greatly from ours. We’ve never had insults so we’ve been lucky. " I'll see what I can do for you so. I wouldn't like you to be left out  | |||
"We’ve found folk who we don’t wish to meet invariably polite when we tell them as much. Using filters geared to our preferences helps I’m sure, as does being polite. The only folk we’ve blocked to date are those whose views (aired on forums) differ greatly from ours. We’ve never had insults so we’ve been lucky. " Damn, can't message you but your da sells Avon. There, you can't say you haven't been insulted now | |||
"We’ve found folk who we don’t wish to meet invariably polite when we tell them as much. Using filters geared to our preferences helps I’m sure, as does being polite. The only folk we’ve blocked to date are those whose views (aired on forums) differ greatly from ours. We’ve never had insults so we’ve been lucky. Damn, can't message you but your da sells Avon. There, you can't say you haven't been insulted now "Cheers Michael - now I feel one of the team | |||
"We’ve found folk who we don’t wish to meet invariably polite when we tell them as much. Using filters geared to our preferences helps I’m sure, as does being polite. The only folk we’ve blocked to date are those whose views (aired on forums) differ greatly from ours. We’ve never had insults so we’ve been lucky. Damn, can't message you but your da sells Avon. There, you can't say you haven't been insulted now
Cheers Michael - now I feel one of the team "I get my kicks from being helpful
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"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. Like yourself op I'm always happy to answer and explain my situation to those who ask. And as such I haven't had any abusive messages. No reply or deleted message fine I'll just move on. As for the ones doing that, as another poster has said, they're most likely from entitled types, who are easily avoided if you read the bios and pay heed to the forums. Maybe given the fact that most people who replied here said that they don't get abused, Just maybe this abuse isn't actually taking place.
47 reply’s and some are from the same people hardly represents the whole of fab, just a very small percentage I would think. Just last night I seen a status update about such and such doesn’t like you saying no and became abusive, went to find it today and couldn’t so perhaps either they are getting removed or people update the post, think it’s removed after 3 days anyway are they not so ya can’t really check back that far. Just saying that I can’t get my head round why the great entitled people just can’t move on and dish out abuse that’s all, hope I haven’t touched a nerve there "Status naming anyone isn't allowed... I'm sure you know
Doesn't represent the whole of fab .. as you can see above ... "most people who replied"
Hey , far from me to stop you going on about an issue that seems not to be too big of an issue... get if off your chest sure | |||
"[Removed by poster at 25/04/23 22:44:45]" Is that how you choose to reframe what i said ? That on you | |||
"For some people who want to ignore the abuse or say they haven’t experienced it or just want to sit with their head up their own backside and say they haven’t seen it, I have calculated a few figures that say it is rife and is happening. I have had 2 meets from this site and both said they received it after a quick no thanks. I’m currently chatting not meeting 3 people and they all said they have had it from people so that’s 100% of people I know on here. Still wanna sit in the dark then take this thread as a small part of fab as an example. Out of 51 messages from 24 different sources 17 say yes they have experienced it = 72.%. 5 say they have not received any = 20% and 2 said they know about it and have seen it but not to them = 8%. Just because you don’t see it or experience it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. I like to breathe oxygen even though I can’t see it I’m glad it is there . Just saying have a great day peeps it’s hump day "I don't think anybody is saying it doesn't happen rather the responses are inferring it doesn't happen as catastrophically often as imagined. | |||
"For some people who want to ignore the abuse or say they haven’t experienced it or just want to sit with their head up their own backside and say they haven’t seen it, I have calculated a few figures that say it is rife and is happening. I have had 2 meets from this site and both said they received it after a quick no thanks. I’m currently chatting not meeting 3 people and they all said they have had it from people so that’s 100% of people I know on here. Still wanna sit in the dark then take this thread as a small part of fab as an example. Out of 51 messages from 24 different sources 17 say yes they have experienced it = 72.%. 5 say they have not received any = 20% and 2 said they know about it and have seen it but not to them = 8%. Just because you don’t see it or experience it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. I like to breathe oxygen even though I can’t see it I’m glad it is there . Just saying have a great day peeps it’s hump day
What percentage don't get any actual abuse but have managed to weaponise the abuse culture for their own benefit?
The professional victims?"Oh now there is an interesting stat | |||
"For some people who want to ignore the abuse or say they haven’t experienced it or just want to sit with their head up their own backside and say they haven’t seen it, I have calculated a few figures that say it is rife and is happening. I have had 2 meets from this site and both said they received it after a quick no thanks. I’m currently chatting not meeting 3 people and they all said they have had it from people so that’s 100% of people I know on here. Still wanna sit in the dark then take this thread as a small part of fab as an example. Out of 51 messages from 24 different sources 17 say yes they have experienced it = 72.%. 5 say they have not received any = 20% and 2 said they know about it and have seen it but not to them = 8%. Just because you don’t see it or experience it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. I like to breathe oxygen even though I can’t see it I’m glad it is there . Just saying have a great day peeps it’s hump day
Well you have men confused at least.
You said there was an increase in posts about this issue, presumably meaning forum posts, which I said I haven't noticed.
You now seem to be talking about abuse by pm which I'm going to assume happens, rather than posts about it.
The two are different things in my mind.
I genuinely read your original post as a "hey, why can't other men be as cool as me" type post but maybe I'm being harsh?
Everywhere there are humans, there will be rows and ructions. Here is no different. "Soz I’m not very social media savvy from I left Facebook over 10 years ago so I get status update PM and post mixed up and when I say I’m not cool at all I really mean that lol so don’t be as cool as me . I didn’t say men either (although we appear to be the main abusers) I said people . What I like is a discussion that provokes debate and thought. Who knows someone that may have read this post/thread will actually think twice before they fat shame or beauty shame some one, after all they don’t know that persons story. # walkamileintheirshoes. | |||
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"Just on a slight tangent. My Willow has spent the week getting abused by other women in her work place. Willow is so chill like! Now she has had to attend a staff party and she's currently getting ignored.... I hate abusive people. I was bullied in work once by a CNUT and I'm so sorry I didn't fuck her out of it. People can suck, people can be so hurtful. WHY? Lifes hard enough like. Rant over, apologies " Sorry to hear that Willow is going through that. Hopefully she's doing good beside's.
(I'm going to get abusive for saying this, more than likely)
It's not nice, when it's happening alright. I've gone through it at work meself aswell. With a young non national guy(mainly). He'd be banging & shouting, looking for something, just like a spoiled toddler in a shop. I told the supervisor about it twice & to get him to stop. They didn't take any heed of me. Until 1 day I lost it with him(so to speak). The supervisor was standing right beside me, while I was talking to him. They had there hand right against my left arm. They must have thought I was going to hit him at some point. Just as I was finishing up, I told him to grown up to FECK. Walked(I was shaking by this stage) away back to where I work. Within minutes the main supervisor was at me & asked me what's up etc. I told him, he had a chat with the young guy about it. He stopped talking to me for a few weeks. When he did start talking to me again, he was alot quiter & wasn't doing what he was doing at the time. Until 2 months ago, he was starting at it again. I was talking to the main supervisor & told him. He's starting up again & I wouldn't be aloud to do the same thing to him. So why should he be aloud do it to me. I had been putting up with it for the past 3 year's on & off, at this stage.
Again the young guy stopped talking to me for a few weeks. He talks abit to me now again. He's stopped doing what he was doing, that caused it all in the first place. Caused of it, I just do my day's work & go home. I don't go near any event's that's work related. I don't talk to many of the other people that work in the place.
Now I must pick up all my toys again & put them back in the pram(for now). | |||
"Just on a slight tangent. My Willow has spent the week getting abused by other women in her work place. Willow is so chill like! Now she has had to attend a staff party and she's currently getting ignored.... I hate abusive people. I was bullied in work once by a CNUT and I'm so sorry I didn't fuck her out of it. People can suck, people can be so hurtful. WHY? Lifes hard enough like. Rant over, apologies Sorry to hear that Willow is going through that. Hopefully she's doing good beside's.
(I'm going to get abusive for saying this, more than likely)
It's not nice, when it's happening alright. I've gone through it at work meself aswell. With a young non national guy(mainly). He'd be banging & shouting, looking for something, just like a spoiled toddler in a shop. I told the supervisor about it twice & to get him to stop. They didn't take any heed of me. Until 1 day I lost it with him(so to speak). The supervisor was standing right beside me, while I was talking to him. They had there hand right against my left arm. They must have thought I was going to hit him at some point. Just as I was finishing up, I told him to grown up to FECK. Walked(I was shaking by this stage) away back to where I work. Within minutes the main supervisor was at me & asked me what's up etc. I told him, he had a chat with the young guy about it. He stopped talking to me for a few weeks. When he did start talking to me again, he was alot quiter & wasn't doing what he wanted s doing at the time. Until 2 months ago, he was starting at it again. I was talking to the main supervisor & told him. He's starting up again & I wouldn't be aloud to do the same thing to him. So why should he be aloud do it to me. I had been putting up with it for the past 3 year's on & off, at this stage.
Again the young guy stopped talking to me for a few weeks. He talks abit to me now again. He's stopped doing what he was doing, that caused it all in the first place. Caused of it, I just do my day's work & go home. I don't go near any event's that's work related. I don't talk to many of the other people that work in the place.
Now I must pick up all my toys again & put them back in the pram(for now)."No one deserves too be treated like this But they are out there,but these people have more often than not been treated like this at one stage or another in their lives No excuse for them to treat people in this way but they probably think that it’s a way for them to gain power or authority don’t let them make you unhappy The people that love you know the difference you make too their lives | |||
"Just on a slight tangent. My Willow has spent the week getting abused by other women in her work place. Willow is so chill like! Now she has had to attend a staff party and she's currently getting ignored.... I hate abusive people. I was bullied in work once by a CNUT and I'm so sorry I didn't fuck her out of it. People can suck, people can be so hurtful. WHY? Lifes hard enough like. Rant over, apologies Sorry to hear that Willow is going through that. Hopefully she's doing good beside's.
(I'm going to get abusive for saying this, more than likely)
It's not nice, when it's happening alright. I've gone through it at work meself aswell. With a young non national guy(mainly). He'd be banging & shouting, looking for something, just like a spoiled toddler in a shop. I told the supervisor about it twice & to get him to stop. They didn't take any heed of me. Until 1 day I lost it with him(so to speak). The supervisor was standing right beside me, while I was talking to him. They had there hand right against my left arm. They must have thought I was going to hit him at some point. Just as I was finishing up, I told him to grown up to FECK. Walked(I was shaking by this stage) away back to where I work. Within minutes the main supervisor was at me & asked me what's up etc. I told him, he had a chat with the young guy about it. He stopped talking to me for a few weeks. When he did start talking to me again, he was alot quiter & wasn't doing what he wanted s doing at the time. Until 2 months ago, he was starting at it again. I was talking to the main supervisor & told him. He's starting up again & I wouldn't be aloud to do the same thing to him. So why should he be aloud do it to me. I had been putting up with it for the past 3 year's on & off, at this stage.
Again the young guy stopped talking to me for a few weeks. He talks abit to me now again. He's stopped doing what he was doing, that caused it all in the first place. Caused of it, I just do my day's work & go home. I don't go near any event's that's work related. I don't talk to many of the other people that work in the place.
Now I must pick up all my toys again & put them back in the pram(for now).
No one deserves too be treated like this
But they are out there,but these people have more often than not been treated like this at one stage or another in their lives
No excuse for them to treat people in this way but they probably think that it’s a way for them to gain power or authority don’t let them make you unhappy
The people that love you know the difference you make too their lives "(If this is towards me?) No they don't & yes they are out there alright. Maybe they have been alright. As about the power past, yes, it's away of getting power over certain people alright. Where I work, there's so many non national's, from different Countries. That it's not in they, the way they act, work, etc. It's completely different to the way the Irish work. (SOME) of young Irish aren't much better than them in some ways, sadly. They're not, believe me. That's why I just don't go near them outside of work. The people that love me, hopefully they do, that's all I'll say. | |||
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"It was intended for both posts really don’t let these people if they are young or old get you down Your life is for you too live no matter what their objective is especially in a work scenario Live your life how you choose to live it no one deserves abuse " O right. Ya that's true alright. Life can be hard enough for some people & it's to short aswell at that. | |||
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"Guys I got a loooottttt of abuse from a manager when I was a supervisor saying a wasn't meeting targets and the like. Other supervisors had smaller targets/areas and were worse than I was at the job but because I was the new guy he thought he could bully me. I just kept a wee journal of conversations and emails then went to HR with it and it calmed down a bit but when our contract changed I stayed and he had to go, many a day I felt like letting him fell the back of me hand it got so bad but I bit my tongue and held my nerve. I know he was pushing me to strike out and as soon as I would have done that he would have won and I would have been the abuser in the firms eyes so would have been sacked. My advice to anyone going through it at work is keep a journal and note everything down and keep emails. If you don’t get any satisfaction from supervisors then go above their heads. Bullying is a serious issue and I can’t stand a bully. " That shouldn't have happened. But it did, you handled it 100% right .
I hadn't started a journal, keeping record of what was happening to me, in anyway. Before I fronted him, if he didn't stop after that day. I was going to start & have the supervisor in it aswell.
We had a day's (training)about bullying & different thing's. The main supervisor & the supervisor were at, the same time as me. About 2 week's, before I said anything to the supervisor. Also he would do it in front of them, at time's aswell.
Ya, that's true alright. Once you had hit him, you were gone & he would have won(Big time).
It takes something SERIOUS for me, personally to have hit him or anybody else.
Ya, exactly, start a journal ASAP, talk to the supervisor about it first. If nothing happens afterwards. But that in it aswell, after awhile go straight to the HR manager or even management.
Ya, bullying is a very big thing in some work places still. Also your not alone EVER, even when it feels like that, talk to somebody else in your life.
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"People are overrated " Alot of the time, YYEESS. | |||
"People are overrated Alot of the time, YYEESS. " They are just full of their own importance and can’t see the other side of the coin | |||
"Hi just wondering, with the increasing number of posts I see, why oh why do people get abusive when they are told “sorry not interested”. I have been talking to a couple of ladies/couples and they say it happens quite a bit, but I just can’t understand why. If you are told in a nice way “not for me” as I recently was then why give the person a load of old guff, just move on. I thought a couple were very rude to me saying that because I was an adult and I lived alone, it was weird that I couldn’t host them. I could have given a load of abuse but just told them my situation as a single father, thanked them for the reply and haven’t heard from them again. No harm no foul in my opinion and definitely no need for abuse. " Wow! Some people actually get a response? With words and all? They should feel blessed for that. The rest of us poor unfortunates just get static. Seriously, yea I can be hurtful or painful but, what is there to be gained from being nasty to anyone on here? Just brush yourself off and go again. | |||
"People are overrated Alot of the time, YYEESS. They are just full of their own importance and can’t see the other side of the coin " Ya,exactly | |||
